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My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Souqwaqif: 7:56pm On Mar 12
I Want The Best For Her But She Seems Not To Understand, Pls Advice Needed

Dear All, good evening.

When I first met my woman, I met her decently dressed, since she is from a Christian background, likewise my very self.

But as time goes on I discovered she puts on dresses that are either too tight or too short. I have corrected her in love several times and even reported to her parents, she adjusted for a while and continued again.

She even promised to stop such dresses because of our baby girl.

This time around she put on a very short gown that makes her look like a prostitute on her WhatsApp profile.

On seeing it, I replied that I am ashamed and disappointed in her and as a result I refuse giving her the money she demanded.

She knows why I was angry and why i made such comment and instead of her to apologize she told her mother that I said I was ashamed and disappointed in her, her mother called me to ask me why I said such, I explained to her that its because I have been correcting her on her dressing but this one was too bad, she said OK and that's all.

Its over 5 days now I have not heard any thing from her and her mum. So I just kept silent too because the last that happened I was the one that called for a meeting with her parents to sort it out.

This time around I may not do such again.

However, if there is a better way you can advise me on this I will appreciate. Since her dad may not be in the know.

Thanks

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by grayht(m): 8:01pm On Mar 12
The Lord is your strength bro.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by qwertyboss: 8:01pm On Mar 12
Souqwaqif:
Dear All, good evening.when I first met my woman,I met her decently dressed,since she is from a Christian background,likewise my very self.But as time goes on I discovered she puts on dresses that that are either too tight or too short.I have corrected her in love several time and even reported to her parents,she adjusted for a while and continued again.She even promised to stop such dresses because of our baby girl.This time around she put on a very short gown that makes her look like a prostitute on her WhatsApp profile.On seeing it,I replied that I am ashamed and disappointed in her and as a result I refuse giving her the money she demanded.She knows why I was angry and why i made such comment and instead of her to apologize she told her mother that I said I was ashamed and disappointed in her,her mother called me to ask me why I said such,I explained to her that its because I have been correcting her on her dressing but this one was too bad,she said OK and that's all.its over 5 days now I have not heard any thing from her and her mum.So I just kept silent too because the last that happened I was the one that called for a meeting with her parents to sort it out.This time around I may not do such again.However, if there is a better way you can advise me on this I will appreciate.Since her dad may not be in the know.Thanks
the mother will always support her daughter!
better to engage the Dad

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by nuggarito: 8:07pm On Mar 12
This is why it's not advisable to marry girls that are too religious in the first place.
I think she wants to taste that part of her life she missed.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by decatalyst(m): 8:08pm On Mar 12
Uncle, you never see your type of woman or the right family to marry into.



The signs are staring at you...use your head and not your heart.

I wish you the best of luck.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by correctyourself(m): 8:21pm On Mar 12
qwertyboss:

the mother will always support her daughter!
better to engage the Dad

He should not involved the father if he has not married the lady, it's downgrading for the father to involved this time, because they are doing back-yard runs.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by greatnaija01: 8:28pm On Mar 12
In the JOURNEY OF LOVE.... TAKE YOUR BRAIN ALONG.

She is dressing for someone else.... who is richer or better than you in HER EYES.

SHE IS NOT READY TO BE A WIFE.

following your own BIBLE... she is NOT a WIFE.

check CHARACTER before you go and deceive yourself at the ALTAR and Alter your destiny.

LET HER GO SLOWLY and run for your life.

She won't change even after marriage. She loves the attention she gets when she dresses that way and the money she also gets.... OOPS or maybe the sex she is getting... or she hopes to get which you are TOO GODLY to give her.

go and improve yourself financially and socially... till she is too LOW for you then she will be able to obey every command of yours. THAT'S HOW LIFE WORKS....

REMEMBER.......... NICE GUYS ALWAYS FINISH LAST.

Souqwaqif:
Dear All, good evening.when I first met my woman,I met her decently dressed,since she is from a Christian background,likewise my very self.But as time goes on I discovered she puts on dresses that that are either too tight or too short.I have corrected her in love several time and even reported to her parents,she adjusted for a while and continued again.She even promised to stop such dresses because of our baby girl.This time around she put on a very short gown that makes her look like a prostitute on her WhatsApp profile.On seeing it,I replied that I am ashamed and disappointed in her and as a result I refuse giving her the money she demanded.She knows why I was angry and why i made such comment and instead of her to apologize she told her mother that I said I was ashamed and disappointed in her,her mother called me to ask me why I said such,I explained to her that its because I have been correcting her on her dressing but this one was too bad,she said OK and that's all.its over 5 days now I have not heard any thing from her and her mum.So I just kept silent too because the last that happened I was the one that called for a meeting with her parents to sort it out.This time around I may not do such again.However, if there is a better way you can advise me on this I will appreciate.Since her dad may not be in the know.Thanks

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by MJBOLT: 8:31pm On Mar 12
what do you want us to do undecided

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Gavorche: 8:33pm On Mar 12
Souqwaqif:
Dear All, good evening.when I first met my woman,I met her decently dressed,since she is from a Christian background,likewise my very self.But as time goes on I discovered she puts on dresses that that are either too tight or too short.I have corrected her in love several time and even reported to her parents,she adjusted for a while and continued again.She even promised to stop such dresses because of our baby girl.This time around she put on a very short gown that makes her look like a prostitute on her WhatsApp profile.On seeing it,I replied that I am ashamed and disappointed in her and as a result I refuse giving her the money she demanded.She knows why I was angry and why i made such comment and instead of her to apologize she told her mother that I said I was ashamed and disappointed in her,her mother called me to ask me why I said such,I explained to her that its because I have been correcting her on her dressing but this one was too bad,she said OK and that's all.its over 5 days now I have not heard any thing from her and her mum.So I just kept silent too because the last that happened I was the one that called for a meeting with her parents to sort it out.This time around I may not do such again.However, if there is a better way you can advise me on this I will appreciate.Since her dad may not be in the know.Thanks


your didn't make some things clear from your post.

.you didn't make it clear if you're legally married to but made mentioned of a baby girl.Did you have a child with her out of wedlock?

and I can deduce from your post you guys are not living together.

I'll just tell you not to be seen as desperate, stand your ground and insist she dress decent or else you call it quit

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by grad2012(f): 8:36pm On Mar 12
inform her dad since the mum is not taking any action..

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Souqwaqif: 8:45pm On Mar 12
Thanks all am really getting enlightened by all your post,I do appreciate your time

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Katier00(f): 8:45pm On Mar 12
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Nobody: 8:51pm On Mar 12
She is already getting attention from someone for her to be dressing like that and has now gotten the reason she has been looking for to make a move. Wait, you guys have a daughter? Is she your wife?
Never you dictate for someone especially in the area of dress code, it's rude.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:48pm On Mar 12
life is NOT about what you want for people around you, but what THEY want for themselves. you cant change someone if they DONT want to change.... no matter how good "your" intentions are. the earlier you accept that this is the way she wants to dress, the better chances you have in solving this issue.

you can either A) accept who she has turned into, accept the way she desires to dress OR B) dont accept her dressing ways and find a woman in your life who will dress exactly how you desire.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DMerciful(m): 10:04pm On Mar 12
Why are you supporting a bad thing? So you will disrespect your husband because you want to please other men literally? Or what does a married woman get from advertisement?
Op, there are many women looking for husband, look for one who will respect you!
Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:25pm On Mar 12
All the people saying there's someone else out there she's dressing up for, what's your problem? undecided

It's not everyone who dresses for someone else. Some of us dress up for our very own selves.

Now to the OP. First, of all, is this lady your wife or baby mama? You must know that you can't push an adult around. You can't scream down their heads in the name of telling them what to do... most often, such actions are counter-productive. You'd bring out a rebellious side in her. Saying it once, truly is enough... a few times is passable...but anything beyond that becomes downright over bearing.

As you said, she never used to dress like that before. Certain things, consciously or unconsciously are influencing this change. She's going through a phase... I was there at a time, too... if the dress is not above knee-length I won't wear it, even to the office... Lol. But I honestly wasn't doing it for anyone...I felt cool with myself. I didn't know the Holy Spirit had departed from me. grin cheesy It was just a transient mood, anyway. What your fair lady needs is loving admonishment, like an adult...not calling family meeting on her case! Haba! I'm sure the short things you're referring to are not overtly short. Check...perhaps her spiritual life is dwindling... perhaps she's trying to be more fashionable and she thinks skimpy is the way to go...

You've already registered that you don't appreciate the new style... let her be... she'll get tired and come around to being the girl she used to be.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DanDeeBoss(m): 10:31pm On Mar 12
Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have
Lol... I just hope say na teenager talk this kind thing....

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DanDeeBoss(m): 10:33pm On Mar 12
What's stopping you from leaving??

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Nobody: 11:02pm On Mar 12
Souqwaqif:
Thanks all am really getting enlightened by all your post,I do appreciate your time
I'll advice u to involve the pastor and her family members. Use scissors to cut up the clothes.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Nobody: 11:05pm On Mar 12
DanDeeBoss:
What's stopping you from leaving??
You shouldn't give up on people that easily

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Emotionss(m): 11:10pm On Mar 12
Given your best to someone that doesn't understand it's value is like trying to run with a broken leg

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by tosyne2much(m): 11:19pm On Mar 12
First and foremost, is she your wife or just a baby mama?

The truth is, you can't change someone with an unrepentant attitude unless they are willing to change no matter how good "your intentions are towards them. Correcting them will make it look like you don't love them or can't accept them for who they truly are

Your rant won't change anything bro, so it's better to fold your arms and be looking at her make one baby mama no come give you HBP. Even if she starts walking unclad on the street, na to fold arms dey look her.

One thing I notice about women of nowadays is that, when they dress I decently and you compliment them, telling them how they look sassy and gorgeous in it, they become your best friend but when you tell them they look like a slut their mouths would turn bile

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by vingeophysicist(m): 11:21pm On Mar 12
So because of her dress code you want to end your relationship. My dear I even love this kind of lady's because there change in there dressing gives you signal to investigate her. Op I advice you to be vigilant but don't complain about it again so as to make her think you are not watching her. I'm certain something fishy is going on because of her change in dressing.

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Katier00(f): 6:26am On Mar 13
DanDeeBoss:
Lol... I just hope say na teenager talk this kind thing....
me teenager? You don look my face before?

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Katier00(f): 6:28am On Mar 13
DanDeeBoss:
Lol... I just hope say na teenager talk this kind thing....
me teenager? You don look my face before? Ok
Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:36am On Mar 13
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Because of dressing? It's unfortunate kids are not allowed to choose their religious path, instead they follow d doctrines laid down by their parents. She's from a Christian home does not mean deep down she wants to b fully committed
if I am not mistaken, the guy said he isn't comfortable with her style of dressing, what do you think would happen if he eventually marries her??

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:37am On Mar 13
Katier00:
me teenager? You don look my face before?
Lol... No vex sha smiley

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Katier00(f): 6:39am On Mar 13
DMerciful:
Why are you supporting a bad thing? So you will disrespect your husband because you want to please other men literally? Or what does a married woman get from advertisement?
Op, there are many women looking for husband, look for one who will respect you!
I didn't say so. The op should define short, how on earth do you know that she is dressing up for another man? There are thousands and one way, he could have corrected her without using those demeaning words. From experience jealous men don't like women to look good because in their tiny mind, the lady is doing it for a man. My ex told me that I should stop wearing trousers because it reveals my contours and attract men to me, so he won't take it. How can somebody think like that? I don't support bad thing but when you see a control insecured freak, you won't need a magician to tell you that. No offense to the op

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Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by Katier00(f): 6:40am On Mar 13
DanDeeBoss:
Lol... No vex sha smiley
me teenager? You don look my face before?
Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:47am On Mar 13
Katier00:
me teenager? You don look my face before?
shocked
Re: My Woman Wears Very Short And Tight Outfits. I Cautioned Her, This Is Happening by DMerciful(m): 6:49am On Mar 13
You can see that your experience has made you sentimental. The Op said he repeatedly corrected her and after a little improvement she goes back. You need to understand there's a difference btw bf and husband. I myself do tell my wife few times to change her clothes while going out if I'm not comfortable with it, thank God my wife is quite respectful. A man said his wife wears clothes that are uncomfortably short, you a stranger is saying how short is short! Are you saying he doesn't know what he is saying. If a woman is not looking for market why the advertisement?
Katier00:
I didn't say so. The op should define short, how on earth do you know that she is dressing up for another man? There are thousands and one way, he could have corrected her without using those demeaning words. From experience jealous men don't like women to look good because in their tiny mind, the lady is doing it for a man. My ex told me that I should stop wearing trousers because it reveals my contours and attract men to me, so he won't take it. How can somebody think like that? I don't support bad thing but when you see a control insecured freak, you won't need a magician to tell you that. No offense to the op

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