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idahme:
After making the money iin your 30s you still look for a man to take care if your bills who are you deceiving? Yourself of course

occfx:
➜Foolish people think money has gauge.. There is nothing like enough money... Just find your size of partner and continue the hustle ... Your own difinition of wealth may be another man definition of poverty. The problem people have is not cutting there coats accordingly. How can you be a salary earner and be dating a Brazilian wig marshal? The more money you make the more your taste board increases. E no get gauge unless you contend with yourself. My own be say, try to be a better person everyday or learn new things everyday. Make sure where you are today is not where you are tomorrow.

chris51:
Stop deceiving others. If you are doing and honest and decent work you will not shy away from marriage. I believe your type are busy running around men in Abuja to make money.

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

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cr7lomo:
Men hardly marry women in their 30s ...did she consider the biological factor ?? At 30 women loose 90% of their eggs and at 35yrs she could have serious problems conceiving

Stolen:
IF U LIKE, IF U SEE HUSBAND OR WIFE IN YOUR 20s NO MARRY, THEY LISTEN TO WEREY ADVICE.

WEN YOUR TIME PASS, DEM NO DEY TELL PERSON.

YOUR TIME MIGHT BE 20s, ANOTHER TIME MIGHT BE 30s, SOME SEF FIT BE 40s.

EVERYBODY TIME WILL COME AND GO.

Merry100:
I’ve advised you before to do proper research before making baseless claims. Did you visit marriage registries, churches, mosques, or other wedding venues to verify whether up to 70% of brides are in their 20s before declaring that men hardly marry women in their 30s? Or you just pulled your claim out of thin air?

You sound like someone who skimmed through a high school biology textbook and now thinks he's an expert.

Since you seem so eager to learn ‘biology,’ let me educate you: while women’s fertility declines at 35-40, men’s sperm quality also starts deteriorating around the same time.

Aging sperm leads to lower motility, higher DNA damage, and increased risks of autism, schizophrenia, and genetic disorders in children.

Instead of obsessing over women, maybe advice your fellow men to get their sperm checked because a lot of them have sperm that get a head start but can’t even swim, let alone make a baby.

Many women in their 30s conceive naturally. Menopause, which happens around 45-50, is the real cut-off, not some imaginary ‘30-year expiration date’ you made up.

Felimax:
Fish brain nothing like enough money.
Too much money and you may attract the kind of men you will regret later.

EmperorIsaac:
She's saying if you get married in your 20's, there won't be opportunity for oloshoism. Listen to her at your peril!

israelmao:
➜With fleeting nature of woman's beauty and splendor my candid advice to ladies is if they men who truly love them in their 20s they should waste no time in saying affirmative.
➜Some social media commentators/ influencers' pieces of advice could be confusing.

Caleycash:
Keep fooling yourself... no face reality yeye!

Muhylonaire007:
➜Let people do what works for them. This life no get template. The other day, one man was lamenting that the mistake he made in his life was not marrying early. You can’t tell people to live life in a certain way. Your template may not work for another person.

TheBillyonaire:
Men should get married in their 40s to women in their 20s.

At 40, a man is mentally and financially stable, and at that age, he already owns and decorates his home and have farmlands to grow organic food in the suburbs.

At 20, a woman is young, naive, fertile and sexually active for a 40 years old husband who has got a stable life.

That way, their kids will be in their 20s, when their mother is in her 40s and their Dad in his 60s.

Wise men in their 70s, with their wives in their 50s are ready to transfer wealth and family legacies in the their kids in their 30s and whose female children have given them 10 years old grandkid(s).

At 70s, men are playing around with Soul Travel and OBEs preparing for their next incarnation and if they take care of their health will live to their 90s.

This is a template that works for those who are self-made, but if you have generational wealth and trustee of some wealth, as a man, you can get married in your 30s. No man should be married in his 20s, there is such much inexperience and causes divorces.

Kobojunkie:
So the over 170 million Nigerians living in abject poverty today, with over 50 million of them having passed the condition on to their children and so on, do not have any fault in the fact that is their poverty, is what you are saying. We can gauge poverty but not wealth.

occfx:
➜According to the topic, she said make enough money. So my reply is focused on enough money which I said you cannot gauge.
➜In fact, it is not early marriage that makes people poor if that's where you are confused.

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

Empresa:
She is trying to console herself why she is still single and past her 20s

Smilleydr:
I just pray it work for me, because comont girl friend self e hard to keep for me, and I don dey old faaaa

Tunaji:
➜Utter nonsense! This lady is basically advising people to marry when their libido has decreased. Make money but make sure to marry in your 20s please, especially after school. She probably didn't know the saying that goes thus:" A young man's wife is his bedmate, A middle-aged man's wife is his companion An old man's wife is his nurse"
➜You don't want your spouse to be your companion and nurse only, marry him or her when the spontaneity, libido and love are still strong.

DigitB:
➜Another proof that most women are empty brained. We all know the hóre is just chasing clout sha. Women should get married immediately they reach 18. She can still go on and conquer the world in any field she desires. Science, technology, humanities or whichever. A woman can achieve anything...

TheBillyonaire:
Men should get married in their 40s to women in their 20s.

At 40, a man is mentally and financially stable, and at that age, he already owns and decorates his home and have farmlands to grow organic food in the suburbs.

At 20, a woman is young, naive, fertile and sexually active for a 40 years old husband who has got a stable life.

That way, their kids will be in their 20s, when their mother is in her 40s and their Dad in his 60s.

Wise men in their 70s, with their wives in their 50s are ready to transfer wealth and family legacies in the their kids in their 30s and whose female children have given them 10 years old grandkid(s).

Edusouls:
how old are u? U don see 35?

Baronthecelebri:
I support her

BloomingDale:
Women who marry in their 20s tend to have higher divorce rates compared to those who marry later, though the specifics depend on the age within that decade and other factors. Research consistently shows that marrying very young—especially in the early 20s or teens—correlates with a higher likelihood of divorce. For example, couples who marry before age 20 face a divorce rate as high as 50% within 10 years, according to studies like those from the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). Marriages between ages 20-25 also show elevated risk, with around 60% ending in divorce over time, per some analyses.

The “sweet spot” for lower divorce risk seems to be around 28-32. A study by Nicholas Wolfinger using NSFG data (2006-2010) found that divorce risk decreases as age at marriage increases up to the late 20s, then slightly rises again past the early 30s—about 5% per year after 32. Women marrying at 25 or older are roughly 24% less likely to divorce than those marrying earlier, aligning with broader trends of increased stability with age.

Why? Younger couples often lack emotional maturity, financial stability, or clarity about long-term compatibility—factors that improve with time. The prefrontal cortex, key for decision-making, isn’t fully developed until around 25, which might explain some of this. Plus, marrying later often means more education and career grounding, buffering against marital strain. That said, waiting too long (past mid-30s) can introduce new risks, like entrenched habits or less flexibility.

Data’s messy, though—divorce stats vary by region, race, education, and whether couples cohabited first (which can bump up risk). The crude narrative of “early 20s = doomed” oversimplifies; plenty of young marriages last with the right conditions. Still, the pattern holds: marrying in the 20s, especially early, generally means a bumpier road.

Bukola94:
If you know that you're the responsible type and got a well paying job, you should try and settle down. But if you know you don't want to be responsible and is the stingy type and jobless, please don't marry, because a lot of sacrifice and compromise have to be made

Smilleydr:
nope by may like this I go clock 32