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Funny that at my age and experience, I find myself learning life's lessons still as though I just started living!
1) No one thinks like you do. You may have a decent honest heart to do something for someone, nay, his or her mind may not see it so and may turn against you! Many times even your closest person!
2) When the heat is on, plastic fans melt! So also friends and relatives!
3) Don't freak out over what you can't control, trust the Supreme Being, you're safest with Him!


Best wishes everyone for the new season/year!

Everybody learns one way or the other. You learning from experiences around you shows that you're very normal and your mind is growing right. Keep it up and learn only the right things. Unlearn unedifying things

That we are all here on temporal basis. That only true meaningful soul connection is what trancend spacetime continuum.

That we are all in this life to work and hustle. That death is a deserved rest from all our toil. And also to never cry for a dead person, they are the ones who should be crying for you because where they are is a place of bliss and unquantifiable love.

Ganjafama:
That we are all in this life to work and hustle. That death is a deserved rest from all our toil. And also to never cry for a dead person, they are the ones who should be crying for you because where they are is a place of bliss and unquantifiable love.

Never cry for a dead person! I learned that too this year when my brother passed! I cried, not for him but for my dear Mom who has had to bear the loss of another child of hers even after her husband my dad!

That Nigeria will never get better. And bread will sell for #2500 in 2025! Peter obi is our only hope!

I learnt that,those who are still seeing crypto as scam
must, and shall be left behind.

Love800:
That Nigeria will never get better. And bread will sell for #2500 in 2025! Peter obi is our only hope!

so u put your hope in mere mortal

So if obi dies tomorrow then u are hopeless for Life

Dingbat

Skincare:
Vitamin C and retinol make an amazing skincare combo as long as the routine remains consistence and sunscreen is a constant.

Car Paper Renewal:
VIO in Abuja descends on the roads like vultures in January because they know most people's paperwork has expired at the turn of the year. You can be sure of being exploited once your car gets into their office. Renew your papers online before you run into these vultures.

NCAIR and NITDA Are Just As Bad:
NCAIR, by extension NITDA, with all their social media PR, are as lazy and corrupt as the average government agency. Young public servants learn exploitation early.

Meal Prep:
Is amazing! Saves money and gives greater control over one's diet and health by extension. It can be a lot of fun learning about ingredients and cooking techniques.

Pygmalion Effect:
Because of my ability to articulate technical concepts—knowing the right terminology and registers in tech to ensure conciseness—I'm easily perceived as being smart when contributing in class. This perception casts me in a certain light and creates an expectation from my instructors, peers, and myself to stay in character, which further drives me to put in more effort, and I end up rising to the top of most classes I'm in.

The Power of "Yes, it can be done":
Just saying "yes, it can be done" in a meeting where I represented my unit head, even when I wasn't sure how, ended up in my implementing a solution and presenting it to our national chairman several months down the line. I got the best staff award and a ton of respect from peers.

The Cost of "Yes, it can be done":
"Yes, it can be done!" brought me sleepless nights, coding, debugging, working on slides, rehearsing presentations, the inconvenience of being moved around like a pawn on a big man's board, and brought very little monetary reward to justify the effort.

The Advantage of Allowing Coworkers to Fail:
If you're always on hand to help with issues, you might not be fully appreciated, and you create the opportunity for others to steal your shine. Even if you know how to do stuff, fold your hands and don't do anything. Even when approached for help, drag feet and let them struggle. Swoop in at the dying minute and save the day after all hope has been lost—that's the only time everyone would see you as a hero and you get full recognition for your ingenuity.

How to Beat Alcohol:
To beat alcohol, I have to stay as engaged with the journey as I'd be with the bottle, and even more so. I've got to track urges, understand triggers, journal experiences, and learn from the insights generated.

The Power of Community:
As reclusive and introverted as I may be, I'm still a social animal, and belonging to a community that understands and is on the same journey gives me an immense advantage. How do I contribute to community? By engaging with people, providing encouragement, sharing experiences and insights, and learning from others.

Bureaucracy is Messed Up:
I've known this for years, but this year I have experienced it firsthand more than any other time.

AI is an Incredibly Powerful Tool:
AI has multiplied my learning by astounding magnitudes. I've used AI to gain greater self-awareness and understanding of my own mind.

My Mind is a Complex Machine:
I've always felt my mind is simple and my issues are straightforward. I felt I had to protect myself by concealing my simplicity so others don't take advantage. I make fun of people who say they're complex. This year I spent a lot of time contemplating my complexes and their interactions; I ended up with a map of factors and interactions that resemble a cobweb with deeply convoluted networks. This is the most fascinating self-exploratory exercise I've carried out this year.

My Body is Rugged:
I don't always feel like it, but I inhabit a body that can wake up on a Saturday morning, run 21km in less than 3 hours, and recover within two days.

The Incredible Power of Environment Engineering:
If you want to kill bad habits, add as much friction as possible in your environment between you and the habit; if you want to form a new habit, remove as much friction from your environment between you and the habit. I rearranged my room, moved my workspace, and created more space around it, and moved my bed to the wall, creating more, again, space between these. This greater delineation of bed and desk, sleep and work, boosted my productivity and improved my sleep.

Dealing with Illness:
I fell ill in August after doing some deep sanitation of my spaces. I realized how a simple task of cleaning spiraled into a significant health crisis. The combination of stress, exposure to allergens, and delayed medical attention all contributed. I've learned to be more mindful of my environment, my stress level, and the importance of taking immediate action when health issues arise. If ill, the important role of rest, hydration, fresh air, and sticking to prescriptions is crucial.

The Depth of My Ignorance:
I'm still as ignorant as ever. I still have A LOT to learn. I learned to not cover my ignorance to keep up appearances; to ask as many questions and request as much clarity as is allowed. I don't know everything, I can never know everything. People have so much to teach me if I treat them with respect and enter conversation with humility and openness to learn.

Lol!

Abeg easy please.

See as i dey laugh for here.

Bros, sorry if i vex you.

Okay, God go use obi take run am for us. This one better na!

Factcheck0001:
so u put your hope in mere mortal

So if obi dies tomorrow then u are hopeless for Life

Dingbat

DemonSlayer:
Skincare:
Vitamin C and retinol make an amazing skincare combo as long as the routine remains consistency and sunscreen is a constant.

Car Paper Renewal:
VIO in Abuja descends on the roads like vultures in January because they know most people's paperwork has expired at the turn of the year. You can be sure of being exploited once your car gets into their office. Renew your papers online before you run into these vultures.

NCAIR and NITDA Are Just As Bad:
NCAIR, by extension NITDA, with all their social media PR, are as lazy and corrupt as the average government agency. Young public servants learn exploitation early.

Meal Prep:
Is amazing! Saves money and gives greater control over one's diet and health by extension. It can be a lot of fun learning about ingredients and cooking techniques.

Pygmalion Effect:
Because of my ability to articulate technical concepts—knowing the right terminology and registers in tech to ensure conciseness—I'm easily perceived as being smart when contributing in class. This perception casts me in a certain light and creates an expectation from my instructors, peers, and myself to stay in character, which further drives me to put in more effort, and I end up rising to the top of most classes I'm in.

The Power of "Yes, it can be done":
Just saying "yes, it can be done" in a meeting where I represented my unit head, even when I wasn't sure how, ended up in my implementing a solution and presenting it to our national chairman several months down the line. I got the best staff award and a ton of respect from peers.

The Cost of "Yes, it can be done":
"Yes, it can be done!" brought me sleepless nights, coding, debugging, working on slides, rehearsing presentations, the inconvenience of being moved around like a pawn on a big man's board, and brought very little monetary reward to justify the effort.

The Advantage of Allowing Coworkers to Fail:
If you're always on hand to help with issues, you might not be fully appreciated, and you create the opportunity for others to steal your shine. Even if you know how to do stuff, fold your hands and don't do anything. Even when approached for help, drag feet and let them struggle. Swoop in at the dying minute and save the day after all hope has been lost—that's the only time everyone would see you as a hero and you get full recognition for your ingenuity.

How to Beat Alcohol:
To beat alcohol, I have to stay as engaged with the journey as I'd be with the bottle, and even more so. I've got to track urges, understand triggers, journal experiences, and learn from the insights generated.

The Power of Community:
As reclusive and introverted as I may be, I'm still a social animal, and belonging to a community that understands and is on the same journey gives me an immense advantage. How do I contribute to community? By engaging with people, providing encouragement, sharing experiences and insights, and learning from others.

Bureaucracy is Messed Up:
I've known this for years, but this year I have experienced it firsthand more than any other time.

AI is an Incredibly Powerful Tool:
AI has multiplied my learning by astounding magnitudes. I've used AI to gain greater self-awareness and understanding of my own mind.

My Mind is a Complex Machine:
I've always felt my mind is simple and my issues are straightforward. I felt I had to protect myself by concealing my simplicity so others don't take advantage. I make fun of people who say they're complex. This year I spent a lot of time contemplating my complexes and their interactions; I ended up with a map of factors and interactions that resemble a cobweb with deeply convoluted networks. This is the most fascinating self-exploratory exercise I've carried out this year.

My Body is Rugged:
I don't always feel like it, but I inhabit a body that can wake up on a Saturday morning, run 21km in less than 3 hours, and recover within two days.

The Incredible Power of Environment Engineering:
If you want to kill bad habits, add as much friction as possible in your environment between you and the habit; if you want to form a new habit, remove as much friction from your environment between you and the habit. I rearranged my room, moved my workspace, and created more space around it, and moved my bed to the wall, creating more, again, space between these. This greater delineation of bed and desk, sleep and work, boosted my productivity and improved my sleep.

Dealing with Illness:
I fell ill in August after doing some deep sanitation of my spaces. I realized how a simple task of cleaning spiraled into a significant health crisis. The combination of stress, exposure to allergens, and delayed medical attention all contributed. I've learned to be more mindful of my environment, my stress level, and the importance of taking immediate action when health issues arise. If ill, the important role of rest, hydration, fresh air, and sticking to prescriptions is crucial.

The Depth of My Ignorance:
I'm still as ignorant as ever. I still have A LOT to learn. I learned to not cover my ignorance to keep up appearances; to ask as many questions and request as much clarity as is allowed. I don't know everything, I can never know everything. People have so much to teach me if I treat them with respect and enter conversation with humility and openness to learn.

Nice points especially the work related part of it.

Factcheck0001:
so u put your hope in mere mortal

So if obi dies tomorrow then u are hopeless for Life

Dingbat

God bless you sir

Try discover and become what u are really wishing to become before thinking of getting married because after children ehn all your dreams might be diminished and u won't be able to reach the height again 🙁

Ganjafama:
That we are all in this life to work and hustle. That death is a deserved rest from all our toil. And also to never cry for a dead person, they are the ones who should be crying for you because where they are is a place of bliss and unquantifiable love.

Really 😲
This actually qualifies Yoruba traditional religion which says that " it's only the fool that is afraid of death because of the fear of unknown to the fear of the known"
because when we die we will reincarnate or transmigrate.

So when we die it's a place or state of rest and peace of mind......

Yoruba also has a song that "anyone that is dead is having a good rest" but for the living you are still passing true life challenges syndromes etc

Tayorshd87:
Try discover and become what u are really wishing to become before thinking of getting married because after children ehn all your dreams might be diminished and u won't be able to reach the height again 🙁

Solid point you got here! Though we wish ourselves long life, we also no life's short! Some issues we must attend to else it will pass us by!

Make peace with certain things in life. It will help you sleep better.

Some white lies are better than the gospel truth.

Some painful memories eventually leave after teaching you a lesson.

Carry no one on a pedestal. No one is truly altruistic.

jaszplus12:
Solid point you got here! Though we wish ourselves long life, we also no life's short! Some issues we must attend to else it will pass us by!

U got the point 🤝

I learnt that the present Nigeria economy needs more attention than the internet we use,I need to tripple my hussle to live a decent live,else I will remain poor 😔😔😔😔 I no send poverty, Will dig more, explore more while praying for grace and God's favour in 2025...

Last last,I go blow by God's grace

The underlying nature of reality and my place in it.