₦airaland Forum

Most of our men from age 16 to 35 have no business with relationship wisdom. Even if you tell them the truth, they'll go and tell her what you said.

It's not a man's job to fall in love, but to provide protection, but men won't listen.

Stay away from emotional attachment from both women and money and watch how you'll have peace of mind.

A woman operates based on emotions. Whatever you've done for her doesn't matter. In fact, the less you want her, the more she wants the little you have to offer over the might goodies the person who wants her offers.

Sometimes it goes down for free...

illicit:
Sometimes it goes down for free...

Most times self. The only thing I pay is transport and giving her WiFi connection. I feel as if I'm the loser for even paying her TP. Why? The pleasure is hers, 80%. So, I'm supposed to be paid.

iLegendd:
Most times self. The only thing I pay is transport and giving her WiFi connection. I feel as if I'm the loser for even paying her TP. Why? The pleasure is hers, 80%. So, I'm supposed to be paid.

Stop showing yourself.
Most guys always say this but not actually true.

If you send only transport for your babe. You may actually assist her in other things. Abi you pays rent for her?

But why would a sane person send 500k for a woman's birthday that is not his Wife?

Howmuch has he sent for his Mum's birthday

iLegendd:
Most times self. The only thing I pay is transport and giving her WiFi connection. I feel as if I'm the loser for even paying her TP. Why? The pleasure is hers, 80%. So, I'm supposed to be paid.

I know that feeling bro...

Any girl that deserves t.fare, not once, not twice, especially from the first time is not worth it

I won't like to do them

😁

Who is his woman? Let's know if this is a case of pot calling kettle black.

And, how much did he send to his parents or siblings for the whole year?

Bendeco02:
Stop showing yourself.
Most guys always say this but not actually true.

If you send only transport for your babe. You may actually assist her in other things. Abi you pays rent for her?

Have you dated foreigners before? When you tell these local fowls info they jump in with Nigerian mentality. This is why they feel Nigerian girls' hungry attitude is universal.

How far has Nigeria grown with our mentality? We're the smartest, but look at how we suffer in almost everything, except music.

We're still among the most struggling nations. That should tell you a lot that we need a mental shift. Every woman should have a skill and fend for herself or the man who brought her into this world should do it.

He's only obligated when she has a child for him and DNA has proven it.

Have I given women money? Foreign women, no. Naija women, yes. Out of pity, not to buy love or induce her to love me.

When you have money and a living thing (women or men) needs help, you give, but most of you are giving in exchange for sex or to be loved.

That is what I'm against.

Juicethekid:
but I thought you were a Virgin sir?

Still a virgin o. Keeping it tight.

iLegendd:
Still a virgin o. Keeping it tight.

Noted
How you doing boss hope say you dey alright

iLegendd:
Have you dated foreigners before? When you tell these local fowls info they jump in with Nigerian mentality. This is why they feel Nigerian girls' hungry attitude is universal.

How far has Nigeria grown with our mentality? We're the smartest, but look at how we suffer in almost everything, except music.

We're still among the most struggling nations. That should tell you a lot that we need a mental shift. Every woman should have a skill and fend for herself or the man who brought her into this world should do it.

He's only obligated when she has a child for him and DNA has proven it.

Have I given women money? Foreign women, no. Naija women, yes. Out of pity, not to buy love or induce her to love me.

When you have money and a living thing (women or men) needs help, you give, but most of you are giving in exchange for sex or to be loved.

That is what I'm against.

But we're talking of Nigeria girls here not foreign girls

Juicethekid:
Noted
How you doing boss hope say you dey alright

People better and smarter than me are paying for oxygen at the hospital to survive, but I'm privileged to have it for free, so I'm alright, my chairman.

Most Yahoo boys have low esteem,they live to impress they have no self worth, imagine suffering to scam person the next thing that enters your head to give woman money

Bendeco02:
But we're talking of Nigeria girls here not foreign girls

We tend to emulate foreign cultures excessively, but if our women must imitate, they should adopt the "Miss Independent" ethos and the industrious, skillful mindset of Chinese women.

Unfortunately, many focus instead on embracing the more superficial and destructive aspects of Western culture—obsessing over Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBLs), skin lightening (often tied to a misguided sense of superiority), and other damaging trends. "Miss independent" wey dem suppose emulate, 98% of them no fit.

Nigerian men, on the other hand, are complicit in this by financing these pursuits, often in a desperate bid to earn affection or love.

I no talk say make you no spend o. It’s fine to spend on a woman if you have surplus wealth, like Burna Boy perhaps, but never as a transactional effort to secure love. The chat of that ₦500k man in tears is a cautionary tale—he "invested" emotionally and financially, expecting love in return, only to be left heartbroken by a 25 kpa rendezvous.

Wise men, however, have already distanced themselves from such illusions. Even before entering a relationship, they harbor no expectations, recognizing the cultural shift that has normalized the Americanized "my body, my choice" mantra. This mindset has made emotional commitment increasingly precarious.

When a woman eventually acts in ways that align with these expectations, the wise man isn’t surprised. He either disengages or relegates her to a non-primary role, all while encouraging her to explore other relationships. Such men are detached from materialism, physical desires, or the pursuit of romantic validation.

If you aspire to live a long and stress-free life, adopt this pragmatic approach. Free yourself from overblown expectations, for unmet expectations are the root of heartbreak—a slippery slope to emotional devastation and even physical ailments like depression and hypertension.

iLegendd:
Most times self. The only thing I pay is transport and giving her WiFi connection. I feel as if I'm the loser for even paying her TP. Why? The pleasure is hers, 80%. So, I'm supposed to be paid.

My Way na 1k ... Any money wey pass 1k , I no dey give ...

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If she baby this this this and that that that ... Na only 1k I get .. I get future to build .. me sef wan get empire like dangote...

Dem nack mine for free. She even fetches my food and take to the bast*d

Just yesterday a lady(I know, its been long we see) came to my office and gave me hot Mouth Action, just like that, we did not even call each other prior to that, she did not ask for anything as a matter of fact the last time I sent her money was 2 years ago and it was 5k. Only foolish boys with low-self esteem want to impress ladies with money.

Silentgroper:
My Way na 1k ... Any money wey pass 1k , I no dey give ...

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If she baby this this this and that that that ... Na only 1k I get .. I get future to build .. me sef wan get empire like dangote...

bros, mine is 3k max. Honestly speaking.

Anything wey pass 3k, you wan gimme high blood pressure be that.

how does emotions apply to ₦25k?

She did it for the money, zero emotions.

16-35, I don't think this is a matter of age thing because a foolish is a matter of age

He's a working boy, less surprised.

Most of them think everything revolves around money and they discovered that there's more to sh!t than the money they have so I have no pity to offer.

emperor4love:
One dey need to arrest him first and repatriate the money before talking of his foolishness

I support this POV!

Soneh:
Dem nack mine for free. She even fetches my food and take to the bast*d

He isn't a bast*rd, blame loose girl, man.

All i kno be say .. Men go still dey market till 60 yrs old…..

This kind lesson dey make man fresh….

500k.wey the cockerel suppose use take buy one second hand Keke with sharp engine carry give one jobless young man for area make he dey balance am by every weekend,he just go waste am untop one native hen head

Well,this is what you should expect as a man who's trying his best to personalize commodities that belongs to an entire community.

COMRADES, any man who is yet to wise up on woman's issues, it is left to him

Brotherhood is ashamed of this bast*ard SIMPle man, and his mom and siblings dey beg for Maggi.

Useless idi*ots everywhere

Lol , you should be proud of your gf say them knack am with #25k, and not with indomie & egg or lamba...hahahaha 😂

One dey need to arrest him first and repatriate the money before talking of his foolishness

SIMPS are more in population nowadays.
Go to social media and see men commenting up and down on posts that specifically say "Women/Ladies only."

The only girl I had interest to spend on used to give me slot of cash when I was a student and she risk so much on me. The first time I wore a boutique dress, she got them for me....

Aside her, I'd never spend money on a lady I am in a relationship with......

I've seen a girl in a serious relationship giving my guy free knacks and she's telling the other guy that she wants to stay away from sex till marriage.

How is that your business tho?

Everybody go come social media come form woke!

The thing I see here is betrayal and anybody can betray anybody regardless of the relationship.

Parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, course mates, church members can also betray you.

Do what works for you ogbeni

immortalcrown:
Who is his woman? Let's know if this is a case of pot calling kettle black.

And, how much did he send to his parents or siblings for the whole year?

Don't mind the crook.
He is collecting money from one woman under the guise of fake love and spending it on another.
He is not loyal to the woman feeding him but he wants to buy another woman's loyalty with money.
In fact, he got a good dose of karma.

I will implement this later. Right now, I’m happy being single.