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I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by jmoore(m): 1:36pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
We have monetized marriage in this country. For the first time I went for introduction. Not my own introduction. The father of the fiancee said 26,000 naira was the price to collect the marriage list. I thought the fiancé will give anything he likes to collect the marriage list. The fiancée is from Abia. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by GboyegaD(m): 1:44pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Why is he asked to pay? Is this some custom or just trying to collect as much as they can from the groom? I never knew you go get the list. I thought they send it to the bride who then deliberate with her fiancé and agree on what is comfortable for them. This was my experience and that of my friends ooo. 2 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Zee0007: 1:50pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
If you do me anyhow, I give your daughter belle. By force you will attend to my needs. No time. They just want to kill men with bring this and that ontop woman wey go still misbehave. 11 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by DaniDani(m): 1:56pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Your father in law is extremely greedy and without conscience. Ask other from that clan if it's the norm. 5 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Bola146(f): 2:04pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Haaaa.... That was too much ke, the lady should have stopped that, her father is too greedy haba . The husband to be should be ready to spend millions on dowry only, another millions on ceremonies. They will keep demanding 9 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by dominique(f): 2:12pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
jmoore: Why should/must the groom to be pay money to collect bride price list? The whole list can't cost more than N500 to print out at a business centre. They may call it culture and tradition, I call it greed. 8 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Acidosis(m): 2:22pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
You people still do introduction, where you tag along your entire family, friends, caterer, and photographers? Men complain about costly and flamboyant weddings only online. In real life, many of these guys are toothless and too weak to effect any real change. You guys should go and pay the money and quit complaining! 5 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by jmoore(m): 3:28pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Acidosis: I don't understand your point. Would you charge your daughter's fiancé 26,000 naira or more before you give him the marriage list? 6 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Sonnobax15(m): 3:56pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Yes you must do.. 1 Like |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Acidosis(m): 5:14pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
jmoore: My point is that they charged your friend because he agreed to a "big" introduction. And no, I won't charge my daughter's fiance anything. We don't have such traditions and even if there were trends like that, I would have them scrapped. 3 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by aanuoluwami14(f): 5:39pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
If the lady can't defend her husband to be not to pay, the husband to be is in soup. Are they selling off their daughter? My father wouldn't do that. 4 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by jmoore(m): 6:30pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Acidosis:Big introduction? Him, 2 brothers and a friend. There was nothing big about the introduction. No photographers. |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Coming from a poor family isn't a crime in fact na catalyst for greatness to those that think well. But u see those poor and myopic ones they see nothing good in their situation thereby leeching and bleeding any nd everything that comes their way. OP I pity u abi ur friend if u/ he eventually marry from such families. Your partners family is very important and before u go any further do it background checks on them to avoid dying before ur time 5 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by RoyalBoutique(m): 7:30pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
This is the beginning of your problems in that marriage. Run away like hell. |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by annayawchee: 9:35pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
They are criminals... Ndi omenelu List no dey pass 1k Better evaporate from that poverty ridden family |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by pocohantas(f): 10:17pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Yes they do. Not up to 23k the last time I checked. But then, there is hyperinflation hah? Maybe e affect their list. Greedy lots. There are various stages of marrying traditionally in Igboland. Thank you 2 Likes |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Truvelisback(m): 10:27pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Na buy u wan buy the girl be dat. Ask dem, how much be last price? |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by iamyemiakins(m): 11:00pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
Hope the lady is a virgin tho, before we start talking about any payment to obtain a list for another round of supply |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by anthonyuncle(m): 12:09am On Jan 14, 2022 |
it's for transport to go and get the list. they intend to use uber |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by JeffreyJunior: 1:19am On Jan 14, 2022 |
You mean in Abia state? Hmmm. It's like they will keep their daughter biko. Son of man can't borrow to pay bride price and also borrow to collect ordinary marriage list. |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Nobody: 6:54am On Jan 14, 2022 |
jmoore:Abia lol. igbos and Yorubas are too expensive interms of marriage. Hausas and fulanies r the cheapest. Pay this pay that and then do everything for the wedding without the girl contributing and bringing a dime to the house. Well if you love her. Don't hesitate. Just keep it coming |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Nobody: 6:55am On Jan 14, 2022 |
Zee0007:give her Belle. If this is fine to ur sister will you be happy?? |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by FairlyUSEDpussy: 6:44pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
Only in igboland Oooo........ My own blood brother........did is own court and traditional wedding last December....... And there.......was no money collected to bring wedding list!!!!! |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Spherical77(m): 6:56pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
Zee0007:And you think the daughter is stupid enough to get pregnant out of wedlock? You think the daughter is senseless enough not to flush the pregnancy out or what? Unless the daughter na ODE then you can get away with your manipulation |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by ImaIma1(f): 8:29pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
Acidosis: It's Yorubas that make it a big ceremony. In my place, introduction is done in the sitting room with just close family. They don't even see the bride, except a special request is made with a drink and cash. And the bride is dressed as she would dress at home. |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by FairlyUSEDpussy: 8:49pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
[quote author=ImaIma1 post=109373383] [s]It's Yorubas that make it a big ceremony. [/s]In my place, introduction is done in the sitting room with just close family. They don't even see the bride, except a special request is made with a drink and cash. And the bride is dressed as she would dress at home. [/quotes jux say what u know!!! Yoruba don’t make anything big Kankan..... How many Yoruba wedding have u been to to arrive at that?? If u wanna make elaborate wedding........yorubas will welcome dat........and if u wanna make it lowkey offcourse they wouldn’t bother u........ |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by ImaIma1(f): 9:05pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
[quote author=FairlyUSEDpussy post=109373882][/quote] I'm talking about their introductions. They even do "and co" native...agbada and...Almost nothing different between a introduction and traditional marriage. And no need to take offence. I'm only saying what I know because I have Yoruba family. |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by FairlyUSEDpussy: 9:13pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1: Still telling u what u know not........ What u confusing for INTRODUCTION IS TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE RITE........ The fact.........u have been to elaborate ones doesn’t mean all r like dat......... |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by Kobojunkie: 9:18pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
jmoore:Administrative cost of efforts that go into compiling the list naw..... you go pay |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by FairlyUSEDpussy: 9:21pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1: Introduction.......is a meeting between the 2 families so as to know each other........which usually take place in the sitting of the brides father........ Anything apart is there traditional wedding........ |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by jmoore(m): 10:04pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Is it a novel? List that is not more than 4 pages. Hian!! |
Re: I Never Knew You Have To Pay Money Before Collecting Marriage List by pansophist(m): 10:12pm On Jan 14, 2022 |
Marriage in naija is just so stressful. It's like a scheme to make men bankrupt. Many of my friends who married Europeans were even giving money and gift by the girl's parent to start their family, meanwhile back home, this guys will be roasted. I realise that the wealthier the family, the less burdensome marriage will be for the man. But the poorer the girl's family, the man even after paying so much, donate his blood and it won't still be enough. Men, marry wisely. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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