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A friend of mine(we have known each other for over a year now), called me that he was having an emergency because his son was admitted to the  hospital and was in a critical condition.

When i heard that, i cancelled all my schedules and head to the hospital, on getting there, i was very sad over seeing his child, a very little child, going through that much pains and was even on comma.

After talking for a while, i took out my phone and sent him 50k to support him for the treatment. Since that time, whenever i go to the hospital to see him and his wife, i would always try to be involved in d payment. I can't even remember the total amount i spent in that hospital, should be around 300K. I was also in charge of their daily feeding and would buy expensive meal for them, meals that i wouldn't even dare to buy myself cos of the price.

I was driving there every single day from a very long distance.

When d child wasn't improving, i took it upon myself to find an alternative solution to the situation. I met a pastor and bargained with him to pray for the child. I also took that my friend to another church far far away and i paid for everything just to make sure the child was okay. After that church meeting and the pastor's assurance that the child would recover, we left. next day, everything went to normal and truly there was improvements.

I advised him to follow me to that church to thank God and he refused, his reasons was that he suspects a so called imam that prayed for the child about a week earlier was responsible for the improvement, and thus he will appreciate his Mohammed first. I forgot to mention, the guy was a Muslim guy, a yoruba Muslim. I was angry but just decided to go to the church and do the testimony on my own.


One day, he told me how his step mother called him from village and told him that one of his friends was responsible for the child's health problem. So he was avoiding the dude like plague. I advised him this could be a mere accusation, but he insisted he must avoid the dude. He told how he told security not to allow any visitor to visit him and should just tell them they were transferred to another hospital.  hmmm


I was still doing my best, sending money as much as possible to support the drugs, and other stuffs.

Yesterday, he called me and asked me to help him clear the hospital bills so that they can be discharged from the hospital. I told him i was broke.

This morning, i went to the hospital to see him and i noticed his attitude was very different from before. He was acting like i owe him something(I just assume that was his thought). After we went out to get drugs, he then told me the security won't allow me to pass to the ward cos it was their new policy. I shook his hands and left.

These are mostly the types of people around me. Those that always feel i have money and it their right to spend the money. They get aggressive and some even resort to insult and confrontation if i refuse their demands

I feel like a fool, aswear.

I understand your situation. I have been there several times.

As you are now, you are now that guy's enemy. Just toughen up and forget that he exists. If you go too close to him, he will poison you one day for to him you are the friend that he was told was responsible for his child's illness and you are an "asheni bani daro" i.e someone who is responsible for another's misfortune yet consoles him.

Yorubas call them " afi ibi san Oloore".
People who repay good with evil.

God looked down from heaven at human beings and regretted creating them. Na because of people like am.

Also, someone you just met for about one year has not earned the right to be your friend. He has woefully failed the t4st of friendship, trust and gratitude.

Stop being readily available and unnecessary kind to people who have not earned it. They will use you and discard you and still hate you.

Learn to walk alone for your own piece of mind. Most of the people you are walking a mile for will not move an inch for you.

otipoju:
I understand your situation. I have been there several times.

As you are now, you are now that guy's enemy. Just toughen up and forget that he exists.

If you go too close to him, he will poison you one day. to him you are the friend that he was told was responsible for his child's illness.

Yorubas call them " afi ibi san Oloore".

God looked down from heaven at human beings and regretted creating them. Na because of people like am.

Also, someone you just met for about one year has not earned the right to be your friend. He has woefully failed the t4st of friendship, trust and gratitude.

Just run far from him. He will poison you one day if you don't. Stop being readily available and unnecessary kind to people who have not earned it. They will use you and discard you and still hate you.


Learn to walk alone for your own piece of mind. Most of the people you are walking a mile for will not move an inch for you.

thank u, i appreciate this.

Ringstonermasks:
A friend of mine(we have known each other for over a year now), called me that he was having an emergency because his son was admitted to the  hospital and was in a critical condition.

When i heard that, i cancelled all my schedules and head to the hospital, on getting there, i was very sad over seeing his child, a very little child, going through that much pains and was even on comma.

After talking for a while, i took out my phone and sent him 50k to support him for the treatment. Since that time, whenever i go to the hospital to see him and his wife, i would always try to be involved in d payment. I can't even remember the total amount i spent in that hospital, should be around 300K. I was also in charge of their daily feeding and would buy expensive meal for them, meals that i wouldn't even dare to buy myself cos of the price.

I was driving there every single day from a very long distance.

When d child wasn't improving, i took it upon myself to find an alternative solution to the situation. I met a pastor and bargained with him to pray for the child. I also took that my friend to another church far far away and i paid for everything just to make sure the child was okay. After that church meeting and the pastor's assurance that the child would recover, we left. next day, everything went to normal and truly there was improvements.

I advised him to follow me to that church to thank God and he refused, his reasons was that he suspects a so called imam that prayed for the child about a week earlier was responsible for the improvement, and thus he will appreciate his Mohammed first. I forgot to mention, the guy was a Muslim guy, a yoruba Muslim. I was angry but just decided to go to the church and do the testimony on my own.


One day, he told me how his step mother called him from village and told him that one of his friends was responsible for the child's health problem. So he was avoiding the dude like plague. I advised him this could be a mere accusation, but he insisted he must avoid the dude. He told how he told security not to allow any visitor to visit him and should just tell them they were transferred to another hospital.  hmmm


I was still doing my best, sending money as much as possible to support the drugs, and other stuffs.

Yesterday, he called me and asked me to help him clear the hospital bills so that they can be discharged from the hospital. I told him i was broke.

This morning, i went to the hospital to see him and i noticed his attitude was very different from before. He was acting like i owe him something(I just assume that was his thought). After we went out to get drugs, he then told me the security won't allow me to pass to the ward cos it was their new policy. I shook his hands and left.

These are mostly the types of people around me. Those that always feel i have money and it their right to spend the money. They get aggressive and some even resort to insult and confrontation if i refuse their demands

I felt like a fool, aswear.

u no do bad thing.just move on..him go need help again

You've done well guy. Don't let that deprive you of God's blessings for doing good. Keep doing good. God knows your heart. He will come to apologize

otipoju:
I understand your situation. I have been there several times.

As you are now, you are now that guy's enemy. Just toughen up and forget that he exists.

If you go too close to him, he will poison you one day. to him you are the friend that he was told was responsible for his child's illness.

Yorubas call them " afi ibi san Oloore".

God looked down from heaven at human beings and regretted creating them. Na because of people like am.

Also, someone you just met for about one year has not earned the right to be your friend. He has woefully failed the t4st of friendship, trust and gratitude.

Just run far from him. He will poison you one day if you don't. Stop being readily available and unnecessary kind to people who have not earned it. They will use you and discard you and still hate you.


Learn to walk alone for your own piece of mind. Most of the people you are walking a mile for will not move an inch for you.

My brother, you said it all.
Dear poster, you have done what some friendship of 10years n over can't do for their fellow. I will advice you to move on n never look back cause a friendship of 1year treating you this way isn't a friendship

emotional blackmailing

That friend is a big fo0l.. why didn't he ask his stepmother in the village to send money for hospital bill?. It's only to be making accusations and be blackmailing others they know.
@OP If you know what's best for you, cut off from that friend and focus on your own self.. too many ingrates nowadays.
So the guy and his wife don't have relatives that can help with hospital bills payment, it's you the friend that must bear the burden of clearing the bills. Money you could have invested in something and get returns.
The guy is such a big fo0l.

You get time my brother..

Ringstonermasks:
A friend of mine(we have known each other for over a year now), called me that he was having an emergency because his son was admitted to the  hospital and was in a critical condition.

When i heard that, i cancelled all my schedules and head to the hospital, on getting there, i was very sad over seeing his child, a very little child, going through that much pains and was even on comma.

After talking for a while, i took out my phone and sent him 50k to support him for the treatment. Since that time, whenever i go to the hospital to see him and his wife, i would always try to be involved in d payment. I can't even remember the total amount i spent in that hospital, should be around 300K. I was also in charge of their daily feeding and would buy expensive meal for them, meals that i wouldn't even dare to buy myself cos of the price.

I was driving there every single day from a very long distance.

When d child wasn't improving, i took it upon myself to find an alternative solution to the situation. I met a pastor and bargained with him to pray for the child. I also took that my friend to another church far far away and i paid for everything just to make sure the child was okay. After that church meeting and the pastor's assurance that the child would recover, we left. next day, everything went to normal and truly there was improvements.

I advised him to follow me to that church to thank God and he refused, his reasons was that he suspects a so called imam that prayed for the child about a week earlier was responsible for the improvement, and thus he will appreciate his Mohammed first. I forgot to mention, the guy was a Muslim guy, a yoruba Muslim. I was angry but just decided to go to the church and do the testimony on my own.


One day, he told me how his step mother called him from village and told him that one of his friends was responsible for the child's health problem. So he was avoiding the dude like plague. I advised him this could be a mere accusation, but he insisted he must avoid the dude. He told how he told security not to allow any visitor to visit him and should just tell them they were transferred to another hospital.  hmmm


I was still doing my best, sending money as much as possible to support the drugs, and other stuffs.

Yesterday, he called me and asked me to help him clear the hospital bills so that they can be discharged from the hospital. I told him i was broke.

This morning, i went to the hospital to see him and i noticed his attitude was very different from before. He was acting like i owe him something(I just assume that was his thought). After we went out to get drugs, he then told me the security won't allow me to pass to the ward cos it was their new policy. I shook his hands and left.

These are mostly the types of people around me. Those that always feel i have money and it their right to spend the money. They get aggressive and some even resort to insult and confrontation if i refuse their demands

I feel like a fool, aswear.

You dont have to feel bad for doing what gives you fulfillment
i was a teenager when i started buying jamb form for close friends i know there parent dont have, even up to university i housed 6 boys and i took care of the bills, my gf then dey always para

I can never forget the day they joking hinted i was doing show off, who sent me

With the way i carry friends for head, my father was in icu for 9months i didnt see any friend support not even a visit, burial not 1 kobo from any friend

did i change NO, will i still support a friend if i have, sure, its who i am, and i have made peace with my nature.

its beta to be a Giver than to be a beggar, hold on to that

donself9:
You dont have to feel bad for doing what gives you fulfillment
i was a teenager when i started buying jamb form for close friends i know there parent dont have, even up to university i housed 6 boys and i took care of the bills, my gf then dey always para

I can never forget the day they joking hinted i was doing show off, who sent me

With the way i carry friends for head, my father was in icu for 9months i didnt see any friend support not even a visit, burial not 1 kobo from any friend

did i change NO, will i still support a friend if i have, sure, its who i am, and i have made peace with my nature.

its beta to be a Giver than to be a beggar, hold on to that

thanks bro

Ringstonermasks:
➜These are mostly the types of people around me. Those that always feel i have money and it their right to spend the money. They get aggressive and some even resort to insult and confrontation if i refuse their demands I feel like a fool, aswear.

You gave them the impression that they were entitled to your money for knowing you, yet you wonder why you are surrounded by people who feel that way?🙄🙄🙄

Two capable adults had a child, and the child got sick and had to be hospitalized. They invited you over and instead of letting him remain responsible for their own "mess", you took it on yourself to take over from them during the entire time, even going as far as to recruit them in hunting down religious fraudsters to convince them that their are alternatives to medical science which you even paid for. Yet, you wonder why entitlement followed?

Kobojunkie:
You gave them the impression that they were entitled to your money for knowing you, yet you wonder why you are surrounded by people who feel that way?🙄🙄🙄

Two capable adults had a child, and the child got sick and had to be hospitalized. They invited you over and instead of letting him remain responsible for their own "mess", you took it on yourself to take over from them during the entire time, even going as far as to recruit them in hunting down religious fraudsters to convince them that their are alternatives to medical science which you even paid for. Yet, you wonder why entitlement followed?

thank u for d insight