₦airaland Forum

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Marriage is an institution btw two adults...Each has his/her responsibilities. So please dont make it seem like giving birth to kids and taking care of them is a job....

Ladies please stop marrying these type of men, what sort of poverty will make a man reject 3.5m to pay for bride price, which kind yeye husband Una dey marry. 3.5m and he's complaining, this one no fit pay for surgery if your life is on the line. Please leave that dude na hunger dey do him this nonsense.

Igbos families are like that.


Their whole life is built around greed.

armyofone:
Everyone must come get their share oh when they heard he is outside Nigeria.
He could have taken the list and strike or reduce everything/expenses that he feels were exaggerated.

If he truly canceled the marriage, then maybe he wasn't really in love in the first place.

The lady who couldn't protest the list is the one not in love.


The man would easily get married, but the lady may hit menopause with no suitable suitor.


The lady is a fool, and empty.


The guy man dodge a bullet if the story is true.

Families need to review requirements for marrying their daughters to reflect this generation .
High and expensive requirements could discourage people from going in to marriage.
Some families behave as though they selling the daughter and forgetting that the groom automatically becomes a son inlaw
Let us reduce bride price requirements.

gbengene1234:
They wrote at the bottom that it's negotiable.
This doesn't call for instant breakup from someone who claims to have loved the daughter and want marriage.
Well, if you ask me. The list is okay and I believe if bargained, it can be reduced to #1.7 - 2m at most.
It's now left to your woman to persuade her family or she finds another suitor.
Why are you even bothering yourself to cross tribal lines to marry when you can just find one of our sweet yoruba lady and impregnate her. Na the family go use their hand pack her load come your house. You will later be asked to pay dowry which would even be returned back to you in some years time. Some no dey bother to pay self. People use like to dey put themselves for wahala sha

"loved the daughter"


Why didn't the daughter protest the list if she is ready to marry.


At the end, na she lose...


He who calls the Piper, detate the tune.


The lady would have become a leech in the marriage if the guy went through with it.

Sonnobax15:

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house

God abeg oh.

Na broke and frustrated guy's dey always make this kind of comments

Angelfrost:
You are part of the problem...!

Such things are just stupid, and they contribute to the increasing desperation for wealth and crimes among young men in the society.

Please, don't tell me it's the culture or tradition... No culture or tradition is carved in stone! They are all dynamic and subject to modification, especially with the current state of the nation's economy.


Well... A lot of their ladies will keep marrying late, or end up marrying badly.

Or end up as Baby Mamas.

It is greed, and not culture.

The man lose nothing, but the girl lose everything.

Blitzking:
I can actually do this wedding for a gal I love but she should forget anything called Hall.. na palour wedding I go do or rent tent for front of her house

The traditional marriage is enough.


There is no need doing same thing twice.

It is marital tautology, and it makes no sense.


If she doesn't agree to only traditional marriage, you bounce.


If she is so into her church that she must be wedded, go with her to her church on Sunday, and do thanks giving with few item 7.

BigDawsNet:
I agree with you!

But why do parents train daughters in higher institutions just to return home and depend completely on husband to handle all home finances?


Cus my own belief is dat the lady education will get her a job and she would be able to handle at least 35% of home expenses

This has proven that female education is almost a waste, because at the end, the burden of care still falls on the man.


This is why parents prioritize male education than females in those days.

That list is my definition of modern day slavery. Savages.

Starzo:
Yet akwa ibomites are only second to northerners when it comes to people doing menial jobs across the country....from gatemen to security guards,na akwa ibom dey dominate.



Infact they are called 'fulanis of the south'

you're a foolish idiot.
I blame your stupid father for not using condom to flush you out while fvcking the prostitute who later gave birth to you

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

You are the kid here....

When my cousin wanted to marry, the dude was just starting up life and had just started his school... He saved up money and my uncle removed just 200k from the money he brought and rented canopies and cooked meals and the traditional marriage was done quietly and the guy used the remaining money to do white wedding and sponsored his wife to masters.

Today she's managing his school and also a government staff.

You don't have to collect all the money a d then your daughter will move into a home with loans and rent issues.

Using car as an example doesn't set right.

A car is considered for a reason. How many homes own a car? And even if the guy can afford a car, he's buying it for a reason to keep making money and reduce expenses on transport fare.

A woman is an expensive investment and she's not a toy, she's also will have to contribute for the upkeep of the family.

When my younger cousin wanted to marry, the girl told him to bring whatever he has that she will support him and also seek for help from her uncle based abroad. She's a nurse and today my cousin is a lecturer and doing extremely well with three kids.

Stop supporting nonsense.

Ebenezer2021:
you're a foolish idiot.
I blame your stupid father for not using condom to flush you out while fvcking the prostitute who later gave birth to you

Is this the best you can do?

Nothing to counter the truth just childish insults?....i wish you quick maturity

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

Seconded.
He got a fair deal.
The family even noted it's negotiable.
Why not tell em what you can afford instead of ranting online.
He's big red flag.

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Poor man mentality, you think I will waste my 20m to come marry your daughter? How much has she worked and produced in life? Jobless girls with zero money money skills and poor home upbringing should be sold like a vehicle.

No wonder men who go through this wouldn't want to associate with anything that has to do with the family after the marriage. For you to even think spending 15m is a correlation between how the lady is worth is something to study about. A man who wants a day's wedding that is costlier than the cost of marriage for w year needs to have his head checked because he has mental health issues.

How many people do you think in Nigeria has 15 million? Your delusional mind will tell you my daughter's own will be different , only 1% of men in Nigeria can afford that and you say you aren't delusional? You need to grow up to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

People like you will keep bordering your in-law to sponsor your liabilities and you run away from your responsibilities as an adult. Spending money translates to the quality of the woman? Omo growing old doesn't make people wise

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Poor man mentality, you think I will waste my 20m to come marry your daughter? How much has she worked and produced in life? Jobless girls with zero money money skills and poor home upbringing should be sold like a vehicle.

No wonder men who go through this wouldn't want to associate with anything that has to do with the family after the marriage. For you to even think spending 15m is a correlation between how the lady is worth is something to study about. A man who wants a day's wedding that is costlier than the cost of marriage for w year needs to have his head checked because he has mental health issues.

How many people do you think in Nigeria has 15 million? Your delusional mind will tell you my daughter's own will be different , only 1% of men in Nigeria can afford that and you say you aren't delusional? You need to grow up to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

People like you will keep bordering your in-law to sponsor your liabilities and you run away from your responsibilities as an adult. Spending money translates to the quality of the woman? Omo growing old doesn't make people wise ....

They said is Negotiable at the bottom of the list.
Olga go price them 350k let's start the negotiation.

alpharoyalty:
That's less than 2000 dollars.
Chicken change.
Poor man mentality.
Devil punish poverty

Use the reality , how many people have 2k USD in Nigeria according to NBS? If you can honestly answer this question you will understand how wrong the family is. Understand those who wrote this list are probably married and non of them can afford what is written on that list.

The lady further asserted that the dude is ready to train her meaning she is from a very poor family if she isn't educated. So the question is why give another a list that you yourself cannot afford and also people from that locality can not afford? Why do to others what you can't do to q man from your locality? These are the questions to be answered.

God knows I attach very little about wedding and very much about marriage, if wedding becomes equal to greed and not the norm in that locality I will move instantly.

helinues:
Smart guy

Those are lists from Leeches family . Such family, na every week events go dey sha ni

That's the problem, poor family will want to extort men who came calling. Pathetic

GboyegaD:
It states it is negotiable, why not negotiate?
That said, the current day inflation added to the cost nonetheless, what is it with other people asides the parents on the list? Shouldn't it be one family?

If that's not what people from that locality spend when they come for a wife I will take a walk.

Some ethnic group once they know you are not from there they will abandon how they wedding and bring a special list for an outsider. That's very bad, most people in that locality can not afford that

Villa12:
you're not ready for marriage truly. That amount is not much considering inflation in the country. People negotiate bride price list. My cousin a yoruba guy negotiated and he ended up paying 1.5m for the whole list. This happen last year.

Are you looking for free wife to marry?? So you don't know it's respectful you marry your wife properly?

Lol...nobody pays that much for a borehole. For a virgin? Yes...but I know your cousin didn't marry a virgin. Who knew if she was one of the girls I had fûcked mercilessly. Yet your cousin rewarded her with 1.5m as bridal list.

Simps everywhere.

Stolen:
MARRIAGE ARE NOT FOR POOR MEN THAT ARE STRUGGLING TO FEED.



U WILL HAVE TO FEED YOUR WIFE AND KIDS, WE DONT WANT TO SEE THEM BEGGING ON THE STREET OR TRAFFIC HOLD UP.




GO AND HUSTLE, THAT MONEY NO REACH MONEY PEOPLE SPRAY ON OTHER PEOPLE AT WEDDING.




POOR MAN

Hope you have hustled and not expecting bride price money to help yourself? bride price has become IGR for you?

People with low critical thinking skills, so I should spend my 20m to bring a financial liability (wife) to my house because u want to know my capacity? E b like say d more u grow d more ur critical thinking skills dey plummet by the second. Make una reason small na.

ClitRaider:
Seconded.
He got a fair deal.
The family even noted it's negotiable.
Why not tell em what you can afford instead of ranting online.
He's big red flag.

A fair deal?
So the daughter is a used vehicle!!!

You clowns are hilarious....so the dude is a red flag for refusing to pay that much on a woman he is still gonna sponsor to the UK?
Una no go kee me with una mumu analysis🤣🤣🤣👋

Stolen:
NOTICE, IT IS USUALLY LAZY YORUBA MAN DISTURBING ABOUT BRIDE PRICE.


U WILL NEVER SEE IGBO, IJAW, FULANI, HAUSA, IBIBIO, EFIK, URHOBO, BINI COMPLAIN ABOUT BRIDE PRICE.



IT IS PART OF BEING RESPONSIBLE.

LET THESE YORUBA MEN STICK WITH THEIR FREE YORUBA WOMEN, WAHT IS PURSUING THEM.


U WANT TO INTERTRIBAL MARRIAGE AND U DONT WANT TO RESPECT OTHERS PEOPLE MARRIAGE RITES.


MAD!

Been responsible? see yeye man, allowing greed and irresponsible men who can't afford what they bill others is what you call responsibility? Na coconut head you get.

If I like make I be the richest man I no go pay men wey no fit afford wetin them bill me, if their sons want to get married they can't afford what their father's dish out.

If you are hungry go look for work and do and stop looking for IGR through wedding.

Someone that has planned to relocate her, pay for her school and settle her abroad is who the family still want to stress after assuring them the plans he has for the lady. Na poverty dey cause all these things, how many rich man wey get money dey sell him daughter? get a job

idahme:
Been responsible? see yeye man, allowing greed and irresponsible men who can't afford what they bill others is what you call responsibility? Na coconut head you get.

If I like make I be the richest man I no go pay men wey no fit afford wetin them bill me, if their sons want to get married they can't afford what their father's dish out.

If you are hungry go look for work and do and stop looking for IGR through wedding.

Someone that has planned to relocate her, pay for her school and settle her abroad is who the family still want to stress after assuring them the plans he has for the lady. Na poverty dey cause all these things, how many rich man wey get money dey sell him daughter? get a job

Stop replying these göats!!! They have no idea how insulting it is to be viewed as an ATM in name of tradition. The mumu girl even made it worse by supporting her parents and saying things are costly. She just lost a husband who was ready to train her in the UK. The guy dodged a freaking bullet

BoldBrainz:
You're the clown here!

How do you start negotiating a 3.5m naira brideprice list? What do you think is going to be the eventual outcome? You're yet to even consider the cost of putting the traditional marriage ceremony together and you're here talking garbage.

If na your brother, advise am make e go negotiate that kind list.

That marriage final price will be times 2 of that price which is 7m. Most of these men who do this their kids can afford a 500 k wedding

gudugudumeje:
But did he tender his complaint, and express his dissatisfaction formally, and informally? That is before withdrawing..... Otherwise, he is not right to so withdraw....

The way I operate , I will just ghost stupid people. I don't have that time to come to their level.

Most of these men who place these charges on others , their kids can't afford a tenth of what they dish out to others.

If I observe that people from that region don't pay that but only bring it up because I am a stranger coming to marry from their ethnicity I will ghost them. It's even more pathetic for the so called fiance to back her people instead of been a mediation for husband to be. That's one check loyalty she failed. She doesn't deserve marriage to that dude.

APOPTOSIS:
I will spend more than that if the Lady deserves it.
If the Lady exudes peace & produces Gold on whatever she touches, I will pay 15M

It's not about you, it's about lazy men who have refused to work and now see it as IGR to extort young men. What portion of the society can do that? If this trend continues most ladies will never get married because the chunk of the society has already been alienated because of the cost of marriage. Na cohabitation and baby mama go full the society in half a century from now.

Don't make it about you and the affordability but look at the big picture, how many dudes can spend 15 m in Nigeria and still has left over to continue the family line? It is what it is and interestingly only poor men insist on these exhobitant prices.

Marriage institute a day stuff, as a matter of fact wedding is part of marriage which basically happens in a day. You don't choke a man in one day when he has over a century to stay with his wife

TheBillyonaire:
Nope, if you check the lists, its basically consumables, and if the fuccker can not afford to get people entertained during his marriage, he can as well be gay.

I see no reason for poor people to get married. Marriage is not a walk in the park. Cost money to raise a family. So its best for the poor to be gay. This is a factual suggestion not an insult. Poverty of families is the reason we have so many prostitutes.

Guy money for entertainment never follow, you think what is on that list is what will entertain people on the day of marriage? Omo wahala for who dey naive

Stolen:
GO AND CHECK ALL THIS MUMU THREAD, IT IS USUALLY YORUBA MEN.


IN THOSE PARTS DONT THEY GET MARRIED EVERYDAY?



OR MARRIAGE DON STOP BECAUSE OF BRIDE PRICE?



BRIDE PRICE IS WHERE WE SHOW OFF TO OUR INLAW, THEY GAIN CONFIDENCE IN A=OUR ABULITY TO LOOK AFTER THEIR DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILDREN.


THEY KNOW WE WORK HARD AND EARN A WAGE SUFFICIENT FOR THE TASK.


MARRIAGE IS NOT FREE, IT IS NOT FOR THE UNEMPLYED OR BROKE TO CREATE NUSISANCE IN SOCIETY THAT WILL BE ON THE STREET BEGGING.


IT IS FOR COMPETENT ESTABLISHED MEN

It's actually poor people that demand for exhobitant bride list, wetin Rochas want demand from you for bride price?

High bride list doesn't mean you can take care of the lady, old age doesn't depict wisdom these days

Karleb:
I don't blame the bride's family.

This economy is not easy.

They should get a job.