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Esama:
It has always been a cooked up story on Nairaland God will help you people.

Caseless:
calm down, first! Don't overreact. The good thing is, they didn't embarrass her or post her video online. Try her with another job and see how she does it. If It's in her, she'll do it again.

Stealing is terrible. Calm down and be mature about it. Don't involve your family yet.

Ibrahimado:
That is where the issue came from. Keeping it in her bag.

Ibrahimado:
During late last year, during our marriage preparation she did not come to her place of work for four days and she was stop from working and her November salary with held without paying her a dime, so she started crying and I use my hard earn money to pay her the money 40k. around this year February she was called to resume back the work, then I was already in Lagos. So informed me about her resume the job a month later, I was upset and I ask her, if they have paid her the month they owe her, she wave it off, she said they will pay her. I said okay.

So concerning this present issue at hand, she said she saw the office money on the floor and kept It in her bag in order for her to return it later but when she went out for like an hour later, they ransack her bag and saw the money, she said she has no intention of stealing the money or taken it home, but all her plea fell on deaf ear.

Sweetberry123:
If only u will listen to me. OP so long as she's ur wife even if she stole so what? U are just too immature even if u know ur wife stole u should have defended her honour. Then quietly u go home and tell her not to do it again. Why ask pastor ask her boss, why? For what reason? Do u know what those people will say behind ur back?? Look at that man he's wife is a thief. If uve ever watches the Godfather, Theresa scene there where they said if u see ur friend fighting in the street join in the fight with him and later when going u can then ask questions like what led to the fight

voortrekker966:
Is it that she stole money kept somewhere in the office or she embezzled company funds? Please clarify.

Nicepoker:
She has to quit that working environment immediayely.If she insists working in Benin when you are in Lagos. Well I won't tell you the rest.

Ibrahimado:
I understand your point, how about defending her, and her boss escalate the situation and it involve police and they have the evidence and you know, we are in a lawless country and it resolve to court case because they have the evidence. Please tell me, how can I stand by her now. I will be glad to learn from you.

Ibrahimado:
They have resolve it, in their place of work and they have relieved her of her job but the issue here is why will she be accused of stealing and of a truth, I believe her boss explanation more than her own, because the evidence and detail explanation is very clear to me, she is just crying that she can't do such and that they set her up, but it is not adding up to me.

Ibrahimado:
Okay, thank you for your input. It has really helped a lot.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

Ibrahimado:
They got the money back from her working bag according to the boss and they decide it is time for her to leave the job and the boss told me she has been doing it but no evidence all this time until this one that happened last week. She has not display any form of greed or any thing in that form to me, since I know her.

Ibrahimado:
Office money about 30k. The boss has forgiven her, but I'm confused, why will she steal such money. But it hurt.

Ibrahimado:
They got the money back from her working bag according to the boss and they decide it is time for her to leave the job and the boss told me she has been doing it but no evidence all this time until this one that happened last week. She has not display any form of greed or any thing in that form to me, since I know her.

Ibrahimado:
I understand your point, how about defending her, and her boss escalate the situation and it involve police and they have the evidence and you know, we are in a lawless country and it resolve to court case because they have the evidence. Please tell me, how can I stand by her now. I will be glad to learn from you.

Ibrahimado:
I understand your point, how about defending her, and her boss escalate the situation and it involve police and they have the evidence and you know, we are in a lawless country and it resolve to court case because they have the evidence. Please tell me, how can I stand by her now. I will be glad to learn from you.

Nairalander248:
There is reason why you guys need to pray very hard, the devil sees shes a perfect being for you and they are trying to tear you guys apart... I don't see your wife stealing in this context... If you have the capability, give her another work, some forces want to take her place at work place...

1Sharon:
Lol. I really think you should accept what has happened and move on. Involving other people like her pastor and seeing her boss is a bad look on both of you. Move on quietly.

Ibrahimado:
1) She save all her contact in her email, and her email is log into my phone.
2) I don't have such intentions to reveal her secret to my family or her
3) I'm not considering divorce but ways to hand it more efficiently and maturely. She is a lovely wife every man can wish for but it hurt to know your wife reputation is stained.

Ibrahimado:
Please I want to be straight to the point,
My woman that we got married late last year, no children yet was just accuse of stealing in her place of work. And the evidence is very clear that she committed the crime. But she has deny it vehemently. But all evidence points that she did it. They did not disgrace her but silently told her to leave the work. She has be a supportive wife right from when we where dating. I did not see stealing during our courtship/dating. Last week, I had conversations with her boss and her boss open everything/story for me, it break my heart that her name is associated with stealing and just that last week, when she came to my place of work, I gave her 50k for her up keeping. And I do send her 10k weekly feeding, we don't stay in same place. She stay in Benin why I work in lagos. She stay alone. She is a very fervent Christian and it is hurting me since a week now, that my woman can be accuse of stealing. I don't steal and it is against my principle. She don't lack in that place of her work. I have not informed my family and her family. Because I don't want her to lose the respect they accord her. It is breaking me since a week now. What should I do my fellow people, I will be glad with all your inputs. I'm a nairaland of over 13 years.
Moreover, she has not steal from me and she don't ask too much money from me, she is always a contented person. She don't spend outrageously like me, no extra expenses/bill on her from her side or my side. Still I'm hearing all this thing from the first time. She is even her church treasurer for over 6years and her pastor has been calling me and telling me that she can't do it but I'm confused because the evidence is very glance in my eye from her boss narrative.

Ibrahimado:
money kept and they later saw it in her bag. But she said she did not have the intention of taking it home.