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Who has ever experienced this kind of situation before? It could either be sport, religion, or politics. How healthy is it for that relationship?

it makes no difference at all, as a couple can have vastly different religious views and keep them separate, support and respect is what matters not participation, even if you marry a man it does not give him the right to tell you what to believe or like same for you with him

Different Teams with respect to stuff that dont touch your core values, super . Who cares if youre on a different football team, beauty competition or even chess game? I definitely wont choose a partner whose values are not aligned with mine, like you support stuff I feel strongly about like tribalism, corruption etc so I guess that covers politics. IMO, a spouse with a different religion is a recipe for disaster unless at least one party is pretty laid back about his/her religion and even at that the over zealous one may pressure the complacent one into becoming more fiery.

Gloriagee:
Different Teams with respect to stuff that dont touch your core values, super . Who cares if youre on a different football team, beauty competition or even chess game? I definitely wont choose a partner whose values are not aligned with mine, like you support stuff I feel strongly about like tribalism, corruption etc so I guess that covers politics. IMO, a spouse with a different religion is a recipe for disaster unless at least one party is pretty laid back about his/her religion and even at that the over zealous one may pressure the complacent one into becoming more fiery.

What about an atheist? We will fight for your right to follow whatever religion you choose, the same cannot be said for religious people?

A good and supportive man is always a good supportive man godly or godless, all couples need healthy time apart so church could just be your thing and ill give you an example

I am an atheist but my 6 year old daughter is christian and i drive her to church with a nanny, give my daughter a kiss on the cheek and say see you later kjaere then i either wait in the car and listen to music until shes done or go for a coffee and collect her after because she asked for that

Respect and support are what matter not participation

It might work in other aspects of life, like football, but not in politics. People's political ideologies are often a reflection of their essence and nature. Relationships are also highly influential. You can't love someone without being influenced by some of their beliefs. You will always influence each other so deeply that critical issues like politics will eventually have you both agreeing on one thing.

When you find yourselves disagreeing on core issues like religion or politics without any issues in your home, it likely means that one or both of you do not truly care deeply about that issue. Na why you will hardly see a devoted Christian and a devoted Muslim together.

That works for you cos you are not a fanatic. (Un)fortunately depending on your POV, I'm a fanatic! I only pray in the name of Jesus and compel my household to do so, not sure I can cope with an atheist spouse.

As I said, your tolerance levels is proportional to how core a value is to your personality. Hope this helps!

Fenrir:
What about an atheist? We will fight for your right to follow whatever religion you choose, the same cannot be said for religious people?

A good and supportive man is always a good supportive man godly or godless, all couples need healthy time apart so church could just be your thing and ill give you an example

I am an atheist but my 6 year old daughter is christian and i drive her to church with a nanny, give my daughter a kiss on the cheek and say see you later kjaere then i either wait in the car and listen to music until shes done or go for a coffee and collect her after because she asked for that

Respect and support are what matter not participation

Gloriagee:
That works for you cos you are not a fanatic. (Un)fortunately depending on your POV, I'm a fanatic! I only pray in the name of Jesus and compel my household to do so, not sure I can cope with an atheist spouse.

As I said, your tolerance levels is proportional to how core a value is to your personality. Hope this helps!

Im Scandinavian not Nigerian and im marrying an igbo catholic, do you think anything is more important to me then her and my daughter? Scandinavians are the most tolerant and equal people in the world, yes we see Islam as threat but thats Islam not Muslims we mean the extremists like isis the kind that spout hate speech, the kind that are taking over the uk at moment and want to kill jews

Fenrir:
What about an atheist? We will fight for your right to follow whatever religion you choose, the same cannot be said for religious people?

A good and supportive man is always a good supportive man godly or godless, all couples need healthy time apart so church could just be your thing and ill give you an example

I am an atheist but my 6 year old daughter is christian and i drive her to church with a nanny, give my daughter a kiss on the cheek and say see you later kjaere then i either wait in the car and listen to music until shes done or go for a coffee and collect her after because she asked for that

Respect and support are what matter not participation

There are different perspectives among atheists, and not all atheists fit into the same category. Generally, they can be grouped as follows:

Nonreligious Individuals: These people do not follow or subscribe to any particular religious tradition. They may not personally believe in religious doctrines but are generally accepting of others who do. For them, religion isn’t a central concern in their lives, and they’re often indifferent to its presence in society.

Nonbelievers: These individuals explicitly do not believe in the existence of any gods or deities. However, their stance can vary from being simply uninterested in religion to being critical of it. They might avoid participating in or endorsing religious practices but aren't necessarily hostile toward others' beliefs.

Agnostics: Agnostics take the position that the existence or nonexistence of a deity is unknown or unknowable. They neither affirm nor deny a god’s existence, often focusing on evidence-based reasoning. Agnostics typically aren’t "anti-religion" but prioritize open-mindedness and skepticism.

I hope you understand what I am saying.

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Gloriagee:
That works for you cos you are not a fanatic. (Un)fortunately depending on your POV, I'm a fanatic! I only pray in the name of Jesus and compel my household to do so, not sure I can cope with an atheist spouse.

As I said, your tolerance levels is proportional to how core a value is to your personality. Hope this helps!

You do not even need to be a fanatic, even as a passive Christian there are types of atheist that you can never co-habit with. They are Fanatic atheist (Agnostics), therefore they hate the sound of anything religious at all. They can kill you for even mentioning Church or Islam.

tosinhtml:
It depends, there are different types of atheist. The nonreligious, the nonbelievers, and the agnostics. Nonreligious means not subscribing to one of the big, traditional religions which is the category that you are, It means while you do not subscribe to it, It might be Okay for others around you to go ahead and believe.

Others such as the nonbelievers, and the agnostics are more Anti-religion, means there is no God & do not preach anything near me. These ones are usually aggressive, they hate religion with all their heart & hate others talking about it.

I hope you understand what I am saying.

I don't believe in any god or anything supernatural, but i do value 2 laws that 183 have, freedom of beliefs and freedom of choice, 12 countries dont have them and Nigeria is one of those 12 you have freedom worship and freedom of expression

tosinhtml:
You do not even need to be a fanatic, even as a passive Christian there are types of atheist that you can never co-habit with. They are Fanatic atheist (Agnostics), therefore they hate the sound of anything religious at all. They can kill you for even mentioning Church or Islam.

Please upgrade your dictionary agnostics are not athiests completely they are unsure so 50/50 on gods existence

Acidosis:
It might work in other aspects of life, like football, but not in politics. People's political ideologies are often a reflection of their essence and nature. Relationships are also highly influential. You can't love someone without being influenced by some of their beliefs. You will always influence each other so deeply that critical issues like politics will eventually have you both agreeing on one thing.

When you find yourselves disagreeing on core issues like religion or politics without any issues in your home, it likely means that one or both of you do not truly care deeply about that issue. Na why you will hardly see a devoted Christian and a devoted Muslim together.

True, even feminism sef. If a wife is a core feminist & husband is not, that marriage will not last. One of them has not truly care about the subject OR agree fully for their union to last.

Fenrir:
I don't believe in any god or anything supernatural, but i do value 2 laws that 183 have, freedom of beliefs and freedom of choice, 12 countries dont have them and Nigeria is on of those 12 you have freedom worship and freedom of expression

Freedom of choice means you don't hate the other options, you simply do not care about them, there is a difference.

Fenrir:
Please upgrade your dictionary agnostics are not athiests completely they are unsure so 50/50 on gods existence

Yeah I think I mixed it up, but you get what I mean.

tosinhtml:
Freedom of choice means you don't hate the other options, you simply do not care about them, there is a difference.

Exactly i dont hate anything or anyone yolo and life is too short for hate

I'll never step inside a church though

Yahweh was once wrathful and turned a woman into a pillar of salt

How do i know its not a vampire type deal, like if he was real i burst into flames and he laughs
Sorry not worth the risk

tosinhtml:
True, even feminism sef. If a wife is a core feminist & husband is not, that marriage will not last. One of them has not truly care about the subject OR agree fully for their union to last.

Absolutely

tosinhtml:
True, even feminism sef. If a wife is a core feminist & husband is not, that marriage will not last. One of them has not truly care about the subject OR agree fully for their union to last.

Debatable

1st and 2nd wave feminism achieved what you wanted back home in Europe and America every step beyond has destroyed the family unit so 3rd wave was overkill

However 1st and 2nd wave are needed here

Yeah, its fine honestly. Religion imo is personal and should not be imposed really. So far you and your fiance are on the same wavelength, it should not be much of a deal. Look out for kindness,
tolerance and anger mgt.

Fenrir:
Im Scandinavian not Nigerian and im marrying an igbo catholic, do you think anything is more important to me then her and my daughter? Scandinavians are the most tolerant and equal people in the world, yes we see Islam as threat but thats Islam not Muslims we mean the extremists like isis the kind that spout hate speech, the kind that are taking over the uk at moment and want to kill jews

Gloriagee:
Yeah, its fine honestly. Religion imo is personal and should not be imposed really. So far you and your fiance are on the same wavelength, it should not be much of a deal. Look out for kindness,
tolerance and anger mgt.

We have an agreement, my is daughter 6 so can switch from original flavour Christian to the fizzy Catholic flavour and attend with the Mrs. that gives me 3 hours a week to listen to Norwegian metal which they both hate then i rock up to the church to collect them, simple and perfect with me just one thing bothers her

That i know her bible better then her priest yet i dont believe a word of it

BEST WISHES IN ADVANCE TO YOU AND YOUR MISSUS

Fenrir:
We have an agreement, my is daughter 6 so can switch from original flavour Christian to the fizzy Catholic flavour and attend with the Mrs. that gives me 3 hours a week to listen to Norwegian metal which they both hate then i rock up to the church to collect them, simple and perfect with me just one thing bothers her

That i know her bible better then her priest yet i dont believe a word of it