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They can't just accuse you maybe she did something before

Ibrahimado:
They have resolve it, in their place of work and they have relieved her of her job but the issue here is why will she be accused of stealing and of a truth, I believe her boss explanation more than her own, because the evidence and detail explanation is very clear to me, she is just crying that she can't do such and that they set her up, but it is not adding up to me.

Let her get another job but put her on close watch

Defend her, either she's right or wrong

For those saying that this lady was set up…how do you set someone up with that sort of scenario?

The money was N30,000 not some crumpled N1k or N3k in N1k notes that could’ve mistakenly fallen from a pocket or bag.

N30k on the floor….this lady saw it, picked it up and her mind didn’t tell her to immediately alert management or her work colleagues. She picked it up and decided to ‘safely’ keep the money in her bag!……This right here was her mistake or her stupidity. She kept the money in her bag and then carelessly left the bag unattended. Who does that??
If her intention was to keep the money safe and report it, why wasn’t she with her bag all the time? At this stage, if it was a set up and there was a cctv that captured her picking up the money, I’ll assume that the camera would also captured the process that resulted in the money being planted or dropping off someone.

What if someone else stole that money from that bag? how would she explain that? She’d probably deny that she saw or touched any money except she was confronted with the cctv evidence.

Why didn’t she report that she found money on the floor, why didn’t she tell someone? She didn’t pick money from the street pavement but right inside her workplace.

If she was set up, then she was silly to have fallen for that.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

And you mentioned she lives alone?

I don’t believe you have seen the real shocker yet, just wait for it…
When next she comes, dive into her messages, pictures and most importantly her WhatsApp messages without notifying her

KosiGee:
For those saying that this lady was set up…how do you set someone up with that sort of scenario?

The money was N30,000 not some crumpled N1k or N3k in N1k notes that could’ve mistakenly fallen from a pocket of bag.

N30k on the floor….this lady saw it, picked it up and her mind didn’t tell her to immediately alert management or her work colleagues. She picked it up and decided to ‘safely’ keep the money in her bag!……This right here was her mistake or her stupidity. She kept the money in her bag and then carelessly left the bag unattended. Who does that??
If her intention was to keep the money safe and report it, why wasn’t she with her bag all the time? At this stage, if it was a set up and there was a cctv that captured her picking up the money, I’ll assume that the camera would also captured the process that resulted in the money being planted or dropping off someone.

What if someone else stole that money from that bag? how would she explain that? She’d probably deny that she saw or touched any money except she was confronted with the cctv evidence.

Why didn’t she report that she found money on the floor, why didn’t she tell someone? She didn’t pick money from the street pavement but right inside her workplace.

If she was set up, then she was silly to have fallen for that.

you know that most of them don’t read comments before starts commenting 😂😂
The lady in question admitted that she saw the money on the floor and picked it then kept it inside her bag…..if she didn’t mean to steal it,,then she was the one that set herself up.

Ang the company did wrong by searching her bag in her absence….they should have wait for her to return then ask her if she saw any money to know if she will admit picking up the money or deny it.

KosiGee:
For those saying that this lady was set up…how do you set someone up with that sort of scenario?

The money was N30,000 not some crumpled N1k or N3k in N1k notes that could’ve mistakenly fallen from a pocket of bag.

N30k on the floor….this lady saw it, picked it up and her mind didn’t tell her to immediately alert management or her work colleagues. She picked it up and decided to ‘safely’ keep the money in her bag!……This right here was her mistake or her stupidity. She kept the money in her bag and then carelessly left the bag unattended. Who does that??
If her intention was to keep the money safe and report it, why wasn’t she with her bag all the time? At this stage, if it was a set up and there was a cctv that captured her picking up the money, I’ll assume that the camera would also captured the process that resulted in the money being planted or dropping off someone.

What if someone else stole that money from that bag? how would she explain that? She’d probably deny that she saw or touched any money except she was confronted with the cctv evidence.

Why didn’t she report that she found money on the floor, why didn’t she tell someone? She didn’t pick money from the street pavement but right inside her workplace.

If she was set up, then she was silly to have fallen for that.

I’ve seen this pretty married lady stolen under the same circumstances… she picked money off and kept it in her bag at work, it took two day for them to discover who stole the money and all evidences pointed to her. She watched the cctv herself and was still in denial.

Op no know say women will lie and cry when caught … they will be in denial and shock that they were caught

Juliearth:
What evidence were presented to you? Are they cogent enough to proce she committed the crime?

If yes, please give her all the moral support she needs and find out why she did it. Please both families do not have to know she was relieved of her job due to theft. It can be your little secret. Take this as the will of God to unite you two. Being apart as a young couple is not so nice. Moreso, the distance is crazy. Look on the brighter side.

All the best!

If na your husband thief nko?

Kobojunkie:
How did you come to having a conversation with your wife's boss? Does she also have conversations with your own boss or something?

2. Do you actually intend to tell your family that your wife was accused of stealing by her boss? WOW... Jeeezzzz...

3. WOW... is it me or does it sound like you are even considering divorcing her at this point?

Tell us what you will do if na your husband them catch whey thief

Ibrahimado:
During late last year, during our marriage preparation she did not come to her place of work for four days and she was stop from working and her November salary with held without paying her a dime, so she started crying and I use my hard earn money to pay her the money 40k. around this year February she was called to resume back the work, then I was already in Lagos. So informed me about her resume the job a month later, I was upset and I ask her, if they have paid her the month they owe her, she wave it off, she said they will pay her. I said okay.
So concerning this present issue at hand, she said she saw the office money on the floor and kept It in her bag in order for her to return it later but when she went out for like an hour later, they ransack her bag and saw the money, she said she has no intention of stealing the money or taken it home, but all her plea fell on deaf ear.

They ransacked her bag behind her, that's tantamount to privacy intrusion. She never consented to be search, they never told her their was any missing money, yet you choose them over her.

Caseless:
You're welcome. May God continue to protect your family. At least, you say she's a good woman - we're all no 100% as humans. There are flaws always.

Make sure you put fear of what might happen to her in her when you finally get her in action, if It's a one-off thing or something she did to get back at her employer(stealing is wrong), she won't do it again.

Just create story like; you saw a woman being beaten mercilessly today in Lagos on my way from work, and I was terrified. I asked what she did and I was told she stole something.

When this Issue don simmer down, na den you go give her story to scare her.

Some flaws are unacceptable

tanigororo:
They ransacked her bag behind her, that's tantamount to privacy intrusion. She never consented to be search, they never told her their was any missing money, yet you choose them over her.

Hahaha consented to be searched when camera captured her picking money and hiding it in her bag

Omoawoke:
I’ve seen this pretty married lady stolen under the same circumstances… she picked money off and kept it in her bag at work, it took two day for them to discover who stole the money and all evidences pointed to her. She watched the cctv herself and was still in denial.

Op no know say women will lie and cry when caught … they will be in denial and shock that they were caught

She watched the cctv showing her committing the crime and she still denied!! She has problem.

KosiGee:
She watched the cctv showing her committing the crime and she still denied!! She has problem.

Is it not the same thing that is happening here according to the op

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

Going by your story and how the whole thing happened, there's a 60% possibility that someone sets her up, you need to ask yourself these few questions:

1. How could anybody drop or misplace 30k on the floor without knowing, whether a hold a 30k falls off your hand or your pocket, you must feel it that something has just fallen off you. For anyone to have claimed that 30k fell on the ground without knowing is something that needs to be checked.

2. Secondly, why don't they wait for your wife to return and ask her if she sees the money and see her reaction, why did they have to ransack her bag in her absence? What if they didn't see the money in her bag after ransacking her bag in her absence?

Even if police wants to search you or your house in a criminal investigation, they will ensure that you are present while the search is going on.

Though, my points are not to exonerate your wife completely but there is more to everything that surrounds the whole story than what they are telling you at her place of work.

Advice:
Sit your wife down, find out if there's anybody that she suspects that could have framed her up and why does she think the person might want to frame her up.

Ask your wife if she has any valid reason for not reporting the money immediately she sees it.

Lastly, advice her more on situation management, good intentions might turn you to a very bad person at times if not properly managed.

If after all your findings, you still thinks she did it, correct her maturely and warn her that if such happens, you wouldn't have a choice than to report to people that matters to have a crisis talk with her.

Omoawoke:
Hahaha consented to be searched when camera captured her picking money and hiding it in her bag

Where did the man stated that camera caught her?
Even if camera caught her, did she intentionally went to take it from where someone kept it and hide it in her bag?
You don't proof act alone, you have to justify your proof too.
Can they proof that she intends to take it away?

tanigororo:
Where did the man stated that camera caught her?
Even if camera caught her, did she intentionally went to take it from where someone kept it and hide it in her bag?
You don't proof act alone, you have to justify your proof too.
Can they proof that she intends to take it away?

No worry, go oshodi market and pick something and keep it in your bag, tell them you don’t intend to take it away that you are only testing how it fits into your bag.

If them never wire you two by two for head, you no go wise

Omoawoke:
No worry, go oshodi market and pick something and keep it in your bag, tell them you don’t intend to take it away that you are only testing how it fits into your bag.

If them never wire you two by two for head, you no go wise

I thought this is thread to share logical reasoning and comment rationally.

tanigororo:
I thought this is thread to share logical reasoning and comment rationally.

There were no rules!
Same way you were delusional to assume one is the same way you are being delusional in your argument

Either she did it or not stand with her

Ibrahimado:
For the issue of she joining me in Lagos, I will open it to her now. She just left my place 10 days ago, she always visit once in two months, she finished from uniben, she has done her clearance but waiting for deployment for her nysc. That is what is keeping her in Benin. I will tell her to start preparing to relocate. Thanks for your input.

God bless your marriage.

Ibrahimado:
They got the money back from her working bag according to the boss and they decide it is time for her to leave the job and the boss told me she has been doing it but no evidence all this time until this one that happened last week. She has not display any form of greed or any thing in that form to me, since I know her.

For me, this is a pure BLACKMAIL @Ibrahimado. Anybody can put anything in anyone's bag, especially if it is a work environment where there is a central place where Bags/personal belongings from home/non-office property/non-office working tools (food inclusive) are kept, with only the security having access on being the custodian apart from you.
Except you are running you personal business you should know that jealousy, backbiting, hatred and the likes are things common in work environment. recovering the money from her bag is not tangible enough to reach this conclusion of which you should know.

Going forward:
1. Further investigation is needed through further information from her and her boss...for example, does the organisation run daily operation with CCTV? That is a starting point to re-play such possible event.

2. Have a quiet time with your wife. You should have her remote control as your wife (you know what I mean)....this is time to activate it and you can tell if she is lying or not

3. Do not make hasty generalisation from a far (Lagos). This is a critical period and calls for your coming down to nail this. Don't rely on phone conversation to reach decision. Body language speaks alot on this matter, so one on one (physical presence) is key to unraveling this using Body language

4. Be prayerful.

...Wishing you the very best.

My brother act maturely always that's why you a married man. There are some things you need to always look at in two ways . It might be true allegation or it might be an attempt to set her up for stealing.

@Op, something is not adding up in this case, as in, something is fishy.

I don't know how the Pastor get to learn about it, but hope it wasn't from u, her probably.

This might be a set-up. U urself confirmed the kind of person your wife is, so u ought to believe what she said and not dismiss it as not adding up, regardless of whether she was guilty or not, u need to stand by her.

Yes, her boss explanation might be convincing over hers, but have u asked urself questions like:

1. Why would money be dropped on the floor in the first place? Though don't know the organization's dealing, but I know it's not a bank.
2. Why did they have to ransack her bag in her absence? That's trespassing and invasion of privacy on it own.
3. Just as they did with her, was same measure melted at the rest of the staff? Like searching their own bags or belongings too.
4. How did they get to find out money was missing, not while she was in the office, but when she went out.
5. Even if they had earlier searched the bags or belongings of rest of the staff, it's civil they wait for her return before going to ransack her own bag. Why did they not apply such diplomacy?

IMO, this look like a set-up. Someone targeting her due to reason best known to them. So, she was probably been monitored by such individual whose probably was the one who dropped the money, then watched ur wife play into his/her plan.

At least, give ur wife an iota of trust even if u are not convinced about her submission, which she might be saying the truth. Yes, we all don't know the context of her situation for her to procrastinate over handing the money over. She might have choosen to do so as soon as she return from where she went at those moment OR she wanted to hand it over immediately, but something made her decide to do it later. All these are possibilities and plausible.

With ur narration about ur wife, she might just be a victim of someone's jealousy.

All in all, stand by ur wife. It's sad u already crucified her just from what her boss told u. Never for any reason let this out to any other, even ur own family and hers. Let her know u believe her narration and give her the needed support cos only her and God knows the truth of the matter.

Your wife could be innocent. Just give her that benefit of doubt.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

Someone that has not steal from you, a devoted Christian, a treasurer in the church, a prudent wife, and a trustworthy person to you. She told you she didn't steal and you believe her boss much more than her.

I weep!

This is a moment to standby her and not to investigating her like the FBI.

Mr. If your wife said she's innocent, believe her against the WHOLE world.

Except you have been looking for a reason to end the marriage.

Your position in this whole saga is pretty clear, and I could sense where you were going when you mentioned that you don't have a baby with her yet.

You even get mind involve her pastor and even contemplating involving your extended family.

Oga, e don do na!

She told you she's innocent and she has proven it over the years.
Cut the woman some slack abeg.

What if it was a set up from someone who might has been asking her out in the office, since you live separately?

Your woman is going through severe pain Sir.. please, stop adding to it.

I can feel her hurt and betrayal of trust from the one she love.

NwaliE01:
Someone that has not steal from you, a devoted Christian, a treasurer in the church, a prudent wife, and a trustworthy person to you. She told you she didn't steal and you believe her boss much more than her.

I weep!

This is a moment to standby her and not to investigating her like the FBI.

Mr. If your wife said she's innocent, believe her against the WHOLE world.

Except you have been looking for a reason to end the marriage.

Your position in this whole saga is pretty clear, and I could sense where you were going when you mentioned that you don't have a baby with her yet.

You even get mind involve her pastor and even contemplating involving your extended family.

Oga, e don do na!

She told you she's innocent and she has proven it over the years.
Cut the woman some slack abeg.

What if it was a set up from someone who might has been asking her out in the office, since you live separately?

Your woman is going through severe pain Sir.. please, stop adding to it.

I can feel her hurt and betrayal of trust from the one she love.

Thank you sir. She has really be a blessing, when we stay together in Benin before I relocate for greener pastures in Lagos, I can leave close to 600k in the house she will not collect a dime from it. She can keep money without touching it.

NwaliE01:
Someone that has not steal from you, a devoted Christian, a treasurer in the church, a prudent wife, and a trustworthy person to you. She told you she didn't steal and you believe her boss much more than her.

I weep!

This is a moment to standby her and not to investigating her like the FBI.

Mr. If your wife said she's innocent, believe her against the WHOLE world.

Except you have been looking for a reason to end the marriage.

Your position in this whole saga is pretty clear, and I could sense where you were going when you mentioned that you don't have a baby with her yet.

You even get mind involve her pastor and even contemplating involving your extended family.

Oga, e don do na!

She told you she's innocent and she has proven it over the years.
Cut the woman some slack abeg.

What if it was a set up from someone who might has been asking her out in the office, since you live separately?

Your woman is going through severe pain Sir.. please, stop adding to it.

I can feel her hurt and betrayal of trust from the one she love.

She was the one that called her pastor and narrate everything to him, the pastor was dumbfounded, someone in charge of church money over 6years and no issue, the pastor was telling me that there is something to it.

[quote author=Ibrahimado post=132701445]Thank you sir. She has really be a blessing, when we stay together in Benin before I relocate for greener pastures in Lagos, I can leave close to 600k in the house she will not collect a dime from it. She can keep money without touching it. [/quote

My brother. Don't believe those people that want to ruin your beautiful home. She's most likely to be innocent.

oazeez1991:
@Op, something is not adding up in this case, as in, something is fishy.

I don't know how the Pastor get to learn about it, but hope it wasn't from u, her probably.

This might be a set-up. U urself confirmed the kind of person your wife is, so u ought to believe what she said and not dismiss it as not adding up, regardless of whether she was guilty or not, u need to stand by her.

Yes, her boss explanation might be convincing over hers, but have u asked urself questions like:

1. Why would money be dropped on the floor in the first place? Though don't know the organization's dealing, but I know it's not a bank.
2. Why did they have to ransack her bag in her absence? That's trespassing and invasion of privacy on it own.
3. Just as they did with her, was same measure melted at the rest of the staff? Like searching their own bags or belongings too.
4. How did they get to find out money was missing, not while she was in the office, but when she went out.
5. Even if they had earlier searched the bags or belongings of rest of the staff, it's civil they wait for her return before going to ransack her own bag. Why did they not apply such diplomacy?

IMO, this look like a set-up. Someone targeting her due to reason best known to them. So, she was probably been monitored by such individual whose probably was the one who dropped the money, then watched ur wife play into his/her plan.

At least, give ur wife an iota of trust even if u are not convinced about her submission, which she might be saying the truth. Yes, we all don't know the context of her situation for her to procrastinate over handing the money over. She might have choosen to do so as soon as she return from where she went at those moment OR she wanted to hand it over immediately, but something made her decide to do it later. All these are possibilities and plausible.

With ur narration about ur wife, she might just be a victim of someone's jealousy.

All in all, stand by ur wife. It's sad u already crucified her just from what her boss told u. Never for any reason let this out to any other, even ur own family and hers. Let her know u believe her narration and give her the needed support cos only her and God knows the truth of the matter.

Your wife could be innocent. Just give her that benefit of doubt.

Thank you, I will stand by her, she is a nice woman. She was a victim of circumstances

The general input has been great, I'm totally happy for your advice. God will continue to bless everyone. Joy is in my heart now

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

u even told her pastor

All these Mumu people forming Christian n seeing pastor as God self, don't u know there are something's that are called couples secret?

Must a third party know your deepest secret? What if u just expose your wife weakness to her pastor n that one can exploit her through that means, bro on this first one u ain't wise

On d second one, u can have a heart to heart talk with your wife n see if that's her weakness n see if u both can work on it n sort things out.

Now you confided in your pastor n your pastor will definitely confide in another person, just imagine u are even trying to tell both families

Like seriously u no get sense n na d wife I pity, so u as a man can't handle issues yourself n u can't understand there will always b couples dark side that no one knows about


I just Dey vex


Rubbish

Ibrahimado:
I understand your point, how about defending her, and her boss escalate the situation and it involve police and they have the evidence and you know, we are in a lawless country and it resolve to court case because they have the evidence. Please tell me, how can I stand by her now. I will be glad to learn from you.

u don't have to defend her

U have to appreciate the boss for now blowing it out of proportion first then make him understand u will work on it n get back to him.

The bulk work is between u n your wife, what do u want to defend when their are enough evidences n I am sure even the boss might have more incriminating evidence

Don't apologize to d boss cos your conversation might b recorded n he might use it against her later but just appreciate him for not blowing it out n tell him u will sort things out n get back to him

Simple

Don't put off defensive mode it will complicate issues cos there are many things the boss knows that u don't know