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Please Nlanders, why some men when they borrow money from their wife and promised to pay back but refuse to pay back when the time is due even when they know that the wife is also struggling.
I see it as a wicked behavior,do they feel there is nothing the woman can do to them or they don't want the woman to prosper.

Telltruth123:
Please Nlanders, why some men when they borrow money from their wife and promised to pay back but refuse to pay back when the time is due even when they know that the wife is also struggling.
I see it as a wicked behavior,is that they feel there is nothing the woman can do or the don't want the woman to prosper.

Did the woman get a promissory note or something as proof? If she did then she could simply take the issue to court and the courts would help resolve it.

Kobojunkie:
Did the woman get a promissory note or something as proof? If she did then she could simply take the issue to court and the courts would help resolve it.

No document, she gave him cash and he has refused to pay even their families have interfere but he refused to pay, one of the children want to take JAMB form and the woman is begging the husband to pay so that their daughter can take the JAMB form but he refused.

Telltruth123:
No document, she gave him cash and he has refused to pay even their families have interfere but he refused to pay, one of the children want to take JAMB form and the woman is begging the husband to pay so that their daughter can take the JAMB form but he refused.

Well it depends.

I have borrowed my wife countless time and I don't even expect her to pay back, smost times this money for her personal stuff.

Anytime my wife want to borrow me money is mostly for household expenses or groceries and she will be on my neck till her pay part if not all back.

The major problem is

A wife borrowing her husband money isn't not seen the same way a husband borrowing his wife money.

I don't think a man can call family meeting if his wife resfuse to pay the money he borrow her.


Double standard.

Bobodee09:
Well it depends.

I have borrowed my wife countless time and I don't even expect her to pay back, she most times this money for her personal stuff.

Anytime my wife want to borrow me money is for household expenses or groceries and she will be on my neck till her pay part if not all back.

The major problem is

A wife borrowing her husband money isn't not seen the same way a husband borrowing his wife money.

I don't think a man can call Family meeting if his wife resfuse to pay the money he borrow her.


Double standard.

The wife did not call family meeting, she talked to some family members if they can persuade him to pay part of the money so that the woman can use it for the children education because the man has refused to take responsibility.

Bobodee09:
➜Well it depends. I have borrowed my wife countless time and I don't even expect her to pay back, she most times this money for her personal stuff. Anytime my wife want to borrow me money is for household expenses or groceries and she will be on my neck till her pay part if not all back.
➜The major problem is A wife borrowing her husband money isn't not seen the same way a husband borrowing his wife money. I don't think a man can call Family meeting if his wife resfuse to pay the money he borrow her. Double standard.

1. Your wife borrows money from you for household expenses and groceries. 😏

2. My Smart-by-half, when you borrow money from someone, it is generally understood that that money would need to be paid back. If the lender decides to cancel the debt, that is his particular decision to make. You don't go around insisting all debts should be canceled simply because you cancel your own debts with your own wife. And so next time, learn to use terms you understand well.

Telltruth123:
➜No document, she gave him cash and he has refused to pay even their families have interfere but he refused to pay, one of the children want to take JAMB form and the woman is begging the husband to pay so that their daughter can take the JAMB form but he refused.

If other family members are aware of the debt and maybe even the amount(and are willing to testify on her behalf) she could still take him to be caught on the matter especially since it concerns the welfare of her kid. She should consider making her case with those family members and maybe even the child and then serve the man papers next. Maybe that would get him to budge if he is still reasonable. Unless, maybe he does not have the money at all and does not want to reveal it or something.

Telltruth123:
The wife did not call family meeting, she talked to some family members if they can persuade him to pay part of the money so that the woman can use it for the children education because the man has refused to take responsibility.

Well I don't think I will be happy to get calls from any of my family members about the money my wife borrowed in private.(am sure you won't also be happy if that done to you aswell)

She can get him arrested and kuku end things since he isnt taking responsibility.

She will get her money and lose the marriage....the choice she has to make.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your wife borrows money from you for household expenses and groceries. 😏

2. My Smart-by-half, when you borrow money from someone, it is generally understood that that money would need to be paid back. If the lender decides to cancel the debt, that is his particular decision to make. You don't go around insisting all debts should be canceled simply because you cancel your own debts with your own wife. And so next time, learn to use terms you understand well.

I don't engage lunatics.

I know psychosis drugs are now very expensive and i pray God keep blessing your parent.

Kobojunkie:
Did the woman get a promissory note or something as proof? If she did then she could simply take the issue to court and the courts would help resolve it.

u always comment like u just got released from yaba left

Bobodee09:
I don't engage lunatics.

I know psychosis drugs are now very expensive and i pray God keep blessing your parent.

that one is mad but we don't know

Anytime I see his/her comments on any thread I walk away

Sharpsharp00123:
➜u always comment like u just got released from yaba left

Oh, I definitely know of your kind. Una go collect loan come dey make excuses why the person wey you collect loan from no suppose to collect. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Sharpsharp00123:
that one is mad but we don't know

Anytime I see his/her comments on any thread I walk away

Like bro...........we call such people " Dugbolugi " in yoruba (mad people wey dey fight tree)

Bobodee09:
Well it depends.

I have borrowed my wife countless time and I don't even expect her to pay back, she most times this money for her personal stuff.

Anytime my wife want to borrow me money is for household expenses or groceries and she will be on my neck till her pay part if not all back.

The major problem is

A wife borrowing her husband money isn't not seen the same way a husband borrowing his wife money.

I don't think a man can call Family meeting if his wife resfuse to pay the money he borrow her.


Double standard.

True

Bobodee09:
Like bro...........we call such people " Dugbolugi " in yoruba (mad people wey dey fight tree)

This is funny.

Una don finally designate her a certain way. I understand how you feel about her comments, though.

I don't understand why couples borrow from one another when you can request for help if you need it. Besides, don't they do a large part of finance together?

I don't subscribe to couples borrowing each other money, cos it wouldn't end well.

If you're in a fix just ask your partner to help you out. That's how we did to our parents. They never borrowed us money. Any marriage where one or both spouses cannot assist each other financially without asking for a refund wouldn't last.

Bobodee09:
Well it depends.
I have borrowed my wife countless time and I don't even expect her to pay back, smost times this money for her personal stuff.
Anytime my wife want to borrow me money is mostly for household expenses or groceries and she will be on my neck till her pay part if not all back.
The major problem is
A wife borrowing her husband money isn't not seen the same way a husband borrowing his wife money.
I don't think a man can call family meeting if his wife resfuse to pay the money he borrow her.
Double standard.

Your use of borrow/borrowing money is confusing
We should know when to use ''borrow'' and ''lend'' to avoid such confusions.

If you're collecting money from someone, the person is lending money to you, and you're borrowing money from him(not he is borrowing money to you).

Telltruth123:
Please Nlanders, why some men when they borrow money from their wife and promised to pay back but refuse to pay back when the time is due even when they know that the wife is also struggling.
I see it as a wicked behavior,do they feel there is nothing the woman can do to them or they don't want the woman to prosper.

These are part of the evidences that the very fabric of society, the family is torn.
What better foundation for trust, integrity and harmony is there other than the family but when these virtues are betrayed by the primary actors, there's little left to salvage our moral compass.
I'll advise where possible that the wife should forego the said amount but learn a hard lesson for the future. If she's to play a delicate role of holding the family together, she'll require a lot of tact going forward.

Nazgul:
I don't subscribe to couples borrowing each other money, cos it wouldn't end well.

If you're in a fix just ask your partner to help you out. That's how we did to our parents. They never borrowed us money. Any marriage where one or both spouses cannot assist each other financially without asking for a refund wouldn't last.

I agree with you biko. It may last, but it is somehow. Shey na business partner? 😂 Except it is a tidy sum or for accountability purposes (maybe working capital for your business). I would never understand couples borrowing stipends from themselves and repaying.

To be on his neck to pay back the money I spent on a household expense, separate from whatever he gives me is what I can never do once I have made the expense. It doesn't seem right to me. However, if you specifically ask for a loan, I think it is only ethical you repay irrespective of who the lender is. 🙏