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| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Tayorshd87(m): 12:41am On Dec 28, 2024 |
Kobojunkie:The cousin need an advice or want us to tell her how sure the guy can propose or marry her in the future 😂 but because d guy is rich he is bleeping and having fun around but the girl is here waiting for the big question ❓⁉️ Wahala don tie rapper . Make d girl enjoy while it last abeg 😂 |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Tayorshd87(m): 12:44am On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:At least they are having sex then psychologically they are dating since money is involved but ur sister can't get a yes or no from advices so tell her to enjoy the moments while it last . No one can give her accurate answer to her request . The guy is having fun and sex around so your sisters pussy wasnt too special either. because I knew if the guy is broke ur sister would have known what to do but because he is rich 🤑 now she is having a doubting mind on what to do 🤔 Tell her to enjoy till Jesus come |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by sisisioge: 12:46am On Dec 28, 2024 |
Maybe the guy is a yoruba man, they don't ask you to be their wife or gf....once they start doing bf duties, they expect that you should know. Biko tell the cousin sister to carry pen and paper give the guy so he could write down what they were if he could not verbalize it ![]() Awon destiny confuser....he spends money on her....goes awol....comes back....and the circle continues. May God help Him children ![]() |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Godmother(f): 4:59am On Dec 28, 2024 |
Why is your cousin confused? The guy has told her not to catch feelings for him, what's so hard there? The truth is that this guy doesn't want anything serious with her. He's in for the thrills In her shoes, she should zero her mind and starting seeing him in the same light Let her catch her fun, save up as much as she can and then face her job when it finally ends, cos it will soon. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Mryacks: 5:16am On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:I think he is just not a commital kind of guy ( or at least not ready to commit emotionally into any deep relationship yet), your cousin on the other hand seems to have aught feelings and is seeing him as an ideal guy and wondering what more he is waiting for cos he seems to have it going 'well' for himself.....decisions is hers to make. She can decide to be patient a bit and maybe with time he might come around or she might go with the flow. In any case, she should just be firm with her decision and not get caught up with the 'goodies' she is enjoying if commitment is what she ultimately wants in the relationship.... |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by pansophist(m): 5:31am On Dec 28, 2024 |
Your sister's salary is in the 100s thousand, so a man spending millions on her can seem like a big deal, but it doesn't mean anything to wealthy guys. The ultimate thing a man can give a woman is his commitment, not his money. The guy have made it clear that your sister should not catch feelings for him. There is nothing confusing here, just that your sister don't want to accept reality for what it is. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by optm(m): 5:37am On Dec 28, 2024 |
The guy isn't in a relationship with your cousin. It is your cousin that wants a relationship with him. She's in a situationship. There's high probability that he doesn't see your cousin as someone he wants to be married to. She should have a frank discussion with him on this if she wants clarity. However, the guy has told her already but she's the one not listening. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Villa12(m): 6:59am On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7: |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Free2Fly: 7:15am On Dec 28, 2024 |
We4all:After something like what exactly ![]() |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by GREATPIN77(f): 7:27am On Dec 28, 2024 |
We4all:you don too watch nolywood o. Someone that is established and doing fine in an oil and gas industry is after something? If na yahoo guy now i go understand. A cooperate guy. You can tell us what he's after |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Onegai(f): 9:08am On Dec 28, 2024 |
OP, he doesn't want a relationship with your cousin. He has made that abundantly clear. She should either end it (my suggestion, as she's in her late 20s and is wasting her time) or continue to enjoy it. Also, there's a high chance that he used to be married or in a committed relationship that ended badly (usually they screw it up when they get that Oil and Gas money, it destroys the weak ones with low self-esteem and they discard their stable woman and regret it). So they start acting like this: noncommittal but you'll chop well as a babe. Sha, let your cousin start looking for her husband. This man isn't it. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by UnfairLife7(op): 9:29am On Dec 28, 2024 |
Onegai:She has confronted him several times due to how he's behaving. He'd be saying if he doesn't love her he won't be spending on her this much. And truly is that spending part that is confusing my cousin. Like why would a guy be spending so much on a girl he doesn't love or has plan to settle with. The guy is just making my cousin crazy seriously |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Onegai(f): 9:50am On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:He doesn't love her. Trust me. Those guys are earning a minimum of N1.5mil to N5mil every month. When they enter, they're shocked at it. Then it goes to their brains and they begin to feel entitled and selfish. That's when a lot of them, their marriages or relationships collapse. They feel they can do better. They go on spending sprees (I remember when MTN used to pay $1500 monthly, those boys were buying branded native wears like crazy). They don't know what to do with the money, so they upgrade their lifestyles and stop listening to the stable person in their lives (wives or girlfriends). They can afford anything they like, so they do. Prudent savings be damned (even the ones that save struggle to be disciplined). Eventually, the frenzy leaves most of them. They calm down, because it gets boring seeing that money hit your account monthly (no longer a big deal). The emptiness inside them is still there, worse, it's bigger now. Then they start trying to get rid of the money: spending on others to make themselves feel good and look like a hero in others' eyes and freedom to live their lives as they please. You can't fix them, they ruined their lives themselves. Their problem started with low self-esteem and insecurities. Same with politicians when they first enter govt. The madness no get Part 2. That money controls them. I could be wrong o, but if you know these guys, you'll notice they have the same patterns. If your cousin wants to test him, she should tell him she's pregnant. His reaction will show her clearly what's up. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Onegai(f): 10:00am On Dec 28, 2024 |
The woman they truly want is the one they discarded when they started making money. But most of them can't get her back. So spending money on your cousin is like drinking Maltina: nice occasionally, makes you feel an ego boost, can't do it too frequently or it will make you sick. If he really wanted to marry, she would know his parents by now. If she doesn't want to do the pregnancy test, she should do the Show Up Unexpectedly At His Parents' House test. Introduce herself to them as his babe. Then see what happens. Her eye will clear. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by akube34: 12:10pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:na so dem go do, your cousin go reach 35 |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Baronthecelebri(m): 12:20pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
I don't understand your post |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by We4all: 1:13pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Delightsome2023:I should invite you to my hotel room so we can settle this matter once and for all. But be rest assured that you are coming as a cleaner, and not what you are thinking. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Delightsome2023: 3:07pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Silentgroper:Yes |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Silentgroper(m): 4:05pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Fiscus105(m): 4:09pm On Dec 28, 2024*. Modified: 4:30pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
We4all:Hope you also read, where OP says, they had sex couple of times? |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Fiscus105(m): 4:14pm On Dec 28, 2024*. Modified: 4:30pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Onegai:How would she tell him she is pregnant,when he has told her uncountable time, that he doesn't want relationship with her ,he also went ahead, she shouldn't develop feelings for him, Infact, the rich boy never toast her, only sleeping with her casually, so, on which authority she wants to stand to proof her case? THIS IS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH WE GUYS USE TO SAY, ......IM ONLY FUCKING HER WHENEVER I REMEMBER SHE IS STILL EXISTING, THAT'S, USING HER TO RELIEVE BODY TENSION & LONELINESS. THE GIRL ACTUALLY DATING HERSELF BELIEVING SHE IS DATING QUALITY HUSBAND TO BE. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Fiscus105(m): 4:40pm On Dec 28, 2024*. Modified: 2:59am On Dec 29, 2024 |
UnfairLife7: 1 of the underlisted scenarios would certainly happen to her in future 3 scenarios. 1. She will remain confused until her time fades,.......... remains single for life. 2. She won't be able to cope with another guy/man again, because of how this guy has spoiled her, hence,.a potential single mother 3. If she manages to marry another guy, very certain of infidelity with this guy in future. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Mom007(f): 4:47pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Married man. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:49pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
If he goes as long as a week, 2 weeks, 3weeks without calling your cousin, then your cousin should be smart enough to accept another serious guy who comes her way, otherwise this current guy will waste her years, she has already spent 2years with him. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by DenreleDave(m): 5:11pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:This is the most foolish response I have ever seen.. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by eniolorunfe: 5:13pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Confused If the guy was broke, will she be confused?😂 It is your female cousin’s greed that is confusing her, not the guy. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by DenreleDave(m): 5:15pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
LilMissFavvy:Why would she? She, not her cousin will lose the money coming in from the guy if she calls it a quit.. It is the money that is making the Op stay in the relationship..... With money, ladies can tolerate any abnormalities |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by DenreleDave(m): 5:15pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
eniolorunfe:Exactly.. The op is the lady, she just dey use cousin sis to cover up.. Greed |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by UnfairLife7(op): 5:38pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
DenreleDave:swear with your life say if I'm not the lady in question that you accused me of then you shouldn't live to see new year. You sit in your house saying what you don't know. Naso una dey fail exam |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by CaveAdullam: 7:21pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
Read the chapter - sidelined, in the book, "Nearly all the men in Lagos are mad." You will understand the situation of your cousin. That chapter is almost a replica of your post. Probably, 1. The man has wives and kids elsewhere. Your cousin is for part-time duties. 2. He has many women on his radar. Commitment means the end of the game for him. So, your cousin should just maintain her wing and suck whatever she can from him. 3. He's still observing her while banging other women. He may be confused when contemplating whom to choose as a wife. Bottom line: easier for the head of a camel to pass through the head of a needle than your cousin marrying that guy. Let her leverage on the sexual transaction while it lasts. She will soon be retired for a more prettier woman. Winks. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by Starz825(m): 7:30pm On Dec 28, 2024 |
UnfairLife7:He na dey always think say na only yahoo boys dey do ritual... Even office guys dey do Make she dey careful ooo. |
| Re: My Cousin Sister Is Really Confused by We4all: 12:00am On Dec 29, 2024 |
Delightsome2023:You must have failed your primary six common entrance because you ain't smart at all. |
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