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Good day my fellow Nairalanders......Hope y'all are having a nice day + flexing on the harmattan season that's already gotten it's aroma allover the place?

So, recently,I was added to my primary school WhatsApp group......It's been over 20 years since we left primary school and it was indeed a good time to have a flashback of the memories of how and who we used to be back then as kids,under the same roof of the same classroom as classmates....

The reason for the reunion came about as a result of the fact that one of our classmates was about getting married....It was indeed a fun-filled moment as we were already vibing and reminiscing on our past

Suddenly,I began to notice how some guys were showcasing and boasting about how they have made it in life.....Some were even posting pictures of their expensive cars and beautiful houses....I was really happy for them,at least for seeing those whom I grew up with making it to the top...It actually gave me joy as I hoped to make it like them someday too


But then again,what really killed my joy was when one of them started to call out the names of those who used to take from the first to third positions in class ...The annoying part was that he sent it via voice note and was like mocking us about not being successful yet like those of them who were considered as the dullards back then in school.....I felt really pissed off😡. The fun was brutally murdered instantly and I began to notice how many people started to exit the group one after the other 😔. I wasn't left out cuz I also made sure I dusted my shoes and left too before they would post the pictures of me riding my keke ...what was supposed to bring us together only ended up disintegrating us further and made us felt like we were losers . As a matter of fact, I've vowed never to be a member of any WhatsApp group from henceforth . Cuz it seems these guys are only out to add more pains to people's depression

Have anyone experienced this kind of scenario before?

chaiiii

Nothing to experience here. Just exit the group for your peace of mind. For all you know, some of them claming successful might be involved in fetish stuff and robbing others to become rich.

People that genuinely worked for their money don't have time to be childish and petty.

Adexvivacity:
Ur action is that of a coward, including those that left. Will you leave the world cos many crazy people roam there? In any gathering, you dont let the madness of one person decide for you. Just like someone telling me that he stopped coming to nairaland cos people are tribalistic here....U aint ready.

. Bro,feel free to call me a coward anytime you like ,I don't care......

But you see me, I'm the kind of person whose emotions can easily be altered by what people say.....That's one main reason why I don't like being in a gathering where hate and insults are being shared..

Oloki:
Nothing to experience here. Just exit the group for your peace of mind. For all you know, some of them claming successful might be involved in fetish stuff and robbing others to become rich.

People that genuinely worked for their money don't have time to be childish and petty.

. I don leave am for Dem already

Maturity, is when we understand that we can never be the same, that we are from different backgrounds and that others must not reason like us or must accept what we accept or act the way we want them to act, or accept whatever our opinions are or that others must see things out own way.
We must not confuse inferiority complex and self pity with smartness.
My opinion though, no one is forced to accept them, that is maturity

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mbaise1000:
Maturity, is when we understand that we can never be the same, that we are from different backgrounds and that others must not reason like us or must accept what we accept or act the way we want them to act, or accept whatever our opinions are or that others must see things out own way.
We must not confuse inferiority complex and self pity with smartness.
My opinion though, no one is forced to accept them, that is maturity

. 💯💯 Bro

Sonnobax15:
. Bro,feel free to call me a coward anytime you like ,I don't care......

But you see me, I'm the kind of person whose emotions can easily be altered by what people say.....That's one main reason why I'm doing like being in a gathering where hate and insults are being shared..

Bros,
This your thinking is somehow, are you saying that you will agree that you are a fool because someone called you a fool? Or that you are the wealthiest person on earth just because someone thought you are?
No person's words will affect you except when you allow it to affect you. You are not defined by whatever anyone thinks.
I don't think it's good for you to allow what people say or think get to you negatively

mbaise1000:
Bros,
This your thinking is somehow, are you saying that you will agree that you are a fool because someone called you a fool? Or that you are the wealthiest person on earth just because someone thought you are?
No person's words will affect you except when you allow it to affect you. You are not defined by whatever anyone thinks.
I don't think it's good for you to allow what people say or think get to you negatively

. I totally understand you,but that's the way I'm wired......and as a matter of fact,I've been working on my self esteem and ego...But it seems it gonna take some time to start effecting.

Okay nah

My guy, some groups are not meant to bring anyone together ooo, to avoid your mental health remove yourself from that group.

Some people have inferiority complex, lack of money or having money will not wash it away.
But guy, you have to build yourself to the stage whereby nothing in life can move you.

Build yourself to that stage, but it comes with experience. There is nothing I will see in this life that will move me. I have seen many things both the good, the bad and the ugly. We only live once, why will another person's lifestyle erode on who you are . Is not easy but man up, even if na 1kobo you have enjoy it like you have millions, it will emit positive vibes in you that even people with millions will envy you.

Op is the real definition of
As e dey sweet us e go dey pain them..

Op if you like cry very very well
E dey sweet me as e dey pain u
You think Life ends in school??

When you were carrying first
Them go dey hail you they clap for you. The whole school will stand up and clap for you. E go dey enter your head you go dey buga


Meanwhile the dullards in school were being mocked by the teachers and the whole school.
They were publicly humiliated in front of their mates for poor grade.

So naturally who do you think will succeed more in life??

The one that the school keep hyping as the best student collecting 1st everytime will be more relaxed thinking his future is already made.

While the constant humiliation of the dullards gives them so much motivation to prove everybody wrong.
From the teachers to the principal that told them they won't be anything in Life!!!

So OP, stop crying like a bitvch
You had your own time to shine
Now it's their own turn to shine.

Life na turn by turn.. Shalom

I don't think I would have left tho, people mature differently and self appraisal is part and parcel of life..
Never left a reunion group,tho I rarely give my input, whenever I'm tagged,I respond and move on with my life..if you get pass me,mesef get pass others...
I sell herbs tho

I go with mbaise1000

The ironic part is that they are fraudsters.

Ask them how they make their wealth and you'll start hearing different incoherent blabbing.

Shallipopi posted some days ago that since he has been making/counting money, he hasn't come across algebra in his daily life. Dumb talk. Meanwhile, mathematics is everywhere. From the iPhone, he uses to the safety of his bank accounts.

The only way a dumb man can feel on top is:

A. To have a loud and (bad mouth).
B. Be narcissistic.
C. Flaunt wealth.
D. Be arrogant.
E. Bullying.

What they lack in virtues and values, they try to substitute by money and boasting. It is an ego issue. They are still hurt inside their hearts that they are still dumb despite their money.

They are still suffering from a strong inferiority complex.

Status and wealth are the only ways the average person can feel important. And that's why a culture of materialism is the order of the day worldwide. To catch people: flaunt luxury and wealth in their eyes. They are too dumb to decipher. They will fall for your antics.

The most infuriating observation is how truth and wisdom are weighed based on materialism. Even the Bible says that a poor wise man is not considered for his wisdom.

The only way to appeal to people is through:
A. Force.
B. Power.
C. Wealth.
D. Money.
E. Luxury.
F. Status.

Even if not a symptom of each, at least a sign will convince. Gotcha! You can have a herd of scapegoats and sleeper cells to help you play your dirty game.

It's good you left the group. Because staying there is like pearls among pigs. You'll start doubting yourself, and get filled with envy and regrets. Your exit is commendable.

Above all, this should motivate you to work harder. To improve productivity. To think. To research. To make money and climb the ladder.

Good, intelligent, and wise people can only rule when they are also the ones in charge. There must be no room for dumb men with stolen gold.

Thanks.

You did well by leaving the group.

Don't allow anyone disturb your mental health and peace of mind with negativity, especially people that can't contribute to your growth.

I don't know if it's just a Nigerian thing, unnecessary competition is very common even amongst Families.

As for me, anybody way no be millionaire/billionaire in dollar, I no dey too value their opinion on wealth, or allow their broke-shaming bother me.
Reasons why I like keeping to myself, make person no see me finish, and their source of income might not even be legit.

The mega wealthy are collaborating not competing unnecessarily.

Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders......Hope y'all are having a nice day + flexing on the harmattan season that's already gotten it's aroma allover the place?

So, recently,I was added to my primary school WhatsApp group......It's been over 20 years since we left primary school and it was indeed a good time to have a flashback of the memories of how and who we used to be back then as kids,under the same roof of the same classroom as classmates....

The reason for the reunion came about as a result of the fact that one of our classmates was about getting married....It was indeed a fun-filled moment as we were already vibing and reminiscing on our past

Suddenly,I began to notice how some guys were showcasing and boasting about how they have made it in life.....Some were even posting pictures of their expensive cars and beautiful houses....I was really happy for them,at least for seeing those whom I grew up with making it to the top...It actually gave me joy as I hoped to make it like them someday too


But then again,what really killed my joy was when one of them started to call out the names of those who used to take from the first to third positions in class ...The annoying part was that he sent it via voice note and was like mocking us about not being successful yet like those of them who were considered as the dullards back then in school.....I felt really pissed off😡. The fun was brutally murdered instantly and I began to notice how many people started to exit the group one after the other 😔. I wasn't left out cuz I also made sure I dusted my shoes and left too before they would post the pictures of me riding my keke ...what was supposed to bring us together only ended up disintegrating us further and made us felt like we were losers . As a matter of fact, I've vowed never to be a member of any WhatsApp group from henceforth . Cuz it seems these guys are only out to add more pains to people's depression

Have anyone experienced this kind of scenario before?

Never look down on yourself

Someone dey pray make dem dey your level

Work on your English too...

Everyone is a king in his kingdom so never be scared of another man boasting about his kingdom because you are also a King in your kingdom.

Anyway, Agriculture is life

Adexvivacity:
Ur action is that of a coward, including those that left. Will you leave the world cos many crazy people roam there? In any gathering, you dont let the madness of one person decide for you. Just like someone telling me that he stopped coming to nairaland cos people are tribalistic here....U aint ready.

Your opinion is myopic. Don’t you know that issue like this can cause depression for those who has not made it? Everyone is not supposed to make it in life at the same time. That is why those who has made it shouldn’t make fun of those who are still struggling

Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders......Hope y'all are having a nice day + flexing on the harmattan season that's already gotten it's aroma allover the place?

So, recently,I was added to my primary school WhatsApp group......It's been over 20 years since we left primary school and it was indeed a good time to have a flashback of the memories of how and who we used to be back then as kids,under the same roof of the same classroom as classmates....

The reason for the reunion came about as a result of the fact that one of our classmates was about getting married....It was indeed a fun-filled moment as we were already vibing and reminiscing on our past

Suddenly,I began to notice how some guys were showcasing and boasting about how they have made it in life.....Some were even posting pictures of their expensive cars and beautiful houses....I was really happy for them,at least for seeing those whom I grew up with making it to the top...It actually gave me joy as I hoped to make it like them someday too


But then again,what really killed my joy was when one of them started to call out the names of those who used to take from the first to third positions in class ...The annoying part was that he sent it via voice note and was like mocking us about not being successful yet like those of them who were considered as the dullards back then in school.....I felt really pissed off😡. The fun was brutally murdered instantly and I began to notice how many people started to exit the group one after the other 😔. I wasn't left out cuz I also made sure I dusted my shoes and left too before they would post the pictures of me riding my keke ...what was supposed to bring us together only ended up disintegrating us further and made us felt like we were losers . As a matter of fact, I've vowed never to be a member of any WhatsApp group from henceforth . Cuz it seems these guys are only out to add more pains to people's depression

Have anyone experienced this kind of scenario before?

it’s pride and ego in them that always caused it most.

Sonnobax15:
. I don leave am for Dem already

Good afternoon bro
Can we talk on WhatsApp I lost my old phone already with your number in it.
I'll be waiting to hear from you soonest

Ok

You and your other guys did the right thing by exiting the platform.

WhatsApp groups .The family/Christian ones i joined , nah every second my phone dey beep ,ringtone as early as 3AM .I dnt bother myself to read the stuff they post..

Adexvivacity:
Ur action is that of a coward, including those that left. Will you leave the world cos many crazy people roam there? In any gathering, you dont let the madness of one person decide for you. Just like someone telling me that he stopped coming to nairaland cos people are tribalistic here....U aint ready.

There's nothing cowardice in what the op or most of friend's did by exiting. They did it for peace of mind.

What most people are facing right now is "over-enough" but to now start adding unnecessary drama and stupidity to it isn't healthy at all...

tydi:
Good afternoon bro
Can we talk on WhatsApp I lost my old phone already with your number in it.
I'll be waiting to hear from you soonest

. Dm me via my email

Sonnobax15:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders......Hope y'all are having a nice day + flexing on the harmattan season that's already gotten it's aroma allover the place?

So, recently,I was added to my primary school WhatsApp group......It's been over 20 years since we left primary school and it was indeed a good time to have a flashback of the memories of how and who we used to be back then as kids,under the same roof of the same classroom as classmates....

The reason for the reunion came about as a result of the fact that one of our classmates was about getting married....It was indeed a fun-filled moment as we were already vibing and reminiscing on our past

Suddenly,I began to notice how some guys were showcasing and boasting about how they have made it in life.....Some were even posting pictures of their expensive cars and beautiful houses....I was really happy for them,at least for seeing those whom I grew up with making it to the top...It actually gave me joy as I hoped to make it like them someday too


But then again,what really killed my joy was when one of them started to call out the names of those who used to take from the first to third positions in class ...The annoying part was that he sent it via voice note and was like mocking us about not being successful yet like those of them who were considered as the dullards back then in school.....I felt really pissed off😡. The fun was brutally murdered instantly and I began to notice how many people started to exit the group one after the other 😔. I wasn't left out cuz I also made sure I dusted my shoes and left too before they would post the pictures of me riding my keke ...what was supposed to bring us together only ended up disintegrating us further and made us felt like we were losers . As a matter of fact, I've vowed never to be a member of any WhatsApp group from henceforth . Cuz it seems these guys are only out to add more pains to people's depression

Have anyone experienced this kind of scenario before?

its Not about whatsapp but the way individuals process information. There are lots of positivity that can be derived from the use of whatsapp or other online resource as that.
People can be who they are. Rules should be set and actions taken to deter future occurrence whats not been agreed upon making such rules.

even this Nairaland you brought this matter, aside making money by the founder, he faces a couple of challenges in managing the way users share information here, its tasking. take an example of the religious and tribal bickering that easily sets in most threads., before the first page elapse, the next thing , you would see tribal and religious tantrums thrown here and there.
Enforce rules in such groups and it should be followed properly. (in whatsapp @ least)