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gbengene1234:
They wrote at the bottom that it's negotiable.
This doesn't call for instant breakup from someone who claims to have loved the daughter and want marriage.
Well, if you ask me. The list is okay and I believe if bargained, it can be reduced to #1.7 - 2m at most.
It's now left to your woman to persuade her family or she finds another suitor.
Why are you even bothering yourself to cross tribal lines to marry when you can just find one of our sweet yoruba lady and impregnate her. Na the family go use their hand pack her load come your house. You will later be asked to pay dowry which would even be returned back to you in some years time. Some no dey bother to pay self. People use like to dey put themselves for wahala sha

TheBillyonaire:
That is the fact. If he is complaining of 3.5m, how much does think wedding costs? No woman deserves to meet such unfortunate man. They are looking for girls to sleep with at a cost of bread.

He should be gay.

TheBillyonaire:
What is the parents business with wedding? The list clearly shows most of the items are consumables and he can go and buy those things by himself and he will realize that those drinks will not be enough for the guests.

The wedding is his decision, the parents are not making money off this.

I think the only reason anyone should give out their daughter is if she will be in position to assist them at old age

. cos raising a
daughter and training them to Uni, just for someone to take her away and complain of bride price is an insult.

Stolen:
WHAT IS 500K TO YOUR FATHER INLAW AND 300K TO YOUR MOTHE INLAW?


U MEAN, U HAVE TO BE REMINDED TO GIVE THEM SOMETHING.


U ARE ALREADY GOING INTO A MARRIAGE WITH A WICKED AND STINGY HEART.


YET YOU WIL COLLECT THE EARNING OF THEIR DAUGHTER THAT IS A DOCTOR OR NURSE AS YOUR MONEY.



MAKE INLAW LIKE YOU NO NEAR MY DOOR WAY IS A A PRAYER POINT.


SOME OF YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO BE BAD INLAWS, U JUST WANT TO TAKE AND GIVE NOTHING NOT EVEN A TOKEN OF APPRECIATION OR LOVE. THAT IS NOT A GOOD START.

APOPTOSIS:
If marriage is not for the Poor....how then do Bricklayers, Gravediggers and Palmwine Tappers from same communities marry such ladies?
Do they give them expo or subsidy?

purples25:
All I wish is that young girls can see the connives of men on them through these comments on this thread.

They are sleeping with you, deflowering you. You both would call it love, you will give it free to prove you love him and you're not a gold digger. To him, it's the food he gave you, which you probably forgot about before being deflowered, that made you to open your legs.

The same men are here on this thread after working together to cheapen you all, saying you're not worth bride price because they deflowered you with indomie and eggs. That was their plan, to cheapen you, so that when you all are ready to marry, they can join together and say you're not worth it, and keep their money in their pockets.

There's no love on the dating scene. The men are on a mission to cheapen their women until they are nothing, so that they can escape proper process. They start by catching the girls young, cheapen them, then turn back to say that our girls are too worthless for the honorable treatment.

Young girls, how I wish you can see that you can't please these people. Free sex in the name of love, look at where it still ended.

Krismas:
Bride price is negotiable. If the man can only afford one million, they would have accepted it.
The man no serious about marriage b4

Ernesthugo:
such a weak man naso he go run from maternal hospital bill.
a winner stays and fight till the end

Stolen:
DO U WANT THEM TO BRING THE FULL AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT THEY HAVE SPENT SINCE THE GIRL WAS BORN.



WHAT IS ON THAT LIST, E REACH ORDINARY SCHOOL FEES ALONE.


LOOK U BETTER BE MARRYING YOUR USELESS WOMEN IN YOUR TRIBE FOR FREE, AS A MATTER OF FACT LET THEM FOOT THE BILL FOR YOU.



LEAVE OTHER TRIBES ALONE.



MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING WE DO FROM THE BOTTOM OF OUR HEART AND WE DO IT WELL, WITH FULL RESPECT.

mrvitalis:
[b]It's funny people are just ignorant when it comes to marriage list

70% of things in most marriage list would be used to serve people on the traditional marriage ceremony

I don't know of other places... But in Mbaise those high bills are placed so that u don't pay complete...See as you dey say not more than
100k. I am from Anambra and none of my sister's bride prices pass 1000 naira.
In fact if a family bills you 1 million and you pay it... It's insulting to the family, it is meant to be seeing that you scrapped everything you own and yet could not still afford our daughter so that you then take her on credit and continue to pay till death

"My in-laws please this is what I can afford, but as you know they dont finish marrying a wife, I would continue to balance the bride price forever ".. ... The above statement would make what ever you present acceptable


It's important to have a friend from the area of your wife to help you navigate

I am from Mbaise none of my sisters husband spent more than 100k on actual bribe price and we hosted the traditional marriage reception from pocket... While the men handled the white weddings [/b]

ExAngel007:
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In a story sparking intense online discussion, a man has reportedly withdrawn from a marriage proposal due to a highly demanding traditional bride price list provided by the woman's family.

The incident, shared by social media user
Princess Adeola, highlighted the emotional toll on the man and drew attention to cultural practices cthat some argue may discourage potential suitors.

The bride price list, meant to honor the family, included numerous items such as crates of drinks, livestock, clothing, and monetary gifts for various members of the bride’s extended family.

The total value was estimated at ₦3.5 million.

The prospective groom, reportedly eager to marry and even committed to taking the bride abroad and sponsoring her education, expressed heartbreak after realizing the bride herself supported her family's demands, citing the rising costs of living in Nigeria.

Adeola expressed sympathy for the man, describing him as a "good man" who was willing to go to great lengths for his partner. She criticized the bride's family for what she termed "greed" and urged women to advocate for reasonable expectations from their families.

Many online users joined the discussion, debating the relevance and practicality of traditional marriage customs in modern times.

While some defended the practice as a cultural heritage, others viewed it as a hindrance to relationships and an unnecessary financial burden.


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folake4u:
Na man dey do man.

GigFc:
The idea is not to form strong man and pay for everything, you can monetize a lot of items and get huge discounts here and there. Last last you won't spend up to 2m.

As a man, these things are normal and should be considered a right of passage. Don't go and be fretting anyhow over such issues.

idahme:
If that's not what people from that locality spend when they come for a wife I will take a walk.

Some ethnic group once they know you are not from there they will abandon how they wedding and bring a special list for an outsider. That's very bad, most people in that locality can not afford that

TheBillyonaire:
Your papa will eventually give out your sister for 100k and a carton of indomie

luminouz:
Lol...nobody pays that much for a borehole. For a virgin? Yes...but I know your cousin didn't marry a virgin. Who knew if she was one of the girls I had fûcked mercilessly. Yet your cousin rewarded her with 1.5m as bridal list.

Simps everywhere.

FineUsername:
No use yourself as yardstick rate me.

A very big poor fo.ol (unfortunate son) don drop quote. Normally I for say make you sell your family property pay bride price but no be JAMB score figure we dey talk about.

Poor man be doing the worst to maintain a relationship.


I have always cum in peace. 

BoldBrainz:
This right here is the mentality responsible for the societal drawbacks we have in this country today. Marriages have now become trade avenues for families of women to massively cash-in while sapping the life out of the long term union.

When men have to pay through their noses to marry women, give me one reason why those men won't dehumanize and treat the women like acquired properties in the matrimonial home!

Very unfortunate mindset!

GiZcorp:
The matter here is not the cheap wife... There's nothing like a cheap wife to begin with... Your Yoruba kins are so stupid that they don't know what it means to be married...

idahme:
Free sex? I guess they should all turn osho so as to please you. You have sex with the man , just as you offered your body he also offered his body too so what is the fuse? After all pleasure the man will still carry all liabilities on his head? If you like you all should not learn how to be responsible. Join your men and help him carry the liabilities you all bring.

Villa12:
no men pay out of their nose. Go for your size. My neighbour still pay 250k for bride price list. Shoe get size. Marriage still take place every Saturday.

Villa12:
at least you're poor while my cousin financially stable. Only dead broke men like you talk exactly like this

Villa12:
most Yoruba women are married cheaply. No bride price nor proper marriage rite. Yoruba men don't take care of women

GboyegaD:
Perhaps they believe the community raises a child as such, if you are a kinsman, you must have contributed to her upbringing and if you are an outside, you contributed nothing to her upbringing.

luminouz:
So your cousin paid 1.5M for pussy I tore and damaged while paying nothing? You be fõôl oh.
Lol....I can see you are as fôolish as your cousin. Continue paying till y'all dié


Simps!!!

BoldBrainz:
Lol.

I won't be surprised if the proponents of this absurdity are single young men dunking people's daughters with empty promises.

idahme:
You still don't get it, we ain't talking about kinsmen we are talking about people from different locality but speak same language. For example you can have people from different LGAs speaking same language but have nothing to do with been related. So what is the issue of kinsmen popping up

JIBO4REAL:
Basically If the girl was to marry from the same village Eg like one of those elders family leaving in the village will it still be 3.5m ? 😂 😂 😂

Some of the guys in the village may be petty farmer who can't barely avoid daily meal.... But see them, they will be calling the man poor 😂

Villa12:
at least you're broke

Nazgul:
It's so sad.

Villa12:
you're poor