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Negroid001:
It's like buying a car and you a given a refund despite mileage used. You no lose my bro

You re baad man

Are you considering cost of other marital rites he paid for. Because it is only bride price they will return.

djon78:
Just dey play
My Relative
Lavished millions to marry his wife

Las las the woman say she no do again
After 3 yrs
Her family returned not up to 5k
Put in an envelope
The marriage was dissolved

The guy went into serious depression
Serious turmoil
But him leave everything to God

The girl remarried immediately after her family returned bride price
But the new marriage no last up to a year
The young man was vindicated

That's why Men must vet properly and prayerful the woman they marry
It can go either way

I don't think God will save a man from such act. It is needless to spend or lavish money in wedding. It's also better to know the family the lady is coming from. Her failed marriages won't bring her back though

Celestialsword:
where are you from

I'm a Nigerian, where are you from?

Sonnobax15:

What makes you think they aren't doing that after seeking the consent of his father in-law?

Abeg tell your friend to go and collect his bride price and let him count his losses.....

If marriage no favour you,at least make you dey bold enough to try single-ship..... maybe that one fit favour you.

Dear citi girl! I'm sure you are a small girl bubbling with city life.

This is Africa Nigeria, We have culture and traditions i don't know what part of the world you are from, Avoid indulging in things or people's way of life that you know nothing about.

They can keep the money if they don't want to pay, But it's a shame and a stain on them. Who collect dowry go payback.

pocohantas:
Amen o. May we not also have married kids that go online to insult others. Better to be single in peace than an e-nuisance.

It is a faceless forum for a reason humpty dumpty.

Menopause nah bad thing sha.

ceejay80s:
I hear u but u hear me....
none of them where standing there when it was paid, how can ur own brother in-law return ur bride price, I don't know the state u are from but u can't do that in anambra except the dad is no longer alive or far away the first son is in position to do so

notwithstanding, the groom is not even the one to collect back the bride price cos when the bride price was paid, he wasn't the one that gave the in-laws the money but his kinsmen or father as the case may be. If they want to return they pride price, let them take it to his kinsmen not the groom unless the groom is foolish enough to take it.

galantjoe:
You re baad man

Are you considering cost of other marital rites he paid for. Because it is only bride price they will return.

Na the guy sabi. I ain't spending unnecessary money on no one.

pocohantas:
The question here is not if it can be returned to the groom, but if the bride's father must be part of the return team. So Mr/Ms Senior Genz, take a second to read before responding to me.

The father of the girl cannot claim ignorance because you have no knowledge of their indoor conversation. If they have done that and appointed people to come return it, then it up to the guy to be on ground with his kinsmen to receive it. If he does shakara, they can drop it with his village head. At no point is it compulsory the father must come himself! Given that from the look of things, the guy has not deemed it necessary to reach his inlaws all through the supposed period of reconciliation. If he wants reconciliation, then he should call for it.

Also, it is IGBO, not IBO.

Thank you

You read where I advised accordingly yet you taking this part of ignorance trajectories.

If they intend to return the bride price, there's that person every traditional marriage employes before ceremony, the .MEDITATOR, they should look for him and hand him the bride price.

Breaking of marriage is not easy either traditional or civil marriage. It takes 2 years minimum to get court divorce and when it is traditional it takes processes.

When your intending husband comes, definitely he'll do knocking of door, introduction, payment of bride price and finally traditional wedding. When your husband says he no do again, let your father inform one of your sister's husband to do the refund.

For the useless Inlaw that got involved, shame on him!

freshvine:
You read where I advised accordingly yet you taking this part of ignorance trajectories.

If they intend to return the bride price, there's that person every traditional marriage employes before ceremony, the .MEDITATOR, they should look for him and hand him the bride price.

Breaking of marriage is not easy either traditional or civil marriage. It takes 2 years minimum to get court divorce and when it is traditional it takes processes.

When your intending husband comes, definitely he'll do knocking of door, introduction, payment of bride price and finally traditional wedding. When your husband says he no do again, let your father inform one of your sister's husband to do the refund.

For the useless Inlaw that got involved, shame on him!

Dearest Senior Citizen,

All this are mere conjectures and irrelevant to the subject of the thread or my post. So don't quote me to advise, not after throwing your ignorant GenZ jab. You can do that as a standalone post. None of the parties involved have said they don't want the marriage dissolved. What the guy wants is for his ex FIL to call him or bring the bride price back himself and like I said and I repeat - IT IS NOT COMPULSORY THE MAN DOES THAT. EOD!

pocohantas:
Dearest Senior Citizen,

All this are mere conjectures and irrelevant to the subject of the thread or my post. So don't quote me to advise, not after throwing your ignorant GenZ jab. You can do that as a standalone post. None of the parties involved have said they don't want the marriage dissolved. What the guy wants is for his ex FIL to call him or bring the bride price back himself and like I said and I repeat - IT IS NOT COMPULSORY THE MAN DOES THAT. There are FILs that do not want to set eyes on the SIL again and some would even transfer your money back to you. EOD!

I know your type. Argumentative and irrational with delusional tendencies.

Changing color like a chameleon to suit your narrative is tantamount to irrational behavior.
Education is everyday process, be humble to learn this one.

A reasonable father that want to return bride price should do so through his kinsmen. Nobody is saying father in law should personally return it but the people returning it is not traditional and unacceptable.

freshvine:
I know your type. Argumentative and irrational with delusional tendencies.

Changing color like a chameleon to suit your narrative is tantamount to irrational behavior.
Education is everyday process, be humble to learn this one.

A reasonable father that want to return bride price should do so through his kinsmen. Nobody is saying father in law should personally return it but the people returning it is not traditional and unacceptable.

I know you too. Not even your type.

Appears from nowhere to pick on posts with some superiority complex. Don't try it with me again, Senior Citizen. My post was very clear and needs no further education. Thank you.

pocohantas:
I know you too. Not even your type.

Appears from nowhere to pick on posts with some superiority complex. Don't try it with me again, Senior Citizen. My post was very clear and needs no further education. Thank you.

Ignorance is no bliss. Be humble while learning. I've read through your incessant diatribes on this topic and as callous as they seem, you tentatively made adjustments to some belligerent views you expounded .

freshvine:
Ignorance is no bliss. Be humble while learning. I've read through your incessant diatribes on this topic and as callous as they seem, you tentatively made adjustments to some belligerent views you expounded .

Nothing to learn. Nothing you wrote that I didn't write on the FP. Go apply for a teaching job if you are so keen on that.

pocohantas:
Nothing to learn. Nothing you wrote that I didn't write on the FP. Go apply for a teaching job if you are so keen on that.

On this topic I am an authority, when it comes to anything HOOKUP I'll listen to you attentively.

freshvine:
On this topic I am an authority, when it comes to anything HOOKUP I'll listen to you attentively.

Senseless as expected. Character is like pregnancy, no matter how you guys disguise under "education", your main intent for quoting me offpoint must show. 😂😂

pocohantas:
Senseless as expected. Character is like pregnancy, no matter how you guys disguise under "education", your main intent for quoting me offpoint must show. 😂😂

People major in respective disciplines that's why i created the distinction. Your cognitive agility to distinguish the delineation is paramount as It will give you comparative advantage. So you see why i command intellectual prowess in this regard and intend to relinquish capacity to you in the area of HOOKUP. it's a win win situation for you and I.

freshvine:
People major in respective disciplines that's why i created the distinction. Your cognitive agility to distinguish the delineation is paramount as It will give you comparative advantage. So you see why i am command intellectual prowess in this regard and relinquish capacity to you in the area of HOOKUP. it's a win win situation for you and I.

Yawns...
Go back to the hole you crawled out from.
There is a reason I gave it back to you as e dey hot. You can't fool me with your initial pseudo-maturity and harmlessness. A snake is a snake.

😂😂😂😂😂

Sonnobax15:

What makes you think they aren't doing that after seeking the consent of his father in-law?

Abeg tell your friend to go and collect his bride price and let him count his losses.....

If marriage no favour you,at least make you dey bold enough to try single-ship..... maybe that one fit favour you.

Sense far from you
Don't start this year with stupidity
That's a warning

DaddyYankee:
Hello guys,,I am renting LinkedIn accounts from 50 connections. Should be one year old and above at good rates. Dm if interested. 0.7.9

Are you okay?

pocohantas:
Hahahaha. It is the angle for me.
Happy new year to you too. Wishing you a prosperous 2025, Omoluabi!

Thank you.

ceejay80s:
I hear u but u hear me....
none of them where standing there when it was paid, how can ur own brother in-law return ur bride price, I don't know the state u are from but u can't do that in anambra except the dad is no longer alive or far away the first son is in position to do so

So you want your friend to keep waiting for the woman who is tired of being his wife?
Okay, let him wait till his father-in-law calls him since he is the lion of the tribe in his house.
nansense!
A sensible man, after receiving that call. should have called his father-in-law if his wife had refused to pick up his calls after several attempts.
Didn't we all read when Olu Jacobs said his wife moved out years ago and he went back to bring her home that same day?

Your almighty friend rather than fix his marriage and home is running to you for advice, na you advise am to marry before>

Marriage is for that marured abeg.

in a marriage, when a wife leaves, a husband makes the first step to get her back, that way it shows the inlaws that he is in charge and knows what he wants.

Every marriage goes through challenges, it takes wisdom to navigate them.

ceejay80s:
hello guys
a friend came from port Harcourt to see me on 24th morning he was with me till 25th ,
we were at night gisting and I ask about his wife.....
to cut the long story short,

the father in-law is still alive but the wife, sister and her sisters husband called him that they will be coming to his place to return the bride price,
I asked him , who did u give the bride price to?
he said the father, I told him to ignore them until the father in-law calls u or ur father before u go and collect it.

Nairalanders I hope I am right?

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO U ALL

It depends on the situation on ground, if the wife is fed up with marriage same with the husband and they have called him to come collect his bride price

He should go and collect it from whomever is giving him, so far the person is a member of the family and the ex wife is there to confirm she is done with the marriage

For that person to call him, they have all agreed to return it to him with the approval of his ex wife

The father may have nothing to say as the final decision is on the wife that she us no longer interested