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neolboy:
This is my life story but i won't force you to believe it.

But never call my pains, bitter experience trash

Trash

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

So delta people dey follow wicked themselves anyhow too.. I tot its only outsiders.
Sometimes u wonder why some people are sentimental about other tribes but if you look closely u would discover the funny experience they have had in the hands of

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

An ashawo Will always be an ashawo even if you do pregnancy test before you tie the knot does that guarantee that after tieing the knot she will not go back to the ex-boy friend? Or even the doctor who did the test? The same goes for those who say marry Virgin gal as if they will keep as such after marrying so how do you gauge the toto that your friend sef is not pfucking her after you disvirgin her.

The solution to all these is to draw close to God and stay glued to God when about to choose a wife because it's only God who chooses a good wife for a man. Pick by yourself at your own peril. She get yansh, get breat, get fine face, go school, in church choir, from your tribe not be features you need to be looking out for ooo. Rather pray this, baba God na you say its not good for a man to be alone find me the wife you had prepared for me even before I was formed in my mother's womb so that my marriage to her can bring glory to you as you intended I know not how to choose but you know. Thank you baba God because I know you're a good Father who gives the best to His children so when I meet a girl that is not of your choosing for me destroy the relationship before it begins make me loathsome to such gals frustrate my efforts to marry her as a sign to me. And wait for God to act for you without being restless when your "mate" are getting married to their ashawo your own will come by God grace.

Who be this fool? He's advising men and you here typing rubbish and comparing yourself with a man. A man can never be a virgin cos there is no hymen.

Gandollar:
Huncle be calming down..

What you guys see as body count is not truly body count.

Any man that fails to make a lady reach orgasm can't be counted ok.

Are you a virgin yourself? Or you want to pound fresh palm fruits in a rotten mortar?

@Op, sorry for your experience. I hope you can love again?

Try and love again.

If all men are not the same, then all women can't be the same.

Don't carry trauma everywhere you go like stretch marks.

Try again.

Kobojunkie:
Thank which God? OP should instead be thankful to his dick for not letting him fall in a possible trap in this case. If he had been bedding the gal during those weeks before the pregnancy, he would probably not have been able to escape at all.

Kobo making sense.

When God is your father... Truly God was with you..

You have to thank her brother's wife with gifts

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

omorr

Jesus !!!

Edugist4u:
Who be this fool? He's advising men and you here typing rubbish and comparing yourself with a man. A man can never be a virgin cos there is no hymen.

In that case, I think you should eat poo, a million flies can't be wrong.

Super story

Watcharena:
No marriage deal if she is not a virgin


Only simp can marry a non virgin


Never you in your life Marry a non virgin

A non virgin is not worth been a wife

At the world's latest ratings, as long as it carries the oyster looking hole.... it's just a matter of time.
Guys!!!! We're naint saints but preserve your soul for the heavens....the earth is fallen

Kobojunkie:
Men don't classify women as poor, but somehow African men are generally noted to avoid women who are more successful than themselves when it comes to marriage situations? Many African men even go as far as to require their wives not to work at all in the marriage. Are you certain you are OK?

2. Make what rules they fall prey to?

Thank you I have deduced what I want to I don't throw tantrums online.i have seen a psychiatric patient behind phone keyboard..
Take care of your mental health.
Junkie

You won't get a response from me Stay blessed

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

That is why I have made up my mind that I will NEVER pay bride price or think of settling down with/marrying a woman who hasn’t given birth to at least 2 children for me and I confirm through many means that they are mine. NEVER!

[quote author=alamoht post=134823981][/quote]Your madness makes u feel you can't live celibate and therefore you must marry a street dog

Thank God for your choice

hartson:
Your gender made this world so woke.

Men control the society.
Whatsoever the society has become, men are responsible.

Back in the day, when a man has sex with a virgin for the first time, he's obligated to marry her.
Not so today.

Very painful experience you got there
But the greatest battle you are likely to face is trusting the next person you will marry. This things normally leaves behind an invisible injury that only God can heal, and it is the next person you date or marry that usually bears the grunt. But if you are a morally upright person, you will overcome it. Be strong 💪

LordBiden:
She is a good lady,at least she didn't try to pin the pregnancy on you,she even had plans to confess to you.

Not like you're even a virgin sef.

Mtcheewww...

Modified:i was only catching cruise o,chai I never knew this will make FrontPage,see over 8 mentions,with some insulting me.

You just showed you don't have sense at all..so you ne aee Watin to use do cruise na this one?just check your life and be sincere to yourself,you will see you are not normal or ok.

ComradeKunle:
I'm shocked about your story but not surprised. This same thing happened to one of my guy, but in his own case, the girl told him he was the one responsible for the pregnancy. They did both traditional and white wedding. When the girl delivered, the boy was a carbon copy of her ex boyfriend. Now the stupid husband is the butt of our jokes in our place. The girl couldn't wait for the child to clock one year and she took in for the husband so as to tie the husband. The second son belongs to the husband, but the shame of the first child is tormenting him and he don't know what to do. The girl is presently pregnant with her third child. Imagine having another man's child as your first son?

Your friend has ALWAYS been a fool all his life that is why he was a victim and still is a victim of such fuckry..I so much dislike foolish humans with dikcs like this because we can't put them in the same category as a man.

torqque7:
You just showed you don't have sense at all..so you ne aee Watin to use do cruise na this one?just check your life and be sincere to yourself,you will see you are not normal or ok.

Its your mother that is not normal.

LordBiden:
Its your mother that is not normal.

You just proved Exactly my point because a normal sensible person will not go about insulting people's parents,it just means you were not raised properly or you are from a broken or troubled home and obviously have no regards for your mother..like i said before if you are sincere to you will know you are not well mentally.

Watcharena:
non virgins are fighting back ,even the Bible said only virgins can be married

Not non virgins but realists and people who understand God well. Even non virgins can also get married...haba...who be saint na?

Change4dbeta:
Thank you I have deduced what I want to I don't throw tantrums online.i have seen a psychiatric patient behind phone keyboard..
Take care of your mental health.
Junkie

You won't get a response from me Stay blessed

Omo, you no get joy at all...

Your eyes don see something...pepper...gist me small, please.

Fantazy:
That is why I have made up my mind that I will NEVER pay bride price or think of settling down with/marrying a woman who hasn’t given birth to at least 2 children for me and I confirm through many means that they are mine. NEVER!

Leave them. They will learn, and their eyes will peel. If I have not seen it before, I may say na Nollywood, though I know that truth is stranger than fiction.

neolboy:
Please do not discredit this story. It is my life story, I was compelled to share it because some people find it hard to believe me

twosquare:
Omo, you no get joy at all...

Your eyes don see something...pepper...gist me small, please.

Not at all!
I have never had any bad experience with girls cos of my selective/careful nature, I’m learning from many other people’s experiences online and offline. I can’t make their kind of mistake

Fantazy:
Not at all!
I have never had any bad experience with girls cos of my selective/careful nature, I’m learning from many other people’s experiences online and offline. I can’t make their kind of mistake

Hmmmn...that's wise. I like your kind of zeal. People sometimes just like to deceive themselves. I've had bad experiences and terrible ones too.

I just don't know what people gain from pretence, that will still cast later. Na wa sha.

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

OP would have been a victim of paternity fraud but God saved him.

Now, while many people are blasting the girl, can we spare a moment to also blast the guy the girl was cheating with?

Paternity fraud doesn't happen in isolation. There is always a guy in the picture.
This guy knew this girl was getting married to the OP his own fellow man and yet he still was comfortable with sleeping with an engaged lady and even getting her pregnant. He even was aware of the evil he had done and boasted to the sister of the girl that he would come collect his property someday.

Whatever happened to the bro code?

If one goes through the streets of Nairaland, you would find guys asking questions about whether to sleep with an engaged ex, a married lady or even bragging about doing so and sharing their stories gleefully.

Many other guys will be hailing the guy and encouraging him to do more.
Funnily, no one stops to think of the possibility that it is their own “seemingly innocent" wife or fiance that is being “slaughtered" or the posters are being encouraged to “slaughter" in the “Ozza" room.

Until men are being condemned and vilified for things like this, paternity fraud will never stop.
We only vilify the ladies as if it takes only one to tango. We say the ladies have more to lose...lol.
FYI, the women now know how to cover their tracks better and it is some of us men that have been giving them the scopes and strategies on how to make our fellow men victims of paternity fraud.

Many men will see a pregnant women and still go after her.
They will see a young woman with her kid and still go after her.
They will see a lady with her wedding ring and still go after her.

They will try to entice and pressure her with gifts, opportunities and attention thereby making their fellow men inadequate in the eyes of their wives.
And when the ones with weak character falls, these men come online and brag and some men abuse the ladies and say things like “The guy didn't do anything wrong, it's the lady that cheated or broke her vows", there is no difference between a married woman p***y and a single lady's own, just knack and move".

No honour. No respect. No dignity. Many men have now become willing buyers and arbitrators of paternity fraud and when they discover they themselves have become victims, they scream blue murder as if their women got pregnant by themselves.

Dear OP, God didn't just save you from a wicked girl, He also saved you from your wicked fellow brother man.
We will do evil to our fellow men and come online to brag about red pill.

OP, if you wanted to promote justice, you would have also exposed the guy that impregnated the girl. So that other guys can be wary of their girls being around him and so he also can be vilified.
I'm quite familiar with Kwale (Umusadege, Iyiatu etc).
Dear men, protect your fellow men'a honour, dignity and respect and stop fantasizing about how it would feel like to sleep with your fellow man's wife or fiance and conquer him.

Wetin man do man?

[quote author=ChiefOkporghe post=134856045]OP would have been a victim of paternity fraud but God saved him.

Now, while many people are blasting the girl, can we spare a moment to also blast the guy the girl was cheating with?

Paternity fraud doesn't happen in isolation. There is always a guy in the picture.
This guy knew this girl was getting married to the OP his own fellow man and yet he still was comfortable with sleeping with an engaged lady and even getting her pregnant. He even was aware of the evil he had done and boasted to the sister of the girl that he would come collect his property someday.

Whatever happened to the bro code?

If one goes through the streets of Nairaland, you would find guys asking questions about whether to sleep with an engaged ex, a married lady or even bragging about doing so and sharing their stories gleefully.




God bless you for your balanced take. Immorality should not be normal for both genders. What's good for the goose should be good for the gander.