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Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by evangmx(m): 9:08pm On Jun 22
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by garriAndsugar: 9:13pm On Jun 22
You need to discuss with your wife to see how she can support you

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by IntelChief: 9:14pm On Jun 22
I want to say certain things, but since na family issue, I no go talk.

Meanwhile, make I go listen to Bobo by Mayorkun

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by evangmx(m): 9:16pm On Jun 22
[I have discussed with her even the priest has help me talked to her. But I want to know if am not doing my best. I don't have a savings nowquote author=garriAndsugar post=114062807]You need to discuss with your wife to see how she can support you[/quote]

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by vakjay08(m): 9:17pm On Jun 22

Only you can answer that question. Sometimes its not really about how much money. How's the relationship with your wife? Or what kind of woman did you marry?

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by evangmx(m): 9:17pm On Jun 22
[I have discussed with her even the priest has help me talked to her. But I want to know if am not doing my best. I don't have a savings ]
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Deborah98(f): 9:22pm On Jun 22
Jesus person dey buy new clothes and new shoes every week undecided and you tell me this life is balanced? My elder sister saw my post which day on WhatsApp and was asking if I'm still using my "old clothes and bags". Wetin man go do now? @Op your wife is insensitive aswear,why does God or whoever it is allow good people marry bad ones and vice versa. Check well she might be building a house somewhere or processing her visa to travel out with or without the kids. Na your type of person dey carry love and marriage matter for head. It's well

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Mickykarim: 9:23pm On Jun 22
You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by garriAndsugar: 9:24pm On Jun 22
evangmx:
[I have discussed with her even the priest has help me talked to her. But I want to know if am not doing my best. I don't have a savings ]
Since you said you are doing your best then you have nothing to worry about

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Richy4(m): 9:25pm On Jun 22
I would have loved to say something but It will be unprintable and it's not my style angry

Don't beat yourself up buddy.. u will be fine..I won't say talk to her because she has eyes and can see the situation of things sad

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by rickpat(m): 9:28pm On Jun 22
baba you are doing very very well...60k a month for food plus paying all the bills....most men won't even do that when their wife is working...

my brother,YOU ARE A VERY RESPONSIBLE MAN... DOING ALL THESE TO TAKE CARE IF HIS FAMILY DESPITE THE ROUGH TIMES FOR YOU....


YOUR WIFE DOESN'T KNOW SHE HAS A GOOD MAN...SHE IS NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE...


MY ADVISE IS CONTINUE DOING YOUR BEST,GOD WILL BLESS YOU MORE AND OPEN MORE DOORS FOR YOU... DON'T GET FRUSTRATED OR DISCOURAGED BY HER ATTITUDE...JUST IGNORE AND CONTINUE BEING RESPONSIBLE...LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR FAMILY....forgive your wife,she knows not what she is doing!!...chai..

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by chatinent(m): 9:30pm On Jun 22
Can you kindly tell your wife to work to know how it is to make money?

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by rickpat(m): 9:35pm On Jun 22
Mickykarim:
You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.
oga if you are so experienced with family issues,you would realise that sometimes the head gets too full that you need to empty it somewhere or somehow...so it's either you talk to "your wall" or you come to a "faceless" forum like this to let it out...and be relieved.... secondly he is an adult, he can filter whatever he sees here and know what is worth adding to his private life....so it's totally wrong for you to use brainless and such derogatory words on everyone and every opinion here....DROP YOUR OPINION AND MOVE ON...THANKS FOR YOUR TIME

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by rickpat(m): 9:36pm On Jun 22
Mickykarim:
You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.
if you are so experienced with family issues,you would realise that sometimes the head gets too full that you need to empty it somewhere or somehow...so it's either you talk to "your wall" or you come to a "faceless" forum like this to let it out...and be relieved.... secondly he is an adult, he can filter whatever he sees here and know what is worth adding to his private life....so it's totally wrong for you to use brainless and such derogatory words on everyone and every opinion here....DROP YOUR OPINION AND MOVE ON...THANKS FOR YOUR TIME

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Truvelisback(m): 9:41pm On Jun 22
evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife work as well. And we have 2 children.
I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good.
I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.
But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.
Pls tell me if am doing bad.
U are doing ur best. Ur wife is an Ingrate and selfish too.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by OlawaleBammie: 9:41pm On Jun 22
evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife work as well. And we have 2 children.
I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good.
I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.
But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.
Pls tell me if am doing bad.
sir dont worry, u will get sense wen its too late sir. I have someone like dat as well

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Richy4(m): 9:42pm On Jun 22
rickpat:
oga if you are so experienced with family issues,you would realise that sometimes the head gets too full that you need to empty it somewhere or somehow...so it's either you talk to "your wall" or you come to a "faceless" forum like this to let it out...and be relieved.... secondly he is an adult, he can filter whatever he sees here and know what is worth adding to his private life....so it's totally wrong for you to use brainless and such derogatory words on everyone and every opinion here....DROP YOUR OPINION AND MOVE ON...THANKS FOR YOUR TIME
Thank you Buddy.. Some people thinks that they are smarter than others embarassed

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by WorldsNumber1: 9:44pm On Jun 22
@Op the earlier you realize that you are just a slave in the marriage the better for you. This applies to a lot of married men too.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Mickykarim: 9:45pm On Jun 22
rickpat:
if you are so experienced with family issues,you would realise that sometimes the head gets too full that you need to empty it somewhere or somehow...so it's either you talk to "your wall" or you come to a "faceless" forum like this to let it out...and be relieved.... secondly he is an adult, he can filter whatever he sees here and know what is worth adding to his private life....so it's totally wrong for you to use brainless and such derogatory words on everyone and every opinion here....DROP YOUR OPINION AND MOVE ON...THANKS FOR YOUR TIME

IF HE IS MATURED ENOUGH TO FILTER ANYTHING AS AN ADULT. HIS RECENT MOVE CLEARLY PROVED YOU AND HIM OTHERWISE.

For your INFORMATION and EDUCATION. No successful union and matrimony ever had external FORCES and OPINIONS intervention in their internal affairs. Their internal matrimonial home is never for public comsumption.

A MAN CAME PUBLIC TO DISPARAGE HIS SIGNIFICANT HALF, CLAIMING SHE USE HER MONEY ON CERTAIN ITEMS THAT IS NOT NEW TO HIM SINCE THEY CAME TOGETHER AND FOR HOW LONG.

He also sings his own praise in contrast to his wife's.

SO MUCH FOR YOUR MATURED MAN!

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Mickykarim: 9:47pm On Jun 22
rickpat:
if you are so experienced with family issues,you would realise that sometimes the head gets too full that you need to empty it somewhere or somehow...so it's either you talk to "your wall" or you come to a "faceless" forum like this to let it out...and be relieved.... secondly he is an adult, he can filter whatever he sees here and know what is worth adding to his private life....so it's totally wrong for you to use brainless and such derogatory words on everyone and every opinion here....DROP YOUR OPINION AND MOVE ON...THANKS FOR YOUR TIME

IF HE IS MATURED ENOUGH TO FILTER ANYTHING AS AN ADULT. HIS RECENT MOVE CLEARLY PROVED YOU AND HIM OTHERWISE.

For your INFORMATION and EDUCATION. No successful union and matrimony ever had external FORCES and OPINIONS intervention in their internal affairs. Their internal matrimonial home is never for public consumption.

A MAN CAME PUBLIC TO DISPARAGE HIS SIGNIFICANT HALF, CLAIMING SHE USE HER MONEY ON CERTAIN ITEMS THAT IS NOT NEW TO HIM SINCE THEY CAME TOGETHER AND FOR HOW LONG.

Of course, I AM married for over decades and knows what i am saying and you are obviously not!

He also sings his own praise in contrast to his wife's.

SO MUCH FOR YOUR MATURED MAN!
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by RightToReject(m): 9:54pm On Jun 22
Mickykarim:
You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.

The way bumpkins like you are always quick to project your inadequacies on the general public is both funny and irritating.

@OP, you've been doing your best truly. The problem is that you've been using servility to maintain and sustain your relationship with your wife from the inception, thus aiding her self-absorption and small-mindedness in general. If not that you obviously lack grit, I would have said, gather some guts and jolt her to reasonableness through action.

Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty, say no to both of them.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Mickykarim: 9:59pm On Jun 22
RightToReject:


The way bumpkins like you are always quick to project your inadequacies on the general public is both funny and irritating.

@OP, you've been doing your best truly. The problem is that you've been using servility to maintain and sustain your relationship with your wife from the inception, thus aiding her self-absorption and small-mindedness in general. If not that you obviously lack grit, I would have said, gather some guts and jolt her to reasonableness through action.

Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty, say no to both of them.

Except nothing indicated nor did you even in any way indicated you were ever married and or with home with a partner.

IF I HAVE FOR OVER DECADES AND STILL IS AND YOU, NOT EVEN NEAR.

You are an abundant FOOL! An undesirable nincompoop.

I HAVE GIVEN THE BEST IDEA WITH OPINION FOR A SUCCESSFUL MATRIMONY. A PANACEA FOR GOOD PARTNERSHIP WITH A SPOUSE.

All you IDIOT could offer was the BUFFOONERY crammed into your useless HEAD.



Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 10:00pm On Jun 22
evangmx:
But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.
Pls tell me if am doing bad.
Don't ask us, tell your wife your expectations when you hand her 60k every month for food. Since what you expect her to do is bring in the rest to make up for the needed amount from her salary, tell her straight up this is what you expect for her to do, and then you can come back and tell us then what you two eventually agreed upon. undecided

For the umpteenth time this year, marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. It is beneficial that you both sit down as a couple to spell out exactly how to resolve these issues, instead of one partner thinking it is OK to pretend it will somehow solve itself. If your wife does not understand that you expect her to chip in her share as far as bills and of food is concerned, you both should come together an communicate this and related concerns. undecided

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Abfinest007(m): 10:01pm On Jun 22
60k not bad for family of four.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 10:03pm On Jun 22
evangmx:
[I have discussed with her even the priest has help me talked to her. But I want to know if am not doing my best. I don't have a savings now
Doing your best in what exactly? undecided
You are married, no longer a loneranger! If a pat on the back for doing your part of the work is what you need, better go see a mental health counselor at this point. No one force marriage and children on you, so open your eyes and continue working on communication between you and wife until you both begin to get the real gist. undecided

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by RightToReject(m): 10:05pm On Jun 22
Mickykarim:



Ordinary quoting someone correctly; you can't. Anyway, I said it; you are a typical bumpkin. Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded elements like you before I change my mind and descent heavily on you.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Mickykarim: 10:08pm On Jun 22
RightToReject:


Ordinary quoting someone correctly; you can't. Anyway, I said it; you are a typical bumpkin. Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded elements like you before I change my mind and descent heavily on you.

YOU ARE THE INCONSEQUENTIAL LITTLE FELLOW WITH THE SMALL MIND.

You are damn too empty with nothing substantive to offer and remain the dreg of humanity.

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Alapojames: 10:48pm On Jun 22
Marriage is not for the weak oo
Why do people change in marriage?

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Lawly: 11:19pm On Jun 22
omo the kind of things i hear and read about insensitive women in marriage scares me. I currently have one on my head trying her best to hide her true self and pressure me into marriage including reporting me to people she feels have influence on me. i don't keep friends at all but whenever she's around me and I talk to someone else, she complains bitterly and she honestly expect me to marry her. she wants 100% of my attention to be with her and everything she wants. she's not ready to release 1%. she's looking for someone's son she will imprison into marriage and she wants be to be her slave. me that even has anger issues. it is well. that kind one marry her tomorrow and you must drive away everyone that made you somebody from your house else you won't have peace in your house. I have met with some ladies that applied to divorce their husbands. some of those girls' characters are TERRIBLE. I can't even have them for a girlfriend

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 11:55pm On Jun 22
Lawly:

omo the kind of things i hear and read about insensitive women in marriage scares me. I currently have one on my head trying her best to hide her true self and pressure me into marriage including reporting me to people she feels have influence on me. i don't keep friends at all but whenever she's around me and I talk to someone else, she complains bitterly and she honestly expect me to marry her. she wants 100% of my attention to be with her and everything she wants. she's not ready to release 1%. she's looking for someone's son she will imprison into marriage and she wants be to be her slave. me that even has anger issues. it is well. that kind one marry her tomorrow and you must drive away everyone that made you somebody from your house else you won't have peace in your house. I have met with some ladies that applied to divorce their husbands. some of those girls' characters are TERRIBLE. I can't even have them for a girlfriend
The more pertinent question is why do you folks waste your time dating those you see no future with? undecided

All of this chaos in your head over this woman no be for free. Your mental health is impacted by all the stress you put yourself through simply by continually engaging individuals whom you oppose, talk less of when you actually enter relationship with them. Na wa o!. undecided

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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by shege45: 12:42am On Jun 23
vakjay08:

Only you can answer that question. Sometimes its not really about how much money. How's the relationship with your wife? Or what kind of woman did you marry?

Gbam
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by UpInTheSky: 3:11am On Jun 23
No, you're not doing bad at all.
You're trying.

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