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I was dating this girl for quite sometime and we worked in same organization but different branches... We dated for about 4 months and she tells everyone I'm her man in the organization because she noticed some ladies in our org were having interest in me too.

Fast fwd to when she got an internship job in an audit firm we still keeping communication, she comes to my apartment for weekends etc but I noticed this girl is a girl that love things going her own way...
She claims to be churchy but things she do mks me question her church going... She sounds rude sometimes, she has this entitlement mentality, if I don't call her a day she will retaliate too...

Along the line things got sour wen I asked her to stop communicating with a guy that wants to get her into trouble through money laundering with Nigerian banks... She became angry telling me that's a red flag to her for telling her to stop communicating with this guy... Asking why I will tell her to stop communicating with someone just like that cos I have no right to tell her that... She even went as far as saying she can't marry a man who will stop her from communicating with ppl... So that's when the whole issue started then I had to give her some space till the next day to see if she'd come BK to her senses and apologize for the way she took the whole situation but she never called till the next day I tried talking to her... She told me she doesn't want the relationship anymore and she had moved on... I tried talking to her but she said she can't that she noticed some red flags about me which she can't continue.

Red flags she talked about was;
She need a calm man and I am not.

Me and her head day hot.

I'm a clubbing type (whereby we go to club together anytime we're together and she initiate it even wen I'm not in the mood for clubbing)

I do kush. (Shes do more of alcohol).

I don't go to church regularly ( she's a churchy girl)

She doesn't have much respect for me and she needs a man she wants to respect 💯

I had to option than to let her go cos I've tried sorting out things with her but she had made up her mind already...

What annoys me more is anytime she comes over to my place she most go home with one or two of my clothes cos she claims she don't want to wear what she wore to my place back home so she wear my clothes promising to return them back... She has taken about 4 polo tops, 2 shirts, Michael kors watch, slide and sandals and promise to return them but till today she hasn't returned them.
Even after break up I still remind her about my stuffs she borrowed and never returned but she feels adamant about returning them... Even on Sunday she wore my wrist watch to church and even had the guts to post it on her whatsapp status 😡

All this she took are expensive and some are gifts from friends.

Should I still request my things back or i should just let go...?

Be there speaking plenty grammar, person wey dey use you. When you’re ready to youd go to her place and get back all the stuff she borrowed. U didn’t buy it for her, she borrowed them, so go and get your stuff back, or u don’t know her place? Be fast about it before I change am for u cos u dey make me vex.. if dog bite person d dirst time, the dog dey craze; but if d dog bite same person d second time, na the person dey craze. Oya check am, you’ve been bitten 4 times, who dey craze?

You're weak. Very weak no wonder she doesn't respect you.

A big mistake u made was trying to talk her into changing her mind. U v acted like u v got no option. However you will regret heavily if marry a girl who doesn't listen to u and claiming rights.

Emeka511:
I was dating this girl for quite sometime and we worked in same organization but different branches... We dated for about 4 months and she tells everyone I'm her man in the organization because she noticed some ladies in our org were having interest in me too.

Fast fwd to when she got an internship job in an audit firm we still keeping communication, she comes to my apartment for weekends etc but I noticed this girl is a girl that love things going her own way...
She claims to be churchy but things she do mks me question her church going... She sounds rude sometimes, she has this entitlement mentality, if I don't call her a day she will retaliate too...

Along the line things got sour wen I asked her to stop communicating with a guy that wants to get her into trouble through money laundering with Nigerian banks... She became angry telling me that's a red flag to her for telling her to stop communicating with this guy... Asking why I will tell her to stop communicating with someone just like that cos I have no right to tell her that... She even went as far as saying she can't marry a man who will stop her from communicating with ppl... So that's when the whole issue started then I had to give her some space till the next day to see if she'd come BK to her senses and apologize for the way she took the whole situation but she never called till the next day I tried talking to her... She told me she doesn't want the relationship anymore and she had moved on... I tried talking to her but she said she can't that she noticed some red flags about me which she can't continue.

Red flags she talked about was;
She need a calm man and I am not.

Me and her head day hot.

I'm a clubbing type (whereby we go to club together anytime we're together and she initiate it even wen I'm not in the mood for clubbing)

I do kush. (Shes do more of alcohol).

I don't go to church regularly ( she's a churchy girl)

She doesn't have much respect for me and she needs a man she wants to respect 💯

I had to option than to let her go cos I've tried sorting out things with her but she had made up her mind already...

What annoys me more is anytime she comes over to my place she most go home with one or two of my clothes cos she claims she don't want to wear what she wore to my place back home so she wear my clothes promising to return them back... She has taken about 4 polo tops, 2 shirts, Michael kors watch, slide and sandals and promise to return them but till today she hasn't returned them.
Even after break up I still remind her about my stuffs she borrowed and never returned but she feels adamant about returning them... Even on Sunday she wore my wrist watch to church and even had the guts to post it on her whatsapp status 😡

All this she took are expensive and some are gifts from friends.

Should I still request my things back or i should just let go...?

Emeka, since she refuse to return those stuffs, dnt ask her again about it. Dou it's painful especially when those items are precious to you.
Let it go. cut off contact and communication with that gal.

Don't worry,just count it as a lose.

She don use ur properties as price for the knackings.

Abu u no dey knack am? Na praise n worship doings...

Leave that babe .
The red flag is so much that it can blind a bull .
As for what she borrowed from you , just dash her and move on with your life .
Life na once !
Check out oyinbo people life .
If you stress them too much for relationship or marriage , they go discharge you .
They no get time for Grammer o

That girl na winch


Run fast

You be better ode mumu. Na una dey make all this useless girls dey feel entitled. Oga woman like this na olosho can't you see Dem no dey follow woman like this do relationship na pipe and swipe immediately.

Move on. She will not return those property.

She was initially into you based on fact that she was telling your mutual colleagues about your relationship.

But she had moved onto another man who is more financially better than you. And I just hope that new man is not the one trying to put her into laundering problem.

Letmecum:
You be better ode mumu. Na una dey make all this useless girls dey feel entitled. Oga woman like this na olosho can't you see Dem no dey follow woman like this do relationship na pipe and swipe immediately.

Hello Sir...