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Does Seun even pay you peeps for all these cock and bull stories, or do you peeps just write them out of boredom and idleness

Bizmind95:
Does Seun even pay you peeps for all these cock and bull stories, or do you peeps just write them out of boredom and idleness

Do you have a life that you have to read and comment?

budaatum:
For the person who got her pregnant with the first child?

Or did I miss where she at some time told her brother she was having children for him?

unfortunately op is the one responsible for his sister's upkeep.

VTJN:
unfortunately op is the one responsible for his sister's upkeep.

You get it.
You cannot watch your sister and her kids die of hunger even though her husband is irresponsible.

Nnamdipapa:
My name is Uchenna, Growing up on the streets of Ajegunle, Lagos, life was anything but easy. I come from a family of eight, and poverty was our closest companion.
My father was a roadside mechanic, my mother sold pepper at the market, and we often went to bed hungry. School fees were a luxury we couldn’t afford, but I was determined to change my story.

I did everything—hawked sachet water under the blazing sun, pushed wheelbarrows, washed cars—just to survive and get an education. It wasn’t easy, but I kept pushing. Today, by the grace of God and sheer hard work, I am a successful businessman in Lagos. I live comfortably, have my own car, and even travel abroad for business. But success comes with its own challenges, especially when you have family depending on you.

One of my biggest responsibilities has been my youngest sister, Abigail. She’s married to a man who, like her, is a teacher in a struggling private school in Ejigbo, Lagos. Their combined income of N80,000 barely covers the basics. Seeing their struggles, I’ve been supporting them consistently—sending monthly allowances, paying their children’s school fees, and stepping in whenever emergencies arose.

At some point, I gave Abigail ₦120,000 to enroll in a tailoring program. I thought this would help her gain a skill, start a business, and reduce the financial pressure on both of us. But she didn’t take it seriously. The money went down the drain, and she never completed the program. No business, no skills, just excuses.

Despite all this, I continued to support her. But then she told me she was pregnant with their second child. That’s when I snapped.

"Abigail," I told her, "if you have another child after this one, I will stop all financial support. I love you, but you and your husband need to take responsibility for your lives."

Now, my family is divided. Some people think I’m right, that I’ve done more than enough, and she needs to step up. Others think I’m being too harsh—that family should be unconditional, no matter the circumstances.

But here I am, wondering:
Was I wrong to set that boundary? Should I have kept quiet and continued supporting her no matter what?
If you were in my shoes, what would you have done?

With all these financial support for them, it makes them comfortable to start planning for another child, so you can't stop them

My question to you is, what are you planning for them, what if you go down, can they combine their resources to raise raise you up.

Its time for you to plan for yourself

frozen70:
With all these financial support for them, it makes them comfortable to start planning for another child, so you can't stop them

My question to you is, what are you planning for them, what if you go down, can they combine their resources to raise raise you up.

Its time for you to plan for yourself

I am already settled. I started planning for myself when I was 14.

Nnamdipapa:
I am already settled. I started planning for myself when I was 14.

Plan more, get married and establish your own family, invest in other things if you really have that spare money

frozen70:
Plan more, get married and establish your own family, invest in other things if you really have that spare money

My daughter will be in the university of Toronto this September. I married at 21.

What next have you got for me.

Nnamdipapa:
My daughter will be in the university of Toronto this September. I married at 21.

What next have you got for me.

That's good
So continue helping her she is your sister

frozen70:
That's good
So continue helping her she is your sister

I will stop if she gets pregnant again. Her two kids are already being neglected by the husband and she is supposed to be on a permanent IUD until situation improves in her family. I almost cried when I saw where they are living. Some marriages are not worth it at all.

Nnamdipapa:
I will stop if she gets pregnant again. Her two kids are already being neglected by the husband and she is supposed to be on a permanent IUD until situation improves in her family. I almost cried when I saw where they are living. Some marriages are not worth it at all.

You seems to be the one drinking paracetamol for their headaches

Leave them to do whatever they want, it's their problem and nit really yours
Since they love having children don't stop them to avoid family issues

They love themselves more that the love you have for them

budaatum:
I am your slave because you feed me?

Please come back in future and let me know how that life philosophy works out for you.

the op is been overwhelmed with their burden dt is why he made that statement of dem been under his control and probably cut off helping them.

It is not easy helping sm1 that doesn't want to help himself to get out of poverty.

How can you have two educated people, wife , a teacher and husband ,a pgd holder and they are both suffering. Of what use is their education?

you and I know that there are some couple that didn't go beyond pry school education and they are doing well as husband and wife.

the lazy pgd husband is the one not with problem. He maybe one of those men dt like building castle in the air giving the wife false hope.

"I am.expecting one big contract from federal government soon "
"my brother abroad is preparing my visa to come take me to obodo oyibo by next year"
"I wil make it big. dnt worry honey"

and he wil keep guilt tripping and manipulating the wife with selfish and flawed theories

"can't you suffer with me? Is marriage not for better for worse"

Beta for worse when he is not moving his ass to improve his finance.

I understand the anger of the op even if his statement sounded harsh.

my advice to op,
please create time to go visit them .
You and her husband should sit separately and talk man to man.
Ask him what is challenge is. who knows, ur nxt visit and discussion with him may bring him to start tinkin and acting right.

Op dnt get wearied of ur sister. be angry but still help her if you have spare.
You can reduce the amount you do give them but all the same let them drink frm ur cistern.

gerizzim:
the op is been overwhelmed with their burden dt is why he made that statement of dem been under his control and probably cut off helping them.

Their burden is not op's burden, and he should cut them off, as I suggested he should.

He did say he pays her salary, which means he employs her to do a job. And he should continue paying her so long as she does the job, though I wouldn't be surprised to find she does no work at all, and he gives her money monthly for nothing, in which case I'd call him her enabler.

Op, stop enabling your sister or paying her to be your slave so she can learn to bear her own responsibilities and slave for herself please.