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Men dey F up

1Sharon:
Because she rejected one man? 💀

You don't get it.
Clapping back only make you same.

ednut1:
Women get at least 50 to 100 of these messages in a month. They will look at your profile to assess you. If you no meet standards they wont reply 😂. As a man if she doesn’t reply once just move on. Many of the bitter alpha males on line are men that women have rejected severally

I usually don't give out my number to men I'm not interested in because I don't want wahala but if you insist on the premise that you won't disturb me (which I know is a lie), I'd give you so you learn lesson the hard way.

And to be honest, I'm exhausted when these same men don't get the handwriting on the wall that I'm not interested.

folake4u:
I usually don't give out my number to men I'm not interested in because I don't want wahala but if you insist on the premise that you won't disturb me (which I know is a lie), I'd give you so you learn lesson the hard way.

And to be honest, I'm exhausted when these same men don't get the handwriting on the wall that I'm not interested.

Pic: After this guy begged to have my contact, he's been disturbing me in my DM and calling at odd random hours. I finally had to spell it out to him yesterday that I'm not interested in him at all. I hope he gets the cue finally and leave me alone. I don't want to block anybody this year, the year still fresh.

Some men are so terrible. They lack self-respect, dignity and pride. I think the mentality of "press forward till she agrees" is the problem. If a lady says no or does not respond (after seeing the post), the best is to stop. Possibly, unfollow her and don't bother to comment on her posts.

As humans, we cannot always win.

Gerrard59:
Some men are so terrible. They lack self-respect, dignity and pride. I think the mentality of "press forward till she agrees" is the problem. If a lady says no or does not respond (after seeing the post), the best is to stop. Possibly, unfollow her and don't bother to comment on her posts.

As humans, we cannot always win.

As much as I hate what the guy did to folake, women still have faults in that.

They are there on social media telling stories of how their man chased them for years. Saying they want an intentional man. They even go as far calling anyone with a counter point a pick me or a misogynist.

Men read this and they want to pattern their behavior after it because it's what ladies claim works.

folake4u:
I usually don't give out my number to men I'm not interested in because I don't want wahala but if you insist on the premise that you won't disturb me (which I know is a lie), I'd give you so you learn lesson the hard way.

And to be honest, I'm exhausted when these same men don't get the handwriting on the wall that I'm not interested.

Pic: After this guy begged to have my contact, he's been disturbing me in my DM and calling at odd random hours. I finally had to spell it out to him yesterday that I'm not interested in him at all. I hope he gets the cue finally and leave me alone. I don't want to block anybody this year, the year still fresh.

Some men no really get shame sha.

This is horrible.

Gerrard59:
Some men are so terrible. They lack self-respect, dignity and pride. I think the mentality of "press forward till she agrees" is the problem. If a lady says no or does not respond (after seeing the post), the best is to stop. Possibly, unfollow her and don't bother to comment on her posts.

As humans, we cannot always win.

Terrible is an understatement.

I don't even understand the logic of pressing forward till she agrees. If I don't like you the first time, nothing will change if you keep disturbing me 10 times after, I'd be disgusted instead.

Thank you! We cannot always win. We reject people, and people reject us too.

Karleb:
Some men no really get shame sha.

This is horrible.

I'm even tired.

There are many like that though.

folake4u:
I usually don't give out my number to men I'm not interested in because I don't want wahala but if you insist on the premise that you won't disturb me (which I know is a lie), I'd give you so you learn lesson the hard way.

And to be honest, I'm exhausted when these same men don't get the handwriting on the wall that I'm not interested.

Pic: After this guy begged to have my contact, he's been disturbing me in my DM and calling at odd random hours. I finally had to spell it out to him yesterday that I'm not interested in him at all. I hope he gets the cue finally and leave me alone. I don't want to block anybody this year, the year still fresh.

Popular culture - movies, music videos etc have taught us that women play hard to get, women have to be chased, no means maybe.

And the flip side is if a guy actually stops when a woman says no you may later hear that she called you a slacker.

Watch when Harry met Sally. Quintessential keep going movie.

GloriousGbola:
Popular culture - movies, music videos etc have taught us that women play hard to get, women have to be chased, no means maybe.

And the flip side is if a guy actually stops when a woman says no you may later hear that she called you a slacker.

Watch when Harry met Sally. Quintessential keep going movie.

Well contrary in my own world.

Of course, women have to be chased, I agree but when the woman in question doesn't reciprocate an ounce of likeness or affection, it's best to leave the lass alone.

PS: I'm always pleased when people I'm not interested in finally read the handwriting on the wall. A win-win.

Karleb:
As much as I hate what the guy did to folake, women still have faults in that.

They are there on social media telling stories of how their man chased them for years. Saying they want an intentional man. They even go as far calling anyone with a counter point a pick me or a misogynist. Men read this and they want to pattern their behavior after it because it's what ladies claim works.

Shameless men, you mean. If woman no like me, I no dey force myself. I cannot force a lady to a date. The annoying thing in OP's and many Nigerian men's own is wooing a lady privately, then insulting her publicly. I don't get it - this is someone you wanted to take out for a date and suddenly the same man displays anger towards the said lady.

My mantra has always been: if she says no, let her go. It is not by force.

The only time I put pressure is when money is involved. Why force a lady to a date that you are likely the biggest spender?

folake4u:
I usually don't give out my number to men I'm not interested in because I don't want wahala but if you insist on the premise that you won't disturb me (which I know is a lie), I'd give you so you learn lesson the hard way.

And to be honest, I'm exhausted when these same men don't get the handwriting on the wall that I'm not interested.

Pic: After this guy begged to have my contact, he's been disturbing me in my DM and calling at odd random hours. I finally had to spell it out to him yesterday that I'm not interested in him at all. I hope he gets the cue finally and leave me alone. I don't want to block anybody this year, the year still fresh.

Karleb:
Some men no really get shame sha.

This is horrible.

Nigeria is an extremely shameless society but what we actually require is balance, a bit of decorum. for example in the Uk, London specifically. Women are complaining that men do not approach them or speak to them. It is an extremely “mind your business” environment while Nigeria is an extreme busy body environment.

A woman can be here for 6 months & no man will say a single “Hi” to her. I go to the gym here & men mind their business, nobody says hi to any lady at all except they came together.