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goodman41:
I and my wife had issue and she packed some of my properties she bought with my money and left to her parents in my home town in Imo state. We from the same community some of her village people know me very well before I married her. After like three weeks I traveled down to the village to see my children on getting to my house I discovered that I forgot the key to my room in the city, but since my wife has her own key, I decided to trek to their house to collect her own key to enter inside. On getting their I told her I want to see my children but she said that I can't see my children I told her to give me her key that I forgot my own key but she told me she has lost the key which provoked me and I started shouting at her, immediately she and her sister start fighting me by picking an iron and hit it on my hand and one my right hand finger got broke even till now I can not do anything with it. My plan now is going to zone 9 Umuahia to arrest them for kidnapping my children and fighting me for coming to see my children. Please I need your advice on this and the amount am going to spend by bringing police from Umuahia to Imo state to arrest them or should I go to court direct? Remember they broke my hand and they must pay for it.

goodman41:
I and my wife had issue and she packed some of my properties she bought with my money and left to her parents in my home town in Imo state. We from the same community some of her village people know me very well before I married her. After like three weeks I traveled down to the village to see my children on getting to my house I discovered that I forgot the key to my room in the city, but since my wife has her own key, I decided to trek to their house to collect her own key to enter inside. On getting their I told her I want to see my children but she said that I can't see my children I told her to give me her key that I forgot my own key but she told me she has lost the key which provoked me and I started shouting at her, immediately she and her sister start fighting me by picking an iron and hit it on my hand and one my right hand finger got broke even till now I can not do anything with it. My plan now is going to zone 9 Umuahia to arrest them for kidnapping my children and fighting me for coming to see my children. Please I need your advice on this and the amount am going to spend by bringing police from Umuahia to Imo state to arrest them or should I go to court direct? Remember they broke my hand and they must pay for it.

goodman41:
I and my wife had issue and she packed some of my properties she bought with my money and left to her parents in my home town in Imo state. We from the same community some of her village people know me very well before I married her. After like three weeks I traveled down to the village to see my children on getting to my house I discovered that I forgot the key to my room in the city, but since my wife has her own key, I decided to trek to their house to collect her own key to enter inside. On getting their I told her I want to see my children but she said that I can't see my children I told her to give me her key that I forgot my own key but she told me she has lost the key which provoked me and I started shouting at her, immediately she and her sister start fighting me by picking an iron and hit it on my hand and one my right hand finger got broke even till now I can not do anything with it. My plan now is going to zone 9 Umuahia to arrest them for kidnapping my children and fighting me for coming to see my children. Please I need your advice on this and the amount am going to spend by bringing police from Umuahia to Imo state to arrest them or should I go to court direct? Remember they broke my hand and they must pay for it.

Mcreloaded:
Walk away.
Just continue life as if she was never there and you had no children from her.
It's not easy but then you get to preserve ur sanity.

It better people laugh you than say them cry for you.

You will come out stronger

Mcreloaded:
Walk away.
Just continue life as if she was never there and you had no children from her.
It's not easy but then you get to preserve ur sanity.

It better people laugh you than say them cry for you.

You will come out stronger

sofeo:
You must have been so calm and weak for her and her family for her and her sister to have treated you that way.

Well, apart from walking away like someone said, you need to rebuild yourself, so you don't get taken for granted easily again.

Please work on yourself and build your self esteem. It takes gradual process, but it's important for you.

No matter how nice the next woman you date might be, if your self esteem is still low and she perceive you as weak, then you begin another journey. I learnt that the hard way myself and thank God I'm not married yet, It affected my Dad too, I learnt from it. It's a totally changed story now.

Take charge of situations around you and be in control, in a very polite, sound and calm mind, and matured manner, not aggressively, being unnecessarily aggressive is a sign of weakness too, which got you into that fight that injured your hand.

When you have a sound mind, and you are in control of situations, women fear you, they shiver when they see you angry, because they don't know what would happen. But the moment you are predictable, you are gone.

If another man handles your woman, you will be surprised at how she may relate with such man, that's when you get to understand how women are programmed.

Smilleydr:
I like this and I wish I can take control over woman as well just that nature cheat me, I don't av a huge statue am old man but have a baby face.

goodman41:
I and my wife had issue and she packed some of my properties she bought with my money and left to her parents in my home town in Imo state. We from the same community some of her village people know me very well before I married her. After like three weeks I traveled down to the village to see my children on getting to my house I discovered that I forgot the key to my room in the city, but since my wife has her own key, I decided to trek to their house to collect her own key to enter inside. On getting their I told her I want to see my children but she said that I can't see my children I told her to give me her key that I forgot my own key but she told me she has lost the key which provoked me and I started shouting at her, immediately she and her sister start fighting me by picking an iron and hit it on my hand and one my right hand finger got broke even till now I can not do anything with it. My plan now is going to zone 9 Umuahia to arrest them for kidnapping my children and fighting me for coming to see my children. Please I need your advice on this and the amount am going to spend by bringing police from Umuahia to Imo state to arrest them or should I go to court direct? Remember they broke my hand and they must pay for it.

Onegai:
Well, it's only your side of the story we've heard so far and you certainly won't paint yourself as the Villian in it
.
The minute you go to the Police station or court, your marriage is over. Is that what you want?

Think well.

Nobody has kidnapped anyone because you knew where she was and even went there. That's proof enough against that.

Yes, Grevious Bodily Harm has been committed. But again, what if they were defending themselves and can prove that you swung first? I'm just saying, lawyer fit argue all this.

Not sure why this matter escalated to violence over mere words like "give me the key to the room please". But again, this is your side of the story, bros. So we work with it.

Go and treat your hand in the hospital. Buy small Stout and eat catfish peppersoup tonight.

Perish all thought of vengeance and pride. Or you'll do and say stuff you'll regret.

Go to church and spend the New Year praying to Master Jesus.

Start reading Proverbs from Chapter 1 to the last Chapter. You'll need it, we all do, because we're all fools in the eyes of the Almighty

Buy a Tecno phone with a SIM and send it to your wife with a WRITTEN message: "please this is for me to use to speak to my children".

Make sure you call them twice a week and be a father.

As for your marriage, hmm. Again, why is your wife and sister-in-law getting so heated that things are escalating to violence?

We will discuss that at a later time. For now, let's cool down everywhere, stay calm. Okay?

goodman41:
After gotten married to her some one from their village told my sister that their family is very wicked, that I didn't ask before going there to marry, that any man that married in their family use to go through pain and sorrow. They mother did not marry she born all of them in her father's house with different male claiming that her father didn't have a male child so she don't need to marry. The first daughter had a broken marriage,the second daughter her husband ran away and left her with four children, the third daughter her husband left her here Nigeria went to malesia for over 15 years, she has no child for the guy she even did traditional wedding with the guy picture a year after he left to malesia thinking that the guy will come back for her, I told my wife what some one from their village told my sister that we should be prayerful that our own case is different but my wife don't even know how to pray.

goodman41:
After gotten married to her some one from their village told my sister that their family is very wicked, that I didn't ask before going there to marry, that any man that married in their family use to go through pain and sorrow. They mother did not marry she born all of them in her father's house with different male claiming that her father didn't have a male child so she don't need to marry. The first daughter had a broken marriage,the second daughter her husband ran away and left her with four children, the third daughter her husband left her here Nigeria went to malesia for over 15 years, she has no child for the guy she even did traditional wedding with the guy picture a year after he left to malesia thinking that the guy will come back for her, I told my wife what some one from their village told my sister that we should be prayerful that our own case is different but my wife don't even know how to pray.

goodman41:
➜I and my wife had issue and she packed some of my properties she bought with my money and left to her parents in my home town in Imo state. We from the same community some of her village people know me very well before I married her. After like three weeks I traveled down to the village to see my children on getting to my house I discovered that I forgot the key to my room in the city, but since my wife has her own key, I decided to trek to their house to collect her own key to enter inside. On getting their I told her I want to see my children but she said that I can't see my children I told her to give me her key that I forgot my own key but she told me she has lost the key which provoked me and I started shouting at her, immediately she and her sister start fighting me by picking an iron and hit it on my hand and one my right hand finger got broke even till now I can not do anything with it. My plan now is going to zone 9 Umuahia to arrest them for kidnapping my children and fighting me for coming to see my children. Please I need your advice on this and the amount am going to spend by bringing police from Umuahia to Imo state to arrest them or should I go to court direct? Remember they broke my hand and they must pay for it.