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Happy Sunday to my nairalanders family, top of the day to you all and compliment of the season.

I need to know from experience men that have been through these and how they were able to navigate through this situation to cheap in their advice on how to make me deal with this situation and presently on.

What's the best and wise way to deal in situations whereby you got separated from your wife for years and because of that, she have been denying you access to be in the life of the kids despite all your intentions, you doesn't allow it. Presently I don't know the exact location of where my kids are right now and can't even speak to them. I am aware those kids are with her parents and anytime I call them, they refuse to pick my calls, I informed her to give me the address of their location but till now,she has refused to give me the address, I told her to give me the name and details of the school they attend but she said she doesn't know, maybe she feels I want to take the children away from her reason she is doing all these. I told her I can pay for school fee of the kids when I don't even have idea of the school they attend. This has really being an issue for me cos she knows I love those kids and reason why she is using them to manipulate me emotionally. Now am at the verge of just moving on and forget about those kids and start a fresh but I don't know if this is going to be a good idea. I want to take custody of the two girls age between 8 and 7 and don't know how to go about it. It's really draining me up and needs men that have been in this situation and how they sort things out.

Should I seek to take custody of the kids and what are the challenges of having kids custody as a man, despite the fact that I want to co-parenting, she is trying to frustrate me doing that. Pls matured and experience people, kindly advice on how to navigate, this issue have linger for long and just need a final solution to this, am making underground finding to know the location of where the kids are in her parents place and am going there, to pick up those kids but just want to be sure am doing the right thing.

Afodot0022:
Happy Sunday to my nairalanders family, top of the day to you all and compliment of the season.

I need to know from experience men that have been through these and how they were able to navigate through this situation to cheap in their advice on how to make me deal with this situation and presently on.

What's the best and wise way to deal in situations whereby you got separated from your wife for years and because of that, she have been denying you access to be in the life of the kids despite all your intentions, you doesn't allow it. Presently I don't know the exact location of where my kids are right now and can't even speak to them. I am aware those kids are with her parents and anytime I call them, they refuse to pick my calls, I informed her to give me the address of their location but till now,she has refused to give me the address, I told her to give me the name and details of the school they attend but she said she doesn't know, maybe she feels I want to take the children away from her reason she is doing all these. I told her I can pay for school fee of the kids when I don't even have idea of the school they attend. This has really being an issue for me cos she knows I love those kids and reason why she is using them to manipulate me emotionally. Now am at the verge of just moving on and forget about those kids and start a fresh but I don't know if this is going to be a good idea. I want to take custody of the two girls age between 8 and 7 and don't know how to go about it. It's really draining me up and needs men that have been in this situation and how they sort things out.

Should I seek to take custody of the kids and what are the challenges of having kids custody as a man, despite the fact that I want to co-parenting, she is trying to frustrate me doing that. Pls matured and experience people, kindly advice on how to navigate, this issue have linger for long and just need a final solution to this, am making underground finding to know the location of where the kids are in her parents place and am going there, to pick up those kids but just want to be sure am doing the right thing.

From this, I can understand that you don't even know where your wife's parents reside. Is that true? Your honest answer to this question will help me to help you better. Thanks.

Man cannot marry a woman alone with the family, elders of both families.

Unless you didn't marry her. If you married her according to their custom and tradition, I think it's best to involve family and elders.

Kindly seek for meeting of both families and sort it out.

Most times, young families pass through this phase to build a stronger link, you shall overcome.


You are becoming a man (figuratively)

Go to court and file for dissolution of marriage, you should pray the court for sole custodianship of your kids.

Start by informing a lawyer.

Another Eke market day, another thread, same story.

AlphaNugget:
Go to court and file for dissolution of marriage, you should pray the court for sole custodianship of your kids.

Start by informing a lawyer.

Who are you to advise someone
When your house is not in order

I know the city they stay but not the exact address. They moved t that location few months after our separation and it's been more than 2yrs now. All efforts for them to send me the address have prove abortive .

docdes:
From this, I can understand that you don't even know where your wife's parents reside. Is that true? Your honest answer to this question will help me to help you better. Thanks.

I married her traditional and all rites where done.

STARGREEN:
Man cannot marry a woman alone with the family, elders of both families.

Unless you didn't marry her. If you married her according to their custom and tradition, I think it's best to involve family and elders.

Kindly seek for meeting of both families and sort it out.

Most times, young families pass through this phase to build a stronger link, you shall overcome.


You are becoming a man (figuratively)

Have thought about this route but just want to be patient enough so it won't have any negative impact reason why I want to sort it out of court for now and the court will be my last bet when all efforts have proved abortive.

AlphaNugget:
Go to court and file for dissolution of marriage, you should pray the court for sole custodianship of your kids.

Start by informing a lawyer.

Whatever you do, try not to cut your children off

Afodot0022:
I know the city they stay but not the exact address. They moved t that location few months after our separation and it's been more than 2yrs now. All efforts for them to send me the address have prove abortive .

I doubt that this person is your duly married wife. Otherwise, you should know her country home. This is Africa. You can see why we do certain things in Africa. Well, I hope Nlfpmod sees this so that more people can contribute to it. As for me, since you don't know her country home, I don't even see her as your wife or her children as your children.

I thought uncle was threading the path of reconciliation. Wetin come happen? People like Ibechris whose been married for a while advised him to sheath his sword but e be like say baba no listen.....

I just pity the innocent children.

Another thread?

You need to stop showing weakness as a man. The world hates weak people. If you truly care about your children, take action: report to any human rights agency and present your case. Some police stations have units dedicated to handling such cases, though this may vary by state. When you report such cases, the agency usually issues a "friendly invitation" to the other party, and she cannot refuse. They can even allow her to choose the date and time for the meeting if their suggested date is inconvenient. This approach ensures that when they eventually enforce the law after a series of failed pleas, no one can claim they acted too harshly. Both of you will be heard fairly and without bias. While I cannot say the exact outcome of that meeting, one certain fact is that no one can deny you access to your children. If your children is the goal (and not your feelings or whatever you had or want with your wife), you will GAIN that access 100%.

Another story oh, story oh (2x).

op is still coming to nl to look for advice from small boys who learnt everything they know about women from andrew tate

if my memory serves

https://www.nairaland.com/6674951/should-proceed-court-marriage

you did not do court marriage. you have no legal rights to the children

[lawyers here can confirm]

your wife has moved on.

Afodot0022:
Happy Sunday to my nairalanders family, top of the day to you all and compliment of the season.

I need to know from experience men that have been through these and how they were able to navigate through this situation to cheap in their advice on how to make me deal with this situation and presently on.

What's the best and wise way to deal in situations whereby you got separated from your wife for years and because of that, she have been denying you access to be in the life of the kids despite all your intentions, you doesn't allow it. Presently I don't know the exact location of where my kids are right now and can't even speak to them. I am aware those kids are with her parents and anytime I call them, they refuse to pick my calls, I informed her to give me the address of their location but till now,she has refused to give me the address, I told her to give me the name and details of the school they attend but she said she doesn't know, maybe she feels I want to take the children away from her reason she is doing all these. I told her I can pay for school fee of the kids when I don't even have idea of the school they attend. This has really being an issue for me cos she knows I love those kids and reason why she is using them to manipulate me emotionally. Now am at the verge of just moving on and forget about those kids and start a fresh but I don't know if this is going to be a good idea. I want to take custody of the two girls age between 8 and 7 and don't know how to go about it. It's really draining me up and needs men that have been in this situation and how they sort things out.

Should I seek to take custody of the kids and what are the challenges of having kids custody as a man, despite the fact that I want to co-parenting, she is trying to frustrate me doing that. Pls matured and experience people, kindly advice on how to navigate, this issue have linger for long and just need a final solution to this, am making underground finding to know the location of where the kids are in her parents place and am going there, to pick up those kids but just want to be sure am doing the right thing.

If the number of children with her is not too much that will make it difficult for you to have more, get married to your next cherished partner with an understanding to only have one or two children so that you will still be able to support your children with your ex-wife financially.

This will help you to overcome the weaponising of access to your first children but make sure you continue to support and Carter for o them and at least ask for and get the opportunity to communicate with them through phone calls.

Looking at one of your other threads, her Dad told you to pay them all the money they've spent on your two kids since January. You stopped sending your ex-wife money for your kids' upkeep and paying their school fees since, for almost a year. But you claim you love your kids. Go pay her parents and settle them. Love is a verb, not a noun.

This Op's marital issues will never end.

Odiegwu

Beremx:
This Op's marital issues will never end.

Odiegwu

He has opened another thread. Every other day he opens a new thread on the same topic despite people's advices.

Jadesire:
He has opened another thread. Every other day he opens a new thread on the same topic despite people's advices.

the matter tire me o!

Afodot0022:
Happy Sunday to my nairalanders family, top of the day to you all and compliment of the season.

I need to know from experience men that have been through these and how they were able to navigate through this situation to cheap in their advice on how to make me deal with this situation and presently on.

What's the best and wise way to deal in situations whereby you got separated from your wife for years and because of that, she have been denying you access to be in the life of the kids despite all your intentions, you doesn't allow it. Presently I don't know the exact location of where my kids are right now and can't even speak to them. I am aware those kids are with her parents and anytime I call them, they refuse to pick my calls, I informed her to give me the address of their location but till now,she has refused to give me the address, I told her to give me the name and details of the school they attend but she said she doesn't know, maybe she feels I want to take the children away from her reason she is doing all these. I told her I can pay for school fee of the kids when I don't even have idea of the school they attend. This has really being an issue for me cos she knows I love those kids and reason why she is using them to manipulate me emotionally. Now am at the verge of just moving on and forget about those kids and start a fresh but I don't know if this is going to be a good idea. I want to take custody of the two girls age between 8 and 7 and don't know how to go about it. It's really draining me up and needs men that have been in this situation and how they sort things out.

Should I seek to take custody of the kids and what are the challenges of having kids custody as a man, despite the fact that I want to co-parenting, she is trying to frustrate me doing that. Pls matured and experience people, kindly advice on how to navigate, this issue have linger for long and just need a final solution to this, am making underground finding to know the location of where the kids are in her parents place and am going there, to pick up those kids but just want to be sure am doing the right thing.

So, u married a woman that born for you, more than one child, yet, you don't know the address of parents that gave birth to your wife? You also don't know any of her family as well?


It says alot about you as a man, keep on searching for them ok.

Wo, nobody should answer OP.

He'll just ignore good advice in favour of bad, ego-stroking prideful advice from:

1. NL boys who are suckling babies at Andrew Tate's nipples

2. NL men whom are unhappy and will project their bitterness

3. NL people whom are giving Afodot0022 horrible advice that they will never take themselves in a million years. They're using him as experiment to show their children one day and say "see? Only stupid people are that easily led, you better listen only to your elders or you'll end up like that man".

Since you refused to take sensible advice from people who wanted you to spend Christmas at an eatery together as a family, you'll be doomed to spend it alone. Or worse, with a babe who's only there with you because owu is blowing outside. And you'll be feeling empty on the inside.

And the horrible thing about regret is, it gets bigger and worse every year.

So, let's discuss something more important as we wait for those 3 groups of people with their bad advice to show up and OP happily take it so his ego gets a boost.

Is there any nice and clean beaches heading towards Festac-Badagry side? What's the road leading there like?