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The constant pressure to compete. The lonliness. The hours. The apathy towards us. Finding the women you have been dating for months have a few other men on the line. The financial threat of a marriage not working. Finding that a woman just wants your lifestyle and not you.

The lies about life. The lies from people you trusted. The rejection from modern dating. The pressure to always be strong. The pressure that no one is coming to save you.

The pressure to be everything. I'm 32 and I'm so goddamn tired. Giving up on love isn't an option and I'll push forward. But, danm I'm getting tired.

It's a reflective kind of day. I'll be back to king of my own land shortly.

Relationships have shown this one flames...🔥🔥🔥

Just get yourself an intimacy doll and stay away from women for the rest of your life...

On love, GIVE UP!

Men are NEVER loved.
Only RESPECTED.

The most compact unit that ought to love a man to death is his OWN nuclear family. That is, his wife and kids.

Yet we have read about men being BEATEN by their wives with the full support of their children.

One woman even made a video of herself going commando on her husband's ass while the kids cheered her on.

Men who are NOT being beaten by their wives are either being DISREGARDED or mercilessly CUCKOLDED.

Men who DON'T belong to any of the above VICTIMS of love-seekers are stereotypical "strong men" who have to be ON GUARD at ALL times.

If their FRAME slips, they become some type of victim.

They have to be on guard 24/7!

At work, you need to maintain the focus and precison of a JAGUAR.
At home, you must be a LION.

Either way, you ALWAYS carry an unyielding YOKE.
With zero time to DECOMPRESS.

If you try to decompress by talking to your wife, her attraction to you will WITHER and your marriage will implode.

If you try to decompress by talking to your kids, even adult ones, you'll SCARE them.

There's no way you'll not become MENTALLY-FATIGUED.

Point is:

Every great family is forged by the PERPETUAL SILENT SUFFERING of a man.

If you seek love, that's your lot.

As for the ENDLESS competition, it's the way of the world. No escape.

Only thing you can do is to ALWAYS be doing your BEST.

Observe that I did not say "the best you can do" but YOUR BEST.

The best you can do is average. Your best is NOT.

You know when you have applied yourself in FULL and competition FADES to the background.

And if you're easily influenced by carefully CURATED posts on social media, DELETE them all.

On LONELINESS:

Join a GYM.
Get a DOG.
You are SET.

Nigeria has been a problem
Imagine the loneliness Omo
Omo i need all the help i can get
What’s seems to be the problem gan gan

1.be confident about your self..
2.have trust issue without making it known to anyone including your best friend..
3. like money more than your girlfriends
4. Have it in mind that you are on your own as a man..
5.that there is nothing like love, you are been loved under condition..
Just make money and work on your self..
You are going to understand better with time..

talented321:
1.be confident about your self..
2.have trust issue..
3. like money more than your girlfriends
4. Have it in mind that you are on your own as a man..
5.that there is nothing like love, you are been loved under condition..
Just make money and work on your self..
You are going to understand better with time..

OP take that number 4 serious, always av it in your mind that you are on your own, in anything always try and eat and drink enough water

Life goes on it never stop and s not ending now, sometimes you can travel aswell, go to your village, you will see your childhood friends, some are doin better than you while some you are far doin better than them

Always thank God for the little you av, about marriage, try and date as many as you can, and check there character you will surely jam the one that match you energy, be happy, pls try and be happy, this life s too small, remember life s vanity, and no one has it all

May God be with you, remember always eat and drink enough water, I think that s the most important thing in life, and serve God love your neighbor as you live your self, never do evil no anyone, Jesus love you.

Cheers

As a man, better forget that thing called Love! That shit died way back in our parents' time. The only woman that can ever love you unconditionally in life is your mother (that's if you're lucky to have a good one oo). I know some peeps will be like...go and make money first before you enjoy women blah blah blah. But believe me or not, it's not even about the money sef. That girl you're spending your millions on, thinking that she loves you, another poor useless dude somewhere is fvcking her for free, and she's even spending that your hard-earned millions on this poor dude. Even Omah Lay's babe cheated on him with his best friend, despite all his money, fame and good looks. So l wonder who you think you are when it comes to those heartless Jezebels

As a man, the worst mistake you would ever make is demanding for love. You should rather be respected or even feared. The world does not care about you, this is why I laugh at fools who has the privilege of a good mother but messing around. Those pathetic losers would end up begging for love until the day they die.

Don't focus too much on what the world should give to you but rather the impact you would create within this fleeting moments of life. Life is just too short to focus on begging for love and happiness from a world where past wars and suffering shaped the easy life of this generation.

I have learned to accept sadness as my default state, and acknowledged that I am more at peace knowing that I'm building a legacy of positive impact. All of the money, women, and parties wouldn't go down 6 feet with me but the memories in my head — I'm doing more living than existing....

This is the life of SuperOñyi—a child of an African woman, his experiences has taught him to see sadness as the true friend of man.

Guy get game. Have selfworth and biko don't stay broke.

This consultant fee is charge at ₦5,000

Samantha125:
Relationships have shown this one flames...🔥🔥🔥

Just get yourself an intimacy doll and stay away from women for the rest of your life...

Is that better advice?

No, what do I know about giving better advices when I'm a low class living under a rock?🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

Ibkay32:
Is that better advice?

Namaster:
On love, GIVE UP!

Men are NEVER loved.
Only RESPECTED.

The most compact unit that ought to love a man to death is his OWN nuclear family. That is, his wife and kids.

Yet we have read about men being BEATEN by their wives with the full support of their children.

One woman even made a video of herself going commando on her husband's ass while the kids cheered her on.

Men who are NOT being beaten by their wives are either being DISREGARDED or mercilessly CUCKOLDED.

Men who DON'T belong to any of the above VICTIMS of love-seekers are stereotypical "strong men" who have to be ON GUARD at ALL times.

If their FRAME slips, they become some type of victim.

They have to be on guard 24/7!

At work, you need to maintain the focus and precison of a JAGUAR.
At home, you must be a LION.

Either way, you ALWAYS carry an unyielding YOKE.
With zero time to DECOMPRESS.

If you try to decompress by talking to your wife, her attraction to you will WITHER and your marriage will implode.

If you try to decompress by talking to your kids, even adult ones, you'll SCARE them.

There's no way you'll not become MENTALLY-FATIGUED.

Point is:

Every great family is forged by the PERPETUAL SILENT SUFFERING of a man.

If you seek love, that's your lot.

As for the ENDLESS competition, it's the way of the world. No escape.

Only thing you can do is to ALWAYS be doing your BEST.

Observe that I did not say "the best you can do" but YOUR BEST.

The best you can do is average. Your best is NOT.

You know when you have applied yourself in FULL and competition FADES to the background.

And if you're easily influenced by carefully CURATED posts on social media, DELETE them all.

On LONELINESS:

Join a GYM.
Get a DOG.
You are SET.

My brother, you're a philosopher of some sort! I always look forward to reading your comments for obvious reasons.

I agree with most of the things you said except the part of always being disrespected by one's wife. That one no fit happen! Not because I'm a LION of some sort, but because love to me is an art which must be mastered before its application. And as far as I'm concerned, I'm very good at reading and relating with people. My family members, friends, colleagues and even neighbours respect me well. How much more my wife & kids.

I would have explained in details how I manage to keep my wife and children in check, but again, this is Social Media a place where nitwits roam freely.

Whether marriage, work, family and life generally, these stuff ain't as hard as many people opined. It's our perspective of it and how we live it that complicates things. But again, the Yorubas often say; "Oun to koju s'enikan, ehin lo ko s'elomin bi ilu gangan..."

#Picks_tooth

Samantha125:
No, what do I know about giving better advices when I'm a low class living under a rock?🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

It's high time you move outa the rock.. 😂😆

I don't want to, I'm comfortable with where I am and why are you always in my case?🤦🤦🤦

You said you don't converse with people like myself, remember?

Ibkay32:
It's high time you move outa the rock.. 😂😆

OP. Welcome to manhood. No Calvary comes to save us. We are the Calvary. Have this mindset. Countless billions of men before you have weathered the storm and faced their challenges head long. It is not when it gets to your turn that you will fail.

A man's worth is tied to his ability to provide. Nature and nurture have mandated it. A man waits for no choir to sing songs of appreciation for him. His only solace is that he returns to bed each night knowing that he has given the day his best. That satisfaction is his only true reward. So take it easy on you.

Give life your best and if you do, that's more than enough.

Exhausting.. ain't gon lie .

OP stop looking for love from a woman.only your mom loves you.get a baby mama ,give birth and enjoy your life.you expect too much from women and this is why you have problems

Namaster:
On love, GIVE UP!

Men are NEVER loved.
Only RESPECTED.

The most compact unit that ought to love a man to death is his OWN nuclear family. That is, his wife and kids.

Yet we have read about men being BEATEN by their wives with the full support of their children.

One woman even made a video of herself going commando on her husband's ass while the kids cheered her on.

Men who are NOT being beaten by their wives are either being DISREGARDED or mercilessly CUCKOLDED.

Men who DON'T belong to any of the above VICTIMS of love-seekers are stereotypical "strong men" who have to be ON GUARD at ALL times.

If their FRAME slips, they become some type of victim.

They have to be on guard 24/7!

At work, you need to maintain the focus and precison of a JAGUAR.
At home, you must be a LION.

Either way, you ALWAYS carry an unyielding YOKE.
With zero time to DECOMPRESS.

If you try to decompress by talking to your wife, her attraction to you will WITHER and your marriage will implode.

If you try to decompress by talking to your kids, even adult ones, you'll SCARE them.

There's no way you'll not become MENTALLY-FATIGUED.

Point is:

Every great family is forged by the PERPETUAL SILENT SUFFERING of a man.

If you seek love, that's your lot.

As for the ENDLESS competition, it's the way of the world. No escape.

Only thing you can do is to ALWAYS be doing your BEST.

Observe that I did not say "the best you can do" but YOUR BEST.

The best you can do is average. Your best is NOT.

You know when you have applied yourself in FULL and competition FADES to the background.

And if you're easily influenced by carefully CURATED posts on social media, DELETE them all.

On LONELINESS:

Join a GYM.
Get a DOG.
You are SET.

I have tried joining gym two times yet I still don’t make friends .

As for marriage just look for someone that have few quality you can go with and leave the rest for God, people changes especially when they have what they want .

Milanodigishop:
The constant pressure to compete. The lonliness. The hours. The apathy towards us. Finding the women you have been dating for months have a few other men on the line. The financial threat of a marriage not working. Finding that a woman just wants your lifestyle and not you.

The lies about life. The lies from people you trusted. The rejection from modern dating. The pressure to always be strong. The pressure that no one is coming to save you.

The pressure to be everything. I'm 32 and I'm so goddamn tired. Giving up on love isn't an option and I'll push forward. But, danm I'm getting tired.

It's a reflective kind of day. I'll be back to king of my own land shortly.

At least men can go and approach a woman. We can't approach a man we want. It is taboo. And we have to deal with men we DON'T want approaching us. Men don't have to deal with that.
A man can just keep pursuing a woman he wants, while women can't pursue even once. And all the men really want the same few women based on looks and sex appeal. They give lip service to "character". Hypocrites!

My friend, look for something doing,if you're Hot go to ashawo quarter, simple.

Baronthecelebri:
My friend, look for something doing,if you're Hot go to ashawo quarter, simple.

He wants someone that wants him and enjoys his company (even if cash plays a role), but NOT someone doing it strictly for cash!

Tolu2024:
I have tried joining gym two times yet I still don’t make friends .

Close your eyes and join a good small-but-growing church where everybody is in everybody's business (just make sure it is not fetish)

The economy is cooking everyone but especially early 30’s who haven’t had the luxury of a steady consistent income. Imagine a whole lot of naira chasing fewer goods, but despite that you can have a full stomach with 1 dollar you just have to adopt the 0-0-1 lent standard, make sure the food you’re eating is the choicest Healthiest option your shiny money can afford, then try to learn a skill you are obsessed about, a skill when mastered will set you up in such a way that you’ll never be broke again, then join church groups , Muslim groups or whichever religious groups you belong and create rapport, sometimes just being in the mist of people of like minded faith takes your mind away from all the fatigue. It’s better to die under pressure and stress than to die a boring unfulfilling life. Life is for the living so let’s live.

Continue chasing women. You go soon enter market.

DaddyCoool:
Close your eyes and join a good small-but-growing church where everybody is in everybody's business (just make sure it is not fetish)

What if you are doing good for yourself, don’t you think such small church still growing will be pest in your life ?

Tolu2024:
What if you are doing good for yourself, don’t you think such small church still growing will be pest in your life ?

That's the point - he's NOT doing good for himself.
He's complaining of loneliness, and tiredness, and all sorts of pressures. The idea is to hand all that over to Christ, communicate to the world you're now in Christ and no longer part of the materialistic rat race, plus have a group of people you can trust to an extent, people you KNOW are NOT bad people, who desperately want you. As for pest in your life - something will always be pest in your life. Christ is NOT the worst pest.

Try mek u nor dey do too much!

Always have it at the back of your mind that she ain’t your gal..it’s just your turn!.

And always have it at the back of your mind that only you got you!.