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This is me a highly Introverted person iam always reserved on myself even as a child I can spend the Whole week indoor reading or playing and my parent seems not to bother with it my father is even proud of me because I like reading all the times, but recently I noticed that my level of introversion is seriously threatening my personality, I will turn 20 next March and as a student I don't communicate a lot even with my classmates because I don't participate on most conversations that I see are silly but yes I can talk passionately and even laugh wildly when discussing a topic that interested me iam quiet most of the times but I noticed most people seems to have a negative view of me they are assuming that iam arrogant especially girls but this is not true but yes I don't talk to girls at all no matter the necessity due to some experience as a child iam a little bit indifferent towards women but this get me a little bit anxious since I always imagined my self as a father one day and I love kids but the thought of me living with someone else 24/7 all my life is highly terrible, to me I always keep my secrecy to me alone and not share with everyone else but the thought of getting children out of marriage is impossible to me since iam a Muslim and a Northern Nigeria from Fulani ethnicity it is shamefull to my family.
So please Introverted people on this section how you coped with life experiences? Did iam normal or a little bit weird? How could I will adjusts and become a normal personality if am weird?

Please help it is really out of hand since that Christmas break I never went outdoor always in room playing games or on Internet.

OP, you are the perfect style. I wish to become like you!
For the marriage part, when you have big, alot of money and good job or business, then find a wife and start a family. If possible sef, dont marry all those broke girls with zero naira in their account. Go for beautiful rich girls who have hustling mindset!

You are a product of the times, try getting involved in sport activities namely the board games type.
You can also rely on online communities.

You're not alone, I've been called arrogant since primary school... I only open up when I'm around my friends and family.

Sometimes someone would come to the house announced and I'd just keep quiet until they leave... I remember this one time my parents were expecting a delivery, but were not gonna be around on the day of the delivery and it happened that it was only going to be me around the house... To my greatest surprise, they went and told one of our neighbours about the delivery and asked the lady to be the one to accept it on their behalf and show the delivery man where to place the parcel around the house... When I asked my parents why they did it, they told me they didn't want to disturb me since I didn't like visitors.

It really hurt my feelings because it felt like I was none existent to them...🤦🤦🤦... I knew about the delivery because I heard them talking about it, so when I heard a car park outside and the gate open, I rushed to the door, only for the neighbour to come rushing, intercepted the delivery man and proceeded directing him where to place the parcel as if I was standing there invisible... They only acknowledged my presence after they were done talking with each other.

But I've learnt to develop an alter ego over the years so that people no longer see me as an arrogant weirdo whenever I'm in public.

I'm 32 and a chronic introverts and don't care. Through I've been labeled arrogant and pride

Love800:
OP, you are the perfect style. I wish to become like you!
For the marriage part, when you have big, alot of money and good job or business, then find a wife and start a family. If possible sef, dont marry all those broke girls with zero naira in their account. Go for beautiful rich girls who have hustling mindset!

lol people will prejudice you alots.


And my problem is not the wife for me living with someone intimately knowing every bit of your life and forcing you to give extra attention is the problem.,As you know women like attention like hell?

Samantha125:
You're not alone, I've been called arrogant since primary school... I only open up when I'm around my friends and family.

Sometimes someone would come to the house announced and I'd just keep quiet until they leave... I remember this one time my parents were expecting a delivery, but were not gonna be around on the day of the delivery and it happened that it was only going to be me around the house... To my greatest surprise, they went and told one of our neighbours about the delivery and asked the lady to be the one to accept it on their behalf and show the delivery man where to place the parcel around the house... When I asked my parents why they did it, they told me they didn't want to disturb me since I didn't like visitors.

It really hurt my feelings because it felt like I was none existent to them...🤦🤦🤦... I knew about the delivery because I heard them talking about it, so when I heard a car park outside and the gate open, I rushed to the door, only for the neighbour to come rushing, intercepted the delivery man and proceeded directing him where to place the parcel as if I was standing there invisible... They only acknowledged my presence after they were done talking with each other.

But I've learnt to develop an alter ego over the years so that people no longer see me as an arrogant weirdo whenever I'm in public.

this is like me I dislike visitors a lot and I hate intrusion into my private life, But what is more it seems majority people perceive a normal man to be very sociable all the time.

Greenlandz:
I'm 32 and a chronic introverts and don't care. Through I've been labeled arrogant and pride

that is the problem when people don't understand you or when you not give them unnecessary attention they will automatically labelled you as arrogant.

Staying with dem(women) is not a problem. Just do your responsibilities( providing for your family) and participate in your hobbies too. Getting married to her doesn't mean you will be talking to her always. Get busy with other things that interest you and forget about her. Your children are your main priority!

About people will prejudice you. dont care about prejudice. Forget about it. Nobody actually care about how you live your life. Yes, people are watching you, but is your money that will have a say in your life at the end. Just make money, i repeat, make money. Nobody cares about you!

Bandirao:
lol people will prejudice you alots.


And my problem is not the wife for me living with someone intimately knowing every bit of your life and forcing you to give extra attention is the problem.,As you know women like attention like hell?

Life is live and learn, you live and you learn everyday.
Life is like a job that you came into you work and you learn on the job.
Don't take it personal bro, just be humble and have a strong mind.

Bandirao:
This is me a highly Introverted person iam always reserved on myself even as a child I can spend the Whole week indoor reading or playing and my parent seems not to bother with it my father is even proud of me because I like reading all the times, but recently I noticed that my level of introversion is seriously threatening my personality, I will turn 20 next March and as a student I don't communicate a lot even with my classmates because I don't participate on most

I'm an introvert and I used to be a shy one but then I started cold approaching girls and discovered stoicism.
Now I don't feel uncomfortable around people anymore.
Sometimes I try to go but to my shell but my routine prevents me from doing that. For example one of my routines is to greet everybody is see on the road.

Forget what people say approaching girls on the streets or any place is the best way to build up your confidence because it translates to other areas of your life.

I'm planning to create a thread on cold approaching later on cause I know there are some people that will need it.

Samantha125:
You're not alone, I've been called arrogant since primary school... I only open up when I'm around my friends and family.

Sometimes someone would come to the house announced and I'd just keep quiet until they leave... I remember this one time my parents were expecting a delivery, but were not gonna be around on the day of the delivery and it happened that it was only going to be me around the house... To my greatest surprise, they went and told one of our neighbours about the delivery and asked the lady to be the one to accept it on their behalf and show the delivery man where to place the parcel around the house... When I asked my parents why they did it, they told me they didn't want to disturb me since I didn't like visitors.

It really hurt my feelings because it felt like I was none existent to them...🤦🤦🤦... I knew about the delivery because I heard them talking about it, so when I heard a car park outside and the gate open, I rushed to the door, only for the neighbour to come rushing, intercepted the delivery man and proceeded directing him where to place the parcel as if I was standing there invisible... They only acknowledged my presence after they were done talking with each other.

But I've learnt to develop an alter ego over the years so that people no longer see me as an arrogant weirdo whenever I'm in public.

But you went to see your husband's ex. After he told you not to visit her.

ElasmoBranchii:
I'm an introvert and I used to be a shy one but then I started cold approaching girls and discovered stoicism.
Now I don't feel uncomfortable around people anymore.
Sometimes I try to go but to my shell but my routine prevents me from doing that. For example one of my routines is to greet everybody is see on the road.

Forget what people say approaching girls on the streets or any place is the best way to build up your confidence because it translates to other areas of your life.

I'm planning to create a thread on cold approaching later on cause I know there are some people that will need it.

Don't bother keep the energy for the cold that is killing u this December

tobby20:
Don't bother keep the energy for the cold that is killing u this December

😂😂. Who are you? How did you know cold is killing me this December. Nice one bro. You are one funny clown 🤡.

ElasmoBranchii:
I'm an introvert and I used to be a shy one but then I started cold approaching girls and discovered stoicism.
Now I don't feel uncomfortable around people anymore.
Sometimes I try to go but to my shell but my routine prevents me from doing that. For example one of my routines is to greet everybody is see on the road.

Forget what people say approaching girls on the streets or any place is the best way to build up your confidence because it translates to other areas of your life.

I'm planning to create a thread on cold approaching later on cause I know there are some people that will need it.

OK following.