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Davidnilla:
Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just support her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

Davidnilla:
Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just support her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

Davidnilla:
Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just support her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

eepeepook:
The story seems fake. l will bite since I read everything.

You said "childhood friend." Over 9 years now means you knew each other at 9 or 12 years of age, thereabout. Any younger and I wonder how you achieved an erection to service her. Knowing somebody so close from primary school would negate sexual feelings. The friendship base is already there. Your foot is firmly in the door. At least that will help the first few years of marriage flow smoothly.

You are afraid that she will cheat on you during the union. Well, that is a risk you have to take. If you're not ready, abort the child let her go her way. You will not allow her to leave anyway, you will want her around for quick sex sessions.

If you have any further inquiries, Kobojunkie is always available.

frozen70:
Every thing in this life is try your luck

So try your luck and teach her how to be faithful

If ut works for you, fine and if it doesn't works for you

Count it as one of those things in life

eepeepook:
The story seems fake. l will bite since I read everything.

You said "childhood friend." Over 9 years now means you knew each other at 9 or 12 years of age, thereabout. Any younger and I wonder how you achieved an erection to service her. Knowing somebody so close from primary school would negate sexual feelings. The friendship base is already there. Your foot is firmly in the door. At least that will help the first few years of marriage flow smoothly.

You are afraid that she will cheat on you during the union. Well, that is a risk you have to take. If you're not ready, abort the child let her go her way. You will not allow her to leave anyway, you will want her around for quick sex sessions.

If you have any further inquiries, Kobojunkie is always available.

OlawaleBammie:
50-50

Since shes married to you now, she isblikel to stop that and focus on you so far u said shes a good girl. And afterallshe had alreadylived her youthful life and explore al the exuberance.

Congrat bro...please in anyth u do, dont abort pregnancy.

Davidnilla:
Yea bro, i always wanted a child young. We are not married, we both are below 25 years.

She says since shes pregnant now, that she cant just satisfy that urge with another man. Which I still doubt and believe say na just to convince me that she go dey one place now

She aint the kind of girl i wanted to settle with (not because of her history sha) well, we dont always get what we want

OlawaleBammie:
Bro lemme tell you this, forget social media hulk and triple h, majority of men didn't marry who dey want, those who even married who they wanted, the same person they wanted and married didn't want them and at the long run the women start given them problem.

Ask ur father, he will see something bad to tell you about that ur sweet mother if he want to be truthful to you, but what happened, he managed ur mother and ur mother managed him..

Even those you wanted and feel for might use ur eyes see shege if u eventually marry them.

Hey bro, I am not saying ur current woman might not also change to dragon later in the future oh, but as a man don't be broken, focus in ur self and goal, take care of whoever u end up with and ur children and see urself florist. And if in the future she do yamayama, dint hesitate to let her go cus if u don't do u would be be the one to recv the blame wen things finally go south.



But have this in mind, inasmuch as some women can't be satisfied by one man even after marriage, there are many women who would stop sleeping around immediately they found out they are under someone roof as a wife.

Davidnilla:
For the 4th paragraph, even if she do yamayama, E no really dey easy to left go, some make it sound simple. But omo

Thanks alot for the mature advice, I really appreciate

Davidnilla:
Thats what am considering. Just that shes been in the perfect relationship, guy treats her well. Yet when i say, come over, she comes over that day. Same with her other male friends.

But thanks for the input, i hope for the best

Mindlog:
You have always known her to have multiple sexual partners of which you are one. even when you are aware she is in a relationship.

A baby is on the way, the most important person in this situation is the baby and you both should develop health coparenting skills, so your child will have a better start in life, even if you both don't end up getting married.

Mindlog:
You have always known her to have multiple sexual partners of which you are one. even when you are aware she is in a relationship.

A baby is on the way, the most important person in this situation is the baby and you both should develop health coparenting skills, so your child will have a better start in life, even if you both don't end up getting married.

Davidnilla:
She’s doesn’t always tell me if she’s currently in a relationship or not, she only brings it up when it goes south or needs advice.

Her last relationship ended because she visited me, the guy noticed and asked her, she said nothing happened between us. The guy just shook head and moved on, cause aint no way you visit a dude and say nothing happened. Even if he is gay

Thanks alot for the advice brother

verminnel:
You are both still young, and judging by what u put up there's a very high probability she's not yet mentally mature to build a family dynamic. Forget the initial pregnancy / baby excitement, when u both encounter real life challenges living together as a couple there's every possibility she will miss her single life. Focus on raising the child together but don't move too fast in regards wifing her until she's proven herself worthy.Remember talk is cheap,anyone can say anything.

Davidnilla:
Thats what am considering. Just that shes been in the perfect relationship, guy treats her well. Yet when i say, come over, she comes over that day. Same with her other male friends.

But thanks for the input, i hope for the best

Davidnilla:
Yea, u have a point here. We have been friends for years and randomly she always asks us to try relationship. But i always decline, cause, if you have a female friend wey dey always come around when ‘u need am’, why risk it for a relationship that may not even last 1 year

Just that, e don enter pregnancy level now

Mariangeles:
Is her name Kesaa?

Davidnilla:
u don dey investigate? 😂😂

Mariangeles:
Is her name Kesaa?



A case of why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free, right?
Anyways, we read, we don't judge.

Davidnilla:
Dont get me wrong on this, as you’re a female too.

I value her friendship, we help and supported each other. Why risk it on relationship when i know say she still dey enjoy her youth age? If we had gone into a relationship, we for don quarrel years back

Mariangeles:
So, why you come dey get doubts now? Una two na the same.
Even if you end up with another person, you dey likely to cheat on that person with her, same as her.

Davidnilla:
Thats what am considering. Just that shes been in the perfect relationship, guy treats her well. Yet when i say, come over, she comes over that day. Same with her other male friends.

But thanks for the input, i hope for the best

frozen70:
I believe the pregnancy will calm her down and she will be ready to settle down

You can also let her know that it's a tabboo in your family for a man to be married to a woman and the woman will never sleep with another man

Tell her the consequences

Helpout12345:
All I will say is that both of you fit each other.

Cheats should marry cheats, faithful should marry faithful, virgin should marry virgin, rich should marry rich, poor should marry poor etc.

Do fast, go and marry her.

Ibkay32:
The post title, "Advice on getting a friend pregnant," is misleading. At first glance, it sounds like you're asking for tips on impregnating a friend, which can be confusing and even amusing. A clearer title would help prevent misinterpretation, especially if the post gains more visibility to make it to fp. Consider something like "Seeking advice on a friend’s pregnancy situation" or "Need advice regarding a friend’s pregnancy." Clear wording is essential to ensure the message is properly understood.