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Lamasta:
You better take care of your dad and stop being influenced negatively by your Mum....

Na Mumu the guy be.

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

You are not doing anything wrong. If you buy him a car, it won't stop there. You will fuel it and maintain it to keep it running.
He had a duty as a parent to give you the best training that he could afford. Not sure he did that. I don't think he could afford overseas education for you if he had to sell his properties to be able to do it. But his lifestyle was definitely off.
Any parent who lives off a child is a failure except something tragic happened to that parent.

I hope you don't repeat your dad's mistake but learn from it. Good luck

idahme:
Did you hear h say his dad sponsored his education to University level? If his dad mad other decisions which didn't favor him does it mean his dad didn't try for him? Did your father sponsor your education? If no why bring your hate to influence him?

Most of you guys who vilify your dad you will understand what your dad went through when you have your children

Sponsoring to university level is the basic. What was the father supposed to do, not sponsor his child to university level? Please, let's stop celebrating mediocrity.

If you are from an average home, you'd know that to be great, your parent have to sacrifice more especially when you have the potential.

Nobody forced any person to have kids. If you can't take care and sacrifice for your kid, why have them?

When I have my kids, after myself, they will be my greatest investments.

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

I know the whole reason you’re asking this question is because you’re wanting to go extra mile to please him
Did he go extra miles for you? Why kill yourself for someone who’ll never do same for you

Give him equally as he deserves but you should understand one thing don’t punish him for his foolishness, it’s not worth it.

He is your father and you should have no grudges against him, if buying him whatever he demands doesn’t seem like much for you considering you present good condition then it’s not something to think twice, just don’t make sacrifice for someone who would never make sacrifice for you

Only your mom deserves sacrifices and breaking of sweat

Because he knew there's tomorrow, that's why he's doing what he is currently doing, sir.

D111:
Something must be wrong with you for saying that to your dad,I don't want to know what your dad did to you, but he is still your dad nothing can change that
You better have a rethink and be good to your dad, remember there's tomorrow

Lamasta:
The father did not offend him, what if the man was actually been honest to him that that's what he could afford at that instance.....

I don't know why fathers are always at the receiving end of ungrateful children they suffer to train to adulthood

The Op is a very stupid useless pikin. Very ungrateful and idiotic...........am sure na the mama dey confuse and control am

Just do as much as you can but not to the detriment of your comfort

Now you have made it in life, treat your father the way your children will treat you

Please get that car for your father and increase his allowance. As his retirement gift.

Men make numerous sacrifices for their family which go unappreciated.

He trained you from birth to college. Although he's not perfect but he deserves it. Thanks.

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

My kind of person would leave the past in its place and do what I can do.

That he gave birth to you and was there for you through college, he has done what 80% of fathers cannot do especially in the Nigeria of today. Count it as he has fulfilled his responsibilities towards you. That he failed one doesn't erase the love, care and pride that he has for and on you, neither should you love nor care less. In fact, you should be proud to go over and beyond to get more of his blessings and make him proud for the little (not so little) he has done.

If doing anything for him wont break your back, please do.

even if your Dad did nothing all your life and you have the means now.. do it.

You are not doing it for him but for you. Be wise.

At the end he is still your father! And you like it or not he used his money to raise you i.e fed you, clothed you, took you to school, health etc. It may not be 100% as how you wanted but he did the necessity to provide for u . As u have said how he used his money is his business as it was his hard earned. Just like U are also free to use Ur own hard earned money how u see fit without for example your son trying to tell u otherwise. A parent is a parent he is Ur boss forever and has rights over you just like he gave u unconditional love once upon a time

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

You are an ungrateful fool of a son.
Who paid your school fees from nursery till graduation?
Who fed you till you became a man?
Who kept you alive and well?
You ungrateful Fook.
Because of your selfish desire to go abroad, you're saying your dad is wicked?
Is abroad a necessity?
Now you're abroad, if your own son asks for you to send him to moon in one of this Elon Musk starship, will you?
Can you afford it?
You have no idea your father's financial difficulties as a child.
Shame on you!
When he Saif he couldn't afford it, did you go close to him? Did you find out about his real account situations? How many times did you help or offer to help in your father's bussiness (running of hotel) as a young adult?

You see that cane you're flogging your dad, you ungrateful boy, your sons are warming up.

You will be totally forgotten also by your sons.
Infact they may go a step further even dumping you at old people home abroad.

It's just like my son growing up tomorrow to say I did nothing for him. Just to feed the family and for him and his sister, I have chronic back pains, spinal cord pain. But I can't stop working. All doctors advice I should rest. But no I can't. They will go hungry if I do.

Their mum spoon feeds him and show physical care. She sleeps all day. Yet tomorrow he will think his mother raised him.

I used to be ungrateful like you before towards my dad. But since becoming a father, I now have pity on him and see all the sacrifices gathers make.

My dad did not get another wife.

Even if he did. And so what? That's above my pay grade. He and mum should settle it.

My own dad stopped paying my school fees University, 3rd year.

He stopped my elder brothers own at 1st year uni.

He never paid a dime for my 2 younger brothers at University.

Even one of us, he never paid a dime from SS2 class.

All these and so what?

Young man learn to be grateful for the 99 people did for you. Stop counting the 1% they didn't do for you.

Even God doesn't answer 100% of everybody's prayers.

You're just ungrateful.

If you like kill your dad. That's your business.

You have only 1 dad.

If he dies today, you will know what you did to yourself.

May God never give me a son like you.

tensazangetsu20:
Not one

He never housed you
Feed you
Paid your school fees
Bought you even if it's sweet?

Lamasta:
You better take care of your dad and stop being influenced negatively by your Mum....

Can’t you read or something ??

It takes being exposed to understand situations. Exposure makes you enter different terrains and grasped a lot of knowledge.

It is this that has made me overcome any form of antipathy for my parents - whether good or bad.

Exposure and knowledge will make you build empathy. Because it's only empathy that can can make you not
treat someone badly, the way they have treated you.

It is empathy that will make you turn your left cheek when someone slap you on the right cheek.

Strong empathy is rooted in deep knowledge. And it is as a result of not allowing your pains and suffering to becloud you and become vicious.

Those not consumed by their suffering and won't allow themselves to be a conduit or tool in the hand of the devil in seeking for revenge are God's people (this is not about religion. Hope the reader will understand).

Our parents acted based on their limited scope of knowledge. They acted the way they deem fit and thought that their actions whether good or bad won't be detrimental to their well-being and family. They acted based on ignorance.

There are still some decisions my parents will advise me to take. I don't. Because I know they are talking from a standpoint of the 20th century. It doesn't mean that everything they say is foolish. But as a more exposed individual I have to weigh their suggestions in the light of the 21st century.

Hanlon's Razor: don't attribute to malice what's as a result of stupidity.

Please, man, forgive your father and have full peace. At least, you are at a point where you can take good care of yourself and family. If not for anything, but for the little good things he has done for you as a child.

He is your father. You can't change that fact.

Tell your father, how he failed you and his nuclear family. Pour your heart outside. Let him know your height of disappointment in him. Perhaps, he may be remorseful and ask for forgiveness.

However, whatever you know you can do for him that won't bring you problem, regrets, and setbacks, do it.

Buy him a car if you can. Give him allowances if you can.

You are already far from him. So irregardless of his actions, it can't get to you. Even though he decides to persists in his ways.

This is not to guilt trip you. You can do as it pleases you. No big deal. Your attitude toward him is reasonable.

But you are doing it because you are now wiser and bigger than your father.

Don't allow 1 error to erase 99 good.

Thanks.

You are wise

tensazangetsu20:
You even try. I dont send my father one kobo and the day he asks me for money eh, lemme not even talk

it's a shame on you and thank God you will grow up to become a father one-day, it is them you will realize you have failing all years.....

amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

One of the notable things about what you shared with us is that you never felt entitled to his support. I think it's something we, as men, can relate to. We recognize that just because a parent brought us into the world doesn't mean they also have to give us the world. I don't mean to make this about gender, but I've observed that more daughters and sisters tend to feel entitled to what their parent or sibling owns and feel slighted by their decision to spend it on who or what they desire.

Back to the topic—training a child is like investing. The higher your investment, the greater your ROI. You can’t reasonably expect to make more out of the same stock than someone who holds more of it. That said, have you considered that your mother's contribution might have been emotionally exaggerated in significance because she came through for you at a critical juncture? If you objectively quantify in monetary terms how much each parent has contributed to your life, would you still say your mother is on top?

I understand your pain at feeling betrayed by a parent who, in your view, chose his own pleasure over providing you with the best opportunities. I won’t tell you to forgive him—that’s entirely up to you—but based on what you’ve shared, it seems you’re already doing enough for your dad by fulfilling your basic responsibilities as a child, just as he did his as a father. Anything beyond that is extra and entirely at your discretion. The table has turned—you’re now the man with the bread, and you can do whatever you want.

elipheleh:
You are an ungrateful fool of a son.
Who paid your school fees from nursery till graduation?
Who fed you till you became a man?
Who kept you alive and well?
You ungrateful Fook.
Because of your selfish desire to go abroad, you're saying your dad is wicked?
Is abroad a necessity?
Now you're abroad, if your own son asks for you to send him to moon in one of this Elon Musk starship, will you?
Can you afford it?
You have no idea your father's financial difficulties as a child.
Shame on you!
When he Saif he couldn't afford it, did you go close to him? Did you find out about his real account situations? How many times did you help or offer to help in your father's bussiness (running of hotel) as a young adult?

You see that cane you're flogging your dad, you ungrateful boy, your sons are warming up.

You will be totally forgotten also by your sons.
Infact they may go a step further even dumping you at old people home abroad.

It's just like my son growing up tomorrow to say I did nothing for him. Just to feed the family and for him and his sister, I have chronic back pains, spinal cord pain. But I can't stop working. All doctors advice I should rest. But no I can't. They will go hungry if I do.

Their mum spoon feeds him and show physical care. She sleeps all day. Yet tomorrow he will think his mother raised him.

I used to be ungrateful like you before towards my dad. But since becoming a father, I now have pity on him and see all the sacrifices gathers make.

My dad did not get another wife.

Even if he did. And so what? That's above my pay grade. He and mum should settle it.

My own dad stopped paying my school fees University, 3rd year.

He stopped my elder brothers own at 1st year uni.

He never paid a dime for my 2 younger brothers at University.

Even one of us, he never paid a dime from SS2 class.

All these and so what?

Young man learn to be grateful for the 99 people did for you. Stop counting the 1% they didn't do for you.

Even God doesn't answer 100% of everybody's prayers.

You're just ungrateful.

If you like kill your dad. That's your business.

You have only 1 dad.

If he dies today, you will know what you did to yourself.

May God never give me a son like you.

He will learn.

Beremx:
Your father na wa for him o! He makes money and the next thing he thinks of is to go marry another woman instead of investing in his kids. Now money don finish and he's looking for entitlement to own a car.
Just know that money you're spending on your father, you're indirectly spending on his second wife.
Abeg concentrate on your mum and make sure she gets the best.

Nonsense and polygamy

God Bless u ma. I hate nonsense. You are a man you have money instead of investing in ur family, u are busying flocking around with small small girls because after all it is ur money and ur children will take care of u when u are old. Rubbish. He must be a good son. The father even have the gust to tell him he needs a care as par say him na father of the year na. If u buy that car for that man u Bleep up. Learn form his mistakes and become a better husband and father tomorrow. Invest in ur family and ur younger once. Let him live with the consequences he made

Karleb:
Don't do more than you are already doing for him.

I[b]'d advice you withdraw the cash and set it on fire rather than giving it to an irresponsible adult.[/b]

Don't reward bad behavior, please I'm begging you.

People will guilt trip you here but don't panic.

When you needed him most, he made the decision not to support you his child in his right senses, which simply means he doesn't love you. Now that he needs you, reciprocate the gesture.

Read through his article you would understand that his father is the reason he is even in this position, some of you are so entitled that the little deeds of fathers are neglected because he didn't do what is in your head but rather what he thought at the time to be the best even if it wasn't.

His dad sponsored his welfare, education to undergraduate level and if his father's decision while he is pursuing his postgraduate education affected him does it mean all the goods his dad did from zero age till he graduated from school is nullity?

Some of you guys who make this statement have never been responsible or accountable for anyone in your life. A typical entitled man who will vilify his dad when he doesn't have his own children and gets to understand when he is married with children. I also see dudes who also throw shades at uncles and then they become an uncle and can't do to the nephews what they expect their uncles do for them a typical case of do for me what I can't do for others.

elipheleh:
You are an ungrateful fool of a son.
Who paid your school fees from nursery till graduation?
Who fed you till you became a man?
Who kept you alive and well?
You ungrateful Fook.
Because of your selfish desire to go abroad, you're saying your dad is wicked?
Is abroad a necessity?
Now you're abroad, if your own son asks for you to send him to moon in one of this Elon Musk starship, will you?
Can you afford it?
You have no idea your father's financial difficulties as a child.
Shame on you!
When he Saif he couldn't afford it, did you go close to him? Did you find out about his real account situations? How many times did you help or offer to help in your father's bussiness (running of hotel) as a young adult?

You see that cane you're flogging your dad, you ungrateful boy, your sons are warming up.

You will be totally forgotten also by your sons.
Infact they may go a step further even dumping you at old people home abroad.

It's just like my son growing up tomorrow to say I did nothing for him. Just to feed the family and for him and his sister, I have chronic back pains, spinal cord pain. But I can't stop working. All doctors advice I should rest. But no I can't. They will go hungry if I do.

Their mum spoon feeds him and show physical care. She sleeps all day. Yet tomorrow he will think his mother raised him.

I used to be ungrateful like you before towards my dad. But since becoming a father, I now have pity on him and see all the sacrifices gathers make.

My dad did not get another wife.

Even if he did. And so what? That's above my pay grade. He and mum should settle it.

My own dad stopped paying my school fees University, 3rd year.

He stopped my elder brothers own at 1st year uni.

He never paid a dime for my 2 younger brothers at University.

Even one of us, he never paid a dime from SS2 class.

All these and so what?

Young man learn to be grateful for the 99 people did for you. Stop counting the 1% they didn't do for you.

Even God doesn't answer 100% of everybody's prayers.

You're just ungrateful.

If you like kill your dad. That's your business.

You have only 1 dad.

If he dies today, you will know what you did to yourself.

May God never give me a son like you.

He will learn ,and I hope not the hard way

Lol. When you become a man you'll understand and see things differently.
I pray it won't be too late by then.

zarathustra:
It's complex but all I can say is: If you can afford it , do it. Let him have it if it is within your means.

This is the best thing to do. If you can afford it, do it and above all, free your mind. Sir, it an exam of life. Do you think that you came this far because of your power and wisdom?

Despite his lifestyle, he still managed to sponsor your education here in Nigeria, be thankful for that alone, there are some men out there that are very irresponsible when it comes to their family.
Pls kindly do what he requested for if you can afford it.

Lamasta:
You better take care of your dad and stop being influenced negatively by your Mum....

Its my mum that will start listing things i must do for my father. My dad doesn't know how to ask me for anything. My mum will ask me for something, once she sees alert, she call to say thank you but what of your father?

We will go to the village, she will be telling me in the ear, "give this woman something", "give that man something", this one use to do this or that, that one used to buy you biscuit when you were a child. Chai!!

But I will go away happy that I saw smiles in the eyes of people even with as small as 1k.

elipheleh:
You are an ungrateful fool of a son.
Who paid your school fees from nursery till graduation?
Who fed you till you became a man?
Who kept you alive and well?
You ungrateful Fook.
Because of your selfish desire to go abroad, you're saying your dad is wicked?
Is abroad a necessity?
Now you're abroad, if your own son asks for you to send him to moon in one of this Elon Musk starship, will you?
Can you afford it?
You have no idea your father's financial difficulties as a child.
Shame on you!
When he Saif he couldn't afford it, did you go close to him? Did you find out about his real account situations? How many times did you help or offer to help in your father's bussiness (running of hotel) as a young adult?

You see that cane you're flogging your dad, you ungrateful boy, your sons are warming up.

You will be totally forgotten also by your sons.
Infact they may go a step further even dumping you at old people home abroad.

It's just like my son growing up tomorrow to say I did nothing for him. Just to feed the family and for him and his sister, I have chronic back pains, spinal cord pain. But I can't stop working. All doctors advice I should rest. But no I can't. They will go hungry if I do.

Their mum spoon feeds him and show physical care. She sleeps all day. Yet tomorrow he will think his mother raised him.

I used to be ungrateful like you before towards my dad. But since becoming a father, I now have pity on him and see all the sacrifices gathers make.

My dad did not get another wife.

Even if he did. And so what? That's above my pay grade. He and mum should settle it.

My own dad stopped paying my school fees University, 3rd year.

He stopped my elder brothers own at 1st year uni.

He never paid a dime for my 2 younger brothers at University.

Even one of us, he never paid a dime from SS2 class.

All these and so what?

Young man learn to be grateful for the 99 people did for you. Stop counting the 1% they didn't do for you.

Even God doesn't answer 100% of everybody's prayers.

You're just ungrateful.

If you like kill your dad. That's your business.

You have only 1 dad.

If he dies today, you will know what you did to yourself.

May God never give me a son like you.

God bless you bro, you have spoken out what is on my mind I swear...

elipheleh:
You are an ungrateful fool of a son.
Who paid your school fees from nursery till graduation?
Who fed you till you became a man?
Who kept you alive and well?
You ungrateful Fook.
Because of your selfish desire to go abroad, you're saying your dad is wicked?
Is abroad a necessity?
Now you're abroad, if your own son asks for you to send him to moon in one of this Elon Musk starship, will you?
Can you afford it?
You have no idea your father's financial difficulties as a child.
Shame on you!
When he Saif he couldn't afford it, did you go close to him? Did you find out about his real account situations? How many times did you help or offer to help in your father's bussiness (running of hotel) as a young adult?

You see that cane you're flogging your dad, you ungrateful boy, your sons are warming up.

You will be totally forgotten also by your sons.
Infact they may go a step further even dumping you at old people home abroad.

It's just like my son growing up tomorrow to say I did nothing for him. Just to feed the family and for him and his sister, I have chronic back pains, spinal cord pain. But I can't stop working. All doctors advice I should rest. But no I can't. They will go hungry if I do.

Their mum spoon feeds him and show physical care. She sleeps all day. Yet tomorrow he will think his mother raised him.

I used to be ungrateful like you before towards my dad. But since becoming a father, I now have pity on him and see all the sacrifices gathers make.

My dad did not get another wife.

Even if he did. And so what? That's above my pay grade. He and mum should settle it.

My own dad stopped paying my school fees University, 3rd year.

He stopped my elder brothers own at 1st year uni.

He never paid a dime for my 2 younger brothers at University.

Even one of us, he never paid a dime from SS2 class.

All these and so what?

Young man learn to be grateful for the 99 people did for you. Stop counting the 1% they didn't do for you.

Even God doesn't answer 100% of everybody's prayers.

You're just ungrateful.

If you like kill your dad. That's your business.

You have only 1 dad.

If he dies today, you will know what you did to yourself.

May God never give me a son like you.

Be here writing nonsense instead of learning and become a better father. What you wrote is a complete waste of space and time. Entitlement mentality of men who do nothing for there family and expects to get rewarded. Which son prays to have a father like you who rant online to dicredit his wife? SHMM

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Klass99:
I find it interesting that most of the commenters above me are men with similar daddy issues. As in, sons and fathers not getting along well, sons treating their mothers better and not wanting to help their fathers.

The same men will open their mouths waaa tomorrow to say marriage does not benefit men, men get neglected in old age, only women/mothers are looked after and only they get to travel, blah, blah, blah.

Meanwhile sons are the ones neglecting fathers and actively participating in this narrative they push out about men being neglected and marriage not benefiting men. Men doing men!

They talk from both sides of their mouths or should I say all sides of their mouths, never taking a stance and always being all over the place. Today it is ABC, tomorrow it is XYZ, next tomorrow it is KLM and they say they are logical.

You have a point.
I saw the posts from men and was disappointed but then they are the simps, not the redpillers. So let them croak but they don't represent us. I ain't neglecting my dad ...not is it a redpill tenet.

tensazangetsu20:
You even try. I dont send my father one kobo and the day he asks me for money eh, lemme not even talk

I pity u that’s all I have to say. Two wrongs won’t ever make a right.

Guy , just take care of your mum. You can send something to dad, but dont buy a car for him. Let the children of his new wife take care of him.