₦airaland Forum

mrvitalis:
[b]It's funny people are just ignorant when it comes to marriage list

70% of things in most marriage list would be used to serve people on the traditional marriage ceremony

I don't know of other places... But in Mbaise those high bills are placed so that u don't pay complete...

In fact if a family bills you 1 million and you pay it... It's insulting to the family, it is meant to be seeing that you scrapped everything you own and yet could not still afford our daughter so that you then take her on credit and continue to pay till death

"My in-laws please this is what I can afford, but as you know they dont finish marrying a wife, I would continue to balance the bride price forever ".. ... The above statement would make what ever you present acceptable


It's important to have a friend from the area of your wife to help you navigate

I am from Mbaise none of my sisters husband spent more than 100k on actual bribe price and we hosted the traditional marriage reception from pocket... While the men handled the white weddings [/b]

My younger brother married in ebonyi last year the father of the girl who happens to be a pastor collected just #1k as bride price but we spent over #500k for items to entertain the girl's immediate and extended families.

BigDawsNet:
I agree with you!

But why do parents train daughters in higher institutions just to return home and depend completely on husband to handle all home finances?


Cus my own belief is dat the lady education will get her a job and she would be able to handle at least 35% of home expenses

THEY DONT, IF YOUR WIFE IS A DOCTOR, SHE WILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL WORKING AND IF SHE IS A NURSE SHE WILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL WORKING.

OBVIOUSLY, THE MAN HAS TO BE RESPONSIBLE SIMPLY BECAUSE SHE MAY HAVE TO STOP WORKING TO TAKE CARE OF THE HOME, PRIMARILY THE BABIES UNTIL THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH BEFORE SHE CAN RETURN TO WORK.

THE BILLS ARE ALL ON U.

Why is he upset? ... the girl and her family showed him their true colour and he is upset. Another Nigerian women are the worse loading.

So the worth of a woman is this poverty list right? Some folks have no shame at all. I spent big in my traditional marriage more like a politician, the governor of my State sent a representative, I believe you can now have an idea of what I am talking about, but My marriage list was so affordable that my family felt insulted. I can only have one advice to anyone who cares to listen. NEVER MARRY A POVERTY MINDED LADY, NEVER EVER MARRY FROM OR INTO A FAMILY THAT HAS NO HONOR OR DIGNITY.

Very funny list for thoroughly used pussy,a pussy some guys got for free. What a waste of resources

alpharoyalty:
That's less than 2000 dollars.
Chicken change.
Poor man mentality.
Devil punish poverty

Nothing like poverty here.

No lady is worth that amount unless she's a virgin

dogo568:
Good job by pulling out of the marriage. What nonsense. I would have done the same thing.

He should go and marry from his tribe where women are very cheap nobody is forcing him to marry from another tribe they can't change their traditions and culture because of him.

Mrexcell:
He should go and marry from his tribe where women are very cheap nobody is forcing him to marry from another tribe.

THEY NEED TO RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE.



THE DISRESPECT IS GETTING OUT OF HAND.

Stolen:
THEY DONT, IF YOUR WIFE IS A DOCTOR, SHE WILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL WORKING AND IF SHE IS A NURSE SHE WILL BE IN THE HOSPITAL WORKING.

OBVIOUSLY, THE MAN HAS TO BE RESPONSIBLE SIMPLY BECAUSE SHE MAY HAVE TO STOP WORKING TO TAKE CARE OF THE HOME, PRIMARILY THE BABIES UNTIL THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH BEFORE SHE CAN RETURN TO WORK.

THE BILLS ARE ALL ON U.

Good point! She has to stop working to care for baby till they grow older… Yes, it’s the job of the father to cover all expenses for that period without any complain… but what happens after the child is old enough to go back to school? Do you think the woman should keep depending or move out and look for job or resume her job to assist her husband

These things called culture is just our ancestors putting "peer pressure" on the living

What did the village contribute to the wellbeing of the child, how much did the extended family contribute

Well for me the guy would have told the girl that he cannot afford it and stated what he could. If the family doesn't agree then he is free to do what he wants

But for me, by the time my girl child becomes a woman, I would not ask for a dime for my future inlaw. I would only ask him to treat my daughter well .......the exact thing my father inlaw ( God bless his soul) did for me

BigDawsNet:
Good point! She has to stop working to care for baby till they grow older… Yes, it’s the job of the father to cover all expenses for that period without any complain… but what happens after the child is old enough to go back to school?

EVERYBODY GOES TO WORK, AROUND THE CHILD ROUTINE.

SOME WILL COME BACK EARLY TO COLLECT THEM FROM SCHOOL, SOMEBODY MUST ALWAYS BE AROUND TO KEEP AN EYE ON THEM.

correctyourself:
Liar!

Family Head
Family chairman
Village chairman.

Are they politics party members?

You would have just included family and village secretary to make complete lies!

A very disgraceful family.

IF YOU WANT TO MARRY WIFE, BETTER DEVELOP A GIVING HEART.


THE BIBLE SAID IT IS MORE BLESSED TO GIVE THAN TO RECIEVE.


U SEE IGBO MEN, WE ARE LOOKING FOR OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE.


SO, U SEE THAT LIST, WE WILL GO OVER IT JUST TO WARM AND WIN YOUR HEART.


Y WONT I GIVE MY MOTHER INLAW MONEY?


I GUESS OUR CULTURE MADE US THAT WAY.


GIVING IS NOT A PROBLEM.

CyrusVI:
Closely followed by the Igbos...as per day we no fit read news make we no attach tribal identity join



Back to the Op.

So basically, they were just rearing the girl like she's some special breed of dog to sell to the highest bidder in the future.

Girl wey Dem prolly deflower for free

My concern is why e be say na Yoruba people dey always cry about this high bride price ? Why not allow the tribes involved to cry for themselves. Did anyone Force you to leave your women and marry from other tribes ?
You people have no right to tell others how go about their respective cultures.

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

No problem.

Let them hold their daughter or find a suitor that will pay N3.5m fee to carry their liability of a daughter

Two things government must interven in Nigeria through the Ministry of women affairs by passing strong laws to punish offenders, marriage and paternity fraud especially in the southern region. Girls can't get married again, as I speak there is a silent epidemic of single mothers of which 80% don't even know who their real fathers are because moma was sleeping around with 10 men in the pace of 24 hours, women working out of marriages without proper workings either from a court or on religious grounds. Tweh, in the nearest future foreign women will be sourced like foreign degrees in Nigeria.

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

U are one of the problem we have deceiving gullible ladies when it comes to matrimony.

Stolen:
IF YOU WANT TO MARRY WIFE, BETTER DEVELOP A GIVING HEART.


THE BIBLE SAID IT IS MORE BLESSED TO GIVE THAN TO RECIEVE.


U SEE IGBO MEN, WE ARE LOOKING FOR OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE.


SO, U SEE THAT LIST, WE WILL GO OVER IT JUST TO WARM AND WIN YOUR HEART.


Y WONT I GIVE MY MOTHER INLAW MONEY?


I GUESS OUR CULTURE MADE US THAT WAY.


GIVING IS NOT A PROBLEM.

Lol funny thing is, after all these braggings and chestbeating, most of you are nothing compared to the people you are bragging to in real life!

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Another Mumu Simp on the Loose 🥱🥱

Mrexcell:
He should go and marry from his tribe where women are very cheap nobody is forcing him to marry from another tribe they can't change their traditions and culture because of him.

Did you look tru the list?

The guy na SAPA Londoner. Ordinary 1,662 British Pounds bride price, the mumu they serve breakfast. Change wey odogwus for Naija here dey dash side chics for Nons Miraj hunt game show to pop balloon. Mtchewwwww. If u poor, u poor. no be by to dey UK

Tflex01:
You are incoherent.

Tflex01:
Lol funny thing is, after all these braggings and chestbeating, most of you are nothing compared to the people you are bragging to in real life!

THAT IS WHAT U SAID ABOVE, NOW U ARE SAYING SOMETHING ELSE.

PICK A SIDE AND STICK TO IT.

Your clown of a friend was not ready to marry.
If this was after negotiations I for talk.

3.5m then you negotiate. He can even negotiate 500k.

Thank God it did not take longer for the materialistic tendencies of the Bride and her family to come to light! Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Stolen:
LEAVE OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE ALONE AND CONTINUE WITH THE FREE WOMEN IN YOUR OWN CULTURE.


IF MY FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HI GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS GREAT GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, I PAID BRIDE PRICES.




SHOULD WE CHANGE IT BECAUSE OF YOU A FOREIGNER DONT RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE?



U DEEM IT FIT TO HAVE IYALOJA AND BABALOJA EXTORTNG MONEY FROM TRADERS, WE KEEP QUIET OURT OF RESPECT FOR YORUBA CULTURE, NOW SOMEHOW U ARE ALLOWED TO CROSS TRIBAL LINE TO MARRY, U ARE SHOWING YOUOR DISDAIN AND DISRESPECT FOR A CULTURE PRACTICED ACROSS AFRICA.



MEHN GET LOST ALREADY

So the bride price should be like you're selling your daughter abi simpleton🙄clap for yourself 👏👏

Acekidc4:
So the bride price should be like you're selling your daughter abi simpleton🙄clap for yourself 👏👏

WHAT DO U MEAN SELLING?

YOU ARE GIVEN A LIST FOR THE OCCASSION, YOUR WEDDING.


IF YOUU WANT TO WED IS IT SUPPOSE TO BE FREE?

U NO GO BUY RICE, MEAT, BOOK VENUE, CAKE, BUY DRINKS?


DO U EVEN KNOW WHAT MARRIAGE IS?

TenQ:
No problem.

Let them hold their daughter or find a suitor that will pay N3.5m fee to carry their liability of a daughter

Marriage is not for the hungry.

Acekidc4:
So the bride price should be like you're selling your daughter abi simpleton🙄clap for yourself 👏👏

OK, U WIL WALK IN, THE BRIDE AND HER PARENTS WILL BUY AND PREPARE EVERYTHING.

U WILL COME WITH YOUR PEOPLE AND SIT DOWN EAT, DRINK CARRY WIFE THEY GO RIGHT?


RIGHT?

Go and marry the woman nw. 3.5 meter for traditional wedding? Be like say you no know wetin to do with money again or maybe you are a woman.

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Acekidc4:
Another Mumu Simp on the Loose 🥱🥱

Marriage is not for the hungry, go and fucck your chicken.

Obviously one remote village in Akwa Ibom State.
A girl who perhaps barely missed being a house help is prized this high, I wonder what the case would be if she's from royalty.

atilla:
Does the girls family live at Billings way, ikeja?

BoldBrainz:
You're the clown here!

How do you start negotiating a 3.5m naira brideprice list? What do you think is going to be the eventual outcome? You're yet to even consider the cost of putting the traditional marriage ceremony together and you're here talking garbage.

If na your brother, advise am make e go negotiate that kind list.

Oga just say you've never seen a bride price list before and how it is being paid.

Stop talking authoritatively on what you know nothing about.
People do wedding in the village too, do you think they always provide for everything on the list?