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uuzba:
You're still using Nigerian mind to reason.
You're talking about PG..
Book, book, book.
One Lebanese consultant I worked under, here in Nigeria, said that we Nigerians read books too much for reading sake.
For them, they go straight into construction, machinery right from Secondary school. Everyday, after school, they are at the workshop. That's how they get experience and start running industry then come here to Nigeria to setup up their company and employ YOU Nigerian with PhD to work UNDER them..
When I lived in UK, everybody was working. I met people that were not interested in University at all, working in same office I was working. Some were even my senior.
Face work directly and stop using nonsense university and PhD to dodge responsibility.

I understand what you mean but when you realize that the PhD holder will be paid $300k per annum as a professor, you'll know it is not a waste. It all depends on where the skills or knowledge are valued and paid accordingly. You forget that physical labour has its limits too.

olamilekan9:
about this please explain more cuz i love been indoors all my life and i have made mostly 100% of my money being indoors, as a matter of fact i make money indoors and go out to spend it with ungrateful people outside

😂😂😂

I read the thread and it's interesting seeing what men have written. I know the one that men talk about is how they wish they would have done more if they weren't married. I remember a funny post online where someone said a man brings a girl to his life and she calls her friends in to have fun. Friends here = your children.

I think marriage makes you more responsible and you start to solve problems as they come. Problems you never thought you could have solved, life throws you a curve ball.

A mistake I made was trusting people. I learned to tell people only what is necessary and I avoid gossip about others. Why? People will talk, many people don't know how to keep things confidential. What they tell me about other people may also prevent me from knowing them for who they are so I start to use other people's biases to judge them. Being into business made me understand the term, MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Do what you want, maintain your principles and move on. Don't be too much in people's business and don't let them be in yours. I applied this to family and it changed how I related with them, my life has never been easier since then.

My biggest regret was not leaving the country earlier. I could have had my PR by now and also not talking my own agency serious, I kept looking for employment and freelance all the time.

qtguru:
My biggest regret was not leaving the country earlier. I could have had my PR by now and also not talking my own agency serious, I kept looking for employment and freelance all the time.

doesn't matter as far you're out of Shitigeria


find a Linux user group and join and thank me later

Sirchiboy:
Being an introvert and staying indoors for years before realizing that I need to step out if I want to make it and succeed

Uncle, this is the best advice I've heard today

trium:
TheUnderCover deleted that thread of his but it seems you played this part. I found where someone else posted it

You've a point there...there are some of them that still believe that I don't have a job whereas I just adopted a minimalistic way of life.

correctguy101:
Two bottles of udeme for this man...

Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you sir 🤝

Sirchiboy:
Being an introvert and staying indoors for years before realizing that I need to step out if I want to make it and succeed

Some of this introvert thing was caused by some strict parents who always want their children to stay at home, make them avoid friends to avoid being corrupted especially immediately after secondary school, some of these parents build a close monitoring around their children that even when their child finally gets permission to go out that is after questioning how your movements will be and dropping the names and necessary address and promising to come back within 2hours; so, the children now starts developing cold feets on meeting friends instead of going through the stress of convincing his parents, and somehow they develop a way of staying on their own and will rather watch BF than going anywhere.
Our old parents contribute so much to this sh*t especially if you are an obedient child that doesn't want to be like your brother who they already rebelled "rebellious and stubborn" cos he took his small freedom by force

I was asking to know wedar its useful. I don't know anything concerning cybersecurity.

millionboi2:
which one is useful please?

Okay.
Thanks.

richiemcgold:
We do bro. Any kind of printing work.

1. Not learning programming while in school. I learnt it 6 years after graduation and looking for jobs.2 years later, I landed a good jobs. Now I don japa, working with an American coy overseas. 6 years was wasted.
2. Not marrying early enough. At 37 I have a child which i still dey change pampers when my last born should be 7 years by now.
My advice, have your kids early even if you have no money. Project japa should be your only focus as your full potential will not be reach in naija.il if to say I japa early, I for don get atleast 2 teslas for my back yard, wmcos my energy in my 20s no be for here. I could work day and night without sleep. Now small 10 hours, I don dey check BP.

Yungmil:
Am 36 no wife no kids too


But am scared and worried most of my mate are married. I feel I can't keep a pretty and high class woman at home. But that's the kind of lady I think I need.

lower your standard bro. Especially if you got the looks on your side.

virginboy1:
1. Buying my virgin girlfriend BS of waiting for her till our wedding night, last last another sharp guy popped the cherry...She still blamed me instead... .. (women and accountability ehnnn)
2. Playing Virtual bets... omo ... I see shege promax.
3. Trusting pastor... , now if you tell me say you be pastor... na extra extra eyes i go use dey look you.
4. Selling my 2 plots of land...

Are you married to the same woman

Can you give me some hint how to learn programming? I am still in Naija at the moment but my spirit and soul have long left this place cos I know Nigeria is not going to get any better even in 50 years from today

Taiw:
1. Not learning programming while in school. I learnt it 6 years after graduation and looking for jobs.2 years later, I landed a good jobs. Now I don japa, working with an American coy overseas. 6 years was wasted.
2. Not marrying early enough. At 37 I have a child which i still dey change pampers when my last born should be 7 years by now.
My advice, have your kids early even if you have no money. Project japa should be your only focus as your full potential will not be reach in naija.il if to say I japa early, I for don get atleast 2 teslas for my back yard, wmcos my energy in my 20s no be for here. I could work day and night without sleep. Now small 10 hours, I don dey check BP.

Sorry for too many queries. What effect does that have on your British citizenship status?

sslcrypt:
Had to scrap it, sorry

Taiw:
1. Not learning programming while in school. I learnt it 6 years after graduation and looking for jobs.2 years later, I landed a good jobs. Now I don japa, working with an American coy overseas. 6 years was wasted.
2. Not marrying early enough. At 37 I have a child which i still dey change pampers when my last born should be 7 years by now.
My advice, have your kids early even if you have no money. Project japa should be your only focus as your full potential will not be reach in naija.il if to say I japa early, I for don get atleast 2 teslas for my back yard, wmcos my energy in my 20s no be for here. I could work day and night without sleep. Now small 10 hours, I don dey check BP.

Which part of America are you.
California or Washington?

Mathew2307:
Sorry for too many queries. What effect does that have on your British citizenship status?

Yes I do

dhope:
My biggest regret is that I failed to realize how spiritual controls the physical on time.

thanks, I knew this now that am 27 years old.
Life has being easy to navigate now.

YoungestPapa:
...bro, leave marriage, get money with all the time you have now. You will not regret it.

hello YongestPapa
kindly reply m PM

Gentew:
Marrying just for love alone is not sustainable. I should have married a lady that can take up at least 30% of our bills. Now I bare about 98% of our bills.

Have you considered setting her up in business?

YoungestPapa:
I'm also 36...i've been married for 6 years. i have two kids. When i got married, i wasnt sure it was the right thing to do. i just wanted companionship. The first 4 years of my marriage was almost unbearable, as i was jobless throughout. My wife had a job, i started learning how to trade the foreign exchange market cos i was tired of searching for a job. My wife disrespected me...long story short, i took a lot of shit from her. Not that she was feeding the house, cos i was, but she would leave for her job, leaving me with my daughter who was tender at the time. I could hardly concentrate on the skill i was learning. As much as i failed in Forex, i learned even more. Fast forward to today, i pay my wife 3 times what she earns so that she can stay at home and look after the kids. i have all the time to do my business, i got my first Car and land last year, 2025 will be great for me, i'm confident. i remember how i was very close to walking out of my marriage. During those few years after marriage, i envied the unmarried, cos marriage was a hindrance to me achieving my goal. i couldve achieved my goal faster if i wasnt married....the lesson, bro is that you have to build yourself before getting married. if you have a skill you want to learn, its now. You really have to have a steady source of money before you get married. in my case, it got to the point my wife did not get wet for me. we didnt have sex for long periods....bro, leave marriage, get money with all the time you have now. You will not regret it.

Thank You very much for this sir.

Thanks a whole lot my boss

XAUUSD:
I regret being too quiet, peaceful and understanding.

i'm 35 years old and a middle child in my family. My parents figured out that i was the easiest child to deal with. i didnt get angry when i was cheated on, i easily forgave, i obeyed without complain.

Today, my elder brother who is a year older than me is in Alberta, Canada, He moved this time last year with his wife and kid. He was given all the authority in the family with the demise of my father. He had two cars which he sold before he travelled.

My younger brother who is 32 years old has been in Wisconsin, USA since 2020. He was considered the black sheep of the family. You couldve seen the way my parents spoke about him before he travelled. To them, he was the one who brings shame and embarrassment to the family. He was dating this girl with plenty money in the U.S, she came to Lagos just after his NYSC in 2020, they got married and she took him to the states. Right now, he's moms favorite.

Then there's me, i've tried to be more of a go getter, but i'm still struggling. i wish i did what i wanted, i wish i didnt always want to be in the good books of my parents, maybe, just maybe, i wouldve been in a better place.

Chart your own history, bro. Don't envy, don't regret. You don't have the luck or misfortune of another person, even if you are twins. Doing good is good. Never wish you went bad; it may not have ended well for you either.

Pray, work like your life depends on both. Make good relationships. Mum may come around. But you are not doing it so she does. Achieve for yourself. I wish you the best!

richiemcgold:
You can mail me. I'll give you a comprehensive detail.

how much do you think it takes to publish a book far and wide now

[quote author=Fearyourcreator post=133456122]You no really get sense [/quote

U have been a poor man since i knew u on this platform
Ur poverty thinkin has shrinked ur method of rezning without forcasting urcountrys direction
Finish skool enter street back make u knw

LIVINGICONREBOR:
That is not true. I am a living example. I still lift weights that younger dudes dread. I do my cardios. I still do my sprints well. Infact I still have my early morning erections. It depends on how you live life in your 20s and 30s. Clean diet and active lifestyle is key.

You got those words out of my mouth. I was even stunned with his statements. Registering for gym is one of the best decision i took in my 30s. "I lift weights, do sit ups, press up at home", go to yabatech and jog/sprint the track. Infact, in a sprint competition, i was placed with boys in their 20s and i came 2nd. . Exercising is one of the greatest food for men.

Archtype:
Some of this introvert thing was caused by some strict parents who always want their children to stay at home, make them avoid friends to avoid being corrupted especially immediately after secondary school, some of these parents build a close monitoring around their children that even when their child finally gets permission to go out that is after questioning how your movements will be and dropping the names and necessary address and promising to come back within 2hours; so, the children now starts developing cold feets on meeting friends instead of going through the stress of convincing his parents, and somehow they develop a way of staying on their own and will rather watch BF than going anywhere.
Our old parents contribute so much to this sh*t especially if you are an obedient child that doesn't want to be like your brother who they already rebelled "rebellious and stubborn" cos he took his small freedom by force

You have a valid point about parental influence on a child being an introvert. On the other side, have you noticed that many Nigerians follow the crowd? They go with trends and they don't have a mind of their own. I am not saying being an introvert means you have sense but I think the other side of letting kids be also has its detrimental effect on you as an individual. Instead of learning from books, experiences, listening to others and all that, you experiment yourself or you learn from your peers, who don't know better. Children want to grow up fast and behave like adults but some of the things they do will cause them fatal mistakes in life. Like when you see girls gone astray, why do people always ask 'where is the father/mother'? It's because they know that the world is not as it seems but the child is in a hurry to see the deceit of outside world. Look at the kids of today learning from the internet, they are not able to think on their own, they have the stress of the outside world which is technology.
You don't realize until later on in life that you have never made decisions on your own, you always needed validation of the outside world, your friends or external to make decisions. You don't have your own convictions. YOU are not doing what you really want to do in life, you are doing what society wants. Some people only discover this in their 40s that they have not been living their own lives. Why do you think the Japanese Samurai and other disciplines focus on listening to yourself? Many of us grow up as adults then realize that we only needed 1 or 2 friends in life, not the whole class. We start to see the peace of mind having less people does. LESS people, LESS drama.


There are some points for me that I want such kids who are adults now to respond to:
1. As a parent yourself now, do you think that you now understand why your parents kept you away from the outside crowd?
2. Will you do the same thing to your kids albeit in a different way?
3. As an adult, do you think being raised that way helped your life today?


PS: this thread proves that there are adults on this forum even though most topics because of FP gets taken over by clowns and political lackeys.

Taiw:
1. Not learning programming while in school. I learnt it 6 years after graduation and looking for jobs.2 years later, I landed a good jobs. Now I don japa, working with an American coy overseas. 6 years was wasted.
2. Not marrying early enough. At 37 I have a child which i still dey change pampers when my last born should be 7 years by now.
My advice, have your kids early even if you have no money. Project japa should be your only focus as your full potential will not be reach in naija.il if to say I japa early, I for don get atleast 2 teslas for my back yard, wmcos my energy in my 20s no be for here. I could work day and night without sleep. Now small 10 hours, I don dey check BP.

hello Taiw
sent u a dm, kindly reply
thanks

Free2Fly:
You still haven't realized anything

There's no spiritual controls the physical bullshit anywhere

It's all in the heads of the superstitious and archaic Nigerians and Africans

Such narrow-mindedness to think that only Africans uphold a supernatural worldview. What do you have to say about the many Western countries with different religions and spiritual practices?

You better sit down and think, and get rid of the "supremacist" mentality just because you don't believe in the existence of an unseen world.

All I ever wanted in life was the best or nothing

professore:
how much do you think it takes to publish a book far and wide now

It depends on the volume of the book and the number of copies to be printed. For instance, it will cost between N300k-N400k to print a thousand copies of a 100-Page novel.

In a nutshell, 2 things are involved:
*Volume of the book itself
*Number of copies to be printed

BTW, this is only about printing cost. I did not include other expenses like manuscript production, proofreading and editing, illustration, ISBN and typesetting.

Make sure it's a Business You are passionate about that's one and two U have to have a Goal in going into Entrepreneurship, are You doing it to transfer to Your Children or are You doing it to impact the world? Plus Business and Social Life rarely mixes cos U have entered a world where everything is about interests. If U aren't doing what U are passionate about please refer back to it and then U can outsource the other one to be managed by someone else. If U are passionate nothing will make U to be complaining because U have an objective and everyday doing what You Love while being Free to make Ur own decisions is Like Heaven on Earth

ravensckar:
I think my only regret would be listening to all those "Entrepreneurship Bullshit". Two years ago, I was doing fantastically well with my salary job. My life was simple and I had my future figured out.

Fast forward to when I entered the "Business World", everything has become a "mad race" ever since. I now have to work twice as hard, I practically don't have time for anything again. I've lost many social connections, some great friends and even my inner peace. Yes, I'm making money but at the expense of what?

My worries and fear of the future keep increasing every day. The uncertainty of life now freaks me out. I barely relax any longer. I'm constantly planning five steps ahead now. I wish I can go back to that my "simple life".