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Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 7:27pm On Apr 04, 2025
Good evening moms and dads reading this. My son is 10 months old. During childbirth, my wife had a small tear since it was her first delivery and the baby weighed 4.7kg. Fast forward to yesterday, we were making love. I remembered how I used to explore with my ex, so I decided to try something similar with my wife.

I laid her on her back and lifted her legs wide up in the air. Right away, she warned me not to forget she had a tear during childbirth just 10 months ago. But I didn’t listen. I went ahead. During the act, even though she was wet and dripping, it felt like she was just enduring it.

Afterwards, she complained that I may have pushed too deep, possibly into her womb, and she felt pain while cleaning up. I checked but didn’t notice any visible damage or looseness. My concern now is.. could I have hurt her or reopened the tear?

Secondly, despite how wet she gets, it still feels tight and shallow. How can I help make it wider and deeper so we can both enjoy our sex life more? Thank you!
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Dpsychologist: 7:31pm On Apr 04, 2025
huh
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by PresidObi: 7:31pm On Apr 04, 2025
A woman who had a tear will be experiencing pains around the healed area for some more months and even up to year after childbirth. Pay me for medical counselling.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Abba3point7: 7:37pm On Apr 04, 2025
This story na wash
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by RealityKings1: 7:38pm On Apr 04, 2025
It's possible she might have been healed since it's now 10 months

I think you should work towards taming your sexual fantasies most especially those ones you tried on your ex.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f): 7:48pm On Apr 04, 2025
3Csbutterfly:
Fast forward to yesterday, we were making love. I remembered how I used to explore with my ex, so I decided to try something similar with my wife.
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by We4all: 8:08pm On Apr 04, 2025
You didn't try out your sexual fantasies before pregnancy, but remembered to dig deeper after your wife had a tear. How callous of you! I pity women and how their bodies are destroyed during sex and childbirth.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:31pm On Apr 04, 2025
pocohantas:
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.
Your message is clear and understood. Could you kindly make a more meaningful contribution? I might be able to pick something useful from whatever you share.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:32pm On Apr 04, 2025
PresidObi:
A woman who had a tear will be experiencing pains around the healed area for some more months and even up to year after childbirth. Pay me for medical counselling.
No I'm not gonna pay you. Hospital ain't far away and gynecologist won't charge more than 1k
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f): 8:34pm On Apr 04, 2025
3Csbutterfly:
Your message is clear and understood. Could you kindly make a more meaningful contribution? I might be able to pick something useful from whatever you share.
Since you understood my message, you picked something.

You want me to tell you how to make your wife's vagina WIDER and DEEPER like your EX's own? That is the meaningful contribution a married man wants? Why didn't you marry your EX with wide and deep vagina?

As for the tear, how do I know if your hurt her or reopened her tear? Maybe you should add a picture of the site for online examination.

Regards...🙂
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:36pm On Apr 04, 2025
We4all:
You didn't try out your sexual fantasies before pregnancy, but remembered to dig deeper after your wife had a tear. How callous of you! I pity women and how their bodies are destroyed during sex and childbirth.
She decided to wait until our wedding night because she was a virgin, and I respected that. I waited patiently, and we didn’t explore much before she got pregnant. Even though the doctor advised we could continue being intimate from five months on, he still cautioned us not to go too deep. So, we really didn’t get the chance to try out much. Thanks anyway
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:39pm On Apr 04, 2025
pocohantas:
Since you understood my message, you picked something.

You want me to tell you how to make your wife's vagina WIDER and DEEPER like your EX's own? That is the meaningful contribution a married man wants? Why didn't you marry your EX with wide and deep vagina?

As for the tear, how do I know if your hurt her or reopened her tear? Maybe you should add a picture of the site for online examination.

Regards...🙂
Makawhy now? Picture ke? Oh well, the reason I brought this here is because I was told that 99% of women experience a tear during their first childbirth. So if you’re one of them, please share some tips or advice that could help me understand and support my wife better. Thank you
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f): 8:49pm On Apr 04, 2025
3Csbutterfly:
Makawhy now? Picture ke? Oh well, the reason I brought this here is because I was told that 99% of women experience a tear during their first childbirth. So if you’re one of them, please share some tips or advice that could help me understand and support my wife better. Thank you
The tip is quite obvious na. Stop knacking her like you knacked your ex with a deep and wide vagina.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:57pm On Apr 04, 2025
pocohantas:
The tip is quite obvious na. Stop knacking her like you knacked your ex with a deep and wide vagina.
Well, I’ll see what I can do. But the main thing now is, should we pause all intimacy for now and take her to the hospital tomorrow for a proper check-up? Or should we try again tonight and see if it still hurts?
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Kemadealadire(f): 9:47pm On Apr 04, 2025
pocohantas:
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.
Omo, thank you oh, at least someone won't be trying out things they did with their exes on you.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by id4sho(m): 12:43am On Apr 05, 2025
pocohantas:
Since you understood my message, you picked something.

You want me to tell you how to make your wife's vagina WIDER and DEEPER like your EX's own? That is the meaningful contribution a married man wants? Why didn't you marry your EX with wide and deep vagina?

As for the tear, how do I know if your hurt her or reopened her tear? Maybe you should add a picture of the site for online examination.

Regards...🙂
Which kind soft porn b dis🤧
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by id4sho(m): 12:55am On Apr 05, 2025
3Csbutterfly:
Makawhy now? Picture ke? Oh well, the reason I brought this here is because I was told that 99% of women experience a tear during their first childbirth. So if you’re one of them, please share some tips or advice that could help me understand and support my wife better. Thank you
Tear heals 2 months max. Relax , her urge might come back, it's all in her brain
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by ItisWell22(f): 1:04am On Apr 05, 2025
pocohantas:
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.
🤣😂
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by papyjaypaul: 3:19am On Apr 05, 2025
Kemadealadire:
Omo, thank you oh, at least someone won't be trying out things they did with their exes on you.
Let's just say NO to premarital sex.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Foodqueen(f): 4:06am On Apr 05, 2025
U hurt her more than anything.

All these times you've been married to her, you've never imagined her to be your ex but after one child, you are tired of her and now decide to go back to your ex(emotional).

How will you feel if the scenerio were turned.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by AndroBlaze: 4:35am On Apr 05, 2025
Bros I pity you...see the way these women have turned on you and want to kill you because you talk small truth... chai women and truth eh, seems they would have preferred you lied and claimed you saw it on pornhub cheesy

Sistas abeg you, give the man sincere advice so he can enjoy sex with his "one and only" true wife and does not have to cheat...swallowing your anger over a few loose words of his can immediately save your fellow sista physical pain and more importantly a more severe emotional pain later.

Please don't let your sister's "inexperience" be the cause of her agony, we don't want a "had I known" ooo...... kindly put aside your wounded pride and save this marriage for us, biko cheesy
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Baronthecelebri(m): 5:14am On Apr 05, 2025
Hahahahahahaha wider wider ........wider, digging deep, are you a RCCG member, I'm just asking ni. 😄😄😃😆😄😃😄😄😃
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by 3Csbutterfly(op): 8:55am On Apr 05, 2025
Foodqueen:
U hurt her more than anything.

All these times you've been married to her, you've never imagined her to be your ex but after one child, you are tired of her and now decide to go back to your ex(emotional).

How will you feel if the scenerio were turned.
I'm honestly not pleased with the responses I’ve been getting. Maybe I didn’t explain myself clearly, or perhaps I didn’t choose the right words to ensure proper understanding.

Let me be direct: based on my experience, marrying a virgin hasn't turned out to be a good idea.

My wife was a virgin when we met. She asked that we wait until our wedding night, and I respected that. Within two months of marriage, she became pregnant. Please note, we hadn't been very intimate, and she’s still quite tight. And no, I’m not a man with a small manhood.

What I don't understand is how I'm expected to continue having intimacy with my wife only for the sake of making babies. That’s not acceptable to me. Why should I keep engaging in intimacy with my wife, half way in? I want to go all the way in fully! It’s frustrating and unfulfilling so far! Well, I'm taking her to the hospital this morning. They should do something to through the way, I'm not happy!
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by idahme(m): 9:17am On Apr 05, 2025
pocohantas:
I guess this is why some people recommend marrying a virgin. An untouched man.
Make them no tear your episiotomy.
Can you foot the bills of a male virgin grin since you want to think like a man? Don't just think and cherry pick just as feminist do , do it all round grin
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f): 10:32am On Apr 05, 2025
Kemadealadire:
Omo, thank you oh, at least someone won't be trying out things they did with their exes on you.
You done see am na. I thought they are logical enough not to act this way. Alas...humans would be humans.

ItisWell22:
🤣😂
No be laughing matter o.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f):
idahme:
Can you foot the bills of a male virgin grin since you want to think like a man? Don't just think and cherry pick just as feminist do , do it all round grin
You are not one, hence this defensive question.
No male virgin is looking for a woman to foot his bills and one doesn't need to think like a man to desire a partner who wouldn't ram into his wife's tear while thinking of his EX. It is common sense really. Something male virgins have. Please speak for your fellow broloshos next time...
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by RealityKings1: 11:58am On Apr 05, 2025
pocohantas:
You are not one, hence this defensive question.
No male virgin is looking for a woman to foot his bills and one doesn't need to think like a man to desire a partner who wouldn't ram into his wife's tear while thinking of his EX. It is common sense really. Something male virgins have. Please speak for your fellow broloshos next time...
What about me? I'm a male virgin
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Kemadealadire(f): 12:49pm On Apr 05, 2025
3Csbutterfly:
I'm honestly not pleased with the responses I’ve been getting. Maybe I didn’t explain myself clearly, or perhaps I didn’t choose the right words to ensure proper understanding.

Let me be direct: based on my experience, marrying a virgin hasn't turned out to be a good idea.

My wife was a virgin when we met. She asked that we wait until our wedding night, and I respected that. Within two months of marriage, she became pregnant. Please note, we hadn't been very intimate, and she’s still quite tight. And no, I’m not a man with a small manhood.

What I don't understand is how I'm expected to continue having intimacy with my wife only for the sake of making babies. That’s not acceptable to me. Why should I keep engaging in intimacy with my wife, half way in? I want to go all the way in fully! It’s frustrating and unfulfilling so far! Well, I'm taking her to the hospital this morning. They should do something to through the way, I'm not happy!
But why didn't you go for your ex, ehn. Only your wife knows if she is hurt na or she is fully healed, it's her body, she is the one wearing the shoe. You should speak with her to know if you need to see a doctor.

This is why we say virgins should go for virgins, that way they learn together.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Kemadealadire(f): 12:51pm On Apr 05, 2025
papyjaypaul:
Let's just say NO to premarital sex.
🎯 It's for the good of everybody and society at large.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by Acidosis(m): 1:04pm On Apr 05, 2025
This is why virgins need to marry their fellow virgins. You can’t go and scatter your body like suya on a bad grill, then carry that rough, agbero-style experience and offload it on somebody's daughter. There are people out there that get maximum satisfaction from 10 minutes "daddy and mommy" style and that's perfectly perfect.

If you or your ex like legs hanging on the window or thr us ting non-stop like say na war against Gaza, better to find a partner with a similar speedometer.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by NotOfThisWorld(f): 1:49pm On Apr 05, 2025
Acidosis:
This is why virgins need to marry their fellow virgins. You can’t go and scatter your body like suya on a bad grill, then carry that rough, agbero-style experience and offload it on somebody's daughter. There are people out there that get maximum satisfaction from 10 minutes "daddy and mommy" style and that's perfectly perfect.

If you or your ex like legs hanging on the window or thr us ting non-stop like say na war against Gaza, better to find a partner with a similar speedometer.
Well said.
Re: Did I Hurt My Wife? I Hope Not. Please Help Me! by pocohantas(f): 1:58pm On Apr 05, 2025
RealityKings1:
What about me? I'm a male virgin
I don't trust you...😂

Acidosis:
This is why virgins need to marry their fellow virgins. You can’t go and scatter your body like suya on a bad grill, then carry that rough, agbero-style experience and offload it on somebody's daughter. There are people out there that get maximum satisfaction from 10 minutes "daddy and mommy" style and that's perfectly perfect.

If you or your ex like legs hanging on the window or thr us ting non-stop like say na war against Gaza, better to find a partner with a similar speedometer.
Lol. Very funny post.
I believe the OP is trolling.
So me sef dey return the energy.😃
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