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How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 7:34am On Oct 28, 2024*

This post is a response to another thread where a certain lawyer was recorded assaulting his wife & traumatizing his kids in the process. I do believe it is possible to live in marital bliss without domestic violence from either spouse. I am married so this is me speaking from experience. This is free advice, its implementation is up to you.

1. The first thing is to change that mindset of beating a woman to control her. If you are resolved in your heart that there is no other way, there is NOTHING I can say to convince you. Have that mindset and make that resolve not to hit your wife irrespective of the provocation

2. Realize that you as the man of the house, You are in full control of your home. No be your surname she dey bear? She is your 'property' to love and to cherish and to discipline if need be. The issue now is how to discipline your wife without hitting her.

These are some ways.
A. Be a good person. Love your wife, don't tell her, show her. Spend time with her. Provide what you can and help around the house. You can't command authority or respect from your wife when you are night crawling, going round the clubs with girls instead of spending time with her and your children. You can't come home drunk at 3.00am smelling of another woman's perfume and expect her to stay silent as the loyal submissive wife you expect her to be. You can't expect her to respect you WHEN YOU ARE BEING IRRESPONSIBLE. It is irresponsibility to club SERIALLY leaving your wife and children entering your house at odd hours of the night. No woman with self respect will stand for that. You are a married man with a family. If you know you can't leave the night life alone, marry a dunce who will take all your excesses without question. Unfortunately for you, they don't exist, they demand accountability, be accountable. That is the meaning of being responsible.

B. Read A again & practice it.

C. Once A & B is established, your wife knows you are a rare breed and she will do EVERYTHING you ask her to do. I PROMISE YOU. Those times when she is being very quarrelsome, remind her of your GOOD nature, remind her that girls are out there to grab you if she ever let's you go with her bad behavior.

D. If she is still being quarrelsome, leave the house. WHAT I DO is to tell my wife I LOVE HER but I CANT STAY IN THE SAME HOUSE WITH HER WITH THAT ATTITUDE. I say that every time before I walk out even with me brimming with anger. I always come back late at night to meet a sober wife.

E. I haven't tried this before because I haven't had to. Refuse her food. Simple. She will feel some other woman is feeding you. This makes her feel she is about to lose you. She will align and behave better.

F. If that doesn't work, move out of the house for a few days. Take only a few things. Let her know you are leaving not because you have another woman you want to sleep with. Rather you are leaving because of her quarrelsome attitude. She will come around begging you.

If None of the above breaks her, move out permanently. She is not supposed to be your wife. STAY SEPARATED. You may remarry if you so wish.

If the house she is staying is yours, sell it while she is still there. Na your house. Just make sure your children are either in boarding school, with you or away at a relatives place when the new owners want to take possession of the house. She will either sort herself or come running to you.
If you are not willing to sell your house, pretend it has been sold and arrange for someone to play the part of buyer/new owner. And if you don't own a house, Move out, get another flat for yourself. There are ways to live your life quietly without stress, talking too much or flexing muscle. Doing this is the real flex.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Kondomatic(m): 7:47am On Oct 28, 2024

You will learn

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by louken(m): 7:52am On Oct 28, 2024

Kondomatic:
You will learn

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by louken(m): 8:02am On Oct 28, 2024

How long have you been married? Truly, one day all those points you mentioned will fail you especially if you are married to a true daughter of jezebel.
These are my own tips:
1. Resolve that your happiness must not depend on your wife. Try to create your own happiness, whatever it takes.
2. Do your best to provide for and care for your family. Be a good father and a good husband to the best of your ability.
3. While at number 2, never forget 1.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 10:16am On Oct 28, 2024

Kondomatic:
You will learn

Says the unhappily unmarried man.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 10:19am On Oct 28, 2024

louken:
How long have you been married? Truly, one day all those points you mentioned will fail you especially if you are married to a true daughter of jezebel.
These are my own tips:
1. Resolve that your happiness must not depend on your wife. Try to create your own happiness, whatever it takes.
2. Do your best to provide for and care for your family. Be a good father and a good husband to the best of your ability.
3. While at number 2, never forget 1.

That is why you have a caveat. STAY SEPARATED. Is that too hard? If you have tried all these and it is still not working, break it up. The rule is never to resort to domestic violence. Being violent to your woman doesn't define you as a man.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Wearetheugliest: 10:58pm On Oct 28, 2024

greypencils:
This post is a response to another thread where a certain lawyer was recorded assaulting his wife & traumatizing his kids in the process. I do believe it is possible to live in marital bliss without domestic violence from either spouse. I am married so this is me speaking from experience. This is free advice, its implementation is up to you.

1. The first thing is to change that mindset of beating a woman to control her. If you are resolved in your heart that there is no other way, there is NOTHING I can say to convince you. Have that mindset and make that resolve not to hit your wife irrespective of the provocation

2. Realize that you as the man of the house, You are in full control of your home. No be your surname she dey bear? She is your 'property' to love and to cherish and to discipline if need be. The issue now is how to discipline your wife without hitting her.

These are some ways.
A. Be a good person. Love your wife, don't tell her, show her. Spend time with her. Provide what you can and help around the house. You can't command authority or respect from your wife when you are night crawling, going round the clubs with girls instead of spending time with her and your children. You can't come home drunk at 3.00am smelling of another woman's perfume and expect her to stay silent as the loyal submissive wife you expect her to be. You can't expect her to respect you WHEN YOU ARE BEING IRRESPONSIBLE. It is irresponsibility to club SERIALLY leaving your wife and children entering your house at odd hours of the night. No woman with self respect will stand for that. You are a married man with a family. If you know you can't leave the night life alone, marry a dunce who will take all your excesses without question. Unfortunately for you, they don't exist, they demand accountability, be accountable. That is the meaning of being responsible.

B. Read A again & practice it.

C. Once A & B is established, your wife knows you are a rare breed and she will do EVERYTHING you ask her to do. I PROMISE YOU. Those times when she is being very quarrelsome, remind her of your GOOD nature, remind her that girls are out there to grab you if she ever let's you go with her bad behavior.

D. If she is still being quarrelsome, leave the house. WHAT I DO is to tell my wife I LOVE HER but I CANT STAY IN THE SAME HOUSE WITH HER WITH THAT ATTITUDE. I say that every time before I walk out even with me brimming with anger. I always come back late at night to meet a sober wife.

E. I haven't tried this before because I haven't had to. Refuse her food. Simple. She will feel some other woman is feeding you. This makes her feel she is about to lose you. She will align and behave better.

F. If that doesn't work, move out of the house for a few days. Take only a few things. Let her know you are leaving not because you have another woman you want to sleep with. Rather you are leaving because of her quarrelsome attitude. She will come around begging you.

If None of the above breaks her, move out permanently. She is not supposed to be your wife. STAY SEPARATED. You may remarry if you so wish.

If the house she is staying is yours, sell it while she is still there. Na your house. Just make sure your children are either in boarding school or away at a relatives place when the new owners want to take possession of the house. She will either sort herself or come running to you.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Verydarkhearted(m): 9:49am On Oct 29, 2024

Yoruba woman said if their husband don’t beat them that means he doesn’t love them.. my fellow men I’m not promoting violence oo but if your woman fuvk up give her better beatings it’s part of our Nigerian culture.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 10:25am On Oct 29, 2024

Verydarkhearted:
Yoruba woman said if their husband don’t beat them that means he doesn’t love them.. my fellow men I’m not promoting violence oo but if your woman fuvk up give her better beatings it’s part of our Nigerian culture.

So you don't want to evolve? to change? to become better? This isn't 1960 bro. You beat any woman with self respect, she is walking out of the marriage. Worse, there are phones and there is social media. You do such and you cast yourself globally to anyone who might work with you internationally unless you don't have any plans to grow beyond your village. Do you think if you are on social media beating a woman, you would be given a visa to travel to better countries? The world is globalized now Bro, don't get stuck in the 60s.

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Savedday2: 1:14pm On Oct 29, 2024

What I don't really understand is why someone in its right sense will marry a 9ja girl.

Divorce all those useless ashawo immediately.

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Amumaigwe: 6:07pm On Oct 29, 2024

greypencils:
This post is a response to another thread where a certain lawyer was recorded assaulting his wife & traumatizing his kids in the process. I do believe it is possible to live in marital bliss without domestic violence from either spouse. I am married so this is me speaking from experience. This is free advice, its implementation is up to you.

1. The first thing is to change that mindset of beating a woman to control her. If you are resolved in your heart that there is no other way, there is NOTHING I can say to convince you. Have that mindset and make that resolve not to hit your wife irrespective of the provocation

2. Realize that you as the man of the house, You are in full control of your home. No be your surname she dey bear? She is your 'property' to love and to cherish and to discipline if need be. The issue now is how to discipline your wife without hitting her.

These are some ways.
A. Be a good person. Love your wife, don't tell her, show her. Spend time with her. Provide what you can and help around the house. You can't command authority or respect from your wife when you are night crawling, going round the clubs with girls instead of spending time with her and your children. You can't come home drunk at 3.00am smelling of another woman's perfume and expect her to stay silent as the loyal submissive wife you expect her to be. You can't expect her to respect you WHEN YOU ARE BEING IRRESPONSIBLE. It is irresponsibility to club SERIALLY leaving your wife and children entering your house at odd hours of the night. No woman with self respect will stand for that. You are a married man with a family. If you know you can't leave the night life alone, marry a dunce who will take all your excesses without question. Unfortunately for you, they don't exist, they demand accountability, be accountable. That is the meaning of being responsible.

B. Read A again & practice it.

C. Once A & B is established, your wife knows you are a rare breed and she will do EVERYTHING you ask her to do. I PROMISE YOU. Those times when she is being very quarrelsome, remind her of your GOOD nature, remind her that girls are out there to grab you if she ever let's you go with her bad behavior.

D. If she is still being quarrelsome, leave the house. WHAT I DO is to tell my wife I LOVE HER but I CANT STAY IN THE SAME HOUSE WITH HER WITH THAT ATTITUDE. I say that every time before I walk out even with me brimming with anger. I always come back late at night to meet a sober wife.

E. I haven't tried this before because I haven't had to. Refuse her food. Simple. She will feel some other woman is feeding you. This makes her feel she is about to lose you. She will align and behave better.

F. If that doesn't work, move out of the house for a few days. Take only a few things. Let her know you are leaving not because you have another woman you want to sleep with. Rather you are leaving because of her quarrelsome attitude. She will come around begging you.

If None of the above breaks her, move out permanently. She is not supposed to be your wife. STAY SEPARATED. You may remarry if you so wish.

If the house she is staying is yours, sell it while she is still there. Na your house. Just make sure your children are either in boarding school, with you or away at a relatives place when the new owners want to take possession of the house. She will either sort herself or come running to you.

You are amateurish beyond pardon. All what you wrote will have the direct opposite of your desired result.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Hehehehehe: 7:50pm On Oct 29, 2024

greypencils:
B. Read A again & practice it.

Thanks for this, I was smiling while assimilating your suggestion grin

n thanks to WhatsApp for the option to lock chats cheesy

cus I sabi cheat and that's the only issue my wife have with me, na WhatsApp I dey take communicate with the side chicks, of recent she needed to use my phone to call someone na so one of my side chick message me and she saw it but with chat lock she no go dey see anything again.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 8:43pm On Oct 29, 2024

Amumaigwe:
You are amateurish beyond pardon. All what you wrote will have the direct opposite of your desired result.

It's working for me. It won't work for you because you've resolved it will never work for you. You expect your wife to be beastly to you so you are prepared before hand to be beastly. That's your reality, not mine.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Proserpina: 8:46pm On Oct 29, 2024

Mr Controller abeg help us control the economy nah grin

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Dreamhans1: 5:35am On Nov 07, 2024

Amumaigwe:
You are amateurish beyond pardon. All what you wrote will have the direct opposite of your desired result.

It's interesting how you just told the world of how amateur you are in the process of trying to call someone else amateur.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Dreamhans1: 5:38am On Nov 07, 2024

greypencils:
It's working for me. It won't work for you because you've resolved it will never work for you. You expect your wife to be beastly to you so you are prepared before hand to be beastly. That's your reality, not mine.

These guy's claiming macho man don't know what beating a woman does to the kids and to themselves.
I practice what you typed for a long time and I'm having peace of mind and my wife is my best friend

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by helinues: 6:28am On Nov 07, 2024

Why should you control your wife when she has her own life to in charge of.

As a man, just be responsible, financially stable and have future plans.

As long as your future plans include the type of girl you will like to marry ( Love map), you should have the right partner as wife which all those domestic violence won't occur...

That's when phone swapping means nothing, picking and making calls won't be secretive

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 9:36am On Nov 07, 2024

Dreamhans1:
These guy's claiming macho man don't know what beating a woman does to the kids and to themselves.
I practice what you typed for a long time and I'm having peace of mind and my wife is my best friend

My Brother, I just tire for this boys. Funny enough, they will never support their own blood (sister, daughter, mother,aunt, cousin) being flogged by their partners but somehow they think it is right to hit their partners, that is a very flawed thought process. If you have anger problems, acknowledge that you have it and that will be the starting point to recovery. But to deny your problem and justify it, that is an idea that wont fly in the 21st century. Men are waking up to their responsibilities. Beating a woman is being stuck in the 60s.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 9:39am On Nov 07, 2024

helinues:
Why should you control your wife when she has her own life to in charge of.

As a man, just be responsible, financially stable and have future plans.

As long as your future plans include the type of girl you will like to marry ( Love map), you should have the right partner as wife which all those domestic violence won't occur...

That's when phone swapping means nothing, picking and making calls won't be secretive

I used the word 'control' to trigger a certain group of men who this post is meant for. They know themselves.

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Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by greypencils(op): 9:41am On Nov 07, 2024

Proserpina:
Mr Controller abeg help us control the economy nah

I wish I could Bro, I wish
I could.

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Proserpina: 1:44pm On Nov 07, 2024

greypencils:
I wish I could Bro, I wish
I could.

I'm not a bro

Re: How To Control Your Wife & Manage Your Home Without Domestic Violence by Konquest: 8:56am On Feb 21, 2025

greypencils:
This post is a response to another thread where a certain lawyer was recorded assaulting his wife & traumatizing his kids in the process. I do believe it is possible to live in marital bliss without domestic violence from either spouse. I am married so this is me speaking from experience. This is free advice, its implementation is up to you.

1. The first thing is to change that mindset of beating a woman to control her. If you are resolved in your heart that there is no other way, there is NOTHING I can say to convince you. Have that mindset and make that resolve not to hit your wife irrespective of the provocation

2. Realize that you as the man of the house, You are in full control of your home. No be your surname she dey bear? She is your 'property' to love and to cherish and to discipline if need be. The issue now is how to discipline your wife without hitting her.

These are some ways.
A. Be a good person. Love your wife, don't tell her, show her. Spend time with her. Provide what you can and help around the house. You can't command authority or respect from your wife when you are night crawling, going round the clubs with girls instead of spending time with her and your children. You can't come home drunk at 3.00am smelling of another woman's perfume and expect her to stay silent as the loyal submissive wife you expect her to be. You can't expect her to respect you WHEN YOU ARE BEING IRRESPONSIBLE. It is irresponsibility to club SERIALLY leaving your wife and children entering your house at odd hours of the night. No woman with self respect will stand for that. You are a married man with a family. If you know you can't leave the night life alone, marry a dunce who will take all your excesses without question. Unfortunately for you, they don't exist, they demand accountability, be accountable. That is the meaning of being responsible.

B. Read A again & practice it.

C. Once A & B is established, your wife knows you are a rare breed and she will do EVERYTHING you ask her to do. I PROMISE YOU. Those times when she is being very quarrelsome, remind her of your GOOD nature, remind her that girls are out there to grab you if she ever let's you go with her bad behavior.

D. If she is still being quarrelsome, leave the house. WHAT I DO is to tell my wife I LOVE HER but I CANT STAY IN THE SAME HOUSE WITH HER WITH THAT ATTITUDE. I say that every time before I walk out even with me brimming with anger. I always come back late at night to meet a sober wife.

E. I haven't tried this before because I haven't had to. Refuse her food. Simple. She will feel some other woman is feeding you. This makes her feel she is about to lose you. She will align and behave better.

F. If that doesn't work, move out of the house for a few days. Take only a few things. Let her know you are leaving not because you have another woman you want to sleep with. Rather you are leaving because of her quarrelsome attitude. She will come around begging you.

If None of the above breaks her, move out permanently. She is not supposed to be your wife. STAY SEPARATED. You may remarry if you so wish.

If the house she is staying is yours, sell it while she is still there. Na your house. Just make sure your children are either in boarding school, with you or away at a relatives place when the new owners want to take possession of the house. She will either sort herself or come running to you.

If you are not willing to sell your house, pretend it has been sold and arrange for someone to play the part of buyer/new owner. And if you don't own a house, Move out, get another flat for yourself. There are ways to live your life quietly without stress, talking too much or flexing muscle. Doing this is the real flex.

Bump.

Those are impressive perspectives right above.

Most times, when a woman is being irrational, she's trying to tell you something and feels you're not listening to her. Because men and women have different neurological brain wirings and monthly hormonal cycles, these masculine-feminine clashes usually exist based on communication differences. Learning more about "emotional intelligence" and having an intentional knowledge of the different "love languages" would greatly help folks to understand their partners better.

ONLY folks (men) who pay attention to little details, who have a higher state of understanding and maturity would immediately grab the thrust of the OP's brutally honest post here.

Nice thread.

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