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Marriage is a beautiful thing designed by God to make you fulfilled, happy etc, but humans have messed it up.
Marriage should enhance someone's life, but if you check, you may notice that some people's life went down or started going down after they married.
If a lady has been sleeping with a diabolic yahoo boy or ritualist, do you think marrying such ladies will open doors for you? It may close the open doors you probably had before marriage. Or if you marry a man whose destiny has been badly affected based on his bad lifestyle, it may affect you. Other factors may cause this too which a partner may not be the direct cause.
It is not a good thing to be a shadow of yourself in marriage, while you were elegant, vibrant, successful etc in your singlehood.

It's mostly women who get affected by this... One relative of mine got married to a traditional Zulu man who made her to quit her job as a chartered accountant to become a house wife.

Many women have to sacrifice their careers upon getting married... Only some secured men would allow their wives to continue with their careers after they get married.

Samantha125:
It's mostly women who get affected by this... One relative of mine got married to a traditional Zulu man who made her to quit her job as a chartered accountant to become a house wife.

Many women have to sacrifice their careers upon getting married... Only some secured men would allow their wives to continue with their careers after they get married.

Lazy women always use their marriage and husband as excuses for quitting their job or becoming less ambitious.


I am yet to meet that man that told his wife to become a complete housewife without establishing a better alternative business or craft for her. I only read these things online, but in reality it's the women that chose to become lazy and less ambitious because they believe their husband's wealth is more than enough, why the stress?

ebubeson:
Marriage is a beautiful thing designed by God to make you fulfilled, happy etc, but humans have messed it up.
Marriage should enhance someone's life, but if you check, you may notice that some people's life went down or started going down after they married.
If a lady has been sleeping with a diabolic yahoo boy or ritualist, do you think marrying such ladies will open doors for you? It may close the open doors you probably had before marriage. Or if you marry a man whose destiny has been badly affected based on his bad lifestyle, it may affect you. Other factors may cause this too which a partner may not be the direct cause.
It is not a good thing to be a shadow of yourself in marriage, while you were elegant, vibrant, successful etc in your singlehood

Immediately make an appointment with a professional mental health therapist as soon as you can and get your head checked. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

If after these many years on Nairaland, this gobbledegook is what your head remains filled with, then you need some serious help fast!

Kobojunkie:
Immediately make an appointment with a professional mental health therapist as soon as you can and get your head checked. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

If after these many years on Nairaland, this gobbledegook is what your head remains filled with, then you need some serious help fast!

Have you given your life to Jesus Christ. Please do that tonight. Tell Jesus Christ to forgive all your sins. Jesus Christ is the only Lord.

ebubeson:
➜Have you given your life to Jesus Christ. Please do that tonight. Tell Jesus Christ to forgive all your sins. Jesus Christ is the only Lord.

You mean the Jesus Christ of your Daddy GOs aka scammers-in-the-lords? No thanks! I have seen what that delusion has wrought on an entire nation like Nigeria.

Chartered accountants earn about R50k per month, that's like N4 million...They're around the same level as surgeons.

Now are you telling me that a woman that worked hard to be earning that kind of money would all of a sudden just choose to be lazy and quit?

franchasofficia:
Lazy women always use their marriage and husband as excuses for quitting their job or becoming less ambitious.


I am yet to meet that man that told his wife to become a complete housewife without establishing a better alternative business or craft for her. I only read these things online, but in reality it's the women that chose to become lazy and less ambitious because they believe their husband's wealth is more than enough, why the stress?

Samantha125:
Chartered accountants earn about R50k per month, that's like N4 million...They're around the same level as surgeons.

Now are you telling me that a woman that worked hard to be earning that kind of money would all of a sudden just choose to be lazy and quit?

Yes they do quit once they marry a rich guy. Laziness is in the gene of most women waiting to be activated by their rich husband's wealth.


Ordinarily, most women don't want to work if they have the option of living their fantasy lavish life paid by a man.


I know ladies who are medical doctors that became less ambitious just because they feel their husband's success is more than enough.


I speak from experience not just assumption.


Many women lie that their husbands told them to quit their jobs and stay at home whereas it's not true, most got fired due to arrogance and insubordination arising from the fact that they became too prideful and disrespectful to their superiors at work since they believe they are married to a rich guy and should be worshipped wherever they are.

Its very rare to find a man who prefers his wife to be a lazy housewife without establishing a better business or establishment for her that gives her time to tender to the family's needs

Shey it is not in the marriage dey say for better for worse. If I as a person married to a lady that has been used by a yahoo boy or any man or a prostitute that have aborted many babies. Is it not my obligation to make sure that we do everything possible to make sure that she conceive a baby or we collect back her destiny.

I use "we" because whatever she going through, I am going through it too and as long as I made a vow for her on our wedding day, I shall stand by my words.

Marriage is not a date or going to the cinema or amusement park or beach or bar or club or Santorini Greece. Marriage is for two people to join hands together to turn there imperfection into perfection. You and I know that it takes a lot of work to do that.

That's the thing, the guy isn't rich... He's a university lecturer and his wife used to make more money than him before she quit her job... And her family were also not happy about it.

I also once heard this other teacher talking about how her husband who's a security guard has been telling her to quit her job and be a house wife... Apparently he first wanted to be in charge of her finances and receive all her monthly salary, when she refused, he started telling her to quit her job, but she still stood her ground and refused... The man then left the house and didn't come back home until after six months ... ... She wasn't even bothered.

Insecured men are a disaster waiting to happen.

franchasofficia:
Yes they do quit once they marry a rich guy. Laziness is in the gene of most women waiting to be activated by their rich husband's wealth.


Ordinarily, most women wouldn't want to work if they have the option of living their fantasy lavish life paid by a man.


I know ladies who are medical doctors that became less ambitious just because they feel their husband's success is more than enough.


I speak from experience not just assumption.


Many women lie that their husbands told them to stay at home whereas it's not true. Its very rare to find a man who prefers his wife to be a lazy housewife without establishing a better business or establishment for her that gives her time to tender to the family's needs

Samantha125:
That's the thing, the guy isn't rich... He's a university lecturer and his wife used to make more money than him before she quit her job... And her family were also not happy about it.

I also once heard this other teacher talking about how her husband who's a security guard has been telling her to quit her job and be a house wife... Apparently he first wanted to be in charge of her finances and receive all her monthly salary, when she refused, he started telling her to quit her job, but she still stood her ground and refused... The man then left the house and didn't come back home until after six months ... ... She wasn't even bothered.

Insecured men are a disaster waiting to happen.

lol, oh I see, your story is more peculiar with South African men I guess.


I don't think same applies to Nigerian men anyway

Are you telling me that a typical Nigerian man would be okey being with a woman who earns far more than him?

Be honest.

franchasofficia:
lol, oh I see, your story is more peculiar with South African men I guess.


I don't think same applies to Nigerian men anyway

Samantha125:
Are you telling me that a typical Nigerian man would be okey being with a woman who earns far more than him?

Be honest.

I cant speak for all Nigerian men anyway, but me I wouldn't mind, and most friends I know wouldn't mind but the issue is that because of our hustling, enterprising and daring nature, I doubt the possibility of meeting any woman that would earn more than me for long, except maybe she inherited stupendous wealth from her family.


How many Nigerian women earn more than their boyfriends to start with before we move to husband? It could be possible in developed countries where women have some leverages plus family inheritance, but very rare in Nigeria

Do security guards, police men, and drivers then marry unemployed women?

franchasofficia:
I cant speak for all Nigerian men anyway, but me I wouldn't mind, and most friends I know wouldn't mind but the issue is that because of our hustling, enterprising and daring nature, I doubt the possibility of meeting any woman that would earn more than me for long, except maybe she inherited stupendous wealth from her family.


How many Nigerian women earn more than their boyfriends to start with before we move to husband? It could be possible in developed countries where women have some leverages plus family inheritance, but very rare in Nigeria

Samantha125:
Chartered accountants earn about R50k per month, that's like N4 million...

Do you really have to convert that to Naira? Whats the aim ?

Seems the relationship dynamics in SA is a lil bit fluid. What could attract a traditional worshipper to an accountant?

In Nigeria, they cant even meet cause they dont even use the same path.

So in your country, male cobblers can easily date a female doctor...Interesting

A lot of black South Africans are actually traditionalists, even most of those who claim to be Christians still practice their African traditional religion in secret... They just use Christianity as a front.

EmperorCaesar:
Do you really have to convert that to Naira? Whats the aim ?

Seems the relationship dynamics in SA is a lil bit fluid. What could attract a traditional worshipper to an accountant?

In Nigeria, they cant even meet cause they dont even use the same path.

So in your country, male cobblers can easily date a female doctor...Interesting

Samantha125:
A lot of black South Africans are actually traditionalists, even most of those who claim to be Christians still practice their African traditional religion in secret... They just use Christianity as a front.

Oh for real?

Yes, many of them would still take their children to initiation schools while still claiming to be Christians... They'd take them in secret so that the church doesn't know.

They'd travel from cities and across the country to take their children... And I'm talking about both the rich and the poor.

They'd also consult with traditional healers in secret every now and then... But there are still some devoted Christians who don't do any of those things.

Mryacks:
Oh for real?

Samantha125:
That's the thing, the guy isn't rich... He's a university lecturer and his wife used to make more money than him before she quit her job... And her family were also not happy about it.

I also once heard this other teacher talking about how her husband who's a security guard has been telling her to quit her job and be a house wife... Apparently he first wanted to be in charge of her finances and receive all her monthly salary, when she refused, he started telling her to quit her job, but she still stood her ground and refused... The man then left the house and didn't come back home until after six months ... ... She wasn't even bothered.

Insecured men are a disaster waiting to happen.

she is still lazy and has low self esteem. I’m a chartered accountant myself. And i have ex colleagues in uk, canada, usa, South Africa etc. many of them still want to taken care of and dont like their jobs 😒. Many Nigerian men prefer to marry who they earn more than. A security man in Nigeria cant even get a date with a junior banker in Nigeria on a normal day. His options are house maid, street hawkers and other broke gals 😂

Okay.

ednut1:
she is still lazy and has low self esteem. I’m a charactered accountant myself. And i have ex colleagues in uk, canada, usa, South Africa etc. many of them still want to taken care of and dont like their jobs 😒

ebubeson:
Marriage is a beautiful thing designed by God to make you fulfilled, happy etc, but humans have messed it up.
Marriage should enhance someone's life, but if you check, you may notice that some people's life went down or started going down after they married.
If a lady has been sleeping with a diabolic yahoo boy or ritualist, do you think marrying such ladies will open doors for you? It may close the open doors you probably had before marriage. Or if you marry a man whose destiny has been badly affected based on his bad lifestyle, it may affect you. Other factors may cause this too which a partner may not be the direct cause.
It is not a good thing to be a shadow of yourself in marriage, while you were elegant, vibrant, successful etc in your singlehood.

humans designed marriage not God. We are in the era of open eyes plus economic hardship people would do anything for survival

Samantha125:
Yes, many of them would still take their children to initiation schools while still claiming to be Christians... They'd take them in secret so that the church doesn't know.

They'd travel from cities and across the country to take their children... And I'm talking about both the rich and the poor.

They'd also consult with traditional healers in secret every now and then... But there are still some devoted Christians who don't do any of those things.

Much like it's obtainable in this climes too. People hiding behind Christianity but still holding on to contrary believes, norms and way doing things...

Some have sworn to never abandon their African traditional beliefs despite being Christians.

I have some relatives who used to be devoted Christians, but are now traditional healers...

Mryacks:
Much like it's obtainable in this climes too. People hiding behind Christianity but still holding on to contrary believes, norms and way doing things...