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I need to put this out to know people understanding and opinion about this scenario. When couples separated but not yet divorce and the both couple either the man or woman went ahead to have sexual relationship with someone else, are we going to take that as cheating or adultery and should not be counted against them because they are separated, this is especially from the woman side. She already had sexual encounter with another man and her claim was that she was separated and such can't be used against her. Can such marriage be reconcile back with such baggages on ground or both should just proceed to divorce and move on.what are the consequences effects of such union if they eventually reconcile, would it be better if they divorce and move on. Matured and experience inputs will be welcomed and appreciated.

Afodot0022:
I need to put this out to know people understanding and opinion about this scenario. When couples separated but not yet divorce and the both couple either the man or woman went ahead to have sexual relationship with someone else, are we going to take that as cheating or adultery and should not be counted against them because they are separated, this is especially from the woman side. She already had sexual encounter with another man and her claim was that she was separated and such can't be used against her. Can such marriage be reconcile back with such baggages on ground or both should just proceed to divorce and move on.what are the consequences effects of such union if they eventually reconcile, would it be better if they divorce and move on. Matured and experience inputs will be welcomed and appreciated.

Once you separate from your spouse, just forget whatever what happened during that period. If you don't want to swallow such a pill, then don't ever separate from your spouse!!

It is always better you try to settle differences instead of rushing into your separate ways because things are going to get muckier after the separation as coming together again means both of you are coming with more baggages!!

Anyway, you can see it as a draw since you were equally into such relationship during the separation period as you once shared here!!!

What you need more than anything, at this point is peace.
Leave everything/everyone for now, and seek peace for yourself, first and foremost.
Enough of going after what is not coming to you.
Enough of putting yourself out to be judged.
Stop being hard on yourself.
Give yourself rest.
Let go, and allow God fix things for you.

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Can you both seek proper counseling? Apparently, you both are bot sure what you want to do and a few counseling sessions should be able to help guide your thoughts to reach a better decision for yourselves and the kids.

As for your question, it depends on who you ask. Some feel people can do whatever they want while separated while some think people should stay celibate. Truth is, both are right and that is why you both want to conclude based on what you think is best for you both and not what outsiders feel.

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It's interesting how your mind works

How do you move through life biko? It is well. May God bless you with intelligence and wisdom

Mariangeles:
What you need more than anything, at this point is peace.
Leave everything/everyone for now, and seek peace for yourself, first and foremost.
Enough of going after what is not coming to you.
Enough of putting yourself out to be judged.
Stop being hard on yourself.
Give yourself rest.
Let go, and allow God fix things for you.

Well said.

Oga. Nairaland don tire for your matter. Haba! Na only you? Is your ex wife the only woman in the world? Only you have 33 threads on this matter. 33!! How can you be productive?

Ha! Abeg ooo.

Dogalmighty17:
Oga. Nairaland don tire for your matter. Haba! Na only you? Is your ex wife the only woman in the world? Only you have 33 threads on this matter. 33!! How can you be productive?

Ha! Abeg ooo.

Hahahaha..I just wanted to type this.
I don’t know how this man reasons but it’s very weird. Same man deceived a girl with marriage just to sleep with her. Same man that “cheated” is asking if it’s wrong for his wife to do same. Very anyhow man