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Apologies for putting this here.

I have a friend, a very close friend whom we've once cohabited together a few years ago. My friend has a girlfriend. He met his girlfriend while they were in the Polytechnic together, they dated & later broke up due to the girls unfaithfulness. The girl cheated on my friend. After ND, my friend proceeded for his HND l, while the lady couldn't go further.
After three years, they reconciled. My friend is now in Lagos, we live very close to each. In fact, we live in same Building but different apartment. After reconciliation, the babe left her place(Ibadan) to Lagos to visit my friend. She would come & spend a few days, then return to Ibadan. This babe isn't even an indigene of Ibadan, she's from Nassarawa State. But traveled to live with her cousins in Ibadan so as to Hussle & save money for her HND. She has been in Ibadan for almost a year & this babe has refused to work. She comes to see her guy every now & then, spends a week or two, then leave and after two days, she returns again.
My friend works as a Supervisor in a small hotel & his salary is not even up to 50k but this guy is sheepishly still in love with this girl. The same girl cheats all the time. My friend has caught her many times through her chats with a particular guy. The babes mum would call & even ask her "How is your husband". The mum is not referring to my friend as her daughter's husband, but she's referring to the other guy whom my friends babe is cheating with. There have been many red flags, but my guy has become hypnotized by love.
My friend is on permanent night shift. Goes to work at 5pm and returns the next morning. Immediately my friend leaves, she will remove her phone from flight mode or silence and start flashing the guy to call her back. The guy would call & they would speak for so so long, sometimes, two hours. Her phone doesn't ring whenever my friend is around. Much worse is the fact that the Girl is so lazy. She has refused to work, she comes to my guy's house only to eat, sleep and chat. Her major hobby is to cook, eat all the meats in the food and demands for suya. She can't buy Sanitary pad or data for herself except my guy buys for her. She can't make her hair with her money. If my friend doesn't send her transport fare, she can't come. And when she wants to leave, my friend must also give her transport fare. In fact, if the money isn't enough, na wahala oo.. Whatever she tells my friend to do, he does. My friend would tell me he doesn't have money and will be eating in my house for weeks and atimes months. But the day the babe comes around, money will enter his pockets mysteriously. He will give the girl 10k to cook soup and buy garri for Eba but same guy cannot use 3k to cook for himself alone and eat. He tries too much to impress this cheating and lazy girlfriend even to the point of getting addicted to Sex enhancement drugs to satisfy his Babe. Without these enhancement drugs, he can't bleep the girl. He has become so weak that the girl has now capitalized on his weakness to continually become disloyal.
He intends marrying the girl, but I feel he's making the wrong decision. The girl wouldn't make a good wife, from all indications. Atimes I am tempted to open up & tell him about the many calls the girl receives whenever he is at work.
I know all these because I'm very close to him. Sometimes we sleep in each other's house.

I am really very angry cos there's nothing spectacular about this lady. No be say she fine. Also I hate taking shits from any lady particularly a cheating girlfriend who is also a parasite.
I'm scared that if I tell my friend to break up with her, my friend may tell her that I am the one advising him to breakup.

If you love your friend, do all your can to make that Jezebel leave him otherwise na high way to early Grace

Unfortunately, your friend needs you now more than ever. He may have been put under a spell by the girl and you have to fight it out for him.

We women can go to any lengths to tie down a man.

Are you sure you are not "your friend"??

Cos there are some information you have that you should not have..

Ddeliverer007:
Are you sure you are not "your friend"??

Cos there are some information you have that you should not have..

I know people like you would say something senseless. Whether it is me or not, is of no significance. If u have nothing reasonable to say, keep shut and keep off.

Alaska5050:
I know people like you would say something senseless. Whether it is me or not, is of no significance. If u have nothing reasonable to say, keep shut and keep off.

with this your abusive set up you will insult by people tire, e be like you need help more than your friend if you insult people for little provocation

SadiqBabaSani:
with this your abusive set up you will insult by people tire, e be like you need help more than your friend if you insult people for little provocation

Action and reaction are equal and opposite. How will someone think that I'm the one going through some situation I'm criticizing here? What can be more insulting than such comment?

Your friend is in love ❤️ Leave him to enjoy what gives him joy,telling him won't change his heart

tommy589:
Your friend is in love ❤️ Leave him to enjoy what gives him joy,telling him won't change his heart

Exactly. That's why I won't bother. But may I never fall in such stupid love. If I do fall, I would rise immediately. God forbid. Dating a cheat and a liability. No no no

Alaska5050:
Exactly. That's why I won't bother. But may I never fall in such stupid love. If I do fall, I would rise immediately. God forbid. Dating a cheat and a liability. No no no

The lucky ones should just thank God for having their brains screwed right Getting blinded by love is crazy. A boy,going 20 is in the psychiatry for treatment because of love. He took to colos because of his wayward girlfriend

YOUR FRIEND IS NOT A SIMP. A SIMP IS A MAN WHO IS CAPABLE OF HANDLING HIMSELF BUT LET'S A WOMAN WALK OVER HIM.

YOUR FRIEND IS WORSE, HE IS A BXTCH

Your friend is the good man that Nigeria needs, someone has to eventually settle with these hoes so that they can reduce their financial and emotional burdens on their sugar zaddies and bad guys. Congratulations to your friend on a successful wedding in advance.

Right answer should be that your friend is actually a simp...no two ways about it

It is ur friend that is cheating on her..let her be with her guy

But mehn youve not been caught in the web of love before, it works perfectly well than charm or hypnotizing. Your friends have automatically be blinded to all the red flags in the girl, it takes catching her cheating life and direct for him to come off it a bit

Alaska5050:
Apologies for putting this here.

I have a friend, a very close friend whom we've once cohabited together a few years ago. My friend has a girlfriend. He met his girlfriend while they were in the Polytechnic together, they dated & later broke up due to the girls unfaithfulness. The girl cheated on my friend. After ND, my friend proceeded for his HND l, while the lady couldn't go further.
After three years, they reconciled. My friend is now in Lagos, we live very close to each. In fact, we live in same Building but different apartment. After reconciliation, the babe left her place(Ibadan) to Lagos to visit my friend. She would come & spend a few days, then return to Ibadan. This babe isn't even an indigene of Ibadan, she's from Nassarawa State. But traveled to live with her cousins in Ibadan so as to Hussle & save money for her HND. She has been in Ibadan for almost a year & this babe has refused to work. She comes to see her guy every now & then, spends a week or two, then leave and after two days, she returns again.
My friend works as a Supervisor in a small hotel & his salary is not even up to 50k but this guy is sheepishly still in love with this girl. The same girl cheats all the time. My friend has caught her many times through her chats with a particular guy. The babes mum would call & even ask her "How is your husband". The mum is not referring to my friend as her daughter's husband, but she's referring to the other guy whom my friends babe is cheating with. There have been many red flags, but my guy has become hypnotized by love.
My friend is on permanent night shift. Goes to work at 5pm and returns the next morning. Immediately my friend leaves, she will remove her phone from flight mode or silence and start flashing the guy to call her back. The guy would call & they would speak for so so long, sometimes, two hours. Her phone doesn't ring whenever my friend is around. Much worse is the fact that the Girl is so lazy. She has refused to work, she comes to my guy's house only to eat, sleep and chat. Her major hobby is to cook, eat all the meats in the food and demands for suya. She can't buy Sanitary pad or data for herself except my guy buys for her. She can't make her hair with her money. If my friend doesn't send her transport fare, she can't come. And when she wants to leave, my friend must also give her transport fare. In fact, if the money isn't enough, na wahala oo.. Whatever she tells my friend to do, he does. My friend would tell me he doesn't have money and will be eating in my house for weeks and atimes months. But the day the babe comes around, money will enter his pockets mysteriously. He will give the girl 10k to cook soup and buy garri for Eba but same guy cannot use 3k to cook for himself alone and eat. He tries too much to impress this cheating and lazy girlfriend even to the point of getting addicted to Sex enhancement drugs to satisfy his Babe. Without these enhancement drugs, he can't bleep the girl. He has become so weak that the girl has now capitalized on his weakness to continually become disloyal.
He intends marrying the girl, but I feel he's making the wrong decision. The girl wouldn't make a good wife, from all indications. Atimes I am tempted to open up & tell him about the many calls the girl receives whenever he is at work.
I know all these because I'm very close to him. Sometimes we sleep in each other's house.

I am really very angry cos there's nothing spectacular about this lady. No be say she fine. Also I hate taking shits from any lady particularly a cheating girlfriend who is also a parasite.
I'm scared that if I tell my friend to break up with her, my friend may tell her that I am the one advising him to breakup.

I once had a friend like this, I avoided him, stopped associating with him, I allowed him wallow in his foolishness till he got his senses right.

Find a new apartment far far away from them a more comfortable one and relocate there don't let him know where you live again just tell him you having some issues and you squatting with your sister and her fiancee till things works out for you.

He is using u as a backup source both him and his babe and they are transferring their negative energy into you.
Just move when he don get full sence u fit alling wella with am to know your place. No let karashika link you up with her friend ooo or u don join the league

Your friend was born stupid, I just hope he doesn't die stupid

Bro! E be like you go show that your assumed SIMP friend this your post o..

Make hinsef talk d matter for comment

Mind your business and see yourself flourishing

Sebi some people are saying love is blind abi, love is blind until you enter canal

A fool

Alaska5050:
Apologies for putting this here.

I have a friend, a very close friend whom we've once cohabited together a few years ago. My friend has a girlfriend. He met his girlfriend while they were in the Polytechnic together, they dated & later broke up due to the girls unfaithfulness. The girl cheated on my friend. After ND, my friend proceeded for his HND l, while the lady couldn't go further.
After three years, they reconciled. My friend is now in Lagos, we live very close to each. In fact, we live in same Building but different apartment. After reconciliation, the babe left her place(Ibadan) to Lagos to visit my friend. She would come & spend a few days, then return to Ibadan. This babe isn't even an indigene of Ibadan, she's from Nassarawa State. But traveled to live with her cousins in Ibadan so as to Hussle & save money for her HND. She has been in Ibadan for almost a year & this babe has refused to work. She comes to see her guy every now & then, spends a week or two, then leave and after two days, she returns again.
My friend works as a Supervisor in a small hotel & his salary is not even up to 50k but this guy is sheepishly still in love with this girl. The same girl cheats all the time. My friend has caught her many times through her chats with a particular guy. The babes mum would call & even ask her "How is your husband". The mum is not referring to my friend as her daughter's husband, but she's referring to the other guy whom my friends babe is cheating with. There have been many red flags, but my guy has become hypnotized by love.
My friend is on permanent night shift. Goes to work at 5pm and returns the next morning. Immediately my friend leaves, she will remove her phone from flight mode or silence and start flashing the guy to call her back. The guy would call & they would speak for so so long, sometimes, two hours. Her phone doesn't ring whenever my friend is around. Much worse is the fact that the Girl is so lazy. She has refused to work, she comes to my guy's house only to eat, sleep and chat. Her major hobby is to cook, eat all the meats in the food and demands for suya. She can't buy Sanitary pad or data for herself except my guy buys for her. She can't make her hair with her money. If my friend doesn't send her transport fare, she can't come. And when she wants to leave, my friend must also give her transport fare. In fact, if the money isn't enough, na wahala oo.. Whatever she tells my friend to do, he does. My friend would tell me he doesn't have money and will be eating in my house for weeks and atimes months. But the day the babe comes around, money will enter his pockets mysteriously. He will give the girl 10k to cook soup and buy garri for Eba but same guy cannot use 3k to cook for himself alone and eat. He tries too much to impress this cheating and lazy girlfriend even to the point of getting addicted to Sex enhancement drugs to satisfy his Babe. Without these enhancement drugs, he can't bleep the girl. He has become so weak that the girl has now capitalized on his weakness to continually become disloyal.
He intends marrying the girl, but I feel he's making the wrong decision. The girl wouldn't make a good wife, from all indications. Atimes I am tempted to open up & tell him about the many calls the girl receives whenever he is at work.
I know all these because I'm very close to him. Sometimes we sleep in each other's house.

I am really very angry cos there's nothing spectacular about this lady. No be say she fine. Also I hate taking shits from any lady particularly a cheating girlfriend who is also a parasite.
I'm scared that if I tell my friend to break up with her, my friend may tell her that I am the one advising him to breakup.

I love the fact that you love your friend this much... But, your friend has been hypnotized with kayan mata and there's nothing you can tell him that'll yield anything positive.

But still speak to him about it for posterity sake and for the records that you did your part as a good friend.

Alaska5050:
Apologies for putting this here.

I have a friend, a very close friend whom we've once cohabited together a few years ago. My friend has a girlfriend. He met his girlfriend while they were in the Polytechnic together, they dated & later broke up due to the girls unfaithfulness. The girl cheated on my friend. After ND, my friend proceeded for his HND l, while the lady couldn't go further.
After three years, they reconciled. My friend is now in Lagos, we live very close to each. In fact, we live in same Building but different apartment. After reconciliation, the babe left her place(Ibadan) to Lagos to visit my friend. She would come & spend a few days, then return to Ibadan. This babe isn't even an indigene of Ibadan, she's from Nassarawa State. But traveled to live with her cousins in Ibadan so as to Hussle & save money for her HND. She has been in Ibadan for almost a year & this babe has refused to work. She comes to see her guy every now & then, spends a week or two, then leave and after two days, she returns again.
My friend works as a Supervisor in a small hotel & his salary is not even up to 50k but this guy is sheepishly still in love with this girl. The same girl cheats all the time. My friend has caught her many times through her chats with a particular guy. The babes mum would call & even ask her "How is your husband". The mum is not referring to my friend as her daughter's husband, but she's referring to the other guy whom my friends babe is cheating with. There have been many red flags, but my guy has become hypnotized by love.
My friend is on permanent night shift. Goes to work at 5pm and returns the next morning. Immediately my friend leaves, she will remove her phone from flight mode or silence and start flashing the guy to call her back. The guy would call & they would speak for so so long, sometimes, two hours. Her phone doesn't ring whenever my friend is around. Much worse is the fact that the Girl is so lazy. She has refused to work, she comes to my guy's house only to eat, sleep and chat. Her major hobby is to cook, eat all the meats in the food and demands for suya. She can't buy Sanitary pad or data for herself except my guy buys for her. She can't make her hair with her money. If my friend doesn't send her transport fare, she can't come. And when she wants to leave, my friend must also give her transport fare. In fact, if the money isn't enough, na wahala oo.. Whatever she tells my friend to do, he does. My friend would tell me he doesn't have money and will be eating in my house for weeks and atimes months. But the day the babe comes around, money will enter his pockets mysteriously. He will give the girl 10k to cook soup and buy garri for Eba but same guy cannot use 3k to cook for himself alone and eat. He tries too much to impress this cheating and lazy girlfriend even to the point of getting addicted to Sex enhancement drugs to satisfy his Babe. Without these enhancement drugs, he can't bleep the girl. He has become so weak that the girl has now capitalized on his weakness to continually become disloyal.
He intends marrying the girl, but I feel he's making the wrong decision. The girl wouldn't make a good wife, from all indications. Atimes I am tempted to open up & tell him about the many calls the girl receives whenever he is at work.
I know all these because I'm very close to him. Sometimes we sleep in each other's house.

I am really very angry cos there's nothing spectacular about this lady. No be say she fine. Also I hate taking shits from any lady particularly a cheating girlfriend who is also a parasite.
I'm scared that if I tell my friend to break up with her, my friend may tell her that I am the one advising him to breakup.

I wont be surprised, if you too is a lazy and jobless, like ur friend girlfriend, perhaps,you are indirectly referring to urself as ur friend gf. For you to have chance and time to know much about ur Friend girlfriend, even to the Level that you know the girl would put phone on flight mode and flash immediately ur friend left for office, despite the fact you said it earlier that,the girl on coming thr to chart and charge phone.

Stop making food available for him any time he claims he doesn't have money, and make sure u don't ever discuss the girl with him, he will never take any advice from u at his point, finally, allow him to continue simping he will learn the hard way

Foolish man,tell your friend everything

Alaska5050:
I know people like you would say something senseless. Whether it is me or not, is of no significance. If u have nothing reasonable to say, keep shut and keep off.

You don’t have to lie about the identity of the person. Claim your identity and foolishness with your full chest.

Tell him that no amount of money, sacrifice, etc can make a girl love him, that girl is using him and when she's done he'll have nothing but regret and diseases, he should remember that nobody helps men but themselves and his girlfriend is not faithful and women who cheat can never be faithful.
The more you reward bad behavior, the more it happens, if she saw he forgave her cheating, she'll never be faithful to him since he forgave it before.

Mumu story,how una take know say the phone go dey ring after your friend don comot.

Davidcorny:
Tell him that no amount of money, sacrifice, etc can make a girl love him, that girl is using him and when she's done he'll have nothing but regret and diseases, he should remember that nobody helps men but themselves and his girlfriend is not faithful and women who cheat can never be faithful.
The more you reward bad behavior, the more it happens, if she saw he forgave her cheating, she'll never be faithful to him since he forgave it before.

Fo*olish men will never see how true this statement is, no one comes to your aid except you that is why your finances should be guarded jealously. Women will hail you and when the money depletes they will still b the ones to chastise you.

Instead of the dude to think of how to better himself he is thinking of how to better a liability woman, it never ends well 99.99% of the time

All Men must learn live from the Street after leaving their Home ...

Mind your Business Op, If Dem no ask you no shook Mouth !! ....

Egotagho .... U go chop Winch .... !!

See the best advice I'll give you Is let him learn by himself cause that one dey enter brain Weller than advice no matter the advice you go give am nah you be the bad person so leave am if the girl don use he head finish he brain go reset for this tpain period you dey lodge cheating wh*re inside house.