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I have come to realise from close observation that most Nigerian women exit social media especially Facebook or change their social media handles as soon as they tie the knot.

Some people would say that this happens at the command of their husbands as a way to prevent reconnection with ex-boyfriends or as a way to avoid their wives meeting men secretly via social media. In as much as I find these two reasons making a bit sense, I still feel it doesn’t entirely make sense. I personally think keeping an old Facebook or social media account active does some good as this could make old friends reconnect and even help each other. I strongly feel that men who subject their wives to this sort of act do not trust their wives completely. However, with the stories circulating the internet concerning many African women and infidelity, I wouldn’t blame them tho. This submission is based on my story below.

I had this wonderful lady as a very close friend back then in University years ago. I was a class ahead of her but I couldn’t ask her out because she already had a guy she was dating back then but we were sure close. I would never go for my guy’s girl behind his back. She visits me, I do same. She knows my girlfriend, I knew her boyfriend. Our friendship was the most matured friendship ever!
During my final year, things were kind of rough a bit. She was always there for me. She always cooked and brought it to me. She always came with her boyfriend to check up on me. I won’t forget how she sacrificed her laptop for me to use and complete my final year project which I held onto for weeks and she never complained about it. Long Story short, this girl was super nice to me. I can’t really express enough of how much this lady helped me back then.

I made her a promise after I graduated that when Baba God pick my call, I would definitely show my appreciation for all she did for me. We laughed about it but God knows I was dead serious. After two years we kept communicating via Facebook and phone calls. I got to find out she already broke up with the boyfriend I knew she had. Unfortunately, I wasn’t prepared to go into a relationship with her as I was still hustling and was already planning to relocate to the U.S and didn’t wish to leave her hanging while away.

After I left Nigeria, we lost contact both online and offline. However, 1 year later, I got to see a timeline post on Facebook from her friend I knew wishing her a happy married life, to which she never responded to. I reached out to her via her Facebook Account but since 4 years now, she never read nor replied my chat. I got a wind from a friend that she deactivated her old facebook account at the command of her husband and had gone private since then.

I do remember her once in a while and still remember the promise I made to her. I have even told my wife about her as well. I have personally kept around $5000 to present to her whenever I see her but only God knows when that will ever happen as she is nowhere to be found online anymore. Many people who knew her then don’t even have her contact as she also changed her phone number.

Although this lady doesn’t take any centre stage in my life as I have long moved past that, however, I am bringing this story here as many of my guys I have told this story have had numerous similar experiences with their Nigerian female friends both past and present.

Well, whatever the reasons many of our ladies do this, I do not know but I totally respect it. Lol

They simply focus on their life outside social media, especially the ones that only use it to text and hardly ever make a post. Priorities change, i respect them for that. Family first

Ok

I see nothing wrong with that. Family first.

Op,you're a good guy..

You see,guys hardly forget the kindness shown to them during their downtimes.......But you see bannies, they're entitled to the kindness shown to them at that moment,which is temporarily......Once the help stops coming,na otilo

CodedUpgrade:
I have come to realise from close observation that most Nigerian women exit social media especially Facebook or change their social media handles as soon as they tie the knot.

Some people would say that this happens at the command of their husbands as a way to prevent reconnection with ex-boyfriends or as a way to avoid their wives meeting men secretly via social media. In as much as I find these two reasons making a bit sense, I still feel it doesn’t entirely make sense. I personally think keeping an old Facebook or social media account active does some good as this could make old friends reconnect and even help each other. I strongly feel that men who subject their wives to this sort of act do not trust their wives completely. However, with the stories circulating the internet concerning many African women and infidelity, I wouldn’t blame them tho. This submission is based on my story below.

I had this wonderful lady as a very close friend back then in University years ago. I was a class ahead of her but I couldn’t ask her out because she already had a guy she was dating back then but we were sure close. I would never go for my guy’s girl behind his back. She visits me, I do same. She knows my girlfriend, I knew her boyfriend. Our friendship was the most matured friendship ever!
During my final year, things were kind of rough a bit. She was always there for me. She always cooked and brought it to me. She always came with her boyfriend to check up on me. I won’t forget how she sacrificed her laptop for me to use and complete my final year project which I held onto for weeks and she never complained about it. Long Story short, this girl was super nice to me. I can’t really express enough of how much this lady helped me back then.

I made her a promise after I graduated that when Baba God pick my call, I would definitely show my appreciation for all she did for me. We laughed about it but God knows I was dead serious. After two years we kept communicating via Facebook and phone calls. I got to find out she already broke up with the boyfriend I knew she had. Unfortunately, I wasn’t prepared to go into a relationship with her as I was still hustling and was already planning to relocate to the U.S and didn’t wish to leave her hanging while away.

After I left Nigeria, we lost contact both online and offline. However, 1 year later, I got to see a timeline post on Facebook from her friend I knew wishing her a happy married life, to which she never responded to. I reached out to her via her Facebook Account but since 4 years now, she never read nor replied my chat. I got a wind from a friend that she deactivated her old facebook account at the command of her husband and had gone private since then.

I do remember her once in a while and still remember the promise I made to her. I have even told my wife about her as well. I have personally kept around $5000 to present to her whenever I see her but only God knows when that will ever happen as she is nowhere to be found online anymore. Many people who knew her then don’t even have her contact as she also changed her phone number.

Although this lady doesn’t take any centre stage in my life as I have long moved past that, however, I am bringing this story here as many of my guys I have told this story have had numerous similar experiences with their Nigerian female friends both past and present.

Well, whatever the reasons many of our ladies do this, I do not know but I totally respect it. Lol

She did all that for you and you don't know her family name, her hometown or her home address while still in school.

You have no excuse of finding her. You are only creating one. Oga rest.

CodedUpgrade:
I have come to realise from close observation that most Nigerian women exit social media especially Facebook or change their social media handles as soon as they tie the knot.

Some people would say that this happens at the command of their husbands as a way to prevent reconnection with ex-boyfriends or as a way to avoid their wives meeting men secretly via social media. In as much as I find these two reasons making a bit sense, I still feel it doesn’t entirely make sense. I personally think keeping an old Facebook or social media account active does some good as this could make old friends reconnect and even help each other. I strongly feel that men who subject their wives to this sort of act do not trust their wives completely. However, with the stories circulating the internet concerning many African women and infidelity, I wouldn’t blame them tho. This submission is based on my story below.

I had this wonderful lady as a very close friend back then in University years ago. I was a class ahead of her but I couldn’t ask her out because she already had a guy she was dating back then but we were sure close. I would never go for my guy’s girl behind his back. She visits me, I do same. She knows my girlfriend, I knew her boyfriend. Our friendship was the most matured friendship ever!
During my final year, things were kind of rough a bit. She was always there for me. She always cooked and brought it to me. She always came with her boyfriend to check up on me. I won’t forget how she sacrificed her laptop for me to use and complete my final year project which I held onto for weeks and she never complained about it. Long Story short, this girl was super nice to me. I can’t really express enough of how much this lady helped me back then.

I made her a promise after I graduated that when Baba God pick my call, I would definitely show my appreciation for all she did for me. We laughed about it but God knows I was dead serious. After two years we kept communicating via Facebook and phone calls. I got to find out she already broke up with the boyfriend I knew she had. Unfortunately, I wasn’t prepared to go into a relationship with her as I was still hustling and was already planning to relocate to the U.S and didn’t wish to leave her hanging while away.

After I left Nigeria, we lost contact both online and offline. However, 1 year later, I got to see a timeline post on Facebook from her friend I knew wishing her a happy married life, to which she never responded to. I reached out to her via her Facebook Account but since 4 years now, she never read nor replied my chat. I got a wind from a friend that she deactivated her old facebook account at the command of her husband and had gone private since then.

I do remember her once in a while and still remember the promise I made to her. I have even told my wife about her as well. I have personally kept around $5000 to present to her whenever I see her but only God knows when that will ever happen as she is nowhere to be found online anymore. Many people who knew her then don’t even have her contact as she also changed her phone number.

Although this lady doesn’t take any centre stage in my life as I have long moved past that, however, I am bringing this story here as many of my guys I have told this story have had numerous similar experiences with their Nigerian female friends both past and present.

Well, whatever the reasons many of our ladies do this, I do not know but I totally respect it. Lol

You will definitely get across her someday.
OP a little helping hand from you will be appreciated.
The economy is messing up with me.
Make I drop aza abeg?

Kolenda:
You will definitely get across her someday.
OP a little helping hand from you will be appreciated.
The economy is messing up with me.
Make I drop aza abeg?

ah !...op abeg I go still appreciate'am if you extend same hands of generousity to me too .....my ceiling don dey look like bread to me.....Naija economy don cast!!

As for the lady, if she's still on Facebook, u definitely will come across her picture someday maybe via the popup photo gallery options..

Use the 5k $ do giveaway for boys here reading your story. Abi he bad 🤷

If you want to meet her you can meet her through her siblings as friends in her old Facebook account. Added them up. Try and read all the old messages she sent to people you must get her close friend or relation.

kinglaxon:
They simply focus on their life outside social media, especially the ones that only use it to text and hardly ever make a post. Priorities change, i respect them for that. Family first

CodedUpgrade:
I have come to realise from close observation that most Nigerian women exit social media especially Facebook or change their social media handles as soon as they tie the knot.

Some people would say that this happens at the command of their husbands as a way to prevent reconnection with ex-boyfriends or as a way to avoid their wives meeting men secretly via social media. In as much as I find these two reasons making a bit sense, I still feel it doesn’t entirely make sense. I personally think keeping an old Facebook or social media account active does some good as this could make old friends reconnect and even help each other. I strongly feel that men who subject their wives to this sort of act do not trust their wives completely. However, with the stories circulating the internet concerning many African women and infidelity, I wouldn’t blame them tho. This submission is based on my story below.

I had this wonderful lady as a very close friend back then in University years ago. I was a class ahead of her but I couldn’t ask her out because she already had a guy she was dating back then but we were sure close. I would never go for my guy’s girl behind his back. She visits me, I do same. She knows my girlfriend, I knew her boyfriend. Our friendship was the most matured friendship ever!
During my final year, things were kind of rough a bit. She was always there for me. She always cooked and brought it to me. She always came with her boyfriend to check up on me. I won’t forget how she sacrificed her laptop for me to use and complete my final year project which I held onto for weeks and she never complained about it. Long Story short, this girl was super nice to me. I can’t really express enough of how much this lady helped me back then.

I made her a promise after I graduated that when Baba God pick my call, I would definitely show my appreciation for all she did for me. We laughed about it but God knows I was dead serious. After two years we kept communicating via Facebook and phone calls. I got to find out she already broke up with the boyfriend I knew she had. Unfortunately, I wasn’t prepared to go into a relationship with her as I was still hustling and was already planning to relocate to the U.S and didn’t wish to leave her hanging while away.

After I left Nigeria, we lost contact both online and offline. However, 1 year later, I got to see a timeline post on Facebook from her friend I knew wishing her a happy married life, to which she never responded to. I reached out to her via her Facebook Account but since 4 years now, she never read nor replied my chat. I got a wind from a friend that she deactivated her old facebook account at the command of her husband and had gone private since then.

I do remember her once in a while and still remember the promise I made to her. I have even told my wife about her as well. I have personally kept around $5000 to present to her whenever I see her but only God knows when that will ever happen as she is nowhere to be found online anymore. Many people who knew her then don’t even have her contact as she also changed her phone number.

Although this lady doesn’t take any centre stage in my life as I have long moved past that, however, I am bringing this story here as many of my guys I have told this story have had numerous similar experiences with their Nigerian female friends both past and present.

Well, whatever the reasons many of our ladies do this, I do not know but I totally respect it. Lol

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Help a brother Mr coded sir

It ok doing that, dey only trying to save there marriage

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It happens to men too

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Does anyone know why my school's building is like this?

oteskimena:
Does anyone know why my school's building is like this?

Yeah

Kolenda:
You will definitely get across her someday.
OP a little helping hand from you will be appreciated.
The economy is messing up with me.
Make I drop aza abeg?

Mumu. Idiot of the highest order.

Na people like you make people dey hide their blessings.

Big fool. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Many ladies who have upgraded in life have left Facebook. Facebook has been invaded by the poorest of the poor with foolish reasoning . Many of my married female friends are on instagram and some doing business are on TikTok. Your assertion is false

CodedUpgrade:
I have come to realise from close observation that most Nigerian women exit social media especially Facebook or change their social media handles as soon as they tie the knot.

You're a good man. I'll appreciate if $500 can get to my from you. Because it's gonna change my life story.

Bless u.

PinkNature:
You're a good man. I'll appreciate if $500 can get to my from you. Because it's gonna change my life story.

Bless u.

Why person go give you $500? Una get boldness oo

Onyewarri:
Mumu. Idiot of the highest order.

Na people like you make people dey hide their blessings.

Big fool. You should be ashamed of yourself.

I don't know why you are filled with so much bile and hatred.
The OP has not reacted to my request.
You don't know what people are going through.
Most people are underemployed and others not even employed. So if you have it complete in life, others don't.

I've got one like that .. I'm short about 3 of them ..



No social media presence.. They're like ghost ..

Check her Facebook for her phone contact bor scroll through her friends on FB .. one of them might know where and how she is...

Unseen:
She did all that for you and you don't know her family name, her hometown or her home address while still in school.

You have no excuse of finding her. You are only creating one. Oga rest.

The moment he mentioned the amount, I developed doubts.

But let's assume he is honest and for future readers, there are ways to go about searching for her is to travel to the state of the university you both studied and graduated from. Ask her close friends from school. If possible, ask to be added to the WhatsApp group of her graduating class so you ask a general audience. Check the profiles of her close friends, send friend requests and message them stating your intentions. Lastly, post her picture on your wall stating your intentions and a monetary reward for anyone willing to divulge her current contact details via Messenger.

There is no way you won't get to know her whereabouts.

I don't have anything to say except...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q3PYcTQezQM?si=98xRhD1eITlSCcRP

Kolenda:
I don't know why you are filled with so much bile and hatred.
The OP has not reacted to my request.
You don't know what people are going through.
Most people are underemployed and others not even employed. So if you have it complete in life, others don't.

My sincere apologies. I guess I over reacted.