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shengbo weyrey..marry a kind man, you will mess up, that one does not mean that he will not take care of you. na mumu dese women dey find. Always looking for men that will take care of them, looking for who will overlook their mess up,

A KIND MAN THAT WOULD DIE BEFORE HIS TIME FOR RUNNING AROUNG BUYING BREAD EVEN IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT.

A KIND MAN THAT WOULD BE DRAINED AND WOULD STILL BE TOLD, "WHAT HAVE YOU EVEN DONE SELF, HAVE YOU NOT SEEN OTHER MEN"

A KIND MAN THAT WOULD BE BLACKMAILED FOR NOT TAKING CARE OF THE WIFE'S FAMILY WHILE NEGLECTING HIS OWN FAMILY.

MAY GOD HELP ALL THE SUFFERING KIND ME.

IT IS WELL.

Very right!

optm:
Whether male or female, if your partner is lacking in kindness, you are in trouble already. Mind you, this kindness should not just be towards you only but to others aswell.
As regards her advice number 2, Does it matter who loves who more? Love starts and is sustained with a decision of committment to the wellbeing of another.
Most times when people are looking for who loves them more, they are looking for someone they can be abusive towards and the person would still try to put up with such abuse.
Love in a relationship should be that both partners are committed to the wellbeing of each other. With this there is no need to measure who loves who more as both are committed to making their partners happy and flourishing.

You got it spot on

Most of the people looking for people who loves them more are just selfish and self centered people

Doing relationship with them can be very terrible experience
Love should be mutual btw partners
If one gives Love natural thing is to receive Love back
But all those ones looking for who loves them more are just very selfish and self centered people

Actually I am talking based on my personal experiences
I learnt my personal lesson from it
Aall seekers of kind people should be avoided like plague, because they come with a script and may be the worst kind of people to do relationship with
They will tire and wear you out completely

Caleycash:
There's nothing wonderful about the advice... you all are looking for stupid men who are wealthy and careless with their money, untop of it that can tolerate and sponsor your lazy asses and promiscuous lifestyles, that's the ideal man 90% of women wants... a man who provides his resources at ease without checkmating you people, SHILOH 2025 awaits many of you cus lots of men are awakening to your gender's manipulations!

Not all women are unkind.
Not all women are lazy.
Not all men are wealthy with resources.
Not all wealthy men share their resources.

There's nothing stupid or careless in a man caring for and providing for his woman. It can be mutual. My husband does it for me, and I do it for him, too, with our resources, Yes!

Some women are busier than you lazy ass men who try to live off women. I do a 9-5, and outside that, I have about 4 more side hustles that are more rewarding than my 9-5. Many ladies are hustlers. My husband doesn't joke with me cause I bring a lot more than feminity to the table.

We are not all promiscuous! Some of us who are doing it do it with equally promiscuous men.

As for Shiloh 2025, or any other House of Prayer, it's a great place to be. Who wouldn't want to be in God's presence? When ladies go to God on their knees, single or married, you'll be a dunderhead to think all the time it's about men. It's ludicrous even!

AntiChristian:


That is to say marry a SIMP!

A kind man and one that loves you more than you love him!

They dere o!

Shiloh 2025 dey come soon!!!

Thank you

Victory is all yours in JESUS NAME🙏🙏🔥
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Nonsense and pathetically selfish individual:
They should marry a kind man, but no advice on whom they themselves should.

Marry a kind man, even if you are an unkind, unreasonable, unforgiven and quarrelsome woman yourself... Ready to reap where they are not ready to sow anything... bringing nothing to the table, except for being a woman!
Bullshit untold

placeofallure:
Not all women are unkind.
Not all women are lazy.
Not all men are wealthy with resources.
Not all wealthy men share their resources.

There's nothing stupid or careless in a man caring for and providing for his woman. It can be mutual. My husband does it for me, and I do it for him, too, with our resources, Yes!

Some women are busier than you lazy ass men who try to live off women. I do a 9-5, and outside that, I have about 4 more side hustles that are more rewarding than my 9-5. Many ladies are hustlers. My husband doesn't joke with me cause I bring a lot more than feminity to the table.

We are not all promiscuous! Some of us who are doing it do it with equally promiscuous men.

As for Shiloh 2025, or any other House of Prayer, it's a great place to be. Who wouldn't want to be in God's presence? When ladies go to God on their knees, single or married, you'll be a dunderhead to think all the time it's about men. It's ludicrous even!

Super story, reality states otherwise, even if you work off your ass, you all still date and marry higher!, your gender is HYPERGAMOUS by nature and very stingy 😆 🤣

One nonsense person will just Cary phone and be dishjg out advice .. who doesn't know the good of been with a kind person ? Rubbish

dominique:
Till date, I'm still haunted by the case of the pregnant woman whose husband pocketed the millions donated for her kidney diseases and took her to a church where she eventually died

Just marry a kind partner and be a kind partner

You are?

I can bet you for each of such women, there are a 1000 men who suffered such fates at the hands of their wives. Is Akeredolu's wife not among? I could go on and on.

placeofallure:
Not all women are unkind.
Not all women are lazy.
Not all men are wealthy with resources.
Not all wealthy men share their resources.

There's nothing stupid or careless in a man caring for and providing for his woman. It can be mutual. My husband does it for me, and I do it for him, too, with our resources, Yes!

Some women are busier than you lazy ass men who try to live off women. I do a 9-5, and outside that, I have about 4 more side hustles that are more rewarding than my 9-5. Many ladies are hustlers. My husband doesn't joke with me cause I bring a lot more than feminity to the table.

We are not all promiscuous! Some of us who are doing it do it with equally promiscuous men.

As for Shiloh 2025, or any other House of Prayer, it's a great place to be. Who wouldn't want to be in God's presence? When ladies go to God on their knees, single or married, you'll be a dunderhead to think all the time it's about men. It's ludicrous even!

Madam ..sit this one out. You know what those monikers mean. Being kind and loving more is not the issue, but being maltreated by these women because they think you are weak is the main issue. You know it and I know it so why don't we stop all the pretence?

GreatrAnalyst:
Nonsense and pathetically selfish individual:
They should marry a kind man, but no advice on whom they themselves should.

Marry a kind man, even if you are an unkind, unreasonable, unforgiven and quarrelsome woman yourself... Ready to reap where they are not ready to sow anything... bringing nothing to the table, except for being a woman!
Bullshit untold

You nailed it and as usual our resident feminists won't see any issue with that!

In essence,

Marry a simp , that will overlook your past.

...Only if it's easy as ordering a kind man on jumia

Truths9ja:
"Why you should marry a kind man" – Nigeria Lady shares important advice with her gender


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L06j-EFEoug?

you can't tell if a man is kind until he makes money 😏

pansophist:
Ok I change my mind. I don think am well, and I can agree that men should love women more.

If you will pay her bride price, take her as your responsibility and still find her appealing as she go through all stages of life from pregnancy to childbirth, then you better love her really well.

No talk like dat bros.

A man is not supposed to "love" a woman. She's the one that should be doing the loving in the relationship if the man wish to maintain the upper hand.

They will soon turn the kind man to a fool. It gets into their head and begins to misbehave. When I m tough and firm with little romance I get more respected. This I have found out from experience..TREAT HER LIKE AN OPTION.

PeterObi4Presid:
They don't value kind man...stop wasting ur time
Most ladies end up destroying kind men
The worst thing a man can do in marriage is make his wife his friend
Your wife is not ur friend
Friends are equal
Your wife is not ur equal
Never make ur wife equal with u in anything. Never...or else u will learn the hard way
Always draw a line, a boundary she can never cross....if she crosses...deal a great penalty.

A woman should be treated like your pet.
Time for discipline, time for reward, time to withdraw attention.

Women dont need ur unsolicited kindness....they only need and respond to leadership.

If u fail in leadership, u will pay heavily for it.

This is also not 100 percent guaranteed she will be well behaved forever, but at least it works far better than being a pvssy who wants to always please herbwomannor thinking a woman and u are equal.

You don see them finish

okoloto:
When you are kind to a naija woman your name is saved as maga 1 in her phone

They are a Perfect reflection of their men

I study things and situations in FULL not in peace meal

Truths9ja:
"Why you should marry a kind man" – Nigeria Lady shares important advice with her gender


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L06j-EFEoug?

If you are kind to me, I will reciprocate the kindness back.

Me I sha no get One Kobo wey i wan spend on anybody because i no be orphanage home

Most especially those entitled beechees from the Trenches. Most of are Liabilities and Parasites.

But most ladies dont treat men who shows they are madly in Love with respect, they sometimes put such guys in the friend zone or as a backup plan when it doesn't workout with their first/main choice.

pansophist:
Ok I change my mind. I don think am well, and I can agree that men should love women more.

If you will pay her bride price, take her as your responsibility and still find her appealing as she go through all stages of life from pregnancy to childbirth, then you better love her really well.

0neal:
But most ladies dont treat men who shows they are madly in Love with respect, they sometimes put such guys in the friend zone or as a backup plan when it doesn't workout with their first/main choice.

I agree with you.

My experience with ladies is that they are motivated by their feelings, and if they find a guy attractive, then they want to be with him and hope he reciprocates.

If he love her more and treat her like jesus, he might end up in the friend zone and exploited when convenienen thats if she doesn't find him attractive.

In a world where lots of women use the men in their DM as proof of their worthiness, seeing relationship and men as disposable because another man is one DM away, it's better if women loves more because they are more fickle and breaks relationship more than men.

What the lady said about men loving women more are those fairy tale delulu women want to be true, but in reality, women are more difficult to please, so it's in the interest of the relationship for her to be emotionally invested and loves him perfectly, for the relationship to thrive.

Badmashiii:
No talk like dat bros.

A man is not supposed to "love" a woman. She's the one that should be doing the loving in the relationship if the man wish to maintain the upper hand.

I just think one should have a good partner. Someone with a inner morality compass between good and bad.

Feelings will fade, an attractive body will loose definition, but a kindhearted partner that understands what's at stake, the worth of their commitment and marriage vows will stay in thick and thin.

But to your point, that's also true. I see how many girls see relationship through the lenses of Nollywood, where it's perfection and pixels worthy. Posting online and peperring imaginary enemies etc.


Thinking they hold all the cards and the man should be happy he is dating her, when in reality, only masculinity can crown and amplify femininity.

Women break relationship more then men, and the more invested in it she is, the less likely she sabotages it. If women love more, they won't leave easily. Also it's harder for the average man to impress a woman, so if she loves more, the better for the relationship.

Whatever jare

Boss!
You don explain am explicitly

seems like you were trolling with the second post 🤔

pansophist:
I agree with you.

My experience with ladies is that they are motivated by their feelings, and if they find a guy attractive, then they want to be with him and hope he reciprocates.

If he love her more and treat her like jesus, he might end up in the friend zone and exploited when convenienen thats if she doesn't find him attractive.

In a world where lots of women use the men in their DM as proof of their worthiness, seeing relationship and men as disposable because another man is one DM away, it's better if women loves more because they are more fickle and breaks relationship more than men.

What the lady said about men loving women more are those fairy tale delulu women want to be true, but in reality, women are more difficult to please, so it's in the interest of the relationship for her to be emotionally invested and loves him perfectly, for the relationship to thrive.

0neal:
Boss!
You don explain am explicitly

seems like you were trolling with the second post 🤔

I don think am well again, the thing no follow. Women need love men for the relationship to thrive.

Far back when I think of the women that worried my life and would not appreciate anything, they didn't love me as much as I did, and I was suffering.

The first girl I buy Android nokia phone for, small kiss I no see, and I love her like mad.

But she sell the phone and gave the money to her crush, one guy wey short like Tupac come get sporting waves for head.

She no love me, so my bountiful love was more of an annoyance, if not disgust. Na since High school sha, and that was the last time I simped.

So yes. Women should love more, or else the man will be punished and they will sabotage the relationship or give him bastard.

pansophist:
I don think am well again, the thing no follow. Women need love men for the relationship to thrive.

Far back when I think of the women that worried my life and would not appreciate anything, they didn't love me as much as I did, and I was suffering.

The first girl I buy Android nokia phone for, small kiss I no see, and I love her like mad.

But she sell the phone and gave the money to her crush, one guy wey short like Tupac come get sporting waves for head.

She no love me, so my bountiful love was more of an annoyance, if not disgust. Na since High school sha, and that was the last time I simped.

So yes. Women should love more, or else the man will be punished and they will sabotage the relationship or give him bastard.

Nope.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Nope.

Why?

pansophist:
hould be happy he is dating her, when in reality, only masculinity can crown and amplify femininity.

Women break relationship more then men, and the more invested in it she is, the less likely she sabotages it. If women love more, they won't leave easily. Also it's harder for the average man to impress a woman, so if she loves more, the better for the relationship.

Whatever jare

I like how you coined it - "average man". Most women have seen it all. There is nothing I would do to impress my female classmates as it is. They have seen much more from other men than I can impress them with.

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Furthermore, her ability to be satisfied and not sabotage her relationship goes hand in hand to how much her hypergamy has been stretched.

If a girl travels to Dubai steady under the sponsorship of men, uses expensive gadgets and living a flying life, there is no way on earth that Lady will be satisfied dating about average man who can't give her such experiences.

It just doesn't make sense when women judge everything externally, while avoiding their internal work necessary. No matter how you love a dog, if it's a wild dog, it will betray your love. It's about the woman, not the man.

This is also why men prefer younger women because older ones have seen it all. I don't even think I can impress the average 27 years old girl. I don't know the men that are in their DM and her overstretched and promised her heaven and earth.

I don't know her expectations, how she wants me to act or how much she expects from me based on what her ex have did, or her friend boyfriend treats her.

How can such woman allow me love her or not see my love as disgust if I can't measure up to the previous?

The biggest impediment for women to experience and appreciate a loving men is their hypergamy. Hypergamy is always ascending, never descending. Hence a man should verify the lifestyle of a woman before doing anything with her.

Otherwise you'll be punished for loving her because you can't ever measure up, and she will lack the ability to introspect and accept that he has done his best to his level, and her overstretched hypergamy is the problem, not the man.

CC. Badmashii

pansophist:
Furthermore, her ability to be satisfied and not sabotage her relationship goes hand in hand to how much her hypergamy has been stretched.

If a girl travels to Dubai steady under the sponsorship of men, uses expensive gadgets and living a flying life, there is no way on earth that Lady will be satisfied dating about average man who can't give her such experiences.

It just doesn't make sense when women judge everything externally, while avoiding their internal work necessary. No matter how you love a dog, if it's a wild dog, it will betray your love. It's about the woman, not the man.

This is also why men prefer younger women because older ones have seen it all. I don't even think I can impress the average 27 years old girl. I don't know the men that are in their DM and her overstretched and promised her heaven and earth.

I don't know her expectations, how she wants me to act or how much she expects from me based on what her ex have did, or her friend boyfriend treats her.

How can such woman allow me love her or not see my love as disgust if I can't measure up to the previous?

The biggest impediment for women to experience and appreciate a loving men is their hypergamy. Hypergamy is always ascending, never descending. Hence a man should verify the lifestyle of a woman before doing anything with her.

Otherwise you'll be punished for loving her because you can't ever measure up, and she will lack the ability to introspect and accept that he has done his best to his level, and her overstretched hypergamy is the problem, not the man.

CC. Badmashii

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