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I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by DyshApp(op): 10:58pm On Feb 25, 2025
A Kenyan woman has disclosed how she stopped being a housewife after discovering her husband fathers two children outside their marriage.

The Kenyan woman, Caroline Muchoki shared how she transformed from being a tattered housewife after her husband’s secret came to light.

Taking to her Facebook page, she advised women to “Raise your family but also raise yourself.”

“2017. 8 years ago. This was the calm before the storm that would send me into midterm for 2 years before kulamba glucose na kurudi. I was a content housewife. No dreams or aspirations outside being a good wife. My focus was kids and mubaba. I raised them and forgot myself,” she wrote.

I was such a happy wife that I didn’t realise I had 2 whole step children existing out there who turned 2 years that year.

Talk about living in a bubble.

Fast forward to 2025, the stepkids are 10 years old now.

I didn’t die. Lol. ( The way my heart beat when I was told I was sure I would kuf dead)

I quit being a housewife.

I RAISED MYSELF. Went for my MBA. Doing a second MBA now. Started 3 new businesses. Started Golfing. Started Girlcations (I could never travel previously without my man my man my man) Raised my bank balance. Dived into self-care and Self-love.

What would I tell this girl here? 39-year-old CK. RAISE YOUR FAMILY BUT ALSO, RAISE YOURSELF.


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Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by BrotherJapa: 11:08pm On Feb 25, 2025
Tales of a scorned housewife. It is the seasons of lies.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by EmperorIsaac(m): 11:14pm On Feb 25, 2025
After he has empowered her...she's now an independent woman! grin
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Righteousness2(m): 12:46am On Feb 26, 2025
BrotherJapa:
Tales of a scorned housewife. It is the seasons of lies.
You term a Man's rightful legal wife a Scorned House wife ?
I just don't know the sort of breeds bring raised these days.

Your brain needs DELIVERANCE, MEDICATION and MODIFICATION!
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Daptboy(m): 2:22am On Feb 26, 2025
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Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Exceed15: 3:45am On Feb 26, 2025
And so? I m sure she's still not happy. Women and pretence.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by TONYE001(m):
It's true that some online stories are just false....and this, here, may just be a marketing strategy...but despite this, if this really happened, I see nothing wrong with it.

I can't cast blames on the lady. She has done no wrong...even if she had decided to leave the marriage, she would still be in her right. Maybe the only wrong she did was to wait for this kind of scenario before diving into person growth and development.

This thing called "full-time housewife" should not be in existence today. There's absolutely no sense in it. "Sustaining the family and training/caring for the kids" are not valid reasons for a female to decide to be a full-time housewife. In fact, no husband should encourage his wife to do this. I remember when I and wifie started. I ensured we both enrolled for MSc together...and she even finished before me. When I went back to study medicine as a third degree, I told her to map out a career-advancement path for her as I would want her to take one or two steps further after my medical training. Today, there are considerations of furthering to a PhD in public health or nursing. And she'll be fully supported.

It's wicked for a man to continue to grow while his wife remains as she was met. Evil. This doesn't define a good wife. I mean, how can there be a life without ambition? If I be woman, I no go ever gree to this thing. In fact, if a husband persistently refuses to allow his wife grow, I will not blame such a wife if she leaves the marriage.

It's women that are not empowered or independent that'll continue to depend on their husbands' permissions before consenting to a medical care like CS. I've seen instances where a woman needed URGENT operation to save her life but would not give consent until her husband permits. It's women that are not empowered that'll continue to take rubbish from their husbands (serial cheating, domestic violence, manipulations, etc)... because they know they can't survive alone. Because my wife is empowered, she was able to support me significantly in the 7 years I trained in medical school. I wasn't doing any full-time job, I was only freelancing. Every month, my wife would send me money...may not be enough to fund all my needs, but was HELPFUL.

Please, women, EMPOWER YOURSELVES. Grow as your husband grows...you can even grow higher sef, no law limiting you. Go to school, do postgraduate training, learn a skill, establish a business. EVERYONE in the home MUST GROW together...the wife, the husband, the kids.

This is my 11th year in marriage. While I have 3 degrees, my wife has 2 currently. My wife is also making great progress in career. Our 4 children are growing and they are doing fine. As I continue to grow, my wife would too.

Women, don't be deceived by the so-called African tradition...or by some people's interpretation of the Bible. I beg, grow yourself and be independent. Don't depend on any man, he may disappoint you.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Softmirror: 10:40am On Feb 26, 2025
Where those men always shouting DNA DNA DNA like ambulance.?!
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by GanagiBitrus: 10:40am On Feb 26, 2025
Issorite, provided she didn't quit being a Wife. smiley
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by MaziObinnaokija: 10:41am On Feb 26, 2025
sad
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by busariabeyx24(m): 10:41am On Feb 26, 2025
Good
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Thelannister: 10:42am On Feb 26, 2025
Let me help you all, you can’t use someone else manual to go through this life issues.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by NairalandVDM(m): 10:44am On Feb 26, 2025
Hardluck
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Mindlog: 10:45am On Feb 26, 2025
Nice move.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by VeryBoi(m): 10:46am On Feb 26, 2025
EmperorIsaac:
After he has empowered her...she's now an independent woman! grin
And empowerment isn't a kickoff the road Diamond these days 😄
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Lexusgs430: 10:46am On Feb 26, 2025
They always seek a man, that does it all...., 😊😂
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by OnyeObowo1: 10:47am On Feb 26, 2025
Op stop posting any news or matter wey no concern us here...
Anything outside Nigeria a d how to tackle the situation in Nigeria is useless
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by GOFRONT(m): 10:47am On Feb 26, 2025
Well, madam sha dont go and fall into the hands of Ebanga Baltasar..........Engonga nor dey play oo. Toh
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by 4tomandchi: 10:47am On Feb 26, 2025
huh
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by VeryBoi(m): 10:48am On Feb 26, 2025
Omo, If you don't look for fight, fight will look for you! I like this inspiration
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by 4tomandchi: 10:51am On Feb 26, 2025
Feminism and Feminist are dangerous
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by fyneboi79(m): 10:51am On Feb 26, 2025
Righteousness2:
You term a Man's rightful legal wife a Scorned House wife ?
I just don't know the sort of breeds bring raised these days.

Your brain needs DELIVERANCE, MEDICATION and MODIFICATION!
my friend keep quiet and let him share his opinion... Werey!!
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Orlu13: 10:52am On Feb 26, 2025
Softmirror:
Where those men always shouting DNA DNA DNA like ambulance.?!
Is this the same thing....u want to compare this to paternity fraud....mumu
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by BloomingDale(f): 10:54am On Feb 26, 2025
Exceed15:
And so? I m sure she's still not happy. Women and pretence.

Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by osazsky(m): 10:56am On Feb 26, 2025
Thank God for hookup so u now have multiple businesses interesting
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by ItisWell22(f): 10:57am On Feb 26, 2025
🤧
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by musicwriter(m): 10:59am On Feb 26, 2025
Well, I don't know about the rest of the tale but if someone is doubting whether you can be so much committed to raising others that you forget about yourself, don't doubt her.

I was about 29 when my mother departed. Ever since I took up the responsibility of raising my junior ones and completely forgot about myself!

And like her, I had no problem with that until things went soar for me. It was then I realized that the people you spent everything to raise thinks you didn't help them.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by Chucks13: 10:59am On Feb 26, 2025
Safe journey, go please.


Nonsense.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by BloomingDale(f): 11:00am On Feb 26, 2025
TONYE001:
It's true that some online stories are just false....and this, here, may just be a marketing strategy...but despite this, if this really happened, I see nothing wrong with it.

I can't cast blames on the lady. She has done no wrong...even if she had decided to leave the marriage, she would still be in her right. Maybe the only wrong she did was to wait for this kind of scenario before diving into person growth and development.

This thing called "full-time housewife" should not be in existence today. There's absolutely no sense in it. "Sustaining the family and training/caring for the kids" are not valid reasons for a female to decide to be a full-time housewife. In fact, no husband should encourage his wife to do this. I remember when I and wifie started. I ensured we both enrolled for MSc together...and she even finished before me. When I went back to study medicine as a third degree, I told her to map out a career-advancement path for her as I would want her to take one or two steps further after my medical training. Today, there are considerations of furthering to a PhD in public health or nursing. And she'll be fully supported.

It's wicked for a man to continue to grow while his wife remains as she was met. Evil. This doesn't define a good wife. I mean, how can there be a life without ambition? If I be woman, I no go ever gree to this thing. In fact, if a husband persistently refuses to allow his wife grow, I will not blame such a wife if she leaves the marriage.

It's women that are not empowered or independent that'll continue to depend on their husbands' permissions before consenting to a medical care like CS. I've seen instances where a woman needed URGENT operation to save her life but would not give consent until her husband permits. It's women that are not empowered that'll continue to take rubbish from their husbands (serial cheating, domestic violence, manipulations, etc)... because they know they can't survive alone. Because my wife is empowered, she was able to support me significantly in the 7 years I trained in medical school. I wasn't doing any full-time job, I was only freelancing. Every month, my wife would send me money...may not be enough to fund all my needs, but was HELPFUL.

Please, women, EMPOWER YOURSELVES. Grow as your husband grows...you can even grow higher sef, no law limiting you. Go to school, do postgraduate training, learn a skill, establish a business. EVERYONE in the home MUST GROW together...the wife, the husband, the kids.

This is my 11th year in marriage. While I have 3 degrees, my wife has 2 currently. My wife is also making great progress in career. Our 4 children are growing and they are doing fine. As I continue to grow, my wife would too.

Women, don't be deceived by the so-called African tradition...or by some people's interpretation of the Bible. I beg, grow yourself and be independent. Don't depend on any man, he may disappoint you.
Why don’t you try taking care of the kids and house full time, let’s see you run your mouth saying a housewife is not a full time job.

Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by nwirinedu(m): 11:01am On Feb 26, 2025
Now that you re free, we hope you understand that with freedom comes responsibilities. Don't let us see you make another weeping tik tok video about how life is unfair and hard for single women and start blaming the man you abandoned for your woes.
Re: I Quit Being A Housewife After Discovering My Husband Fathered 2 Kids Outside by nwirinedu(m): 11:02am On Feb 26, 2025
osazsky:
Thank God for hookup so u now have multiple businesses interesting
She belongeth to the streets, caveat emptor. Pipe and swipe left with extreme prejudice. cool
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