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| To The Guys About To Get Married by tunnyl(op): 3:35pm On Nov 23, 2024*. Modified: 5:57am On Nov 24, 2024 |
I want to quickly drop an advice based on personal experiences both in my life and observation of people around me. This advice is specifically for the guys. Not to say that men don’t also have their flaws but that’s a topic for another day. You Must Be Able To Manage and Handle Her Mood Swings Women have all sorts of mood swings caused by emotional stress and hormones and whenever this mood swing happens, you have to be able to recognize it and give your partner a little break while also checking on her once in a while to see how she is doing. Mood swings can happen during her menstruation period, it can happen when she’s stressed by other people or situations you know or do not know about. Mood swings can also happen while she is pregnant and after she gives birth. Her mood swings can be so bad that you might end up resenting her and planning on how to get back at her in the most evil ways possible. The solution to this issue firstly is Patience. Marriage can be sweet but most of the time marriage is tough (Very tough). You should also be aware that money will not solve mood swing problem, also be aware that there comes a time in every man’s life that he will go broke which will leave him very vulnerable and crush his ego. These times are the times devil uses mood swings to ruin marriages the most. Secondly as a guy, going into a marriage is a responsibility, it is not a fairy land. You are going into marriage to work. If you find enjoyment there savor it. Also detach Your emotions from your partner. Most of the time there will always be a reason for your wife to be unhappy, make sure your happiness doesn’t depend on her. Focus on your work and your hobbies. Forget about these fairy tales and all these RNB songs, only patience and tolerance can maintain a marriage because love is an emotion that can fade. Lastly, you need to pray a lot or put simply guard your spirituality. Theres possibility that your partner has spritual challenges that might start to affect you based on your association With her. These challenges can be so bad that it causes brings resentments into your home. You need serious prayer to chase these evil entity out of your home. A major consolation is that mood swings dont last for very long, it might take hours or days or even weeks. Find something to focus on. Make sure you don’t let her mood swings cause resentment in your family. Lastly she will deny that she has mood swings, dont argue with her, just recognize it when it happens, study your partner and act accordingly. ***TO THE SIMP MONGERS**** Woman (even men) case b like person wey buy dog, if you no watch am well he go wan dominate you and if he catch rabbies he go find as e go bite you. You know all these and yet you still buy the dog. Act accordingly with your fellow humans abeg! Real men don’t complain about situation, they just deal with it. The aggression in your comment shows some of y’all’s docile and passive aggressive personality. Always whining about life’s challenges. And to the mature men that gets the point, God bless your marriage and may he give you wisdom to lead your family the proper and Godly way. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by AishaDant(f): 4:18pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
OP, your wife is very lucky to have a partner like you. For you to come up to with this, I have read your personality and I am impressed. May God grant you your heart's desires. We can only hope they will listen because these days, only very few Nigerian men actually have sense. 2 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by tunnyl(op): 9:09pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
AishaDant:Thanks sis. Amen 🙏. Its not easy o. Its a very hard job, you guys should take it easy with us men also. Especially the teachable ones. 1 Like |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Anabosee(m): 9:57pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
Thanks for the advice I will try my best when I enter marriage next year 2 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by suzzyboss(m): 11:18pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
Now I'm getting scared of Marriage.. But I'd try my best when it's my turn... I hope my family enjoys me especially my children 1 Like |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Factcheck0001: 11:38pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
tunnyl:just Dey play Which useless mood swings? Your wife is only playing on your gullibility cos he knows u worry so much about her, I know she will b d type that will turn u to errand boy all in d name of cravings during pregnancy Guy I am a married man n in our marriage no dramas like all these mood swings rubbish, when any one of us is not cool we sort things out n make it up n vice versa So u are telling me when my wife is having mood swings she can act stupidly n I will play along Oya it's either u married a kid or u are a Mumu lover. Nothing like mood swings for mature lovers, one party cheers d other up n make him or her happy. Stop letting your wife blackmail u emotionally, before u come for me I am married n I enjoy my marriage in fact na d movie brotherhood starring basketmouth, falz, Tobi bakre we Dey watch now n no drama 15 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Nobody: 11:49pm On Nov 23, 2024 |
I laugh at some mumu men who mistake women's evils for hormonal issues. Most of their mood swings that you attribute to hormonal imbalances are just mischief. While dating, she went for the cool guys and when she is ready for marriage, she goes for a simp who will give her peace of mind and overlook her past. After marriage, she now sees the mugu she is married to and realize she can't have her cake and eat it, she resorts to regrets and it will affect her mood. Because she was an olosho, whenever her olosho vibe kicks in, she will miss the alpha male boyfriend that treated her like trash. During this period, the simp she is married to will be saying his wife is having mood swings. While she is having the mood swings, do small FBI on her and you will shocked at what you will find out especially in her phone. 11 Likes
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| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by optm(m): 1:45am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Hope she also acts her mood swing to her superiors at work? Stop justifying what shouldn't be justified. A mature partner in a marriage should be able to manage their emotions and recognize how those emotions affect their partner and relationship. You had better initiated a healthy discussion with your partner on how those excuse of mood swing is affecting you and the relationship and if possible seek professional help as regards her mood swings. I know you meant to help others with this advice but i can tell you your relationship isn't a healthy one but it can be improved upon so you move from enduring your partner to enjoying her. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Nnamdipapa(m): 2:04am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Can she handle my mood swings? ot you think my mood does not swing like a pendulum? 4 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Starz825(m): 3:01am On Nov 24, 2024 |
I think op is right Well different experiences for different folks... But the ladies also need to grow up...as they can't always stay in that mood for too long...and shouldn't be always I understand cramps and every other sensitive situations can easily mess a woman up...but then she should quickly come back to her senses to avoid creating negatives atmosphere with her hubby.....na so better woman dey do No be to dey do like BRAT.... BRATTISH behaviour is a no no for me Then the spiritual aspect is also real Not just the ladies...even the men... Once you are married to someone...you are married to their spirituality also... If he/she get good spirit...you go know If not..you go also know 1 Like |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by advanceDNA: 3:09am On Nov 24, 2024 |
tunnyl:Sigh! ...its not supposed to be a very hard job because it should be two pple being kind to & helping each ..but over time, women and even stupid marriage motivational speakers have turned marriage into a one sided duty where a man needs to do all his can, be patient all the time, be unhappy, condone bad behavior, leave his house to avoid trouble, etc because marriage has automatically been tagged "very hard"  lucky for your wife... and, otherwise for you, you have packed both present & future fvck up under the umbrella of mood swings They like men like u a lot...they will soon come and praise u because they averagely don't like being responsible for their actions, I hope u married a kind, fair woman, otherwise .....the lord is ur strength oooo... 8 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by advanceDNA: 3:18am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Factcheck0001:Lol...sadly, the nigga has fallen for the mood swing excuse.. I hope his patience can boil stone because he will need it in his marriage 3 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by tunnyl(op): 4:48am On Nov 24, 2024*. Modified: 5:19am On Nov 24, 2024 |
I appreciate ya’lls comments but I believe from my post its easy to see I ain’t no simp. But we have to be realistic. Theres no way aggression works. You can only demo and shakara her here and there just to put her in her place but deep down you should be aware that women and men are totally different. If she recognizes that you have a strong personality she will automatically fall in line and recognize when your Lion is being calm. When she understands your personality and she’s feeling irritated she will control herself around you and when she loses it a bit she will feel slightly remorseful (Dont expect her to show it!) If you study your partner cArefully you should be able to know when she’s pretending. Even at that you still have to play the game and pamper her. Love is an art. She also plays that game once in a while. The truth is wisdom is a gift. Being able to communicate your feelings is also a gift. There are So many gifts we take for granted. Also I hope you guys are also aware that pills causes mood swings also. Go into marriage being realistic. Its not a fair game but you have to deal with it. However like some of you noted, mood swing isn’t an excuse for bad behavior. Mature women will talk themselves out of it and a teachable woman will learn how to talk herself out of it in due time. Lastly, women adjusts to their environment and to their partner’s character. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Baronthecelebri(m): 5:26am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Foolish post by a stupid SIMP. 5 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by tunnyl(op): 5:29am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Nonexisting1:Bros, majority of human beings out there are out to take advantage of you and women are no different. Women think of comfort, provision and protection. If a man looks like he can provide these characteristics and she later finds out he couldn’t she will be very disappointed and can also act irritated. This irritation can be aggravated by mood swings. But if you shook eye for ground well and watch her well she will rather be with you than anyone else. Lastly no b everything wey woman talk you go take serious. But know when to take her serious though. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by tunnyl(op): 5:41am On Nov 24, 2024 |
To all you aggressive men that has been tormented by women natural characteristics. Life isn’t fair! You also picked those partners because you thought they look responsible and can nurture your family. You are trying to control an adult. You want her to dance to your every tune like a robot.Then you become angry when she doesn’t. Tradition don cover una eye. Tradition sometimes rely on manipulation tactics, wealth and status to control people. This is a modern world, hierarchy na for who earn am and tyranny dey backfire. For your information na God put her for your hand. Handle her shenanigans like a man that you are. You are the head of the family. Your job is to lead. And this leadership na professor to PHD student and not principal and kindergarten children relationship. Lead with love and correct with love. Argue once in a while but for correction reason and sometimes just for the fun of it to tease her. Shakara her once in a while but don’t ever forget that your emotions are stronger than hers. The case of husband and wife is like an intelligent father with children. 2 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by zed7: 5:50am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Mood swings indeed. They find a way to drop the mood swing when dealing with their bosses. Be a loving but firm husband. Let your wife see you as approachable but also know that you are not to be toyed with. Learn to go from 0 to100 in 5 seconds. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by PerfectStranger(m): 6:08am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Mood swing abi she miss her ex. You were prolly her last option and she misses her real lover which is giving her the mood swing whatever. Let her display the mood swing to her boss at work na 7 Likes 1 Share
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| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by dhiqson(m): 8:25am On Nov 24, 2024 |
So God almighty sat on his throne and decided after Creation, he needed Some set of humans that'll amuse him He perused over Nations and found the Nigerian man captivating The Nigerian man is a balless, spineless human that excuses his partner sorry behavior for mood swings He gives excuse such as the rubbish u read up there, rationalize it and tell u to swallow every line he wrote But what he's oblivious to is He was the last in line to cuff a woman who didn't like him Hence the shege he's seeing But of course Misery loves company! God really got some jokes 5 Likes |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Bizmind95: 8:43am On Nov 24, 2024*. Modified: 9:45am On Nov 24, 2024 |
What a very wonderful advice for very "SIMPle" men...so we men don't have mood swings ba  ...To hustle from morning till night 6/7 days per week...which mood swing worse pass that one ni...Dear Men, if you must marry, then never marry for fake true love...that's a real bondage...you will spend the rest of your life doing more than yourself just to satisfy one useless girl like that financially, physically, emotionally, sexually, even spiritually sef...instead, marry a girl you can control... someone that you can easily instill fear into...Women only respect men they fear! That was why our wise ancestors married girls as young as 15...Shalom!!! 1 Like |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Nnamdipapa(m): 8:48am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Bizmind95:Nor mind them. They will learn by force. |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by weslay: 10:56am On Nov 24, 2024 |
OP don go marry high maintenance babe... Oga keep your advise to yourself. 1 Like |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by mosicola(m): 11:23am On Nov 24, 2024 |
This your advice just touched my left scrotum. I am motivated by your words. I must marry in 2044. |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Greystone: 11:28am On Nov 24, 2024 |
Sincerely, I have nothing more to add. As a man, zero your mind that your wife's job is to make you happy or else you will be sorely dissapointed. All those yeye RnB love songs na scam. If you can't be patient, tolerant, persevering and willing to not be appreciated, don't get married as a man. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Kipaji: 11:44am On Nov 24, 2024 |
AishaDant:OP @tunnyl, the fact that the first comment is a woman praising you for being a real man should be a strong wake-up call. Wake up before it's too late. Learn or perish. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Lucasinho(m): 12:56pm On Nov 24, 2024 |
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| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Fahvvy: 1:35pm On Nov 24, 2024 |
Whilst I understand your POV, it is very one sided  ...Lemme state this categorically, I will only tolerate a woman's mood swings, when she can have mood swings in the presence of an army man she does not know ...Let's not paint the picture that mood swings is an excuse to tolerate behaviors ...I understand that life happens and it can affect us in various ways, but that doesn't give us the right to take it out on people ...I too (and every other men out there) I'm human, I also have my own challenges, but regardless, I do my best for my partner - I don't falter on my responsibilities regardless of whatever crap life throws at me ...And I don't expect ANYTHING less from her ...So have your mood swings if you like, but don't think it's an excuse to start acting like evil spirit, cause men too are humans! ... 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by ravensckar(m): 3:06pm On Nov 24, 2024 |
This write-up has the SIMP SIGN written all over it! You WEAKLINGS have successfully institutionalize women's CONTROL MECHANISM and named it "MOOD SWING". Lolz. Una go wash women pant tire! Anyways, if f00ls don't go to the market, how will bad wares be sold?  Nobody should sha quote me to spew gibberish, today is Sunday, I'm having a HEADACHE in my STOMACH. #Picks_tooth 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: To The Guys About To Get Married by Badmashiii: 12:32am On Nov 27, 2024 |
Bizmind95:You no lie manchi. Me na sweet 16 i dey plan marry sef 1 Like |
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