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I just came across a very interested thread that exemplifies how women think and what they want.

You can check out it out here: https://www.nairaland.com/8304556/dating-guy-just-not-funny

The TL/DR of that thread is she's dating a guy who is tall, handsome and very attractive looks wise. Basically her spec. The problem is, he's not funny. And she bonds really well with funny people. He's a caring guy but he just can't make her laugh. To top it off, her first kiss with him was awkward.


Of course, guys in that thread are giving her advice that will surely fail: "just manage him" "focus on his strengths. Because everyone has flaws" "Praise him and joke with him. Make him comfortable"

While all those advice mean we'll, they fail to understand a very important lesson I've been repeating for over 1000 years: Women are Not Logical. And they ARE RULED by their emotions.

You can argue with it all you want but that her bf along with those guys giving logical advice will learn in hard way.

When a woman says "bonding" she simply means emotional stimulation and connection. Looks have little effect there. The amount of girls that have dated a good looking guy only to find out he doesn't have a personality or is boring.... can fill up Old Trafford stadium TWICE.

Looks just get you in the door. They're so negligible long term. Over time your personality and how you emotionally stimulate and arouse her will matter more than ANYTHING.

What's even worse is that she's an Arousal type of girl so unless that guy can learn how to make her laugh or stimulate her emotionally in some way, that relationship will just end up with her getting turned on by a funny smooth guy and fùcking the he'll out of him


Because she cannot manage him and no she cannot "help" him get funny. An awkward first kiss PLUS a boring guy is a FANTASTIC way for a guy to lose his relationship.

My best advice would be for the guy to work on himself. He ignored his personality and vibe (which is what women care the most about) and went to develop his looks and probably his finances.

For the girl, it's tough for her lol. Cause telling a guy he's boring will hurt his ego.

Anyways, this is just case no. 455,456,578,698 why women will LOVE their emotions more than anything else

Rizzputin:
Women are Not Logical. And they ARE RULED by their emotions.



When a woman says "bonding" she simply means emotional stimulation and connection. Looks have little effect there.

@bolded: 💯


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Some people are just too serious with life and that’s one thing that many women don’t like. They like to feel relaxed and happy around their man

Mikocake:
Some people are just too serious with life and that’s one thing that many women don’t like. They like to feel relaxed and happy around their man

Well, it still boils down to her emotions. And how her man influences it

Nobody is perfect..if she wants a funny man,she should not mind if he is fat or short ,since funny is top of her priority.I wanted to marry my foreign beautiful babe,she smokes a lot and I could not handle it,smoking is something I cannot bear from a woman.she is not willing to stop.so I ended it.no one is perfect.obviously she dey look for perfect person.she should break up with him and allow us to rest.she sef go get flaws wey the guy dey manage

You dey mind the mumu girl.

The guy has everything but he is not funny...

She will cry if he is funny but broke...or can't satisfy her or some other nonsensical reason.

She just doesn't like him, that's all. Yet she will be screaming ' where are all the good men?'


You cannot satisfy any woman 100%. Be yourself. My bestest motto

Aaaaarghmed:
Nobody is perfect..if she wants a funny man,she should not mind if he is fat or short ,since funny is top of her priority.I wanted to marry my foreign beautiful babe,she smokes a lot and I could not handle it,smoking is something I cannot bear from a woman.she is not willing to stop.so I ended it.no one is perfect.obviously she dey look for perfect person.she should break up with him and allow us to rest.she sef go get flaws wey the guy dey manage

You're still missing the point. No woman wants a perfect man

Perfect men are boring. Women are nurturers. So if you're perfect, there's nothing to fix or invest in.

So no, she doesn't want a perfect man

A funny guy isn't "top priority". A man that stimulates her emotions is top priority. Being funny is just one smooth and fun way to do it that relaxes her too

It's about her emotions not just about being funny

luminouz:
You dey mind the mumu girl.

The guy has everything but he is not funny...

She will cry if he is funny but broke...or can't satisfy her or some other nonsensical reason.

She just doesn't like him, that's all. Yet she will be screaming ' where are all the good men?'


You cannot satisfy any woman 100%. Be yourself. My bestest motto

Not really.

It's NOT: "The guy has everything but isn't funny"

It IS: "The guy has everything but isn't emotionally stimulating"

Girls like funny guys normally.

When i was in school, i know some girls that were always around me because of my funny character.

Another thing is that, they don't like introverts but that doesn't mean you should be kiss and tell.

Girls by nature are shy, for them to role with you, you have to make them feel free and happy when they're with you. If you're also shy or calm, you can't keep them for long.

Some of you think that only fine appearance attracts or keep women, but that's not true.

Most girls just like guys that makes them happy, whether the guy is ugly or fine, short or tall.

They may be attracted by your look at first sight or stage but when they come close they will see you finish and still leave or cheat on you with one careless guy