I am 29yrs old,i have a nice caring n comforatable man who's ready to settle down but I have no feelings for him. We started as friends, believing it'll grow into something else bt it didn't turn out that way. It got so bad that little things he does irritates me! I finally told him hw I feel abt d relationship bt he doesn't wanna give up. What do I do?

Let your actions reflect your word, he probably thinks you are playing hard to get, show him in clear and explicit terms that you are not interested.

Dont go into relationship with him if you dont love him, you are only going to get dissapointed in the end.

Has it gotten to that stage? Whereby u are being irritated by any little action of his? Then it can never work, no matter how hard u try. Infact, the more u try to convince yourself to love him, the more disappointed you'd be. It came about as a result of u wanting to compel urself to love him against any odd..

Please, do yourself a favour and really prove to him using any or every means u can to make him understand you are damn serious. The earlier you part ways with him, the better for the both of you.. On your part now, it would allow you to focus your mind on better things, while you wait for the one that is really meant for you.

Do the needful, ASAP!

Baby..it isnt dat u find it dificult falin in lov..jst dat u avnt seen d right person dat ll sweep u off ur feet..jst try n b patient n dont set ur standard too high..and as 4 d guy in ur lyf..let im knw ao u feel jst lyk d previous poster said..a broken relatnship is beta than a broken marriage..marriage is a lyftym tin,but d little tinz he does iritates u..fink twice girl..1 lov

Do you love yourself? Think carefully!

If not, you will not be able to be with someone who shows you love.

well, if you're not ready to settle down, then you're not ready and that's that.

he should move on unless there's more to the story.

Just leave. There's no such thing as a compromise, where there's no lick of attraction.

Rebsy: I am 29yrs old,i have a nice caring n comforatable man who's ready to settle down but I have no feelings for him. We started as friends, believing it'll grow into something else bt it didn't turn out that way. It got so bad that little things he does irritates me! I finally told him hw I feel abt d relationship bt he doesn't wanna give up. What do I do?

For you to mention your age, I reckon you find it rather disturbing that you're running out of time to get hooked up. You'd be 30 next year and yet to find someone you 'adore'.

If you're unable to reciprocate kind gestures (or translations of love), what is the guarantee that someone you'd eventually fall in love with would do same?

There are no certainties in life. It's good to hope and cast thoughts positively. However, know that those who make the best decisions are those that are able to manipulate current events to their advantage.

[s]Imposter! What did you do with my fluid26?![/s]

If you have no feeling for him, you should not marry him. It might sound cruel but I have seen too many women marry and hope that they will fall in love during the marriage only to get stuck in a nightmare.

Opt out now and wait.

Thanks everyone 4 d piecce of advise, really do appreciate it.

mayb u've got a spirritual husband,.......check it out if u ar harassd constantly(sex) tru dreamz by spirit usbandz

Rebsy: I am 29yrs old,i have a nice caring n comfortable man who's ready to settle down but I have no feelings for him. We started as friends, believing it'll grow into something else bt it didn't turn out that way. It got so bad that little things he does irritates me! I finally told him hw I feel abt d relationship bt he doesn't wanna give up. What do I do?

how did you expect this r/ship to NOT fail when you went about it the wrong way?! you do not love this man, never did, never will, he even irritates you, and here you are asking us on what to do.
what you should do is go back home, tell him that you never loved him, never will, do not want to be with him, and that he irritates the hell out of you AND LEAVE!

MRbrownJAY:

how did you expect this r/ship to NOT fail when you went about it the wrong way?! you do not love this man, never did, never will, he even irritates you, and here you are asking us on what to do.
what you should do is go back home, tell him that you never loved him, never will, do not want to be with him, and that he irritates the hell out of you AND LEAVE!

Not bad

That wouldn't ONLY be cool but fair, too, I guess.

MRbrownJAY:

how did you expect this r/ship to NOT fail when you went about it the wrong way?! you do not love this man, never did, never will, he even irritates you, and here you are asking us on what to do.
what you should do is go back home, tell him that you never loved him, never will, do not want to be with him, and that he irritates the hell out of you AND LEAVE!

I think her expectations wasn't met. That relationship shouldn't have 'graduated' in love. Some people had better be on friendship level. BTW, MBJ, you own me an explanation

D-Explorer:

I think her expectations wasn't met. That relationship shouldn't have 'graduated' in love. Some people had better be on friendship level.

Her expectations were never met, but she chose to move on to a r/ship because she must have been desperate for it. they are both to be blamed for it. some people are so envious of the happiness they see around them, that they would take anyone and try to emulate it.

BTW, MBJ, you own me an explanation

****Clearing my throat***
Bro, i had some family emergencies to attend on that faithful night, and as much as i would have loved to participate, there was no way for me to do so, that day. i ma truly sorry, as you know that i never back down from such juicy threads. accept my apologies and i hope i can make up for it some way or another in some other thread.

anyway, i have all year to get my crown back from you, so dont go anywhere!

^
*runs into his arms*

Where have you been my heartbeat? I've missed you like crazy.

freecocoa: ^
*runs into his arms*

Where have you been my heartbeat? I've missed you like crazy.

Freecocoa darling, i had to step away from NL for a minute, too much NL is not good for ones soul. how have you been doing? you must be married and expecting by now (with all your fan base, how wouldnt you?)

MRbrownJAY:

Her expectations were never met, but she chose to move on to a r/ship because she must have been desperate for it. they are both to be blamed for it. some people are so envious of the happiness they see around them, that they would take anyone and try to emulate it.

Spot on, you nailed it. I very much think two things was the influence - time and chance. Looking at the age and the dude came 'handy', one would wanna give it a shot.

.:

****Clearing my throat***
Bro, i had some family emergencies to attend on that faitfull night, and as much as i would have loved to participate, there was no way for me to do so, that day. i ma truly sorry, as you know that i never back down from such juicy threads. accept my apologies and i hope i can make up for it some way or another in some other thread.

anyway, i have all year to get my crown back from you, so dont go anywhere!

You need to clear that throat well. I'd thought about throwing some punches across. Lol. Myne was around, i'd to keep tracking her because of time diff. It's all good bro, we got a whole new year and more. Hope the emergency was minimal? I knew it could only be that important to miss the conference. You co-operated all along and i can only say - Apology accepted! ...and about your crown , i aint going anywhere and am glad you're the ONE handing it over to me. Best believe, before you hand it over, kiss it and bid it a lasting goodbye. LOL. Respect bro!

WoW! U guys don't seem to understand me here. Dis guy n I started as friends hoping it'll grow bt it never did. Not my fault dears blv me I tried bt it didn't work. I was never desperate 4 a relationship pls! And d fact that I told dis guy I wanted out but he still won't budge. Thanks 4 ur advises all d same, I'll make sure I adhere!

MRbrownJAY:

Freecocoa darling, i had to step away from NL for a minute, too much NL is not good for ones soul. how have you been doing? you must be married and expecting by now (with all your fan base, how wouldnt you?)

Nah not at all, I told you, you are the only one who makes me think about marriage. I'm still waiting to see if you'll change your stance on getting married .

D-Explorer:
You need to clear that throat well. I'd thought about throwing some punches across. Lol. Myne was around, i'd to keep tracking her because of time diff. It's all good bro, we got a whole new year and more. Hope the emergency was minimal? I knew it could only be that important to miss the conference. You co-operated all along and i can only say - Apology accepted! ...and about your crown , i aint going anywhere and am glad you're the ONE handing it over to me. Best believe, before you hand it over, kiss it and bid it a lasting goodbye. LOL. Respect bro!

I will happily hand the crown over, i have enjoyed it fully during the past *** clear throat again*** TWO YEARS. expect a lot of competition in 2013 as i got fond of the title, and will do my best to get it back next yr. enjoy it while it lasts, lol!

Rebsy: WoW! U guys don't seem to understand me here. Dis guy n I started as friends hoping it'll grow bt it never did. Not my fault dears blv me I tried bt it didn't work. I was never desperate 4 a relationship pls! And d fact that I told dis guy I wanted out but he still won't budge. Thanks 4 ur advises all d same, I'll make sure I adhere!

you guys started as friend and hope for more, when "more" didnt present itself, you should have given it up right there and then. unless you can tell us all the grounds to which you enter a r/ship with this "friend" of yours? now the guy do not want to accept your "resignation" from the r/ship, and you are here asking us for advices, instead of correcting the first mistake you did, by BEING HONEST AND STANDING BY WHAT YOU BELIEVE.
i understand how this guy thinks, he probably thinks:"oh well since she could pretend all this time, she could always pretend some more"

freecocoa: Nah not at all, I told you, you are the only one who makes me think about marriage. I'm still waiting to see if you'll change your stance on getting married .

Kai, i just fell dizzy while reading the word marriage/married..... still feel as bad today as i felt before about marriage, but my baby mama stand is as strong as ever. have you ever thought about becoming one? lol

^I do think about it and my love for you might just overcome my fear of being just a baby mama, still thinking about it sha

Imposter ke?! If I slap dat ya tight p

MRbrownJAY:

how did you expect this r/ship to NOT fail when you went about it the wrong way?! you do not love this man, never did, never will, he even irritates you, and here you are asking us on what to do.
what you should do is go back home, tell him that you never loved him, never will, do not want to be with him, and that he irritates the hell out of you AND LEAVE!

Woah!! That's true but harsh.

Lol at free amd MBJ

^^^lol, I am trying to get her into the MBJ's baby mama program, but she is a bit reluctant.

@Freecocoa
thinking about it is the first stept..........there are clear positive points in being a baby mama, and it is not always a bad thing, like many would like you to believe. it is all down to understanding between both party.

^^
Lol

@OP

Did you let him hit it?

@op
Do you have problem with just falling in love with this man or generally with all men?