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I don't even know the appropriate caption for this post.
I'm really dismayed at what is happening in my family. First, my paternal grandfather died many years ago when my dad was only just 10yrs(according to Him). After my grandpa died, my grandma(father's mum) remarried. This time she got married to my grandpa's cousin. According to the customs and traditions of the land, when a man dies, the deceased brother is allowed to marry his late brother's wife and possess the children as well. This prevents the widow from going outside the family lineage to remarry.
My father grew up with his stepfather who doubled as his uncle as well. Now my father died a few years ago, and my mum remarried.
Presently, I'm scared this may happen to me cos it's beginning to look like a viscous cycle. I'm really worried.
Secondly, my father's land which is my possession(by inheritance as the firstborn) has been seized by my uncle. An older stepbrother to my late father. My dad built on the land many years ago, but before he died, the building had collapsed. A few years after his burial, this step-uncle went and built on it without the permission of me or my siblings. At the time he Built on the land, I was only 20yrs of age and now that I have grown, I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house since I can't bring down their own building. Though I'm not financially ready to build now. I'm only trying to secure what is rightfully mine. In my village they don't sell land. They just give, and u appreciate the giver with a token. It is forbidden to sell land. Sincerely I don't know what to do again cos this man doesn't have any land to give me and he's a very fetish and diabolical person. He is a core idol worshipper who loves charms a lot. In fact, He kills. I'm trying to apply wisdom in dealing with him.

Andrecole:
➜I don't even know the appropriate caption for this post.
I'm really dismayed at what is happening in my family. First, my paternal grandfather died many years ago when my dad was only just 10yrs(according to Him). After my grandpa died, my grandma(father's mum) remarried. This time she got married to my grandpa's cousin. According to the customs and traditions of the land, when a man dies, the deceased brother is allowed to marry his late brother's wife and possess the children as well. This prevents the widow from going outside the family lineage to remarry. My father grew up with his stepfather who doubled as his uncle as well. Now my father died a few years ago, and my mum remarried. Presently, I'm scared this may happen to me cos it's beginning to look like a viscous cycle. I'm really worried.
➜ Secondly, my father's land which is my possession(by inheritance as the firstborn) has been seized by my uncle. An older stepbrother to my late father. My dad built on the land many years ago, but before he died, the building had collapsed. A few years after his burial, this step-uncle went and built on it without the permission of me or my siblings. At the time he Built on the land, I was only 20yrs of age and now that I have grown, I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house since I can't bring down their own building. Though I'm not financially ready to build now. I'm only trying to secure what is rightfully mine. In my village they don't sell land. They just give, and u appreciate the giver with a token. It is forbidden to sell land. Sincerely I don't know what to do again cos this man doesn't have any land to give me and he's a very fetish and diabolical person. He is a core idol worshipper who loves charms a lot. In fact, He kills. I'm trying to apply wisdom in dealing with him.

1. What vicious cycle would you be referring to? You forgot to mention why your granddad and then your dad died. So, please explain to us what it is you are afraid might happen to you.

2. He built it without permission, and you are unwilling to take him to court because?

Kobojunkie:
1. What vicious cycle would you be referring to? You forgot to mention why your granddad and then your dad died. So, please explain to us what it is you are afraid might happen to you.

2. He built it without permission, and you are unwilling to take him to court because?

Comment sensibly pls

Andrecole:
➜You're just a fool

I am the fool, but you are the one who compiled that OP for the consumption of others? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Andrecole:
I don't even know the appropriate caption for this post.
I'm really dismayed at what is happening in my family. First, my paternal grandfather died many years ago when my dad was only just 10yrs(according to Him). After my grandpa died, my grandma(father's mum) remarried. This time she got married to my grandpa's cousin. According to the customs and traditions of the land, when a man dies, the deceased brother is allowed to marry his late brother's wife and possess the children as well. This prevents the widow from going outside the family lineage to remarry.
My father grew up with his stepfather who doubled as his uncle as well. Now my father died a few years ago, and my mum remarried.
Presently, I'm scared this may happen to me cos it's beginning to look like a viscous cycle. I'm really worried.
Secondly, my father's land which is my possession(by inheritance as the firstborn) has been seized by my uncle. An older stepbrother to my late father. My dad built on the land many years ago, but before he died, the building had collapsed. A few years after his burial, this step-uncle went and built on it without the permission of me or my siblings. At the time he Built on the land, I was only 20yrs of age and now that I have grown, I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house since I can't bring down their own building. Though I'm not financially ready to build now. I'm only trying to secure what is rightfully mine. In my village they don't sell land. They just give, and u appreciate the giver with a token. It is forbidden to sell land. Sincerely I don't know what to do again cos this man doesn't have any land to give me and he's a very fetish and diabolical person. He is a core idol worshipper who loves charms a lot. In fact, He kills. I'm trying to apply wisdom in dealing with him.

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I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house

What else do you want to do past this? You’ve gone through protocol. They will come with an answer in due time.