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Arobaga:
Was your mother married a virgin?



You’re always here supporting Tinubu one can tell your moms bride price wasn’t even paid



From your write ups one would know you were born in IDP camp

PulaPower:
Okay cool..

Unlike a particular region where Bride price is like they’re selling the female child..

Arobaga:
Was your mother married a virgin?



You’re always here supporting Tinubu one can tell your moms bride price wasn’t even paid



From your write ups one would know you were born in IDP camp

SisterAnn:
Nnaa ehn

High bride price is one of the reasons why there's lower failed marriages in Igbo land.

You see all these guys wey dey demand one cup of salt and one cup palm oil as pride price, the men dey quick pursue their wives.

Kizyte:
My problem here is not the bride price, but turning the wedding arena to war zone with the combination of beans and coke. Imagine the magnitude of the atomic bombs 💣

Arobaga:
Was your mother married a virgin?



You’re always here supporting Tinubu one can tell your moms bride price wasn’t even paid



From your write ups one would know you were born in IDP camp

Arobaga:
Was your mother married a virgin?



You’re always here supporting Tinubu one can tell your moms bride price wasn’t even paid



From your write ups one would know you were born in IDP camp

Offpoint1:
Bride price is a crime against humanity, humans are just pathetic creatures that tends to attached money to everything.
The only creation that's pays to survive on a planet nature given to all creation for free.

No other creature pays to eat, sleep, and procreate, except humans.
These pathetic creatures are selling lands they have no clue how the earth will arrived here.
Too much sense go kill humans

If 2 humans seen reasons to live together as partners, both parents should bless the union let them go their ways. Whoever introduced bride price was a retarded azzhole.

I will never sell matter daughter to no human... F*ck man made traditions

ExAngel007:
Mixed reactions trail fixed bride price of N5000 and four basins of cooked butter beans for Eggon women in Nasarawa state

Mixed reactions have continued to trail the harmonised bride price of the people of Eggon ethnic group in Nasarawa State.

The Aren Eggon, HRH Justice Ahmed Ubangari Alaku (Rtd) pegged N5,000 as the bride price with four basins of traditional butter beans known as Ebyekpyen as the maximum requirements to be met by the groom in order to marry an Eggon lady.

Aren Eggon, who is the paramount ruler of the Eggon people worldwide, made the pronouncement on May 25, 2024, at his palace in Nassarawa Eggon Local Government Area.

The royal father explained that the action was in response to the outcry from many quarters, complaining about the exorbitant requirements often placed on young men intending to marry
Eggon ladies.

“We thank Almighty God for what has happened today about these two events; the issue of bride price in Eggon land and the little crises that have affected our growing children. These two issues have been pending for a long time and I am particularly happy that what has been bothering our local communities has come, particularly the issue of bride price in Eggon land. And I am sure you have seen the reaction from the crowd,"
he said.

"It is an issue that has been affecting the youth, both the female and male alike. You see them littering around because they cannot pay the dowries. So exorbitant. During our days, if I should
tell you how much I paid my father-in-law, you will be shocked

“And we don’t want these children to remain at home. Let them marry in good time so they can bring children in good time. It is not good to wait till when you are 50 (years old) before you get married and he starts producing children. By the time these children are growing, he is also getting older. The training will not be there. I think that is the essence of what we have done. Train these children in good time so they can become
good citizens.

“I told them I have done my own. What is left is for the parents of the children. If they go by this, the happier the lots of all of us. If they refuse it, the children will remain at home with them, which is the problem we are trying to avoid. I am now using this opportunity to call on to them to abide by this conventional agreement which has been reached this morning so that it becomes something for the good of Eggon land," the traditional ruler
added.

The presentation of the butter bean is very significant as it validates the marriage between the two couples.

The bride's family accepts or rejects the butter beans from the groom's family as a sign of their approval or disapproval of the marriage.
The butter bean is specially prepared with Beni seed and lots of palm oil that can be seen on the surface.

In a Facebook post on Friday, December 6, some people expressed their approval of the fixed bride price while others insisted that the requirements are still too high.

Oo0Oo0Oo0:
I remember attending one Eggon traditional marriage. Only thing served is this beans, cooked with plenty of oil, sparse ingredients, tasteless. So tasteless that we abandoned it and ate only mangoes which they had in abundance.

nesphil:
You're very correct.

My brother married an Eggon woman.
Those basins of beans that you're seeing there are so tasteless as if they didn't use any spice to cook them.

We couldn't eat it honestly.

My brother married the first daughter, so they collected one big pig, too.

Konquest:
Whoa! So, it's true afterall. Tasteless butter beans... NOT even salt was added? It's such a fascinating culture though and it would be nice find out why they do that (i.e., eating tasteless butter beans).

Ishilove:
It seems only elders bother about knowing the origins of certain cultural practices. Food is normally spiced for taste, so if the butter beans which ordinarily should be prepared with salt and other ingredients is left tasteless, there must be a reason for it because in this same thread someone said butter beans is delicious when cooked.

For example, in my hometown, eating snails are forbidden. I have never eaten snails and will never eat them. When I asked my parents the origin of this practice, even they could not give me a concrete answer. They were only certain of the repercussions of breaking the taboo, but could not tell me the history of that taboo. I am still hoping I can meet someone who can transmit the oral history to me.

BoldBrainz:
These people sha like beans . E be me like say my ancestors get ties to this tribe.

AareGaa:
No amount is too much if you're marrying a virgin.
But spending millions of Naira to marry a girl that has been mounted by at least 3 guys is a total waste of money.

EmperorCaesar:
A reasonable price and list

Its unreasonable to overprice a woman thats not a virgin

Arobaga:
Was your mother married a virgin?



You’re always here supporting Tinubu one can tell your moms bride price wasn’t even paid



From your write ups one would know you were born in IDP camp

Offpoint1:
Bride price is a crime against humanity, humans are just pathetic creatures that tends to attached money to everything.
The only creation that's pays to survive on a planet nature given to all creation for free.

No other creature pays to eat, sleep, and procreate, except humans.
These pathetic creatures are selling lands they have no clue how the earth arrived here.


If 2 humans seen reasons to live together as partners, both parents should bless the union let them go their ways. Whoever introduced bride price was a retarded azzhole.

I will never sell matter daughter to no human... F*ck man made traditions

SisterAnn:
Eeya 😃

But as broke nigga wey you be, virgin no go reach your hand.

You go save taya😃

Laslas, na the one wey another person don impregnate you go marry 😬

Konquest:
@Ishilove, I was about logging off when I saw your brilliant mention. What you posted here is really fascinating! You know why? It brought back some memories for me.

First off, 2 different guys on this thread (whose family members got married to Eggon women) actually said the butter beans is tasteless. I didn't notice the post of anybody who said it's tasty while rapidly scanning the thread posts. I'll check/read the thread pages again.

https://www.nairaland.com/8286806/bride-price-n5000-four-basins#133189034

So back to the escargot taboo story, I met a young lady slightly over 25 years ago (she was then a freshman in a Nigerian Uni) who was fluent in Yoruba language because she was born in Lagos State and hailed from Isokoland (Ozoro to be precise) in Delta State and she told me the EXACT thing you posted right here that in her place in Isokoland, they do NOT eat snails, and I raised my eyebrows in disbelief!

I actually love global history, and I study cultures and taste local cuisines while traveling from time to time.

It's REALLY amazing that your town folks in Ukwuani ALSO have the same culture with the Isokos of NOT eating snails. It seems you guys might be ancestrally related since Isokoland and Ukwuani share boundaries. There MUST have been a common OR shared ancestry then with outward migration of folks still carrying the taboo of NOT eating snails along with them. That's my strong hypothesis here based on historical trends in human migration going back to hundreds of years.

I did ask her WHY snails are forbidden in Isokoland (Ozoro) and she said something about the "snails coming to the rescue of their ancestors from danger" centuries ago.

But on another note, I'm a lover of snails (peppered snails) from time to time with my refreshing malt drinks... They go pretty well with the taste buds. You are missing out Ishi.

Last but not least, in your Ukwuani culture, if you DON'T eat snails BUT your man (spouse does) would that have a negative metaphysical effect down the road on your relationship?

Ishilove:
Brutal

Ishilove:
Brutal

EmperorCaesar:
A reasonable price and list

Its unreasonable to overprice a woman thats not a virgin

Sonnobax15:
. Seconded........At least one basin would have been enough for a non virgin.

AareGaa:
Carry your frustration commot here!
I don't have time for overstretched pussies like you.

SisterAnn:
Nnaa ehn

High bride price is one of the reasons why there's lower failed marriages in Igbo land.

You see all these guys wey dey demand one cup of salt and one cup palm oil as pride price, the men dey quick pursue their wives.

SisterAnn:
I'm not the one that created you with a tiny preek.

AareGaa:
Mine is only tiny when compared to your borehole.
It's only a bottle a beer that can dig your wide pussies

Hotspurs:
wheres the stats

Etosha:
What is the song "Oklobiam Tete" by Plantashun Boys all about? I love the song...