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Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

Jokes apart … I can understand the no kissing but the insistence on not interesting in changing styles is something else.
You have talk with her that you could agree to the no kissing if she agrees to the changing of styles . You’ll meet her half way .

Such a boring woman

Odingo1:
She said one of her ex ask her if she will be kissing the husband she married since she don’t kiss. But during the dating period she kisses me well after marriage she withdrew from kissing and now told me that she don’t kiss.

If she married you because of money, then she must be ready to play along; if not, let her know that you can't live such a life or stay in such a marriage; tell her that you will be going for divorce ( earlier the best) because things ain't working out for you two. Which kin marriage is that; that you can't kiss your husband and can online have sex when the light is off. No offense, she might be public property before you even met her, forget about what she said about her ex. Women are very cunning.

Adonko:
You shouldnt have sex at all...procreation ko, pocreation ni, that you are not a sex freak is ok ..but there is no rational human that dont love sex except you dont have sexual hormones such as testoterone or oestrogen.

Even animals do enjoy sex...so if you dont is either you are not getting the required quality from your partner or you have health issues.

Lastly swimming can never and will never be a substitute for sex weather direct or indirect so stop deluding/decieving yourself seek help.

Everyone must not be a sex freak like u there are so many things that are more important in life to achieve than enjoying and thinking about sex all day. There are even a lot of disadvantages of getting sexualized or addicted to sex.

Samakus:
Na why una suppose dey marry younger women wey still get fire for their belle when it comes to sex

24yrs old lady or below no go dey tell you this story

Na them worse pass shakara full their body

I quit a relationship with some girl years ago cos she no dey kiss.

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

Michael Jackson too had this kind of phobia for bacteria (which led him to use customized face masks and hand gloves back in the day).

She's right though. The mouth is indeed a major reservoir for both bad bacteria and beneficial bacteria on the regular based off of well-known research worldwide. So, you have to have your oral mints and Listerine-based mouth wash handy with regular flossing after most major meals. It's inconceivable NOT to spontaneously kiss your woman for the rest of your life, so, get your oral fresh breath in order and she'll naturally fall in line from gentle tender kisses to hard-core French kisses. Period.

Oga go and improve your hygiene, smell nice, dress well and shave your beard if you have one. You will come with a different story next time

Bros you get bad breath joor..

I dislike how sex is often overhyped and emphasized in public, even among unmarried people, when there are other important things that deserve more attention. However, I completely disagree with the notion that op is wrong for feeling this way or that sex is solely for procreation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sexual activities within marriage.

Sex doesn't prevent people from achieving important things. Many people who are focused on acquiring important things still privately find time for sex. For example, some top billionaires remarried after divorcing their wives, even after having enough children.

If the woman in question were a virgin, I would have suggested giving her time to adjust. But if the issue is a low sex drive, she should have married someone with a similar drive. In marriage, it's crucial for both partners to be on the same page. If one enjoys sex and the other does not, it can become a big issue.

Adonko:
op kindly read carefully i have read what you wrote up there...listen your woman dont love you, she is not crazy over you, you dont tilkle her when she thinks about you thats if she does ....to wrap it up she is not physically and sexually attracted to you .

I once dated a babe that was crazily inlove with me but i wasnt for her i actually wanted to hit and go during xmas season and she stayed glued ...BTW that babe can kiss me anywhere (place or location ) and anywhere in my body, she unbelt and pulls of my pants to do bj herself. But i dont like to kiss her just fuvck when am Hot when there is no other woman in-sight.

Listen this thing is auto- you dont force it ..she is not attracted to you at all to the point of fvucking only in the dark ..chaiii..if you continue like this she will dampen you self worth and confidence. Later she will begin to dispise you....that is marriage going down.

ADVISE...if i were you..i will give her space i mean dont ask her for sex or indulge in sex related activities with her for some months. Get busy building yourself..financially, physically (hit the gym if you can ) do light cute body exercises, intellectually -get more degrees or proffessional courses ...i mean be studious like never before..fashion sense...be that dresser that will be talked about in your street..have good fashion sense..make friends with other more quality ladies than her to boost your already dilapidated self worth ...i mean flirt abit...UP your personal hygiene..use quality roll-on, deodorant and perfume..use them after bath morning and night and shave frequently.

Still carry out your other non-sexual duty as a man but talk less this time and observe more..try to respond with silence most times when she is nagging even if she starts to nag about your sudden change sexually keep SILENCE..even if she touches you in bed pretend not to need it..and turn her off this is all in a bid to gain back your self worth and respect. She is your wife and she is supposed to fancy making love to you...a fact that cannot be denied.

Starve her of any sexual attention..you are a KING as a man ...as only a king can make a queen but a Queen can never make a king .ponder on the last statement.

BEST ADVICE, OP HEED 🧏

Your own better sef.
Me, no sex; she dey fear infection!

Odingo1:
She is a lab scientist but said is just a phobia, she doesn’t allow kissing, no BJ, sex is only done under the cover darkness. I no understand the whole thing.

make more enquiry to know about her friends. Past and present, childhood if possible.

Lanmonfishery:
No pre-intimacy??😂😂
If una wun nack, like how e Dey start
I Dey curious gan

Aswear...maybe dem go pray first

She doesn’t love you bro 😎

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

Oga, kissing means nothing. If she's not comfortable with it, leave it. Hope you don't give her head, too, like some of men do.

Just find out what she likes during pre-intimacy and decide not to do it. That she's your wife doesn't mean she's insulated from taking infections from you. You don't know about your breath or how she feels when you breathe at her. Let her be for now.

Odingo1:
She is a lab scientist but said is just a phobia, she doesn’t allow kissing, no BJ, sex is only done under the cover darkness. I no understand the whole thing.

And u married her because she said no marriage no sex? U didn't even bother to ask the right questions since she's giving u her difficult conditions.

Well since she didn't tell u all these b4 she coerced u into marrying her it's clear u were scammed, u bought non tested and now the product get as e be.

if U cannot adjust to her and she cannot adjust or compromise for u then u are not sexually compatible and it is a serious matter cos it can lead to cheating on ur side. Let her know she deceived u and u are not happy with the current situation.

Odingo1:
Sex is always done under cover of darkness, if I on blue light, she will say off it. If I initiate sex in afternoon she will decline it or find excuse. I have hardly seen how her kpekus look like.

That's not normal. is she hiding something or is she shy? Whichever the case she has no right to deny u sex when u want it cos its afternoon. if u tolerate this when kids enter she will do worse.

Correct her now and resolve the issue or run. Infact don't sleep with her until further notice and until u resolve those issues.

Odingo1:
She is a lab scientist but said is just a phobia, she doesn’t allow kissing, no BJ, sex is only done under the cover darkness. I no understand the whole thing.

No de worry yourself. With time, she go loosen up. Just know the right button and click it, then she's going to help you to explore.

Kiss no be anything to create an issue out of.

tanigororo:
Na Mumu wife you married (no offensé), how about the body fluid you guys exchange during intercourse.

It needed for procreation

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

Most women don’t like kissing and mouth action it irritates them, the mistake people make before marring is accepting a partner who doesn’t suit with their fantasy especially when it comes to intimacy believing she or he will change when they get married. That’s a big scam

OBUKOMENA:
[b] OP, exactly what you are experiencing is what I experienced in my marriage.

My wife was a Microbiologist. The first 3 years of my marriage was very very very very frustrating sexually! (You can imagine my emphasis).

In my own case, I would attempt to kiss, she would turn her face away. She would not allow me to penetrate her during sex. She would not allow fingering. She said fingering can introduce germs inside of her. Imagine that! Hand wey me dey take chow eba. But, when I want to cum, that's when she would allow me penetrate, so as to release inside of her. Nothing like BJ. Nothing like me giving her a head. She complained that sex was painful and that my D was too hard. Sex was always in darkness. My wife would not allow us bathe together. For her to cum, she would use my flaccid dick to rub her clitoris severally.

I became so frustrated to the extent that I reported to her mum. On getting to hear that, my wife became angry. This was a non-virgin who dated her ex for over 6 yrs and even had abortion. But after 3 to 4 years, sex life changed. As for the kissing, omor, that remained a big issue[/b]

Omor. So she changed after you reported her to her mum? That's bad. What about now? Have you guys resolved the kissing issue?

Odingo1:
Ab, can you explain more because I am tall and many women find me attractive.

What other women might find attractive she might not. She doesn’t love you bro.

If I’m in love with a man his lips will suffer it.

Oga carry ur matter go inside house. She gave u sign and u said I do. Why come here to judge her.

HRprof:
It needed for procreation

You are exchanging more unhealthy fluid during intercourse than kissing

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

“ I don’t cook , I don’t clean “
After you threaten to let her go ….
“ yes I do the cleaning , yes I do cooking “

That said - these are signs of a woman who doesn’t see sex or intimacy as more than just procreation and to satisfy your needs.
I bet she doesn’t hold hands in public or allow you to handle her breasts.

Most of these girls are religious and have very low body count. They are just married so they are not alone in life and have a “ spiritual cover “.

You mentioned “ taboo “ and that “ marriage before sex is necessary “ support my points.
You have to look for supporting passages to aid your discussion on the topic .

In addition you have to meet her half way . Your worldly experience vs her rookie inexperience. You have to let go of demanding intimacy and she perhaps restriction on not changing Styles. Try and make her see that within the confides of a relationship she isn’t a slut but a queen and these are acts that people who love each other indulge in .

BOL

Teeroyzimma:
Na them worse pass shakara full their body

I can't relate.

My own dey always dey ready for me

Odingo1:
My wife doesn’t kiss, she said she fear exchange of bacteria, I don’t have mouth odour, she only said she have fear or phobia about exchange of bacteria since her teenage age, our marriage is 1 month. We dated for 3 months and kiss few times and had sex once but she insisted that marriage is required before sex. In sex she is not interested in changing styles only missionary and no BJ, she said is a taboo. She is 27 and I am 34.

Did she not suppose to tell me all this before marriage or am I scammed.

You rushed enter marriage, that's not good for you or anyone in your situation.
Secondly, we're are used to telling you guys that you should know who you are marrying before marriage, knowing in term of sexual compatibility.

Odingo1:
Sex is always done under cover of darkness, if I on blue light, she will say off it. If I initiate sex in afternoon she will decline it or find excuse. I have hardly seen how her kpekus look like.

Mistake number one. You should see where you are putting your instrument, likewise she should see what you are putting inside her because some people have genital warts, pus discharge, whitish or yellowish discharge and so on. So, it is very important for man and woman to be able to observe each other's body before anything.

TUANKU:
Your own wife o!
Maybe she was sexually abused, confide in her...or maybe she just no like dey fvck you. You sure say you sabi lash well? Try give her better lashing wey go make her legs dey vibrate.

Lol. He needs to work on her attitude and belief first

Love800:
I don't know what to say on this topic. Am not a sex freak. I only do sex for procreation!

I have many things to do which can substitute sex. Swimming is one of dem.

You don't have to be a sex freak to like and enjoy sex. And you don't have to find a substitute for sex, because it has no substitute

But honestly, sex is over-rated. Like what is even the end profit, apart from producing children. Musicians, artist, celebrities and promoters(entertainment) just push it into our heads, just so they can get views and likes. Nothing special in it. I discovered that i have been brain-wash about sex all this while. Not that it even relives me or cure me out of depression. Sex does not align with my emotional healing. I get cured by many other things, especially swimming!

maasoap:
You don't have to be a sex freak to like and enjoy sex. And you don't have to find a substitute for sex, because it has no substitute