₦airaland Forum

Ten canes to use on one child alone is too much. No matter what they've done, children should not be beaten with the same level of vexation they have caused you, otherwise you'll find yourself staring at a corpse.

Pepperdemisback:
Why are their children always doing house help in that place? I thought they are all billionaires.

they are only billionaires in Biafra currency

No matter how badly behaved a child is, as long as it’s not your child, you don’t have to keep them under your roof to end up maltreating them. Send them back to their parents

Ggggg

docdes:
How can people be this wicked?

Na the house help vex her. But she forget to control her emotion. Now Oga dey cry, maid dey cry. People dey enter the matter.

A mother faced with a difficult decision. Out of desperation, she sends her young girl away to work as a domestic servant, believing that the opportunities and care the girl might receive elsewhere surpass what they can provide. Not malice. Just clinging to hope.

A lady employs a 13 year old girl as her house help. What should she do if the help steals?

Moral line I: can a man ask if there is a blurred distinction between discipline and abuse? Or ask “What does it mean to "batter" someone?” Is it now merely an act of corporal punishment, or does it carry a deeper connotation of cruelty? Is their manifestation of cruelties in the girl appearance?

A girl screams for help in the market when she saw her employer buy 8 fresh canes. Was she crying out in terror against a history of relentless abuse, or could it be that this a singular act of discipline is blown out of proportion?
I see the girl’s back. Have I lost my conscience to think that a single stroke of a cane can leave a temporary mark on the skin? And this doesn’t look like batter. I wasn’t there. How arrogant to think I can judge from a picture, and how vicious I have become to seek visible scars as evidences of batter.


Moral line II: Can I say most embodies a brand of brutality. Had that girl stolen from the market, the saviors will be a mob that would likely have descended upon her with an unspeakable vengeance. If she were pretty, Men and women of the poor folks tend to be emboldened by collective rage for their ilks: let us strip her naked, leaving her dignity in tatters. Let us record the videos for it will serve our bodily pleasures. If it were a boy, his fate even more gruesome—a public lynching, his body doused in fuel, and a fire ignited by people wielding "justice." Spare tires and gasoline are perpetually available for such acts of vigilantism, yet the same crowd that unleashes such fury now fashions itself as the girl’s savior.

And then there’s the NGOs, they can’t do all things. Is it fair then to say they are eager to cast this narrative in black and white? One NGO will reiterate our outrage: the woman who employed the child is nothing short of a villain! They advocate for her punishment, for they think we cannot save all from their fate, but her suffering will deter others from maltreating children. Let another NGO be with another nuance. That considers the systemic issues that force a child into domestic labour in the first place. That considers the circumstances that pushed the parents to relinquish their daughter. That is cognizant of the structural failures that have allowed this practice to persist. That beyond a moral outrage, hold the government to account.

Moral line III: The police, an institution riddled with its own history of violence can steps in as both judge and jury. And the rest of us—the public—can join the chorus of condemnation.

Let us focus on the optics: The woman is even a mother herself! How could she do this to someone else’s child? Let us ensure a carefully staged photograph of the accused holding her own baby makes the headlines, fueling the people’s collective indignation.

The vicious employer: You demand justice for the girl while ignoring signs that her basic needs might have been met. Was she adequately clothed? You do not even know whether her employer ensure she was attending school. How can these questions fade into irrelevance for you lots. Yes, I disciplined her, but it was not without cause. She stole, and though she has denied, but I know she did. Put my pictures over the internet and banish me into shame. Adopt the girl or return her to parents. Crucify me for not indulging her.

She is in the police cell with the teacher that assaulted a child. I repeatedly slapped a little child in frustration over the course of imparting knowledge. Before you, I was the target of public scorn. My livelihood was stripped away, and I was branded unfit to teach.

Moral line IV: After your livelihood was stripped away, did they stop to question why such incidents occur? Why are teachers left undertrained, underpaid, and overwhelmed?
Our outrage tends to be misdirected. We demand retribution against individuals—employers, teachers, parents—without addressing the societal structures that perpetuate these situations. Why are families so impoverished that they must send their children to work? Why does the state neglect to provide adequate support for education, child welfare, and economic security? Punishing one woman, one teacher, or one parent does little to dismantle the systems that create these tragedies.

The mob: So, create your own NGO!!!

Naija is a theater of contradictions. Those that claim to care for the vulnerable thrive on sensationalism. Until we confront the deeper, systemic issues, we are destined to replay these dramas, casting new villains while the real problems remain untouched.

Ire O!!!

It is quite ironic that the most feminist ethnic group in the entire nation also has the highest reported cases of child abuse in the entire south. I had to make a call to the police last year to report an "iron lady" igbo woman who was subjecting her niece to various forms of abuse. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when she made the girl sleep outside for an entire night. I woke up that morning around 3 and had to wrap myself in a blanket because of how cold it was. And at the same time, a 13-year-old girl had to sleep in a keke. I was so bleeping mad. The whole neighborhood was irate. And to make it worse, it was to her own family member. I can only imagine how they treat people not related to them.

One of my good friends had a similar experience at age 14 after his mom died and had to live with an Onitsha couple. He is in his 30s today and the scars from the injuries inflicted on his scalp still remain and is clearly visible when he cuts his hair short. What a vile group of people - fundamentally incapable of self-reflection and so eager to blame everyone else for their problems?

I keep saying this,igbo women are wicked when it comes to the maltreatment of their house help.Check most news on maltreatment of domestic servants,the perpetrators of those wicked acts are all igbo women.

These wicked igbo women again. 😡

What are the offices of women of affairs and ministries of justice in the states really doing or are they just about sharing monies ? They should be Able to send bills to legislators to criminalize incidents like these to at least 15 years imprisonment to serve as a deterrent

Kai

The heart of the average Nigerian woman is wicked, very wicked and heartless souls.
Connection dem no get, money dem no get, even Virginity wey be free sef, Dem no get.
That's why they can't leave their child with their baby daddies
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Women... Fear them oh. Most of them are beautiful facially but their heart is dark as hell.

Pepperdemisback:
Why are their children always doing house help in that place? I thought they are all billionaires.

Envy kee you there. Go out and make money if you have good head.

Wicked people full that place why?

Naa Igbo woman..

Always from the east women...they see having househelps as opportunity to show their level of wickedness

Ok

She's nothing but a coward.

Make I nor talk.

You wiill get justice, little one.

I'm just grateful I'm not surrounded by heartless women, and I wouldn't ever let that happen in my home.

I don't know the kind of evil spirit controling women to always maltreatment of their maids

See her pic after the incidence.
I wish I could see her pics when she was beating her.

Pepperdemisback:
Why are their children always doing house help in that place? I thought they are all billionaires.

If you keep saying things like this every now and then, I put it to you that it has been tried and tested...
That when real matters of importance will need your input, you won't have the creativity to make real and informed input.
You'll be hearing things like:
... this one no get talk.
... everything about him is bland.
Na 2025 we dey.

Be wise.

Seriously why are Igbo women like this