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Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby

Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.

This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me

Pls I need your advice

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Jiblocrestive:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby

Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.

This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me

Pls I need your advice

Jiblocrestive:
✓ Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your adviseMy wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby
Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.
This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me
Pls I need your advice

You always thought she would change but even when you saw that not happening, you conveniently continued to hold on to that delusion instead of seeking ways to help her overcome the problem.🤔

Your wife is probably struggling with kleptomania, and yes, it is a real problem even if you don't want to believe that mental illness is a real thing. You should probably both talk of getting professional mental health counseling for the condition and putting her on prescribed treatment immediately.

Kobojunkie:
You always thought she would change but even when you saw that not happening, you conveniently continued to hold on to that delusion instead of seeking ways to help her overcome the problem.🤔

Your wife is probably struggling with kleptomania, and yes, it is a real problem even if you don't want to believe that mental illness is a real thing. You should probably both talk of getting professional mental health counseling for the condition and putting her on prescribed treatment immediately.

Thanks for the advice

Pls guys I need your advice

This not story telling but real life

Jiblocrestive:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby

Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.

This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me

Pls I need your advice

Effect of dating Yahoo boy before marriage, she needs deliverance

Whatever solutions/advice you seek will always start with you shedding more light on the issue.

Have you had conversations with her about this, how it happens, how she feels before and after it happens and what it portends for her, you, the children and family as a whole?
What are her chain of thoughts like before and after the act? Is it impulsive or premeditated? Are there signs of remorse?

Are there particular items she specifically takes? Does she have need for those items or just random items she does not need. The answer here is a pointer to whether it is indeed kleptomania or not. Kleptomaniacs have no material nor financial need for the things they take. They mostly can conveniently afford them.

Also, is this a recent development? I mean, did she just start this? Or has she always been like this, while courting? What triggers it?

Hopefully, telling her parents is not 'reporting' her but a loving way to find a solution/better insight.

This will need you to be really calm and patient.

Jiblocrestive:
➜Thanks for the advice.

Do not call her parents into this in an attempt to shame your wife. If things were turned around, would you accept her reporting you to your parents in that situation?

Kobojunkie:
Do not call her parents into this in an attempt to shame your wife. If things were turned around, would you accept her reporting you to your parents in that situation?

She has been doing it before
This is her third time I always thought they have been lying against her until today

Am beginning to feel embarrassed that's why I have to tell her parents maybe she will stop if they caution her

Ohh what a klepto she ain't gonna change, it's something you have to deal with for the rest of your life bro.

CrownedPhoenix:
Whatever solutions/advice you seek will always start with you shedding more light on the issue.

Have you had conversations with her about this, how it happens, how she feels before and after it happens and what it portends for her, you, the children and family as a whole?
What are her chain of thoughts like before and after the act? Is it impulsive or premeditated? Are there signs of remorse?

Are there particular items she specifically takes? Does she have need for those items or just random items she does not need. The answer here is a pointer to whether it is indeed kleptomania or not. Kleptomaniacs have no material nor financial need for the things they take. They mostly can conveniently afford them.

Also, is this a recent development? I mean, did she just start this? Or has she always been like this, while courting? What triggers it?

Hopefully, telling her parents is not 'reporting' her but a loving way to find a solution/better insight.

This will need you to be really calm and patient.

Thanks for advice
Am not sure she feel any remorseful about what she done.. she kept denying
It's been happening since last year she pleading asking me to forgive her whenever it's happen
But now am beginning to get fed up and have told her parents I will send her packing when next I hear that she steal whether guilty or guilty
I will divorce her.3z3

CrownedPhoenix:
Whatever solutions/advice you seek will always start with you shedding more light on the issue.

Have you had conversations with her about this, how it happens, how she feels before and after it happens and what it portends for her, you, the children and family as a whole?
What are her chain of thoughts like before and after the act? Is it impulsive or premeditated? Are there signs of remorse?

Are there particular items she specifically takes? Does she have need for those items or just random items she does not need. The answer here is a pointer to whether it is indeed kleptomania or not. Kleptomaniacs have no material nor financial need for the things they take. They mostly can conveniently afford them.

Also, is this a recent development? I mean, did she just start this? Or has she always been like this, while courting? What triggers it?

Hopefully, telling her parents is not 'reporting' her but a loving way to find a solution/better insight.

This will need you to be really calm and patient.

Thanks for advice
Am not sure she feel any remorseful about what she done.. she kept denying
It's been happening since last year she pleading asking me to forgive her whenever it's happen
But now am beginning to get fed up and have told her parents I will send her packing when next I hear that she steal whether guilty or guilty
I will3-3z divorce her.3z3

CrownedPhoenix:
Whatever solutions/advice you seek will always start with you shedding more light on the issue.

Have you had conversations with her about this, how it happens, how she feels before and after it happens and what it portends for her, you, the children and family as a whole?
What are her chain of thoughts like before and after the act? Is it impulsive or premeditated? Are there signs of remorse?

Are there particular items she specifically takes? Does she have need for those items or just random items she does not need. The answer here is a pointer to whether it is indeed kleptomania or not. Kleptomaniacs have no material nor financial need for the things they take. They mostly can conveniently afford them.

Also, is this a recent development? I mean, did she just start this? Or has she always been like this, while courting? What triggers it?

Hopefully, telling her parents is not 'reporting' her but a loving way to find a solution/better insight.

This will need you to be really calm and patient.

Thanks for advice
Am not sure she feel any remorseful about what she done.. she kept denying
It's been happening since last year she pleading asking me to forgive her whenever it's happen
But now am beginning to get fed up and have told her parents I will send her packing when next I hear that she steal whether guilty or guilty
I will3-3zwill3-3z3 divorce her.3z3

Jiblocrestive:
➜She has been doing it before. This is her third time I always thought they have been lying against her until today. Am beginning to feel embarrassed that's why I have to tell her parents maybe she will stop if they caution her

Is your wife a child that you feel you need to tell her parents about? You are embarrassed by her behavior, and the first thought is to report her to her parents as though you are dealing with a child. why?

Other than these incidents, how is the general health of your marriage?

CrownedPhoenix:
Whatever solutions/advice you seek will always start with you shedding more light on the issue.

Have you had conversations with her about this, how it happens, how she feels before and after it happens and what it portends for her, you, the children and family as a whole?
What are her chain of thoughts like before and after the act? Is it impulsive or premeditated? Are there signs of remorse?

Are there particular items she specifically takes? Does she have need for those items or just random items she does not need. The answer here is a pointer to whether it is indeed kleptomania or not. Kleptomaniacs have no material nor financial need for the things they take. They mostly can conveniently afford them.

Also, is this a recent development? I mean, did she just start this? Or has she always been like this, while courting? What triggers it?

Hopefully, telling her parents is not 'reporting' her but a loving way to find a solution/better insight.

This will need you to be really calm and patient.

Thanks for advice
Am not sure she feel any remorseful about what she has done.. she kept denying it everytime
It's been happening since last year she pleading asking me to forgive her whenever it's happen
But now am beginning to get fed up and i have told her parents I will send her packing when next I hear that she steal whether guilty or guilty

Kobojunkie:
Is your wife a child that you feel you need to tell her parents about? You are embarrassed by her behavior, and the first thought is to report her to her parents as though you are dealing with a child. why?

Other than these incidents, how is the general health of your marriage?

It's 2years of marriage
The mistake I did was when we are courting i didn't notice any negative traits in her.

Jiblocrestive:
➜Thanks for advice Am not sure she feel any remorseful about what she done.. she kept denying
It's been happening since last year she pleading asking me to forgive her whenever it's happen But now am beginning to get fed up and have told her parents I will send her packing when next I hear that she steal whether guilty or guilty I will3-3zwill3-3z3 divorce her.3z3

Well, since you already reported her and threatened her with divorce, there isn't much left to say to you then. Anyways, do let the woman know that she can get mental health therapy for what ails her if she really wishes to drill down to the reason for the problem, and maybe gain understanding of it for herself. Kleptomania can happen to both kids and adults alike.

Jiblocrestive:
It's 2years of marriage
The mistake I did was when we are courting i didn't notice any negative traits in her.

During the marriage I notice she like lying, stingy with her own, always waiting for to come before buying or sorting any Bills even though she work collect a meager salary I always provide for the family without her even supporting

Your wife has mental health issues kleptomaniac compulsion to steal its wired in her.

You've an obsessive-compulsive spectrum disorder. She can't help it. She can't stop even if she wants to... it's wired into her.

You can treat her using either of the following.

Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), mood stabilizers
Opioid receptor antagonists,
Antidepressants

But the sureest of them is cognitive behavioral therapy.

Wish you the best so you know no need reporting her because her whole family knows about her condition.

Klepto dey hard to hide.

Fake story sob story,
This is the new trend on nairaland now.
Scammer in the making,
Hoping to hit front page and begin scamming.

https://www.nairaland.com/8374729/broke-depressed-confused...i-need-pls

You were broke and confused,
All of a sudden you give your wife 5k daily

Ediot.

If you are not the one experiencing a situation you want to post, or it's a copied post, simply indicate it.

Else it makes mockery of people's suggestions, advice and time.

Your wife nah JAGUDA

Send ha back to her parents before ha matter enter TYRE for neck

Divorce her ASAP, stupid SIMP. She has transfer stealing to your lineage

I no come unstd you again oooo, no be you say you drop out from school say money no dey ur hand, na manial job you dey do to feed,

How come you get 5k to give woman to cook everyday?

Jiblocrestive:
During the marriage I notice she like lying, stingy with her own, always waiting for to come before buying or sorting any Bills even though she work collect a meager salary I always provide for the family without her even supporting

You better corrected this anomaly else if she grows to a stage where you have kids in the university and you struggle financially you are done. This is the time to groom her to understand marriage is not the work if a man alone, its for the two. A woman who doesn't share her little can never share when she has abundance know this. Selfishness in marriage should be frowned this is one major reason i left my girlfriend to her everything must be done by me what if life happens and she becomes the major earner?

Jiblocrestive:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby

Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.

This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me

Pls I need your advice

Fake story scam story,
This is the new trend on nairaland now.
Scammer in the making,
Hoping to hit front page and begin scamming.

https://www.nairaland.com/8374729/broke-depressed-confused...i-need-pls

You were broke and confused,
All of a sudden you give your wife 5k daily

Ediot.

Smilleydr:
I no come unstd you again oooo, no be you say you drop out from school say money no dey ur hand, na manial job you dey do to feed,

How come you get 5k to give woman to cook everyday?

Don't mind all these silly people with their fake stories. They want to gather traffic. I don't know if the traffic will give them money. Nonsense.

Jiblocrestive:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife keep disgracing and embarrassing me every time even though I gave her 5k daily to cook and take care of our little baby

Sometimes, she took money from wallet and denied whenever I ask her but I always let go.

This morning, after she came back buying foodstuff to cook she went outside to buy some stuffs outside only too hear that she stole biscuits and sweets without paying.
Someone that I gave 10k for foodstuff stealing biscuits I was so shocked and speechless but this not the first time cos I always thought she would change after pleading and begging. But now I no choice to call her parents and tell them cos am fed up.
Am always an easy going person in the neighborhood now I can't walk freely without pointing finger at me

Pls I need your advice

Report her to her parents and in her presence let her explain why she is doing so

Also find out if truly he has been doing so before you married her

Then the next thing is to ask her the way out of the stealing attitude

Guys it's a scam bait. He dropped out of uni,broke and jobless,suddenly he is married and gives his wife 5k, after a week . Is that not juju.
Lazy baztad. Guys runs oh.he iz a dull scammer.
Ole

Jiblocrestive:
She has been doing it before
This is her third time I always thought they have been lying against her until today

Am beginning to feel embarrassed that's why I have to tell her parents maybe she will stop if they caution her

It is spiritual. Definitely a generational curse. Her parents know. It didn't start today. Go prayerfully and ask them to tell you the cause of the curse. Then take your wife to a bible based deliverance church and break the yoke.
Kleptomania is a demonic spirit. She can't help herself.

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