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Not saying that this is what you should do, but sometimes marriage and kids solve this issue.
He still sees her as a single woman that is why he is still pushing. Believing that they can still be together.
If you should marry her now and drop one kid, it is over.

No dey put girl for head

Dem no worth am... keep improving on yourself...na dem go dey put you for head...

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Quit? Hell no. What happened to us men? In the old days, this was settled with a duel. Ask that guy to meet you at Onikan stadium for a machete fight tomorrow at 6AM. The winner takes the girl.

What happened to us men?

Desperate guys like these are very dangerous. Treat with caution is all I can say.

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

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A lady that wants to end a relationship is never helpless...she knows what to do. You are being played.

Serious ladies usually destroy their old sim card, get a new SIM and give out numbers to those she feels are important in her new life. Until then, save up money for DNA test or do the noble thing and end the relationship.

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Vikto17:
she is the one telling me all this things ,, l did not find out myself

change her sim card and number

What you gonna know is that, it's nit easy to accept defeat

Vikto17:
so what do u advice l do?

This is inevitable, she would use vex want to see the guy face to face in order to give him last warning, and when she get there, the guy, (having fuvk her many times before) will always has it easier to convince her again to get nack. And when they finish, they will agree that he should stop calling her except , so so so ways. The woman will promise him that she would always come and see him when she had chance but only if he can promise he won't be disturbing her again. It is likely they continue that way even after settling down with you.

Allow this girl to finish her mission with her ex before you take her serious, otherwise, you may father another man's children wuthiout knowing.

Vikto17:
so what do u advice l do?

Don't leave your woman because of a persistent ex.

Find out if your woman is making efforts in not having anything to do with the guy. When the guy calls her when you're around, inform the guy that you have paid bride price of your woman, so he should stay clear.

Sound very serious

She should continue blocking him

Never trust he's my ex, we're just friends, he's my bestie.... Bro! Shine your eye Wello cos this girls are never to be trusted.

Run o

frank417:
Not saying that this is what you should do, but sometimes marriage and kids solve this issue.
He still sees her as a single woman that is why he is still pushing. Believing that they can still be together.
If you should marry her now and drop one kid, it is over.

Sometimes, not all the time.

laivwire:
If you love her, why would you drop her because of a persistent ex? If no man is chasing your girl, it means you've been left with remnants rejected by everyone else. You should be comfortable only if you have confidence in her and know she truly love you. Some Ex can be so useless too.

Just let her be, she will chase him off herself but also keep an eye out so she's not playing you for a fool... and there's no need picking up a fight with him. Only if neccessary, talk to him when he calls when you're around and warn him to mind himself or you will treat his Bleep up. Simple.

Women don't love men.

You may later become the ex, calling her. Use your head, if the guy is still persistent, pick up the call one day and insult his ego, start respectfully and be disrespectful if you get the energy. Why would you want to give up a good thing because someone feels he deserves it more than you…the funny thing is, the guy would still cheat once given the opportunity to

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Who is your girlfriend? Is she from Ogun state? Is she currently in the University and would be graduating next year??

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Don't go and procure high BP with your own money for yourself.
The girl is not yet serious about calling it quits with the said ex.
If she does, she knows what and how to tell the guy off.
The fact that she doesn't know what to do to get him off her tail is a sign she still has soft spot for him. Trust me, that's a huge red flag you don't wanna ignore!
Throw it back to her, give her altimatum,if she's really serious with you, she knows what to do. And don't ever let her drag you into her ex dramas.
Apply your energy to something more profitable.
If you ever sense any trace of foul play,be mercilessly brutal!
Show no mercy, take no prisoners.
I'm speaking from experience.

Zulu11zulu:
Change her numbers then if it continues ask her how he got her numbers if she didn't give you good answers then quiet because she may be the one calling the guy.

Honestly i have been looking forward to tbis response, OP this is all u need to do. M

Trustmea:
Honestly i have been looking forward to tbis response, OP this is all u need to do. M

She should come up with that idea herself.
He can't live her life for her.
If she wants to get the ex off,she knows what to do.
If not,na nuisance she go dey constitute for the guy

I maintained if a lady is not a virgin, never pay her bride price.

Vikto17:
My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...

The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....

l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....

Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Why are you so worked up. I still call my phone Ex on phone and we talk often but never meet. She has now relocated to the UK with her family and we still talk.
Even my wife knows her, they are like friends.
It is not in all situations that Exes come back.

In relationship things, women are smarter. Ask her the statues of her ex. Women will always go for the one that will provide assurance as per davidos music. Assurance encompasses comfort and better living now and in the future.
Sometimes this is stage managed to trigger and let you know that there is an option and she is a wanted babe.
If she doesn't want you to know about his calls or any other thing going on, there is no way you can know even if you are with her 24/7.

This is why I always advice girls to avoid multiple sexual relationships, because they can never remain the same coming out of it. They find it difficult maintaining a good home subsequently.
That girl is only loyal to you because you guys are probably going through a good time. Trust me, by the time you guys get married and see finish enters (you know how it feels waking up every day of your life and seeing the very same face lying beside you) and added to the fact that issues or challenges would definitely crop up in the marriage at a certain point, this same girl at that time would start to compare you with her previous guys, and start wondering if she would have been better treated or better off with her ex. And God would save you if at that period, her ex no longer has access to her. Because if he does, she'd definitely cheat on you at that point. So I advise guys to avoid women with multiple guys from her past especially guys she still has access to. It doesn't matter if the relationship is going well rgt now between you guys. You guys are in the honey moon period if the relationship. Always think of the days ahead when you guys would probably face challenges in your marriage. Would she still be that faithful especially with her ex around?
And like others have suggested, you have to find out her history with her ex. If they shared stuffs so deeply then it's a red flag sign.

Zulu11zulu:
Change her numbers then if it continues ask her how he got her numbers if she didn't give you good answers then quiet because she may be the one calling the guy.

This is the best option for you bro

frank417:
Not saying that this is what you should do, but sometimes marriage and kids solve this issue.
He still sees her as a single woman that is why he is still pushing. Believing that they can still be together.
If you should marry her now and drop one kid, it is over.

You acting like married women with even 7 children don't cheat on their husbands or don't have wayward men who still chase them? Doesn't matter if she's married. Marriage doesn't change anyone. If she and that guy can do stuffs before marriage and child birth, they can do even more after she gets married.

Try to get audio recorder place it in a hidden place in your house and then leave for work while leaving your girl friend at home, then later if you are back secretly play the record audio. Do it for one week then you will know the kind of person your girl friend is.

Straight Red ... VAR decision.

You're definitely gonna have DNA issues.

Your girl is still interested in the ex
If you like no run now when it is safe to do so
Las las , you go just dey father pikin wey no be your own.
I don talk too much
If you like, dey love dey go

Call the guy from an unknown or hidden number and explain all bad things that will happen to him, should he pursue your babe. Some people are crazy and if she is genuinely loyal to YOU and not to HIM, part of what your roles in the relationship are is to protect your interests (and therefore protect her).

aswani:
You better do quickly before you become collateral damage.

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Fiscus105:
If ur post is not figment, you need to study your girl very well, if her mind is off completely from her ex.,your girl still given him full access for communication, and if you dnt careful,your girl would be going behind to warm his bed.

One behaviour that is certain and common to all women is, "woman cannot completely off her mind from anyone that has slept with her before".
If the ex, really know how to manipulate, it's a matter of time before the woman fall yakata again, irrespective how their relationship ended in the past, ex only needs communications to start flowing between two of them again.

Na so.