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Nnamdipapa:
Call him first and refrain from making any demand, ask after his welfare and his family, also ask after his business in a way that shows you care and after that just hang up. You must either care genuinely or fake it.

The first call, he was already expecting you to beg for money and you surprised him.

Then give him about one week, call him again and repeat, ask after the welfare of his family, business, health and everything, when you are done tell him "erm, Oga Segun, I have been wanting to ask for a request but I do not want to bother you, Is there a way you can help me with this amount, I recently lost my job and I submitted about 20 applications this week, I am hopeful to get a call for interview, I really feel asked asking you since I know you have lots of responsibilities".

Even if he did not give, thank him for listening to you and giving you his attention. If he gives you N100, thank him a lot as if he gave you N1million.

A lot of my friends that I blocked, If they had begged my like this, I would have given and not blocked them. Never feel entitled or expect a certain amount.

Try to find out when he, his wife and children have their birthdays, write down the dates and remember to call and wish happy birthday.

If you follow the above rules, even the devil will not refuse you money.When you ask for money, I want to hear the efforts you are making to come out from your bad situations.

I hate when people are broke, arrogant and cannot beg effectively.

this guy u are not a good person, u are a typical example of a wicked man

The other day u said u want your sister to abort cos u claim u can't feed them even when u ain't God

Now u are saying someone should beg effectively

Nawa for u ooo, I pray I don't need help from people like u, so because I need your help I should go n read encyclopedia about your life b family, I should go n find out d birthday of everyone in your family?

Na JuJu b dat

smartlad:
none of the above is correct. I have already asked the guy Nd he ignored as expected.

Did you try to relate with him a bit as someone earlier said or you just barged into their DMs to ask for help straight?

Sharpsharp00123:
this guy u are not a good person, u are a typical example of a wicked man

The other day u said u want your sister to abort cos u claim u can't feed them even when u ain't God

Now u are saying someone should beg effectively

Nawa for u ooo, I pray I don't need help from people like u, so because I need your help I should go n read encyclopedia about your life b family, I should go n find out d birthday of everyone in your family?

Na JuJu b dat

You are not serious. So when you need people's help, you just barged into their privacy and start asking for help without caring about what is going on in their lives?

MissW:
You are not serious. So when you need people's help, you just barged into their privacy and start asking for help without caring about what is going on in their lives?

I pray I don't find myself in that position in Jesus name

MissW:
Did you try to relate with him a bit as someone earlier said or you just barged into their DMs to ask for help straight?

mistake was already made.

Smilleydr:
sior...oga dey your lane, no be must for your friend to help you, beleif in your self and if things no workout leave everything to God, if God destine you to be rrich in life you will surely get your own.

you are right. But honestly the kind of treatments I received from my friendz lately is not good at all.

Who will help you will help you. You don't need to prostrate on the floor or beg the person as if you are begging God for a little help.

It takes lots of courage to beg especially if you are a man. My brother look unto God. I have been in situations like this I needed help most (and those guys are more than capable of doing it), but they decided to sit on it.

He may not give you millions, but at least little something to buy even if I cup of rice and pepper and oil. No lose hope bro, and keep pushing.

Sharpsharp00123:
this guy u are not a good person, u are a typical example of a wicked man

The other day u said u want your sister to abort cos u claim u can't feed them even when u ain't God

Now u are saying someone should beg effectively

Nawa for u ooo, I pray I don't need help from people like u, so because I need your help I should go n read encyclopedia about your life b family, I should go n find out d birthday of everyone in your family?

Na JuJu b dat

Yes I am a wicked man. His friend will block him.
You think I care what you or anyone think about me?

sunnymighty:
Reminds me of a junior colleague who left my former place of work before me. I later left too, when we were being owed salaries with no hope. I contacted him when things were so difficult for my family, he blocked me instantly on WhatsApp. Few years later the table turned, life dealt him a fatal blow, he contacted me with another number.........on the contrary I even assisted him and did not bother to remind him of how he maltreated me when I needed his help, but when begging was becoming habitual for him, I ignored, but did not block him make he no think say he don catch maga

Except he has done other good things for you before, you should have reminded him and block him as well. That kind of person will still do the same when they become rich again. How do you want him to learn if you can't reciprocate in the same measure to him.

How can you block someone because he ask you for help. If you say your hands are tight, that you couldn't offer help at that particular time, the person will understand but blocking him is a total lack of respect for the person. A person that don't help you today can still do something good for you tomorrow but blocking the person is totally out of it.

Nazgul:
Let me tell you one secrete most people in your current situation don't know yet.

A rich man would hardly give you any money unless you're offering value to him. People pay you for the value you bring and not because they like you or they're friends with you.

My advice to you is to study that your friend and know what exactly he's into. Eg if he's a tiles distributor, liase with engineers then connect them with him and collect a discount. He'll value you more that way because you're offering value to his business.

If you just type an emotional story and send to him, he might read it and ignore. Or send you 10k and ignore you afterwards. Sell your services to him and he'll pay you handsomely for it.

Exactly, this is what I wanted to say but did not articulate it well enough. People think they deserve other people's time, loyalty and free money without offering any value to them. I think it is extremely selfish way to reason but because they are poor, they often see themselves as the victims of every situation.

How can you say you're someone's friend and you have never started conversations of what your friends are into that will keep them coming back to you for information. You just keep coming to collect cash without giving anything back.

yemmit90:
Except he has done other good things for you before, you should have reminded him and block him as well. That kind of person will still do the same when they become rich again. How do you want him to learn if you can't reciprocate in the same measure to him.

How can you block someone because he ask you for help. If you say your hands are tight, that you couldn't offer help at that particular time, the person will understand but blocking him is a total lack of respect for the person. A person that don't help you today can still do something good for you tomorrow but blocking the person is totally out of it.

Leave all this talk, some people are just pests. They will continue to ask & ask till you run out.

tosinhtml:
Leave all this talk, some people are just pests. They will continue to ask & ask till you run out.

Then blocking is justify in this situation.

Sharpsharp00123:
this guy u are not a good person, u are a typical example of a wicked man

The other day u said u want your sister to abort cos u claim u can't feed them even when u ain't God

Now u are saying someone should beg effectively

Nawa for u ooo, I pray I don't need help from people like u, so because I need your help I should go n read encyclopedia about your life b family, I should go n find out d birthday of everyone in your family?

Na JuJu b dat

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smartlad:
I want to beg my rich friend on facebook but fear dey catch me.
This guy is my friend since childhood, he is now,super rich he is close to being a billionaire but I have never benefit any shi shi from him and lately I am going through the worst poverty of my life, I want to ask him for some financial assistance to use hold body but honestly I am afraid.
I am tired of losing friends, there is another friend of mine he is now a lecturer in the US, we attended thesame secondary school infact he was my best friend back then but he blocked me on fb and WhatsApp because I asked him for help, I am afraid this guy too will give me thesame treatment.

I lost about 6 friends because I asked for help I dont wanna lose this one oo
I need advice

You would keep losing friends, with your abeg-abeg attitude.

You can never get better when you are always begging.

Set out and get a job, work on yourself, learn new skills - improve, improve, improve.

Harddiskng:
You would keep losing friends, with your abeg-abeg attitude.

You can never get better when you are always begging.

Set out and get a job, work on yourself, learn new skills - improve, improve, improve.

thanks nd pls I am open for any kind of job opportunity

tosinhtml:
Leave all this talk, some people are just pests. They will continue to ask & ask till you run out.

I have,never asked him and if he,helped i will never,ask again

smartlad:
mistake was already made.

It's good you now know

"A person that don't help you today can still do something good for you tomorrow " @yemmitt90 this particular line was my thought when i decided to assist, but when i noticed it was becoming habitual i decided to lock up.