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Been staying at my parents' for like 2 days now and mumcy no gree me rest.

You skip church service, "Y didn't you go to church?"

You drink. "You're now addicted to beer"

You sleep. "You're not serious with your life"

I ask her about a nurse based abroad she once suggested for me as a spouse and her response was,

"You are not serious. You think a girl wants a man without a plan or zeal for his life?"

Just because ballary no too dey my handicap now.
Omo I done tireee!
And it's only 2 days.

E done dey reach 4 years now wey I see 2meter complete for my account now.

So I no blame her.


She served me breakfast and just when I took the first few spoons she began her barrage of gasliting again talking about how all my friends are now married and all that

At that point, the food instantly lost its taste in my mouth. I felt like spitting it back into the plate.

Na home-training hold me back.

I snapped back at her... It's like she doesn't want me here anymore. I told her she should be worried about getting her life in order not mine (although she seems to have her shit togeda. so it sounded like a misfire)


I sha told her I had other accommodation options and if she doesn't want me here I can get moving.

I honestly cannot wait to leave here.

I just de vex say I no carry mob come back from Lag. I for just leave that food like that on top table enter car drive off till the next weekend.

Or even go hotel go lodge for like 1 week till I'm done here.

I dey wonder how my pops take cope reach now. I no like women wey dey nag.

Woman wey no fit structure words to give the desired result without having to cause so much friction.

I hate being coerced into taking an action I don't want. Like the more you push me towards it the more my dislike for the proposed action/idea gets

Like this marriage thingy for example, I was out with my homeboys and all except me was married.

Normally, them begin tease me say wetin I dey wait for? You know na, the normal way guys tease.

But the thing is the more they said that to me the more I hated the entire idea. I was literally pushed to go talk to the chief bridesmaid at the event and ask for her contact.

Her dad is rich and all but where does that put me?

because I don't understand why people think they're in a better position to make a long-term decision for me.

How person wan take marry when him no get up to half a million for account? Or even a quarter of a milly for account.

They say it all the time like I don't have enough Gray matter in my head to do my own thinking and it's annoying.

But I just laff and smile because they're family or friends.


Like, you have zero context of what my finances or life is like atm yet you feel obliged to urge me to tie the knots with a girl who's obviously well to do.

Just like momcy when she recommended a nurse abroad for me... In my head I'm like, "so I'm expected to get her interested in me, get her to luv up, propose, and then what??"

Let her foot the whole gaddammed bills?

Just like the nursing school interview I went for, the nurse who interviewed me asked me the same question.

She asked if I was single or married.
I answered, "single"
"When are you getting married" she asked next.

"When are you getting dead?"

"And will your funeral be immediately after your demise or would u prefer to be kept in a morgue for a few months before then?" I replied her (in my head) before blurting out, "soon & very soon"


The audacity strangers have to ask such a long-term personal question while expecting a gentle reply is baffling!


At a time, e done dey do me like say I no wan marry again. Make everybody mind settle.

Once you ask me say, "when I go marry?"
Or the closest one, "why you never marry"

I go just reply you with something rude or nasty make u rest (Na just say home training no go gree me tell people to their face say make dem go copulate themselves) mtchewww!

nawa

Omo! Person gats hold money like within the next few months. I feel like I have a few months or even a few years to get my money back in order.

Bastard money where are you?

Life is way better when your account is loaded, my guy. I go lie for you?

Especially when u are amongst the oldest guys in your family circle.


All my mind now dey on, wetin I wan learn wey go give me bar without involving buying and selling. I no get capital for buying stocks and advertising.

All my mind now na:

Wetin I wan do within this short period of time wey go fit set me on a path to money.

This nursing school thing go pay off in years. I really don't have that long

I no wan dey school dey ask my siblings for financial support (which according to psychological research is a response to past trauma) while in school.

Guy.. my mind no dey settled.

If I dey sleep for night, come wake up to empty my bladder. Then go back to bed, in-between those few mins before i drift off to sleep again I go just wonder, what if I no make am later in life?

That though alone go make all the sleep run comot my eyes. I go just dey awake dey rake brain on wetin to do to get money.


And e be like the answer dey for Street.

Even if I no dey work. I fit dey provide Aza.
My head wan burst

It is very normal for mum to ask when you are getting married. Just smile and be respectful to her when you answer. Every unmarried guy above 30 have gone through this through their mother. No need to vex , make plans to move out and get your own place.

Op, you sabi write O! 😀
Maybe na through writing your story you fit blow.

Life is full of wahala, when you are at the lowest in your life the thought of going up there is crazy, and when you finally at the top, the thought of you not maintaining the top position, fighting to stay at the top is more worst, that one is mental draining

CandyOps:
Omo! Person gats hold money like within the next few months. I feel like I have a few months or even a few years to get my money back in order.

Bastard money where are you?

Life is way better when your account is loaded, my guy. I go lie for you?

Especially when u are amongst the oldest guys in your family circle.


All my mind now dey on, wetin I wan learn wey go give me bar without involving buying and selling. I no get capital for buying stocks and advertising.

All my mind now na:

Wetin I wan do within this short period of time wey go fit set me on a path to money.

This nursing school thing go pay off in years. I really don't have that long

I no wan dey school dey ask my siblings for financial support (which according to psychological research is a response to past trauma) while in school.

Guy.. my mind no dey settled.

If I dey sleep for night, come wake up to empty my bladder. Then go back to bed, in-between those few mins before i drift off to sleep again I go just wonder, what if I no make am later in life?

That though alone go make all the sleep run comot my eyes. I go just dey awake dey rake brain on wetin to do to get money.


And e be like the answer dey for Street.

Even if I no dey work. I fit dey provide Aza.
My head wan burst

In as much as I understand you my Gee, everyone of us has really passed through this stage of life but always have it at the back of your mind say you go make am.
Life itself always make us to be unsettled, from one stage to another, men dey always dey on high speed and our hearts thinks a lot.
I remember when I failed class during SS1 and then, that was my problem from there to when my waec came out and English was not there, it became my second hard nut to crack in life from there to my graduation from university and my result no to clear as I expected from there to securing employment, leaving the country, getting married and boom corona virus came and tied me down in Nigeria for complete 3 years inside Corona virus, baby number 2 came and also number 3, my brother, man need run go find option but I thank God today.

Mariangeles:
Op, you sabi write O! 😀
Maybe na through writing your story you fit blow.

thanks Mrs Foodie Mariangeles. I hope it does but apart from sales copywriting I hadn't really made any money off it.

I wrote my first 3k words when I was 13 for an international competition (UN) but I guess I didn't make the cut. I pray it does but have no idea how it would

I can relate. I love the way you write also. No too para for mumsy o. Its not easy my guy.

Maybe na writing go pay you last last. Maybe Na nursing. Maybe na street. Only time will tell. You gotta keep moving.. Na who give up Bleep up. If u dey consider writing then I don't think NL is the platform for you. You should crosspost

uchman:
In as much as I understand you my Gee, everyone of us has really passed through this stage of life but always have it at the back of your mind say you go make am.
Life itself always make us to be unsettled, from one stage to another, men dey always dey on high speed and our hearts thinks a lot.
I remember when I failed class during SS1 and then, that was my problem from there to when my waec came out and English was not there, it became my second hard nut to crack in life from there to my graduation from university and my result no to clear as I expected from there to securing employment, leaving the country, getting married and boom corona virus came and tied me down in Nigeria for complete 3 years inside Corona virus, baby number 2 came and also number 3, my brother, man need run go find option but I thank God today.

Thanks for the motivation!

It was really warm of you. Yeah I'm positive I'll break above the ice but we don't know that for a fact .. and that thought keeps me up. Tomorrow will determine if the moves we make today were worthwhile or not

Alphamentips:
I can relate. I love the way you write also. No too para for mumsy o. Its not easy my guy.

Maybe na writing go pay you last last. Maybe Na nursing. Maybe na street. Only time will tell. You gotta keep moving.. Na who give up Bleep up. If u dey consider writing then I don't think NL is the platform for you. You should crosspost

Yeah ikr?

I only post here cos it's anonymous. Imagine coming on Facebook to roast your mumcy lol

I know I'll get more traction and views of I crosspost but I don't know why I don't. Maybe I dislike the attention. I have a grp of 20k women who are TTC. I also have a grp of 3k peeps who are interested in e-commerce but I hardly post as it's so demanding keeping up with the msgs and all..

I don't think I'm cut out for that as no income comes off it

Obviously you seem like one that takes these things seriously. A lot of ni*gas in this country are going through this same thing.

It's all about you bro!

Most moms do want the best for their child. It's like something written in their DNA but the way they go about it is the problem.

I want you to know something. Nobody is going to love you like your mom.

CandyOps:
Yeah ikr?

I only post here cos it's anonymous. Imagine coming on Facebook to roast your mumcy lol

I know I'll get more traction and views of I crosspost but I don't know why I don't. Maybe I dislike the attention. I have a grp of 20k women who are TTC. I also have a grp of 3k peeps who are interested in e-commerce but I hardly post as it's so demanding keeping up with the msgs and all..

I don't think I'm cut out for that as no income comes off it

Attention is the new currency. Don't take it lightly. If you have such grps with such large following why don't you take them serious. Is the grp on Telegram or FB? Organic or paid growth?

In the grand scheme of things ( of 8 billion people (and other parallel universe) ) the universe does not care if u marry, if u give birth or even if u drop dead in the next second ,or if ur momma get to see u get married.. the sum scheme of things is designed to weed out the old with the new.if u master this thought every fear or inadequacy will become minute and inconsequential.

Guy u need to provoke, hala for her one day so dat her mind go dey. Whu she go dey press u all the time, na so my fried come visit me for house the other day, na so my mumsy begin dey press me, say she she no want see me with my guy again, dey embarrass me in front of my friend, sake of say the guy from prison come back. ( No be like say e comit crime o, but peson go sell in papa land, so e challenge the big man, the man come lock am for prison for one year. ) i remenber during my time of adversity of life, this my guy stood by me and surported me through my ordeal. na so i com dey upset with her attitude, come hala for am ehh, she get to calm down, come leter dey beg me say she dey sorry. Those attitude from women is deu to the fact that a man is not alright financialy. But everything will be alright with time

CandyOps:
Been staying at my parents' for like 2 days now and mumcy no gree me rest.

You skip church service, "Y didn't you go to church?"

You drink. "You're now addicted to beer"

You sleep. "You're not serious with your life"

I ask her about a nurse based abroad she once suggested for me as a spouse and her response was,

"You are not serious. You think a girl wants a man without a plan or zeal for his life?"

Just because ballary no too dey my handicap now.
Omo I done tireee!
And it's only 2 days.

E done dey reach 4 years now wey I see 2meter complete for my account now.

So I no blame her.


She served me breakfast and just when I took the first few spoons she began her barrage of gasliting again talking about how all my friends are now married and all that

At that point, the food instantly lost its taste in my mouth. I felt like spitting it back into the plate.

Na home-training hold me back.

I snapped back at her... It's like she doesn't want me here anymore. I told her she should be worried about getting her life in order not mine (although she seems to have her shit togeda. so it sounded like a misfire)


I sha told her I had other accommodation options and if she doesn't want me here I can get moving.

I honestly cannot wait to leave here.

I just de vex say I no carry mob come back from Lag. I for just leave that food like that on top table enter car drive off till the next weekend.

Or even go hotel go lodge for like 1 week till I'm done here.

I dey wonder how my pops take cope reach now. I no like women wey dey nag.

Woman wey no fit structure words to give the desired result without having to cause so much friction.

I hate being coerced into taking an action I don't want. Like the more you push me towards it the more my dislike for the proposed action/idea gets

Like this marriage thingy for example, I was out with my homeboys and all except me was married.

Normally, them begin tease me say wetin I dey wait for? You know na, the normal way guys tease.

But the thing is the more they said that to me the more I hated the entire idea. I was literally pushed to go talk to the chief bridesmaid at the event and ask for her contact.

Her dad is rich and all but where does that put me?

because I don't understand why people think they're in a better position to make a long-term decision for me.

How person wan take marry when him no get up to half a million for account? Or even a quarter of a milly for account.

They say it all the time like I don't have enough Gray matter in my head to do my own thinking and it's annoying.

But I just laff and smile because they're family or friends.


Like, you have zero context of what my finances or life is like atm yet you feel obliged to urge me to tie the knots with a girl who's obviously well to do.

Just like momcy when she recommended a nurse abroad for me... In my head I'm like, "so I'm expected to get her interested in me, get her to luv up, propose, and then what??"

Let her foot the whole gaddammed bills?

Just like the nursing school interview I went for, the nurse who interviewed me asked me the same question.

She asked if I was single or married.
I answered, "single"
"When are you getting married" she asked next.

"When are you getting dead?"

"And will your funeral be immediately after your demise or would u prefer to be kept in a morgue for a few months before then?" I replied her (in my head) before blurting out, "soon & very soon"


The audacity strangers have to ask such a long-term personal question while expecting a gentle reply is baffling!


At a time, e done dey do me like say I no wan marry again. Make everybody mind settle.

Once you ask me say, "when I go marry?"
Or the closest one, "why you never marry"

I go just reply you with something rude or nasty make u rest (Na just say home training no go gree me tell people to their face say make dem go copulate themselves) mtchewww!

E be like I go begin reply that question with, "why you never die?"

csamii:
Obviously you seem like one that takes these things seriously. A lot of ni*gas in this country are going through this same thing.

It's all about you bro!

Most moms do want the best for their child. It's like something written in their DNA but the way they go about it is the problem.

I want you to know something. Nobody is going to love you like your mom.

😂
If what my mun has for me is love. I don't want to ever feel loved.

csamii:
Obviously you seem like one that takes these things seriously. A lot of ni*gas in this country are going through this same thing.

It's all about you bro!

Most moms do want the best for their child. It's like something written in their DNA but the way they go about it is the problem.

I want you to know something. Nobody is going to love you like your mom.

my broda sorry to say this but not all the time, sometimes siblings or father can love you more than your mother, not all mothers are good too.
I have seen so many mothers destroying their own children life in my own very eyes, I know what I'm saying bruh

Almost thought you were the last born. Too gentle. I would have shut her up with one side look. Won’t sit down & listen to any nagging from any woman whether they mean well or not.
Most don’t understand what men go through daily.

Peace of mind is very important if you must make bastrd money.

You might want to look into monetizing your facebook pages.

CandyOps:
Been staying at my parents' for like 2 days now and mumcy no gree me rest.

You skip church service, "Y didn't you go to church?"

You drink. "You're now addicted to beer"

You sleep. "You're not serious with your life"

I ask her about a nurse based abroad she once suggested for me as a spouse and her response was,

"You are not serious. You think a girl wants a man without a plan or zeal for his life?"

Just because ballary no too dey my handicap now.
Omo I done tireee!
And it's only 2 days.

E done dey reach 4 years now wey I see 2meter complete for my account now.

So I no blame her.


She served me breakfast and just when I took the first few spoons she began her barrage of gasliting again talking about how all my friends are now married and all that

At that point, the food instantly lost its taste in my mouth. I felt like spitting it back into the plate.

Na home-training hold me back.

I snapped back at her... It's like she doesn't want me here anymore. I told her she should be worried about getting her life in order not mine (although she seems to have her shit togeda. so it sounded like a misfire)


I sha told her I had other accommodation options and if she doesn't want me here I can get moving.

I honestly cannot wait to leave here.

I just de vex say I no carry mob come back from Lag. I for just leave that food like that on top table enter car drive off till the next weekend.

Or even go hotel go lodge for like 1 week till I'm done here.

I dey wonder how my pops take cope reach now. I no like women wey dey nag.

Woman wey no fit structure words to give the desired result without having to cause so much friction.

I hate being coerced into taking an action I don't want. Like the more you push me towards it the more my dislike for the proposed action/idea gets

Like this marriage thingy for example, I was out with my homeboys and all except me was married.

Normally, them begin tease me say wetin I dey wait for? You know na, the normal way guys tease.

But the thing is the more they said that to me the more I hated the entire idea. I was literally pushed to go talk to the chief bridesmaid at the event and ask for her contact.

Her dad is rich and all but where does that put me?

because I don't understand why people think they're in a better position to make a long-term decision for me.

How person wan take marry when him no get up to half a million for account? Or even a quarter of a milly for account.

They say it all the time like I don't have enough Gray matter in my head to do my own thinking and it's annoying.

But I just laff and smile because they're family or friends.


Like, you have zero context of what my finances or life is like atm yet you feel obliged to urge me to tie the knots with a girl who's obviously well to do.

Just like momcy when she recommended a nurse abroad for me... In my head I'm like, "so I'm expected to get her interested in me, get her to luv up, propose, and then what??"

Let her foot the whole gaddammed bills?

Just like the nursing school interview I went for, the nurse who interviewed me asked me the same question.

She asked if I was single or married.
I answered, "single"
"When are you getting married" she asked next.

"When are you getting dead?"

"And will your funeral be immediately after your demise or would u prefer to be kept in a morgue for a few months before then?" I replied her (in my head) before blurting out, "soon & very soon"


The audacity strangers have to ask such a long-term personal question while expecting a gentle reply is baffling!


At a time, e done dey do me like say I no wan marry again. Make everybody mind settle.

Once you ask me say, "when I go marry?"
Or the closest one, "why you never marry"

I go just reply you with something rude or nasty make u rest (Na just say home training no go gree me tell people to their face say make dem go copulate themselves) mtchewww!

Don't mind your mum, naso our pastor say those wey wan marry come out,naso my church member tell me to come out, I tell her no.

I can imagine what you are going thru

What u said reminds me of one guy in my circle of friends. We all went to same school and most of us are now resident in same city. Every one except him have "settled down" ( as they say in Nigeria) so every now and then when we see, we go dey shook am word. Nothing malicious...just friendly banters...the guy is naturally carefree so i didn't really see it as a big deal. but with time I realised that those words were getting to him as he started avoiding our occasional get together. So I had to tell my guys to tone down the taunting

See my guy, you mumsy means well, yes her "delivery" may not be top notch but it she is speaking from a place of concern. She sees your achievements in life as a sign of you being focus and that u know what you want out of life. She has done it( like u said in your write up) so she is suprised to get why you haven't figured out ur sh*t. Snapping back at mumsy would not help in anyway....she trained you better than that

If at all, her behaviour or "nagging" should spur you to action, action that would lead to tangible results. That would be the best way to "shut her up"

You may call me old school but this would be a good time to seek God for help. Pray and ask God for directions....the directions may come as a thought or an idea as you ponder on ur next move

God speed

atoliman:
It is very normal for mum to ask when you are getting married. Just smile and be respectful to her when you answer. Every unmarried guy above 30 have gone through this through their mother. No need to vex , make plans to move out and get your own place.

Don't generalize.

CandyOps:
Been staying at my parents' for like 2 days now and mumcy no gree me rest.

You skip church service, "Y didn't you go to church?"

You drink. "You're now addicted to beer"

You sleep. "You're not serious with your life"

I ask her about a nurse based abroad she once suggested for me as a spouse and her response was,

"You are not serious. You think a girl wants a man without a plan or zeal for his life?"

Just because ballary no too dey my handicap now.
Omo I done tireee!
And it's only 2 days.

E done dey reach 4 years now wey I see 2meter complete for my account now.

So I no blame her.


She served me breakfast and just when I took the first few spoons she began her barrage of gasliting again talking about how all my friends are now married and all that

At that point, the food instantly lost its taste in my mouth. I felt like spitting it back into the plate.

Na home-training hold me back.

I snapped back at her... It's like she doesn't want me here anymore. I told her she should be worried about getting her life in order not mine (although she seems to have her shit togeda. so it sounded like a misfire)


I sha told her I had other accommodation options and if she doesn't want me here I can get moving.

I honestly cannot wait to leave here.

I just de vex say I no carry mob come back from Lag. I for just leave that food like that on top table enter car drive off till the next weekend.

Or even go hotel go lodge for like 1 week till I'm done here.

I dey wonder how my pops take cope reach now. I no like women wey dey nag.

Woman wey no fit structure words to give the desired result without having to cause so much friction.

I hate being coerced into taking an action I don't want. Like the more you push me towards it the more my dislike for the proposed action/idea gets

Like this marriage thingy for example, I was out with my homeboys and all except me was married.

Normally, them begin tease me say wetin I dey wait for? You know na, the normal way guys tease.

But the thing is the more they said that to me the more I hated the entire idea. I was literally pushed to go talk to the chief bridesmaid at the event and ask for her contact.

Her dad is rich and all but where does that put me?

because I don't understand why people think they're in a better position to make a long-term decision for me.

How person wan take marry when him no get up to half a million for account? Or even a quarter of a milly for account.

They say it all the time like I don't have enough Gray matter in my head to do my own thinking and it's annoying.

But I just laff and smile because they're family or friends.


Like, you have zero context of what my finances or life is like atm yet you feel obliged to urge me to tie the knots with a girl who's obviously well to do.

Just like momcy when she recommended a nurse abroad for me... In my head I'm like, "so I'm expected to get her interested in me, get her to luv up, propose, and then what??"

Let her foot the whole gaddammed bills?

Just like the nursing school interview I went for, the nurse who interviewed me asked me the same question.

She asked if I was single or married.
I answered, "single"
"When are you getting married" she asked next.

"When are you getting dead?"

"And will your funeral be immediately after your demise or would u prefer to be kept in a morgue for a few months before then?" I replied her (in my head) before blurting out, "soon & very soon"


The audacity strangers have to ask such a long-term personal question while expecting a gentle reply is baffling!


At a time, e done dey do me like say I no wan marry again. Make everybody mind settle.

Once you ask me say, "when I go marry?"
Or the closest one, "why you never marry"

I go just reply you with something rude or nasty make u rest (Na just say home training no go gree me tell people to their face say make dem go copulate themselves) mtchewww!

Dont allow Parents or peers set You up

Do things at your own pace. Get your life in order. Get your finances in order.

Most men are expected to bear the bul of expenses

Women will support and affirm the sistahood

CandyOps:
Been staying at my parents' for like 2 days now and mumcy no gree me rest.

You skip church service, "Y didn't you go to church?"

You drink. "You're now addicted to beer"

You sleep. "You're not serious with your life"

I ask her about a nurse based abroad she once suggested for me as a spouse and her response was,

"You are not serious. You think a girl wants a man without a plan or zeal for his life?"

Just because ballary no too dey my handicap now.
Omo I done tireee!
And it's only 2 days.

E done dey reach 4 years now wey I see 2meter complete for my account now.

So I no blame her.


She served me breakfast and just when I took the first few spoons she began her barrage of gasliting again talking about how all my friends are now married and all that

At that point, the food instantly lost its taste in my mouth. I felt like spitting it back into the plate.

Na home-training hold me back.

I snapped back at her... It's like she doesn't want me here anymore. I told her she should be worried about getting her life in order not mine (although she seems to have her shit togeda. so it sounded like a misfire)


I sha told her I had other accommodation options and if she doesn't want me here I can get moving.

I honestly cannot wait to leave here.

I just de vex say I no carry mob come back from Lag. I for just leave that food like that on top table enter car drive off till the next weekend.

Or even go hotel go lodge for like 1 week till I'm done here.

I dey wonder how my pops take cope reach now. I no like women wey dey nag.

Woman wey no fit structure words to give the desired result without having to cause so much friction.

I hate being coerced into taking an action I don't want. Like the more you push me towards it the more my dislike for the proposed action/idea gets

Like this marriage thingy for example, I was out with my homeboys and all except me was married.

Normally, them begin tease me say wetin I dey wait for? You know na, the normal way guys tease.

But the thing is the more they said that to me the more I hated the entire idea. I was literally pushed to go talk to the chief bridesmaid at the event and ask for her contact.

Her dad is rich and all but where does that put me?

because I don't understand why people think they're in a better position to make a long-term decision for me.

How person wan take marry when him no get up to half a million for account? Or even a quarter of a milly for account.

They say it all the time like I don't have enough Gray matter in my head to do my own thinking and it's annoying.

But I just laff and smile because they're family or friends.


Like, you have zero context of what my finances or life is like atm yet you feel obliged to urge me to tie the knots with a girl who's obviously well to do.

Just like momcy when she recommended a nurse abroad for me... In my head I'm like, "so I'm expected to get her interested in me, get her to luv up, propose, and then what??"

Let her foot the whole gaddammed bills?

Just like the nursing school interview I went for, the nurse who interviewed me asked me the same question.

She asked if I was single or married.
I answered, "single"
"When are you getting married" she asked next.

"When are you getting dead?"

"And will your funeral be immediately after your demise or would u prefer to be kept in a morgue for a few months before then?" I replied her (in my head) before blurting out, "soon & very soon"


The audacity strangers have to ask such a long-term personal question while expecting a gentle reply is baffling!


At a time, e done dey do me like say I no wan marry again. Make everybody mind settle.

Once you ask me say, "when I go marry?"
Or the closest one, "why you never marry"

I go just reply you with something rude or nasty make u rest (Na just say home training no go gree me tell people to their face say make dem go copulate themselves) mtchewww!

I feel you bro. E go better, these experiences are really frustrating, I pray the universe aligns in your favor. Everything go make sense SOON!

Op, I don wear your shoes tire....


When I first left home, my folks were livid and they sincerely wanted me to fail, I'm not kidding, they even seized my credentials join but with time, they had to embrace the reality on ground.


Then I got arrested and I realized that they were actually hoping for me to fail all this while.

One year wey I do for house, they fucking bleeped with my mental health, sometimes I wonder if those people actually sees me like an adult or child....


Since wey I japa again, if you see us gisting, you'll think I am their all time favorite pikin...

But as we no fit change parents, how we go do

It's well

I'll talk to you like a big brother.

Calm down.

You are still her baby.

Maybe it's time you had a "sit down " with her and let her know how you feel, including your worries and your fears.

Also let her know the reason marriage is not an option, yet ( finances).

Let her know how you truly feel about ...life (church etc al)

Give her a tentative 5 year plan (bordered on you fixing your life - job, travel, academia, hustle - after which your plan is to take care of her (very important) then possibly give her grandchildren.

Relax and stop drinking alcohol ( that's like commiting prolonged suicide).

Plan your life. Really think of what you must do to make your life work, and may God help you.

NB: Avoid young girls or..baddies as y'all call them, for now. They can't help you.

Gamer999:
I feel you bro. E go better, these experiences are really frustrating, I pray the universe aligns in your favor. Everything go make sense SOON!

Iseee 🙏

GreyWolf01:
I'll talk to you like a big brother.

Calm down.

You are still her baby..

Relax and stop drinking alcohol ( that's like commiting prolonged suicide).

Plan your life. Really think of what you must do to make your life work, and may God help you.

.

You go say make I make money which one be make I no dey drink beer? Lol
I dey on 2 Bo rn. I just no dey drink for house again

Therock5555:
Op, I don wear your shoes tire....


Then I got arrested and I realized that they were actually hoping for me to fail all this while.

One year wey I do for house, they fucking bleeped with my mental health, sometimes I wonder if those people actually sees me like an adult or child....


Since wey I japa again, if you see us gisting, you'll think I am their all time favorite pikin...

But as we no fit change parents, how we go do

It's well

I feel you boss. Thanks for the ginger!

with the way I dey go I know say I must enter inside once I begin see bar for street because the kin money I dey find na block... And all my bros wey dey on now done enter inside at least once...

One done get DSS case. One done get normal Eke case. So to enter inside be like say na the benchmark for entry into higher money. And I dey ready

tuoyoojo:
I can imagine what you are going thru

What u said reminds me of one guy in my circle of friends. We all went to same school and most of us are now resident in same city. Every one except him have "settled down" ( as they say in Nigeria) so every now and then when we see, we go dey shook am word. Nothing malicious...just friendly banters...the guy is naturally carefree so i didn't really see it as a big deal. but with time I realised that those words were getting to him as he started avoiding our occasional get together. So I had to tell my guys to tone down the taunting

See my guy, you mumsy means well, yes her "delivery" may not be top notch but it she is speaking from a place of concern. She sees your achievements in life as a sign of you being focus and that u know what you want out of life. She has done it( like u said in your write up) so she is suprised to get why you haven't figured out ur sh*t. Snapping back at mumsy would not help in anyway....she trained you better than that

If at all, her behaviour or "nagging" should spur you to action, action that would lead to tangible results. That would be the best way to "shut her up"

You may call me old school but this would be a good time to seek God for help. Pray and ask God for directions....the directions may come as a thought or an idea as you ponder on ur next move

God speed

It is said that any man who can wholeheartedly take a woman's criticism w/o feeling bad can become a better man.

So yes, your words are in order. Thank again my guy. I'm on that journey. I done see bar before but e no loud. As they say, the journey of life is the destination.


The fun is in the process. I can't wait and I'm open to the universe because I know say money dey this world