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Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by ElSudani: 5:40pm On Dec 04, 2024
Your wife is a model citizen. You are the problem.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Tradepunter2: 5:42pm On Dec 04, 2024
Kobojunkie:
Well, the culture of slave selling in Africa probably happened for well over 1000 years before the Portuguese and eventually the Americans showed up on African shores. Yes, it was corruption on some inhumane level but it was an industry that was accepted and thrived for probably a very long time too. Sadly, Africa didn't seem to reap much benefits from it but places like Egypt and maybe even the Ethiopian Kingdoms are said to have benefitted from it before its eventual decline. undecided
The slave mindset is still striving.... Only difference is that our leaders are the new slave owners..... They steal and send our resources to outsiders.... They borrow on our future without any consequences..... Just the way they made profits back then so also are they making profits now
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Kobojunkie: 5:46pm On Dec 04, 2024
Tradepunter2:
➜The slave mindset is still striving.... Only difference is that our leaders are the new slave owners..... They steal and send our resources to outsiders.... They borrow on our future without any consequences..... Just the way they made profits back then so also are they making profits now
😩😩😩😩

The leaders are a mirror of the followers though. And until the followers decide they have had enough of the rot...until those lower on the totem pole begin to change their mindset and demand better, those at the top will continue as they have.😩😩😩😩
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Tradepunter2: 5:54pm On Dec 04, 2024
maziude:
But you aren’t military, right?

The point most people here are trying to make is- the army is not a private security tool to be used to settle personal score.

We have taken too many things for granted that we normalize abnormalities.

This is what people are trying to change. Military for military things not for oppression or settling personal scores.
The subsidiary is civilian/military hybrid.... You are very right tho, the use of the military to settle scores is gross abuse. I agree with you on this, it's just that if we had an effective and efficient police force there will be no need for military interference in civilian matter.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Tradepunter2: 6:02pm On Dec 04, 2024
Kobojunkie:
😩😩😩😩

The leaders are a mirror of the followers though. And until the followers decide they have had enough of the rot...until those lower on the totem pole begin to change their mindset and demand better, those at the top will continue as they have.😩😩😩😩
I don't agree, when Leaders are hanged and punished for wrong doing the followers will realign.... I remembered a case that the head of a community was letting his minions run loose.... The locals lived in fear, even police couldn't deal with him... Someone we wanted to do a massive project reached out to our ogas... Then the matter landed in our table... He was taken care off and most of his minions ran while others locked up... That action changed the entire community... This was when I strongly believed deal with bad leadership and everyone else gets sense by default
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Kobojunkie: 6:13pm On Dec 04, 2024
Tradepunter2:
➜I don't agree, when Leaders are hanged and punished for wrong doing the followers will realign....
➜I remembered a case that the head of a community was letting his minions run loose.... The locals lived in fear, even police couldn't deal with him... Someone we wanted to do a massive project reached out to our ogas... Then the matter landed in our table... He was taken care off and most of his minions ran while others locked up... That action changed the entire community... This was when I strongly believed deal with bad leadership and everyone else gets sense by default
That very same happened not long ago in a place called Ghana. How did that work out? Isn't Ghana back on its knees as we speak? undecided

2. You forgot to mention how long it changed the entire community because your story does not indicate that the people and police were less capable of being preyed upon by the next set of gangsters to show up shortly. You claimed your group saved the people that one time, and assuming you are not right now the ones preying on them, do you equally intend to continue serving as their savior continually? undecided
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by emapeteum(m): 6:23pm On Dec 04, 2024
I think your wife understood military laws. There is a whole lot of illegality in that country.You don't settle civil laws by bringing the army to do the dirty job. I think you should commend your wife.My sister , who is a military officer, made me know those laws
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by maziude: 6:47pm On Dec 04, 2024
Tradepunter2:
The subsidiary is civilian/military hybrid.... You are very right tho, the use of the military to settle scores is gross abuse. I agree with you on this, it's just that if we had an effective and efficient police force there will be no need for military interference in civilian matter.
You are right.
If only the police could be build up to at least the bare minimum standards. Things like this wouldn’t be up for a discussion.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by DDDDDav: 7:05pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
d boy was bullied and nearly killed...



U don't know how this feels. I already called her mother, it not a difficult mata, na to refund me introduction money make she go marry man wey she go dey control.

Am just waiting for her off.

I don dey find opportunity to leave am since, this is just a perfect opportunity to leave her. After all it was a forced marriage.
Bro....remove those thoughts from your mind. Assert yourself if that is what makes you happy, she will oblige. Be the man as much as you can irrespective of the fact that she is a soldier. Just don't try to oppress. Also, if you feel like you are tired. Try to travel away from her for like a month or two, you would see that your judgement of her would change. You would one way or the other miss her.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by eepeepook: 7:30pm On Dec 04, 2024
What an imaginative story.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by stainzvill(m): 7:38pm On Dec 04, 2024
Thank God for your wife u for don chop beating
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by simpleseyi: 8:05pm On Dec 04, 2024
pocohantas:
I must commend your wife.
You want her to go fight your battles and when she is caught, the narrative would be how women were not created to handle power.


The police is there for civil cases.
Go call them.
But if he is the one in her position, he would fight her battles, fight for her brothers and sisters, even her cousins and far relatives, not to talk of her parents.

Try to dey use your head
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Tradepunter2: 8:16pm On Dec 04, 2024
Kobojunkie:
That very same happened not long ago in a place called Ghana. How did that work out? Isn't Ghana back on its knees as we speak? undecided

2. You forgot to mention how long it changed the entire community because your story does not indicate that the people and police were less capable of being preyed upon by the next set of gangsters to show up shortly. You claimed your group saved the people that one time, and assuming you are not right now the ones preying on them, do you equally intend to continue serving as their savior continually? undecided
There are various techniques to execute an operations and it comes with different aims... Our aim that time was send a major deterrence to anyone that this area is a no go area and a priority zone..... And I can tell for the remaining years before I left... During our periodical assessment of crime zones that particular community didn't come up...
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Namigotalktru: 8:25pm On Dec 04, 2024
So you want your wife to lose her job because you and your friends don’t know how to settle issues without calling armed forces?

She’s a common lieutenant a lowly officer and you want her to be “arresting” civilians.

If there is a case go to police and leave the woman alone, she should divorce you and let you marry the local beer parlour girl so she finds a fellow officer on her level.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by maziude: 8:31pm On Dec 04, 2024
simpleseyi:
But if he is the one in her position, he would fight her battles, fight for her brothers and sisters, even her cousins and far relatives, not to talk of her parents.

Try to dey use your head
Here we go with the emotional blackmail.

It is wrong to use the military for personal scores.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Evidenx(m): 8:33pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
d boy was bullied and nearly killed...



U don't know how this feels. I already called her mother, it not a difficult mata, na to refund me introduction money make she go marry man wey she go dey control.

Am just waiting for her off.

I don dey find opportunity to leave am since, this is just a perfect opportunity to leave her. After all it was a forced marriage.
your wife is more intelligent than you..
Your wife knows you are not interested in the marriage,so she Is not ready to fight any battles for you.

If she don tire you,send me her number,make I help you remove her from your life. You don't deserve her..
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by NuCypher: 8:40pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.
Your wife is actually doing the right thing. You should praise her for acting this way.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Kobojunkie: 8:54pm On Dec 04, 2024
Tradepunter2:
➜There are various techniques to execute an operations and it comes with different aims... Our aim that time was send a major deterrence to anyone that this area is a no go area and a priority zone..... And I can tell for the remaining years before I left... During our periodical assessment of crime zones that particular community didn't come up...
Go back to the same place today and get us an update report, please! undecided
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by frozen70(f): 9:18pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.
I think both of you need to discuss or talk about certain things and how you both can protect your family and children especially

Because from what I can understand, there is little or no love between both of you

If your wife can't protect you, her children or her family, then you may have offended her and she decides to be dealing with you indirectly

Being a uniform personnel comes with a little stubbornness

So, I hope you are not dragging things with her or not counting her opinions when you discuss, that's if at all you guys do discuss together

One wants to be a captain the original captain doesn't want to relinquish his position
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Tradepunter2: 9:58pm On Dec 04, 2024
Kobojunkie:
Go back to the same place today and get us an update report, please! undecided
I will get across to my people still inside because I left to work in private capacity....
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by elbulk(m): 10:01pm On Dec 04, 2024
simpleseyi:
But if he is the one in her position, he would fight her battles, fight for her brothers and sisters, even her cousins and far relatives, not to talk of her parents.

Try to dey use your head
If her battles don't make sense, he most likely won't. How come he's always having battles, says a lot about him
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by jessylaurel(f): 11:19pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.
Just because you are married to a personnel doesn’t mean you should go about looking for trouble.
.
I think she’s a passive aggressive person. Those type of people don’t know how to handle situations like that.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by jessylaurel(f): 11:25pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
bt dey will look into it eventually...


I don tire for marriage sef... after na pregnancy lie she take hold me enter marriage.
Imagine talk. 😂😂😂😂 I’m happy she’s ignoring you.

You’re obviously immature.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by jessylaurel(f): 11:27pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
nice because she is making my friends to laugh at me for not being able to call her during emergencies
You married a woman for protection yet calls her a feminist 😂😂😂😂. Oya tell me what has your masculinity done for you? Let your friends laugh very loud you deserve it.

I applaud your wife👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by maziude: 11:31pm On Dec 04, 2024
jessylaurel:
You married a woman for protection yet calls her a feminist 😂😂😂😂. Oya tell me what has your masculinity done for you? Let your friends laugh very loud you deserve it.

I applaud your wife👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
You sef see am ba 🤣
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by Bodydiialect57: 11:36pm On Dec 04, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
nice because she is making my friends to laugh at me for not being able to call her during emergencies
What if she's not in the army? Who would you have called in emergency situation?

Your woman wants you to man up!

Simple!
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by jessylaurel(f): 11:37pm On Dec 04, 2024
maziude:
You sef see am ba 🤣
It’s quite laughable 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 he thought he’s getting married to mc oluomo 🤣
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by themanderon: 1:44am On Dec 05, 2024
Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.
Help you out in what way? So you are encouraging her to come and intimidate those you have problems with? She has told you the right thing to do which is involving the policemen or do you want to get her into trouble?
I am sure you heard the investigation going on against the army general whose boys beat up a man? Don't encourage her to break the law please. She is an army officer meant to protect the territorial integrity of Nigeria not to settle scores between civilians.
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by luminouz(m): 2:10am On Dec 05, 2024
iamL:
Really? So if you kill or rape someone your wife should support you because you are her husband,how are you different from Nigeria leaders?

Tell us what your boy did that his own mother refused to help him. Maybe he is one of those that feel that he can do anything because his mom is in the army.
It is so easy to know most women can't reason logically. Look at the trash you wrote for God's sake. If the roles were reversed, this same you will be screaming that the man is so cruel to be indifferent to his wife's son almost beaten to death. You will call him names and abuse him and right here on NL, you will curse him join. You women always support the narrative that benefits your emotions and frankly that sûcks ass and swallows.

So if the boy was beaten to death, you will be happy or blame the man again?
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by luminouz(m): 2:12am On Dec 05, 2024
themanderon:
Help you out in what way? So you are encouraging her to come and intimidate those you have problems with? She has told you the right thing to do which is involving the policemen or do you want to get her into trouble?
I am sure you heard the investigation going on against the army general whose boys beat up a man? Don't encourage her to break the law please. She is an army officer meant to protect the territorial integrity of Nigeria not to settle scores between civilians.
Mûmû...so her son can be beaten to death and she will be happy.

It's either the boy is never her child or she never loved her husband. There is no woman on earth that will be so indifferent to her family affairs like that. So what dafuq you talking about, pûnk?
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by luminouz(m): 2:13am On Dec 05, 2024
jessylaurel:
It’s quite laughable 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 he thought he’s getting married to mc oluomo 🤣
Let's see the roles reversed and we'll see if you will still be laughing ..
Hypocrite oshi!
Re: My Wife Is An Officer But She Doesn't Involve Herself In My Affairs by luminouz(m): 2:15am On Dec 05, 2024
elbulk:
If her battles don't make sense, he most likely won't. How come he's always having battles, says a lot about him
Mûmû...naso men dey do inside marriage abi? Nah today men dey die for wahala created by women?

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