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Compliment of the season to the Nairaland community. I wish you the Best of the season and even beyond.
Due to the fact that a lot of us here are trying to balance the books and tighten every loosed end ahead of the New year, I wouldn't want to bore you with too many stories as I intend hitting the nail on its head.
I have a dear friend(30) who is dating a girl(25). They have being together for two years, and have being conspicuously and seemingly loyal to each other until the relationship took a new turn lately. The issue appears very minor, but it's somewhat deep according to my friend. It took him lots of guts to open up to me about this.
The issue is, the girl now sells roasted catfish by the roadside. She assists her elder sister. It's actually her sister's business. My friend hates the smell of fish, He has an allergy for it's smell, as a matter of fact he tends to throw up any time he perceives the smell of any kind of fish.
His girlfriend now smells like same fish she sells. He explained to me that he can't even allow his girlfriend come for a visit cos whenever she comes into his room, the whole fish odor takes over the room and even after her exit from the room, the smell is entrapped to the room. No matter how she bathes and the amount of deodorants used, she still smells terribly. Whatever she touches, instantly smells fish. The whole of her apartment smells same. It's really embarrassing to say the least.
He hasn't being able to open up to the girlfriend so as not to make her feel bad, but the lady knows that she's gradually Losing her man.
Sincerely, I hate to meddle into people's romantic affairs. I also do not have a girlfriend at the moment. I've been out of relationship for over three years and I don't intend going into any, until I am financially and economically stable. No matter what anyone tells you, all I can say is that, it takes finance to sponsor romance. Don't get deceived by "Love" alone. Love isn't enough. Every lady I meet would claim to love me cos they their first impression of me is that I am Rich, due to how I look. Na God give me good body oo. I'm a poor orphan without a helper. Just hustling to stay afloat. Overtime, when they discover I'm not what they had initially thought & perceived to be, they start withdrawing gradually. They withdraw by frustrating me. Since I realized this, I stopped loving and dating.

I can't give any advice on this. But I'm definitely going to show him what nairalanders are saying about his case cos I sought his consent to post this here.
Thanks

.but the lady knows that she's gradually Losing her man

You wrote at the bolded. The lady knows he is losing his man but can't ask even with the recent insistence by her man on sudden excessive use of perfumes and and deodorants whilst around ?

Maybe the lady is confiding in someone too while the man confides in you

He can tell you all these but can't tell the lady ?

In relationships aren't you suppose to know your partner's allergies ?

Well, I understand the guy... It might seem like a minor issue if you can't relate to his situation... But it can be serious.

I also can't stand the smell of tobacco and alcohol on someone, immediately I perceive the smell, I get nauseous.

We know it's you.. But that's fine though

Relate it with ur girlfriend. This ordinarily shouldn't be an issue... Communication is vital in any relationship but how you communicate things especially like this is what matters.
Let wisdom be ur guiding factor

They've been married for two years. So I guess they must have discussed their allergies. Perhaps she didn't take it seriously until now.

If they're compatible in other areas except this, then the lady just need a little extra effort to keep it working. First off, she should start thinking of her own business that she would do which should not be a fish business knowing the kind of hubby she has. She can still be helping her aunt for the mean time.

But while helping her aunt, she can find out as she relates with her guy if fish is a business she can continue with, it is very possible to be super meticulous with body smell. Once she's done with helping her aunt, she's not supposed to go to her guy's place straight-away. she needs to go shower using hot water and a good soap and a really good deodorant before going to his place. It would cost money though.

So what I see here is that she's not been able to switch between her job smell and pretty lady's smell. If she's disciplined in that area, she will be able to keep her man and the business successfully. She should learn from mechanics and bricklayers. When you see a light-skinned mechanic dress up going for outings, except you're told, you won't know he's the one.

She should either look for another job or they should stop seeing at his place. Unless the guy wants to continue enduring the smell

So, basically, he does not want the girl to be financially smelly because the fish odour of the money the girl is making is making him throw up?

Please tell the girl to dump him before he ruins her life. And provide me here with evidence you have told her and saved a sister from a pig.

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Dump that man and find another one who won't have such petty problems with you

Imagine asking another human being to uproot her entire identity and livelihood just because you have "allergies"

DUMP THAT MAN, ASAP!!!!

It's easier to say dump him or dump her.

As if both know what they are going to experience in their next relationship.

Exiting the relationship should be the last option if every other resolution fails.

Most times, this is just a gimmick by the male to quit the relationship. Ditto for the female when the man is broke, and she's looking for a flimsy excuse to exit the relationship.

The girlfriend must have found her fate in fish-selling. So, it wouldn't be nice to become a stumbling block to her path to financial freedom.

Except she's just helping her sister for the time and looking forward to a better job or occupation.

If she lives with her elder sister, common sense demands that she helps her. To avoid such, she must have a job.

There's no way a fish seller will continue to smell fish 24/7. Except the seller is pathetically dirty and nasty. Even most fish sellers that I have known for several years don't smell like fish inside or outside their shops.

His allergy is a major concern too.

To avoid it, let her wash thoroughly before coming to his house. This is the best approach.

If she ticks his box and is a good woman to him, the best solution is good hygiene.

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
It's easier to say dump him or dump her.

As if both know what they are going to experience in their next relationship.

Exiting the relationship should be the last option if every other resolution fails.

Most times, this is just a gimmick by the male to quit the relationship. Ditto for the female when the man is broke, and she's looking for a flimsy excuse to exit the relationship.

The girlfriend must have found her fate in fish-selling. So, it wouldn't be nice to become a stumbling block to her path to financial freedom.

Except she's just helping her sister for the time and looking forward to a better job or occupation.

If she lives with her elder sister, common sense demands that she helps her. To avoid such, she must have a job.

There's no way a fish seller will continue to smell fish 24/7. Except the seller is pathetically dirty and nasty. Even most fish sellers that I have known for several years don't smell like fish inside or outside their shops.

His allergy is a major concern too.

To avoid it, let her wash thoroughly before coming to his house. This is the best approach.

If she ticks his box and is a good woman to him, the best solution is good hygiene.

Thanks.

Thanks for this writeup. Thanks for been elaborate.

First , the issue did not happen to ur friend but to you. Secondly, communication is everything. If you dont know how to communicate then you are not ready for relationship. U dont like fish smell but did u tell her how you fell about it? Fact is if you had told r, she would work on it and either start using perfume anytime she is coming to ur place or will only come when she is not going to sell fish at all. The relationship no get problem ; na you wan give ham problem

gunners160:
First , the issue did not happen to ur friend but to you. Secondly, communication is everything. If you dont know how to communicate then you are not ready for relationship. U dont like fish smell but did u tell her how you fell about it? Fact is if you had told r, she would work on it and either start using perfume anytime she is coming to ur place or will only come when she is not going to sell fish at all. The relationship no get problem ; na you wan give ham problem

Well, I appreciate your moniker cos I'm an ardent fan of this great club, Arsenal. I'm sure you support them based on the name u carry here?
I'm not the one involved, it's my friend. What's the point lying?
No amount of perfume can suppress the fishy smell except she stops doing the business. You won't understand. My friend is my next door neighbor and I sometimes sleep in his room , I enter his room like it's my own and he does same with mine. I can attest to everything written here. I have the evidence, I have the video of the smell if u want to watch it. As I type, I can even perceive the smell 😂😂😂😂. It's irritating

First thing is do not assume but rather let her know that she has that smell and the impact on her person, her clothes , her aura , her environment and finally her man.

Sit down like human beings and discuss.

Then take steps to resolve it. That smell can be overpowering and nauseating especially when you are in that business. (Even handling some fish while cooking can leave a strong odor on the body, clothes and environment)...

But talk it out first and address next steps - including :

Wearing apron, protective clothings and gloves while handling the fish. Taking a full body bath after handling fish - using bleach, vinegar to reduce odor on body and clothes. Washing with deodorized soaps. Etc

And finally you may consider leaving that line of business.

Then he should break up

Ellapthia:
Compliment of the season to the Nairaland community. I wish you the Best of the season and even beyond.
Due to the fact that a lot of us here are trying to balance the books and tighten every loosed end ahead of the New year, I wouldn't want to bore you with too many stories as I intend hitting the nail on its head.
I have a dear friend(30) who is dating a girl(25). They have being together for two years, and have being conspicuously and seemingly loyal to each other until the relationship took a new turn lately. The issue appears very minor, but it's somewhat deep according to my friend. It took him lots of guts to open up to me about this.
The issue is, the girl now sells roasted catfish by the roadside. She assists her elder sister. It's actually her sister's business. My friend hates the smell of fish, He has an allergy for it's smell, as a matter of fact he tends to throw up any time he perceives the smell of any kind of fish.
His girlfriend now smells like same fish she sells. He explained to me that he can't even allow his girlfriend come for a visit cos whenever she comes into his room, the whole fish odor takes over the room and even after her exit from the room, the smell is entrapped to the room. No matter how she bathes and the amount of deodorants used, she still smells terribly. Whatever she touches, instantly smells fish. The whole of her apartment smells same. It's really embarrassing to say the least.
He hasn't being able to open up to the girlfriend so as not to make her feel bad, but the lady knows that she's gradually Losing her man.
Sincerely, I hate to meddle into people's romantic affairs. I also do not have a girlfriend at the moment. I've been out of relationship for over three years and I don't intend going into any, until I am financially and economically stable. No matter what anyone tells you, all I can say is that, it takes finance to sponsor romance. Don't get deceived by "Love" alone. Love isn't enough. Every lady I meet would claim to love me cos they their first impression of me is that I am Rich, due to how I look. Na God give me good body oo. I'm a poor orphan without a helper. Just hustling to stay afloat. Overtime, when they discover I'm not what they had initially thought & perceived to be, they start withdrawing gradually. They withdraw by frustrating me. Since I realized this, I stopped loving and dating.

I can't give any advice on this. But I'm definitely going to show him what nairalanders are saying about his case cos I sought his consent to post this here.
Thanks

It's actually a big deal since the threat poses a great risk to the man's health. Now, his girlfriend has to either withdraw from the business or up her hygiene. Wearing strong cologne won't make any difference if the clothes are dirty. The lady in question should have a designated outfit for the business, preferably white. After the close of work, when she gets home, she should soak the clothes worn in bleach and then wash (reason why I suggested white because bleach would ruin coloured outfit). That way, her clothes won't carry the fish smell. She should also wash her hair at the end of business each day. With this practice, I doubt if she can carry thr smell around.

Ellapthia:
Compliment of the season to the Nairaland community. I wish you the Best of the season and even beyond.
Due to the fact that a lot of us here are trying to balance the books and tighten every loosed end ahead of the New year, I wouldn't want to bore you with too many stories as I intend hitting the nail on its head.
I have a dear friend(30) who is dating a girl(25). They have being together for two years, and have being conspicuously and seemingly loyal to each other until the relationship took a new turn lately. The issue appears very minor, but it's somewhat deep according to my friend. It took him lots of guts to open up to me about this.
The issue is, the girl now sells roasted catfish by the roadside. She assists her elder sister. It's actually her sister's business. My friend hates the smell of fish, He has an allergy for it's smell, as a matter of fact he tends to throw up any time he perceives the smell of any kind of fish.
His girlfriend now smells like same fish she sells. He explained to me that he can't even allow his girlfriend come for a visit cos whenever she comes into his room, the whole fish odor takes over the room and even after her exit from the room, the smell is entrapped to the room. No matter how she bathes and the amount of deodorants used, she still smells terribly. Whatever she touches, instantly smells fish. The whole of her apartment smells same. It's really embarrassing to say the least.
He hasn't being able to open up to the girlfriend so as not to make her feel bad, but the lady knows that she's gradually Losing her man.
Sincerely, I hate to meddle into people's romantic affairs. I also do not have a girlfriend at the moment. I've been out of relationship for over three years and I don't intend going into any, until I am financially and economically stable. No matter what anyone tells you, all I can say is that, it takes finance to sponsor romance. Don't get deceived by "Love" alone. Love isn't enough. Every lady I meet would claim to love me cos they their first impression of me is that I am Rich, due to how I look. Na God give me good body oo. I'm a poor orphan without a helper. Just hustling to stay afloat. Overtime, when they discover I'm not what they had initially thought & perceived to be, they start withdrawing gradually. They withdraw by frustrating me. Since I realized this, I stopped loving and dating.

I can't give any advice on this. But I'm definitely going to show him what nairalanders are saying about his case cos I sought his consent to post this here.
Thanks

Tell her to use dudu osun to bath with sponge to remove the smell then find good spray

You don’t want to type much yen yen yen but you follow include your own story wey we no ask you..Na we say make you fat pass your pocket?

To the story; Your “friend “ should tell her about his discomfort and allergies ,get her good toiletries but I hope he won’t complain when she leaves the business and start depending on him in his One room apartment?

Juliearth:
It's actually a big deal since the threat poses a great risk to the man's health. Now, his girlfriend has to either withdraw from the business or up her hygiene. Wearing strong cologne won't make any difference if the clothes are dirty. The lady in question should have a designated outfit for the business, preferably white. Afternoon close of work, when she gets home, she should bleach the complete outfit and then wash. That way, her clothes won't carry the fish smell. She should also wash her hair at the end of business each day. With this practice, I doubt if she can carry thr smell around.

Nice input. Thanks so much 🙏🙏🙏

Origin:
First thing is do not assume but rather let her know that she has that smell and the impact on her person, her clothes , her aura , her environment and finally her man.

Sit down like human beings and discuss.

Then take steps to resolve it. That smell can be overpowering and nauseating especially when you are in that business. (Even handling some fish while cooking can leave a strong odor on the body, clothes and environment)...

But talk it out first and address next steps - including :

Wearing apron, protective clothings and gloves while handling the fish. Taking a full body bath after handling fish - using bleach, vinegar to reduce odor on body and clothes. Washing with deodorized soaps. Etc

And finally you may consider leaving that line of business.

Nice one, I really appreciate your wise counsel. 🙏🙏🙏

poshestmina:
You don’t want to type much yen yen yen but you follow include your own story wey we no ask you..Na we say make you fat pass your pocket?

To the story; Your “friend “ should tell her about his discomfort and allergies ,get her good toiletries but I hope he won’t complain when she leaves the business and start depending on him in his One room apartment?

So you already visited my friend to know he's leaving in single room apartment or you're just judging other people by your own standards?

Let the guy get her a better business or even a job so they can continue in the love they share.

DonEd:
Let the guy get her a better business or even a job so they can continue in the love they share.

Nice one!

Ellapthia:
So you already visited my friend to know he's leaving in single room apartment or you're just judging other people by your own standards?

There’s no way the fish smell will linger in all of his 2/3 bedrooms!
Tell your broke self to get good toiletries for your woman and good air diffusers or better still set up a new business for the girl.

poshestmina:
There’s no way the fish smell will linger in all of his 2/3 bedrooms!
Tell your broke self to get good toiletries for your woman and good air diffusers or better still set up a new business for the girl.

No matter how broke I'm , as long as no be ur papa dey give me money, no problem