I have been married for quite some time but I have notice from my interactions with other men that once your wife knows that you have some money, it has to be spent, even without consideration for your need or plan. Then my question is, should we men start hiding our money from our wives after taking care of our fundamental responsibilities? Please, I need advise.

It's silly to be hiding stuffs in your own house,if you operate your marriage based on what you hear from others,be ready to fail where others failed. Hiding money ke?

For me, I can NEVER hide money from my wife. As a matter of fact, my wife keeps our money in her account and I only keep little in my account for just fueling my car and other little things. This has helped us to plan things and we have about 4 buildings now.
To me, my wife is the best banker for the family, the best friend to me and my best adviser because I usually spend all my money with me when I go out with friends as I tend t give out any amount with me when people ask for money from me, I give out to a fault. But since I started keeping my money with my wife, I tell her to give me the amount I needed for the day and I make sure I spend within what I have. With this practice, it has helped us to plan for so many things. In fact, I tell me wife any amount of money with me I get even if it is 10 naira as I do not know how to hide. I drop my money open in my wardrobe and my wife and I can take money as we want and when we run out, we both go to the bank together.
Men can have their own opinion, but for me, having to be open to your wife will make her believe you when you tell her that you do not have, she will know you don't have. When you hide money from her, anytime you explain that you do not have money, she can NEVER believe you as she will take your response with doubt.

Other men will also tell u how,when and d position to use when bein intimate with ur wife bc that is how they do it too.when men stop bein men,..........,
It still baffles me why we look for trouble and problem when there is none,
Op,indulge urself.
My only annoyance will be that u won't tell us d after effect of d experiment.

Women should do the hiding. Very good at that

being open to your partner is the best, and forget about what people say.

None of you posters above have answered the op's question, he discovered that each time the wife knows her hubby has money or he is opened to his wife as regards the amounnt of money he has, na to "spend all" level she day,ie, she will spend everything without planning for the future, the op is now asking if its right for him to hide money from her since she is not the prudent type.

To answer you question......
@op, if your wife is the "spend all" type, then, you have to apply wisdom, before you declare all the money you have, make sure you have saved some for the rainy season, so that, there wont be "biting of fingers" when the need to spend on necessary things arise.
BUT
If shes the prudent type, its better to be open with and to her, it even helps in planning for the family, since she knows what is available, she wont demand for what she knows you cant afford.

May God uphold your home.

akanbi3: I have been married for quite some time but I have notice from my interactions with other men that once your wife knows that you have some money, it has to be spent, even without consideration for your need or plan. Then my question is, should we men start hiding our money from our wives after taking care of our fundamental responsibilities? Please, I need advise.

Don't generalize
I for one am not a spender
So not all women are like that
I like the assurance of some savings to fall back on and will certainly not encourage useless spending
If your wife is irresponsible ,you should hide money from her then

greatgod2012: None of you posters above have answered the op's question, he discovered that each time the wife knows her hubby has money or he is opened to his wife as regards the amounnt of money he has, na to "spend all" level she day,ie, she will spend everything without planning for the future, the op is now asking if its right for him to hide money from her since she is not the prudent type.

To answer you question......
@op, if your wife is the "spend all" type, then, you have to apply wisdom, before you declare all the money you have, make sure you have saved some for the rainy season, so that, there wont be "biting of fingers" when the need to spend on necessary things arise.
BUT
If shes the prudent type, its better to be open with and to her, it even helps in planning for the family, since she knows what is available, she wont demand for what she knows you cant afford.

May God uphold your home.

Op's intended stance is solely based on what he heard from other men ,not what he is experiencing.

greatgod2012: None of you posters above have answered the op's question, he discovered that each time the wife knows her hubby has money or he is opened to his wife as regards the amounnt of money he has, na to "spend all" level she day,ie, she will spend everything without planning for the future, the op is now asking if its right for him to hide money from her since she is not the prudent type.

Madam ,read it again,he didn't ask ? Cos his wife takes his money.
He said,"from my interaction with my friends.......,gosh,let him experiment based on what his friends said and tell us d outcome

Even though I am not married, I personally will follow an age old statement my dad has thought me!!!

[size=20pt]Never Let a Woman Know Exactly What You Are Worth. If you are worth 100naira, tell her you are worth just 50 naira!!! [/size]

I intend to follow that rule to the letter!!!

^^ Then make sure you're equally open and accepting to the fact that your wife will be dishonest with you about the money she has. Her money.

Also, make sure you don't complain if she goes one step further and secretly buys lands in her name and builds houses in her name too, seeing as you plan on building the foundation of your marriage on deception.

roy seriously, you are not married which means you do not know any thing about marriage. whatever you think you are seeing now is totally different when you get married. a little advise, whatever you say or do is what your wife will do so, if yo do the right thing your wife will do the right thing 2. pls do not lie so that your wife will not begin to lie too. you sound smart so be smart. marriage is beautiful and where people become one not 2 so get your life 4get you father's.

Gbam!

Royal Roy: Even though I am not married, I personally will follow an age old statement my dad has thought me!!!

[size=20pt]Never Let a Woman Know Exactly What You Are Worth. If you are worth 100naira, tell her you are worth just 50 naira!!! [/size]

I intend to follow that rule to the letter!!!

Bro, I will advise you to drop this your dad's personal theory that has failed test of time. It worked for him because of the nature of the person he married. Do you also want to marry someone that cannot or will not be able to appreciate and celebrate your full worth?

Please, I beg you, search diligently, there are still many prudent and trustworthy ladies out there with whom you can plan for the future. I was once in this your shoe a long time ago, I for one was not taught, I taught myself based on few ladies I knew then. However, my theory changed when I began relating with the right people. This theory can't take anybody to places, no matter what you achieve alone, with an understanding and a great woman, you will achieve much more.

If you can be patient enough to get a virtuous lady, its the best thing that can happen to your life and destiny after salvation. You will not be taught to drop that theory when you encounter one. So, do it right bro...

Different things work for different people, but in general, honesty is the best policy. If you and your wife have different spending habits then you need to explain things to her. You need to let her know your own priorities and what you are investing in or saving for.

If you are married and still hide money from your wife,you are a boy and a bachelor who shouldn't consider himself married!

God help us

I really appreciate all comments and I have learnt a lot from them. The truth is when I see a strange attitude I tried to find out why and the way out immediately. I started seen this attitude two weeks ago, that is why I interacted with some of my friends on the issue. Actually they all have diverse views leaving me confused. That is why I throw it out to the forum and I have learnt more better way to deal with it now. Thanks everyone.

EVERY MAN KNOWS THE KIND OF WIFE HE MARRIED SO IT IS THE DUTY OF THE MAN TO TELL THE WIFE HOW MUCH HE HAVE THAT IS IF THE MAN WISH OOOO BECOS MONEY CAN GET INTO SOME WOMEN HEAD SO EASILY O AND THEY WILL BEGIN TO SEND IT ANY HOW

NO!!

We nid to know where the money is incase of emergencies !!

I cannot justify whether it is a good thing to do or not but me i go da am oh

Yes oooooooooooooooooooo

akanbi3: I have been married for quite some time but I have notice from my interactions with other men that once your wife knows that you have some money, it has to be spent, even without consideration for your need or plan. Then my question is, should we men start hiding our money from our wives after taking care of our fundamental responsibilities? Please, I need advise.

Sounds like you earn very little and your wife isn't employed...the solution isn't to hide money from her rather let her get a job.

Teach your wife about the benefits of saving money for retirement and the rainy days. let her realise money in your hands is power. Once she gets this, there will be no need to hide money from her.

Having said that, yes, women love to shop..so an important prayer is abundance of money so they can spend (with some common sense).

I'm not just whistling dixies. I'm a living witness - my wife used to get payday loan regularly before we got married. so it was war at some point. But she studied my lifestyle of saving and saw the immense benefits. Now, she still shops but with sense. She still buys unnecessary stuff simply because it's on sale. LOL. But thankfully, we live in a world where you can return stuff for full refunds...so yea..back to the store.

If she's your wife - she will see the benefits and listen.

But again..ultimately, pray there's money available o...because women love to shop!

andyanders: For me, I can NEVER hide money from my wife. As a matter of fact, my wife keeps our money in her account and I only keep little in my account for just fueling my car and other little things. This has helped us to plan things and we have about 4 buildings now.
To me, my wife is the best banker for the family, the best friend to me and my best adviser because I usually spend all my money with me when I go out with friends as I tend t give out any amount with me when people ask for money from me, I give out to a fault. But since I started keeping my money with my wife, I tell her to give me the amount I needed for the day and I make sure I spend within what I have. With this practice, it has helped us to plan for so many things. In fact, I tell me wife any amount of money with me I get even if it is 10 naira as I do not know how to hide. I drop my money open in my wardrobe and my wife and I can take money as we want and when we run out, we both go to the bank together.
Men can have their own opinion, but for me, having to be open to your wife will make her believe you when you tell her that you do not have, she will know you don't have. When you hide money from her, anytime you explain that you do not have money, she can NEVER believe you as she will take your response with doubt.

Are you for real? Your money in her account? while i salute your love and utmost trust for her which is tantamount to success in marriages but at times,throwing caution to the wind can be highly risky. I don't wish but if the tables turn what the heck would happen? I mean you would be left on ground zero. Hope the buildings are not in her name too?
Respect to you,this is really commendable though and i hope it is for better for worse for life
On a lighter note
People go fink say she give you something chop or
She dey wash her dikeh ton.to for your food!!!!

Its not advisable to keep such information (esp. shares, investment, bank accts etc) from your wife or children. This is the reason why there are lots of unclaimed cash in the bank.

If person go jam sudden death, na bank go chop ur money o! God forbid sha.

Op, does your wife steal your money?

This is the decision which has to do with the character of a woman, if she is a spender you no need ask, go ahead and hide but if she is a saver you have no need to hide.

But again what do you mean by hiding? is it keeping the money far from her reach or non disclosure of your income?

Silly mods the post justifying PEJ coming out of the air plain first before GEJ is still in political section.
So were is your balance in reporting? You have till the end of today to bring that post to the front page.
Hypocrites.

under probability sha